Why do guys go for the "mean" girl more than actual decent girls?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I feel like if I was a bitch my relationships would last longer. But I'm normally really nice and sweet I feel maybe it gets boring or something?

[JustAnotherGirlie]

Lol being “decent” won’t get you a man, just like being “nice” won’t get a him the girl. It’s a basic prerequisite for romance that doesn’t do you any favors. Being a good person is EXPECTED of you, it’s the qualities you built on top of that that matter.
Don’t be a bitch, just don’t be a pushover. Stop giving men everything they ask of you. Stop dropping everything to go on dates with him. Stop cooking for him. Stop giving him blowjobs when he can’t even get you off. Stop over-performing for men and being “nice” when you aren’t getting your needs met. No man is going to choose you unless you choose yourself first.

[amel23]

I don't believe girls can be only sweet and nice every sweet girl have demons inside believe me I just get from the shit I took they had too come out really soon bc some pple don't know their places and they will eat u alive if u show them ur soaft side

[BabyBirdy]

You know that song?

“I want you to want me... I need you to need me”

[Asker]

No I don't

[Odysseas]

We don't actively go for the "mean" girl. On the contrary we go for the "good" girls. The problem is that what you call "mean" girls, can easily impersonate the behaviour and traits of a "good" girl for a very long time. So by a man's perspective he didn't choose wrong, because the girl appeared good for the majority of the time in the relationship. Unfortunately, we find out that we did choose poorly, only after the girl puts out her "mask" and usually that's too late, (I had an ex for example, who pretended to be good for 1.5 years).

[JustAnotherGirlie]

Men always claim women want “assholes” but when we say THE EXACT SAME THING YOU JUST DID, we should just “choose better.” Not saying you feel this way, but a lot of people are manipulative. And if you don’t know how to spot red flags, you can end up dating a narcissist

[JackJD]

I hate mean, stuck-up, ungrateful bitchy girls. I've dumped a couple of potential lovers due to their lack of class and empathy. If you're a decent, stay that way. If your relationships get boring, then you too aren't going out enough. Travel around! Meet someone from another town. Don't ever limit yourself to one particular place or thing when it comes down to love.

[Asker]

Thank you! That really helps

[JackJD]

You're welcome! Stay strong and keep searching!

[DishLady]

Guys don't necessarily want the gal who will ALWAYS agree with them and laugh at their jokes. Sometimes it's good to give the guy a little shit about something that's not right. Just don't go overboard. Compliment the good stuff before you point out the bad stuff.

[demonics]

"Decent girls' much like 'nice guys' suffer from a number of flaws that people fail to have some introspection on.

1. Boring.
2. No ambition.
3. Shitty sex.
4. Low income.
5. Unattractive.
6. Dresses plain.
7. Homebody.
8. Prudish.
9. Shy.

The irony of a decent girl, is that she's usually head over heals for some abusive, unappreciative douche. We'd love a decent girl but slutty Becky actually looks good, fun, approachable, and does butt stuff every now and then.

[LoneWoofette87]

Lol I'm a descent girl but I'm not. #1,2,3,4,5,6,7, and 9... and I like anal sex and rimming... and I'm submissive in bed... I'm masochistic😘

[demonics]

@LoneWoofette87 Unfortunately those are not for you (the individual) to decide society decides those things. Thats like Gabourey Sidibe calling HERSELF sexy.

[LoneWoofette87]

Ewww that's a horrible description... But I understand what you're saying.

[crswalkerr]

I personally dislike mean girls. It's usually a fake facade anyway. Most of them are easy, which makes a lot of people like them. But they're usually not liked for their relationship potential.

For lasting relationships decent girls are by far the best.

[boomj1988]

This.

[Xeilio]

That happened in my last relationship and she told me that I was simply too good. In my opinion people tend to «take you for granted» if you are always good.
So I see two solutions:
1) You get mean sometimes
2) You get someone that deserves you as you are

[genericname85]

cause "mean" girls are experts at manipulating people. guys are usually not good at manipulating or at figuring out if they´re being manipulated or not.

[Asker]

I never thought about it like that

[genericname85]

it´s just like girls that stay with violent men that hit them. they don´t know how to get out and due to their life experience or phsychological problems, they probably think they can´t get any better than the partner they have anyway.

[genericname85]

it´s not as easy as it sounds to figure out if someone is "decent" or not.

[Asker]

I was in a mentally abusive relationship. I guess I get it. I'm just kinda sad tbh..

[genericname85]

well shit happens. we can only hope to learn to get better.

[666threesixes666]

She's more likely to stand up for herself against jealous men. She's more aggressively interested in sex. She makes me feel desired. She's stoic, and honest about how she feels.

[Twinrova]

Who the fuck does that? You sound like a moron that doesn't know what the fuck is going on around you. If you see guys hooking up with mean girls it is because they're hot. No guy I know has dated some girl that treats them like shit, lmfao.

[lovelyhoneybones]

They like the bad act. Just like females like bad boys.

[Asker]

I don't like bad boys though

[lovelyhoneybones]

I don't either.

[snugasabug]

Some men like the chase... mean girls 'toy' with men more.

[MiamiMadness]

Not every guy likes a pain in the ass, trust me lol

[Asker]

I know that just in my experience I guess

[tallSteve69]

I want a girl who CaN be mean because I know she isn’t going to get taken advantage of. Of course she’ll be sweet to me when I give her the D!

[Decentguy]

and i literally just saw this question right now.

[pavlove]

more excitement is purely all there is to it. the decent girl is the mature choice and guys mature more slowly.

[Browneye57]

No. Don't try to be something you're not. It's a fail.

[Djaaay]

Men are not attracted towards (smart intellectual ) women , their attracted towards (kind) women who are wise.

[wezholt]

Guys don't actively look for mean girls, I personally prefer nice and sweet girls rather than girls who argue and fight with me over stupid things

[vbong18]

Be as much of a bitch as you want as long as you keep letting him pipe you it won't get boring for him.

[bilajoin]

Do we? Maybe just for sex but defenitely not for a long term relationship.

[Mrzero001]

There is a lot of questions for 18-24 anonymous i wonder why? 😉

[abhishek14079]

Guys which do such that doesn't deserves a girl like u (good girl)

[mshuda19]

guys go for mean girls because of false fun

[LaFemmeFatale]

Decent girls are boring miss

[king34]

I could say the same for girls

[baby181036]

Because they think that it would be fun

[Humbledman74006]

We like being spanked

[Anonymous]

I don’t think they do. Mean is unattractive.

[thegr8lion]

Because they are more hot