It's not something you find.. Its part of someone's character.. If you don't Guage what people are capable of being loyal to, or for, then you never even had a real relationship, because you didn't get to understand them. Thinking about loyalty, how the picture describes reality is part the formula to superficial relationships. If you only look to loyalty test your partner, you are taking a gamble. How to build real trust, is part of a pattern of direct negotiation of a shared understanding, and how compromise gets intelligently handled.. Trust cannot be built from loyalty to someone, only loyalty to an internal character, which if it doesn't have truth as its cornerstone, will always be subject to capriciousness.
Loyalty is primarily a leadership trait. However, loyalty is earned much like respect and bestowed only when a person feels it is deserved, and so is dependent also on the character of all parties involved. Expecting or demanding loyalty is a narcissistic ideal and probably works against itself. In some cases loyalty is metered in a person usually by what they recieved in return for it. So gaining loyalty generally has a price. An exception, would be fealty or loyalty inspired by fear or blind indoctrination, but they require constant reinforcement.
Exactly my boyfriend is the most trustworthy mature smart strong guy I have ever met I feel like I stepped on a gold mine with bombe s around it and I'm not letting him slip away I looooove him
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It's not as hard to find loyal people as people think it is. But it's not easy to find them as well.
It's not hard to find loyalty, you just gotta look in the right direction! "Nice guys" typically are very loyal. People say they finish last because they aren't really chosen first by women, but a cool way to interpret that is that they finish last in terms of relationships. Nice guys are the gentlemen you've been longing for and will marry/have your final relationship with.
I was incredibly loyal, kind, caring, patient and understanding and I got a text saying basically saying he never wants to talk to me again but before that he said we would do something, changed his mind. Then I said goodbye then he made plans again and he woke up the next morning and changed his mind again... i don't know if he's confused or if he truly wants me gone.
I think he's genuinely confused. You cannot control his actions though. Whatever happens, I hope you'll look at the bright side of things. Tragedies occur every day around the globe, whether they are break ups or natural disasters. It sounds like things are complex and that he should consider seeing a specialist for 1 on 1 meetings.
I asked since he's away and also said I won't see him if I could at least get a phone call and say goodbye that way and he said he would try but he never did 🙁
Loyalty in a relationship requires a maturity of knowing your goals in life and knowing what kind of person can walk that journey parallel to you. Most people say they know what they want, but its not until they get into a relationship that they realize they were wrong about what they wanted. Sometimes they repeat the mistake multiple times before learning the lesson of what they actually want in life. C'est la vie.
To me it's a yes. Trying to find a person that has a very good personality that you are looking for is a little difficult to find. And the thing that sucks is you may have had past relationships that guys may have f****d you over and it may ruin the chances for the next guy that may want to step in your life. Just because you had bad experience with another guy you feel insecure. But there are guys out there that are loyal and very open minded. I wish you luck vmm90.
I'm going through a bad experience where I was loyal among other things and I just got a text saying he doesn't want to talk anymore. First he said we'd do something, changed his mind after. Then I said goodbye so he suggested something we spoke about it then he changed his mind again in the morning.
Yes its hard nowadays, look at how many problems people have in relationships now and how hard it is to maintain one. People say they love their significant other but end up hurting them, thats because love and loyalty are two different things.
I believe in working through problems, owning up when I'm wrong. I usually ignore my initial emotional reaction because when someone is acting a certain way it's better to try and understand why than it is to make things worse.
I'm like that in general. I'm human sometimes I react and can't let things go but I apologize later when I have thought it through because I don't want to just apologize I own up to what it is I'm apologizing for.
With this question, I am reminded about Katy Perry's hot and cold, i think some people are loyal on the outside but are more changeable on the inside, some people do change their mind like a girl changes clothes
I don't know. It depends. Loyalty like not talking bad things behindert peoples back is not that hard to find but real loyalty is hard to find... Maybe it's even hard to find someone who is not talking bad things
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