I found out by logging into her fb account when I confronted her she admitted everything , well sure it changes your behavior in relationships it makes you realize that nothing is granted and there is no 100% certainty about anything , also you will have a real life experience about how love could disappear , latter you won't rely on love or believe for it to be enough to make relationship success , I guess getting cheated on despite how painful it feels isn't the worst thing that could happen , it kinda makes you more mature makes you relaise that to make a relationship work its gonna take a lot more than having feelings for each other and being nice to each other..
She told me that she had been seeing another guy for a while and was going to have sex with him. Never spoke to her again after she said that. Haven't seen her either. She could be dead and being devoured by maggots and I'm fine with it.
It did change how I behave, but only because I learned from my mistakes. I rid myself of the weakness that is women, meaning I never "fell head over heels" for one again, 4 years ago.
She didn't say it in an angry tone. It was more apologetic and a bit assertive, like "I'm really really sorry, but this is what I'm doing."
I don't think anyone is being raised that way. It's the times. I'm not saying women didn't cheat way back when, but they have more freedom and independence now, so they don't need a man in their life. I'm all for that but if your life is dependent on another, you're less likely to betray. Men have always been in that position. With the internet and social media, we're just made more aware of it.
Yes iv been cheated on and had my heart broken really Bad. It has changed me in many ways and my behavior i have become very numb. My recent partner tries to catch my attention and is desperate for a reaction but i show nothing. He even comments about other women calling them hot or pretty but i dont care. Its not like i dont like my partner or anything i do love him but if he did cheat on me i think i would move on better than i did in my last Relationship...
Yes I have. I saw some chats on his phone and I kept pushing for him to tell me the truth and then he eventually admitted to having a few women on the side. It changed me in the sense that I expect it to happen, I wouldn't be shocked if a guy cheats on me.
Was with a girl for 2 years and she cheated on me with 1 of my friends she didn't think i would find out , my friend confessed to me cuz he felt bad cuz he knew i loved her and told me the trutb that she came on to him when he was drunk I was devastated but thankful my friend confessed to me , later that night she called me acting like everything is ok I said did you have fun last night? and she said yea it was fun, I said that's nice it's fun being a cheating whore isn't it? , I said don't ever call me again. You fucking bitch and slammed the phone down on her , she kept calling back and i finally answered she confessed that she just kissed my friend that she was drunk , so I said so everytime you get drunk You're going to cheat on me? I said no that's alright I don't stay with cheaters then slammed the phone again , ever since that time it has screwed me up trusting people for awhile I just stayed single and was hooking up with and playing like 5 girls at once , it hit me that I am not that type of person and ended up settling down with 1 of the girls
As much as I hate to say this but being cheated on has in a way helped me look at love differently and has taught me to be not selfish in a relationship I learned love is a choice and it can only be guided love can not be forced , for love to grow you both need to remove selfishness and sacrifice some things and you habe tpnwear each other's shoes if you can't do that then You're better off just staying single and selfish
i found out on Christmas day. it was supposed to be our first Christmas together as a new family with our daughter. he had been acting suspiscious for a while, i asked to see his phone and he came out and told me he had been sexting with an unknown number of women. i found out months later he was also taking them on dates and had slept with one of them. I know it has changed me. i lost a lot of friends because i was being a jerk the moment someone got on my nerves. i didn't really cope well with it. we stayed together despite all of this. i think that may have had something to do with why it changed me.
I'm sorry that happened to you. What a scumbag guy! A new family, with a baby? Despicable. I was in an 8yr relationship where we lived in our own places. My girlfriend was a boring prude who didn't satisfy me, and she wasn't really into changing that. So, I went outside the relationship for what I was missing in it. we're not together now, and that's one reason - she doesn't satisfy me, AND she ain't gonna change.
Tip of the iceberg, actually. How about this: she's in her 40's, never married (or engaged), no kids (and no abortions), and she left her family (just mom, and sister (with 2 kids and hubby)), and traveled to the opposite coast to live. When I told my sis about this new relationship (at the time, and all the things I just told you, my (mental health professional) sis told me it probably wouldn't work out because my new girlfriend was selfish, self-centered, not about sharing, etc, etc, and my sis was right, unfortunately for me. Oh, this girl has NEVER lived with a guy.
YES everyone loves a traveling musician a) groupies would phone me up to give him up of they would die b) must have advertised how much bedtime fun he was soooo by BEST FRIEND needed to try him out, then blamed it all on him in a LETTER he was to give to me (I found it instead) then she insisted on resuming as best friend? I went along with it but hubby later cut the bitch off cold for hurting me so deeply it had affected my marriage once or twice from such memories & lack of trust in all other gals.
Yes I have been cheated on. Thanks to my sister. She wanted my boyfriend to come over for a surprise dinner she was going to pay his way so we can spend the summer together. She noticed he said, " I hate being single " and " will I ever find the one? Because girls are just not interested in me" so my sister texted me immediately and I told her if she was sure because he told me he deactivated his account I went on Facebook to check and I didn't see his name. So my sister let me go on hers and his name showed up immediately. Found out he blocked me and while he was so call single on Facebook he was telling me how lucky he is and how much he loves me. Yes I was just, but I wasn't going to let him make me think every guy will be the same. So I moved on and started dating when I felt ready. So no it didn't change me. My current boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and I trust him.
Yes, I saw him kissing another girl in his car. I was talking to him on the phone late at night. He said he was driving home. He suddenly had an urgent tone on his voice and said he had to call me back. I waited then tried to call him because I was worried something bad happened to him. He wasn't picking up. I got really worried, I left the house and started looking for him around the neighborhood. I found his car. I walked to up to the car to find him making out with another girl. She seemed drunk. He told me she forced him down to kiss him. He said she became strong like a man.
A lot of times the red flags aren't there so don't blame yourself for his wrong doings he is the one that is a piece of shit just remember love is a choice that can only be guided it can't be forced all you can do is walk yoir path and hope the person that gives you their heart walks right beside you , if they choose to leave then let them all we can do is keep walking until eventually you find that one that will stay by your side
Once and yes it changed everything from then on I decided I didn’t want a serious relationship until I was completely ready to open up to the right person. I have dated but never get past the 3 month mark anymore or casual sex so I guess it made my guard go up.
Yes I have, several times actually. I relate to what you are saying. But I cannot in all honesty say it was all their fault, I used to be just another "nice guy" and took shit from everyone. It changed me in a way that I live a pretty solitary existence nowadays.
No mr. nice, no more mr. clean... _Alice Cooper :)
Your solitary existence is YOUR choice. Don't blame it on some bitch. Hit the gym, hard, and make LOTS of money, and you'll have pick of the best out there.
Develop your game, your stature, your attractiveness, your financial picture. Girls will not be able to resist you. And figure they'll cheat or bail, but you'll have plenty to back them up.
Women have a natural ability to have a backup plan, to have guys waiting in the wings in case you don't work out. Guys would do well to improve their situation like this as well, to spin plates, have a backup plan.
A man on his life mission, being awesome, that is going somewhere and being someone, is virtually irresistible to women. It fits their dreamy idea of what a guy should be. NEVER, EVER put a woman on a pedestal - a woman is an adjunct to a man's life, a partner, someone to share his life with - not be the center of it. cont -->
The problem with the cheating wench is she's already lost all respect and really doesn't care - she's enamored with this new guy that's giving her all the attention. In order to keep a woman true you have to always lead, be fresh, but strong, be in charge. If you're weak or passive, or don't pay attention to her she'll seek it somewhere else. And there are ALWAYS some guys out there paying attention to her.
No, the burden of performance is on the man. No beer belly, or sacked on the couch watching sports. Be a man on a mission and your woman will follow. She wouldn't dare risk losing you - you must be SO valuable to them they would NEVER stray. And if they did they know they'd be out on their ear. Boot her, get a new one.
Hear hear. Being solitary is indeed my choice, I don't really see eye to eye with most people when it comes to what matters most in my life. And I'm doing well, I'm making a shit ton of money traveling the world eventho I only have a college degree. Got a home, a car, a motorcycle and I pretty much do whatever the hell I feel like doing in my spare time.
Anyway, thank you for sharing your wisdom and I wish you well.
No I've never been cheated on, my exes had the respect to at least tell me that the relationship is over than go behind my back and make me feel worse, they all told me before hand that they can't do it anymore because they are giving in to their own desires and so no hard feelings,
I've cheated on three times, by three different girlfriends. I caught the first one, heard rumors that turned out to be true about the second one, and the third one just told me about it (probably thinking I wasn't going to dump her ass, after hearing that). Now, I don't trust people that easily, and I don't trust relationships.
I got cheated on twice in the past. My last ex-bf cheated on me by going out with another girl. I dump him to find a new guy outside of college. I did. I never cheated on anyone I was in a relationship. 5 exbf.
The last girl to cheat on me told me about it on Valentine's day as she broke up with me so she could go have a date with the other guy she had been seeing behind my back.
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