Do you think it’s shallow that I won’t date guys under 6 ft since I’m 5’11?

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Personally I understand that some guys don’t mind their girlfriend being taller then them but to me it’s just strange. I’ve tried it too multiple times actually! I just always feel so much bigger and like the man in the relationship, I just don’t feel feminine at all and I just feel like a big giant lol. I don’t care as much about if people are judging us or whatever it’s more just I feel weird. like I have to bend down to kiss my man. If he’s just a little shorter like 5’10 or something I guess that’s not as weird but it’s like they are still shorter so it’s just.. Idk? It’s not as attractive to me I guess? I like big guys and I know that’s rare to find but that’s just what I like. Maybe if I was shorter i wouldn’t feel the same. If I was 5’5 or 5’6 I would easily take a shorter guy who was like 5’7 or 5’8 I would never say I need a man who’s 6 ft lmaooo that’s soooo much taller. I honestly get excited when I guy is 6’1 and the previous guy I dated was 6’5 and that was a bigggggggggg win for me!! I loved it and felt really comfortable w him. I don’t know though I just feel like it seems shallow when I ask guys on tinder and stuff for their height and all. I guess I wanna be able to wear heels with my man and if he’s a good amount taller it won’t be an issue ya know? You can call me shallow if you want but I just wanna know why exactly it is.

WritingHeart01 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't say it's particularly wrong, despite other comments saying it is. You have a personal preference and a standard of what attracts you, that's no issue. And letting the guys know first hand is also important, as it allows them to know what their getting into rather than possibly being strung along by you unintentionally. Though I doubt your a person who would do that, I'm just saying situationally. Open communication is key here, as it allows no one to get hurt in the end and be respectful towards the party involved. And you shouldn't be ashamed of only dating a particular guy, we can't all be attracted to everyone, and despite others beliefs, I believe being physically attractive to someone is quite an important factor when looking for a partner. Not that its the only factor, but certainly a decent part. And I'm not saying you have to be drop dead gorgeous either, but everyone has that particular trait they their find noticeably attractive amongst people. Whether it be boobs, butts, muscles, height, a smile, etc. So looking for a partner that has that certain category is no problem. Don't be ashamed. And being that your reasonably tall, it's understandable that a taller guy would make you feel more at ease in a relationship. You like the visually proportional aspect of it. You don't feel anything bad about shorter guys, it just makes you feel better to have a guy thssts taller than you. Like with me, I personally like guys to be thicker than me. Not that I'm fat or anything, I'm actually really healthy. But visually speaking, I find guys who have more meet on their bones more appealing than skinnier guys. Not that there's anything wrong with skinnier guys, and I'm sure to tell them that too, it just visually appealing to me.

shelbyr1721 · Accepted Answer

I don’t think it’s shallow at all. A lot of girls prefer not to date shorter guys, and I’m sure that sucks a lot for guys, but that doesn’t make females shallow in my opinion.. I mean there are guys even who won’t date shorter girls because they want girls like you and vice versa. I totally get the wanting to wear heels with your man though. Anyways, you’re not shallow for wanting a guy an inch or more taller than you. Besides, there’s plenty of those guys out there. I’m 5’3” and I landed a 6’6” boyfriend once sooo anything’s possible. That was just a chance kind of thing, but it definitely isn’t wrong to have a preference girl ☺️

ShortCircuit · Accepted Answer

I think the minimum height difference necessary between partners is one inch: the male being one inch taller, and the female being one inch shorter. There's an abundance of biological and psychological findings that explain our proclivity for such a dynamic--and I understand that and don't resent it. In fact, I adhere to it myself. I'm 5'6, and I'd refuse to date a girl any taller than 5'5.

Now back to your question... I would define shallow as "demanding more than what is necessary". In this case, more than an inch is unnecessary. Thus, I don't think you're shallow. I would've classified you as shallow if you were 5'0 and still demanded a partner that was at least 6'0--but that's not the case.

RamptUp · Accepted Answer

Girl, don't sweat it. Keep holding out for your tall man to come around. I won't date a girl under 5'5 because I'm 6'5". 5'11" is my dream girl though.

cavmanier · Answer

I don't think it's any different than wanting to be attracted to a guys face or body. It's totally fine. People just don't want you to have preferences that aren't changeable because they lose the sense of control of being good enough for you and therefore are hurt. Live your life for yourself though, not to please their feelings. If anything, just hide how you feel to those people if they complain.

devilman666 · Answer

I think it's shallow personally, but that's fine, having shallow preferences isn't wrong, similar to how refusing to date someone who is overweight is shallow but not wrong. It's especially shallow since men can't change their height through any amount of effort to fit your standards, and it could be argued that you being as tall as you are is as much to blame as the man being as short as he is, but again, a certain degree of shallowness is acceptable and fine, dont feel bad about it.

LuciM · Answer

It just means that you have a preference to combine your genes with genes of men that are tall, so the children will be also tall. This could be a social advantage that your children may benefit as deemed more attractive. So nothing wrong, it is called natural selection :)

Ahsthen · Answer

Yes, the 'short man shafted' thing... I prefer females be close to my height either direction, though 5' 7''-ish may be the best regarding some activities.

Then, as one of my exes said, and as many are exploring, people fit various holes in the board...

CluelesslyClueless · Answer

I'm 6'4. If that's you in the photo, I'd ask you out.

Tatia_Del · Answer

Yeah, same here. I'm 6'2 and I just now go after taller men. I do prefer them too, but I've asked guys out before who were shorter than me and I usually got rejected. Taller guys tend to be more willing so I went after them more. Then I finally found myself someone and the fucker is like 6'8, 6'9? Can't remember, but I relate with you on finding someone pretty tall compared to you or anyone. lmfao

GingerGuy · Answer

To me it is, but you're not alone. A lot of women think like you do (seems to be really important to most). For me, yes I have height preferences as well, but that's all it is, a preference. Height would NEVER be a "deal breaker". There's much much more to someone than that.

1Anon · Answer

No it’s not shallow at all, everyone has their own preferences. The guy I’m dating is 6’ 5” (I’m only 5’ 8”) and I’ve always had a preference for a guy who is taller than I.

QrowBranwen · Answer

Nope. You're right... I personally prefer taller women. I'm 6'2", used to date a woman at 5'1". Physical attraction IS important, but personality is also more so...

GracefulCharm · Answer

If you settle for someone less than your preferences. You will always want more or something better. If you only stick with your preferences, you will wonder if you are too selfish.

Both extremes can lead to relationship problems. You have to figure out a median of what pleases you.

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I see where you’re coming from. I only would date taller guys as well but I’m 5’5. If I was your height I wouldn’t date anyone shorter than 6’ either. It make sense to me because that’s also my preference

alice55 · Answer

I think it's shallow in the sense that's something the guy can't change but after I don't think it's bad. I'm also the same ways and think it's ok. That's preference.

bankrollsupreme · Answer

Nope go find a 6ft guy and make a future nba Superstar

howlyz · Answer

I think You are not too tall, just slightly above average I guess so there should be a lot of guys out there who are fairly taller than you

Yesnomaybe85 · Answer

maybe, but  I'm sure there are guys that won't date you because of your height

simpleguy23 · Answer

Just date whoever you're comfortable with, noone should put rules on who you're dating (except if it's illegal tho, like minors or forcing people)

doflamingo457 · Answer

no, a wise man once said: " don't ask what i don't know", also if height matters ask yourself this, are you just worried about height because everybody else is, and if you aren't then

Guanfei · Answer

It is, but it's a preference and you have the right to have it. Everyone has his preferences other doesn't understand or accept but no one can force you to date people you don't want to date.

winterfox10 · Answer

I can totally understand that. You want to be smaller than your partner.

Anonymous · Answer

It's fine. So long as you don't get mad at tall guys for still wanting the girl to be short. I'm 6'3 and I usually like it when the girl is like 5'6-5'9

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