Why is my boyfriend ashamed of me?

[Anonymous]

I am an Indian woman dating a white guy and whenever I go out with him, he refuses to hold my hand. He refers to me as a "friend" in front of his friends and never let's me meet his family. We have been dating for a year now. I feel really sad cause I fell in love with him but it seems like he is ashamed of me. When I asked him why he does this he told me that it was because I was Indian and that hurt me to the core. What should I do?

[PacificShark]

It is questions like these which brings the racist trolls to the front where they question you instead of looking into the problem.

Some here even stated that you're an Indian guy out here looking to make girls feel sorry for your supposedly fake story. Like seriously? What would you gain at the most even if you were fake? 3 comments?

Some even went as far as to say Indian guys are jealous because white women don't find them attractive.

She has obviously not seen the popularity of some Indian actors or sportsmen.

In fact, the Indian actor Sharukh Khan has the largest fan base in the world while another actor called Hrithik Roshan has won Best Looking Asian award many times. It's also laughable that she does not know that it was an Indian who won the Mr. World contest in 2016.

And yes, it was this girl Princess4u who said that (obviously).

Now if you look at this girl, she has a sense of entitlement and tends to make racist comments without any facts behind her words. The 'princess' in her name itself tells us as to why she's so angry at the world.

She was used to being coddled and pampered, so obviously, the real world grabbed her by the tap.

An entitled basic dumb 'wahmen' to be clear, so don't feel bad for her racist comments.

Now that we have our facts here and have successfully defended common sense on this planet of idiots, let us move on ahead to your question.

People generally tend to date their own race because the cultures are similar and it's easier to live with them as they get the things that you practice.

You tried your luck outside and it's completely okay. We don't live in the 11th century here and no Indian here needs to prove that they are equal to anyone because they are one of the countries who win these materialistic beauty contests the most.

Those who want to bark off with their racist comments will do it anyways so don't bother with them.

Go to your boyfriend and tell him that you're breaking it off with him. If there is anything that I have learned about India, it's that they are extremely patient, a bit shy, smart and hard working.

Any guy would love to have a girlfriend who is like that so don't bother with this current idiot of yours.

And remember, don't blame his race for the fault of his parents. They were supposed to be the ones who would ensure that he got a proper upbringing.

They failed so it's not your fault. That's all there is to this matter. You will have much better luck with other people.

[EasyDoesIt1985]

This is absolutely fake. Sorry you wasted your time ☺ If it's not, she's someone that needs to learn self respect because if someone is embarrassed by you... byeeeeeeeee 😀 Simple. Stop pouring your effort into anonymous fake posts there's lots of other REAL posts you would be cital on. Cheers bud.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Hmmm... usually it has nothing to do with ethnicity. It could be another white chick, and if she's ugly as fuck and I'm fucking her because I can't get nothing else... then yeah, I'll fuck her... but I don't want my friends to know I'm fucking the fat ugly chick down the street. Shit... if my family finds out I might kill myself.

You being Indian sounds like a cheap excuse... I'm white too and I've fucked everything there is on this planet... Indian is one of my keepers... just so long as they're one of those hawt ones that sing and dance in the Bollywood movies... if she's fat and ugly, I hope nobody finds out.

[Asker]

Actually I am very good looking

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yeah not sure... maybe he's just bias towards Indian for some reason.

[desidoll]

I am a very analytical person. For some reasons, I feel like you are an Indian guy (with pink account) trying to twist this story to make White guys look racist or to shame Indian girls who date White guys because you are unhappy with it.

[Asker]

Are you dating a white guy?

[Ellie-V]

Omg, you’re such a troll 😂 coward ass b%*ch
We know you’re a dude.

[Asker]

Why do you think I am a troll?

[Logorithim]

That is really insensitive. Tell him (calmly and politely) that it is really important to you (also meeting his family, and anything else). A Partner should Always be attentive to what is really important to you.

[Asker]

I tell him but he brushes it off saying I am not white so people would think wrong of him.

[princess4u]

This is a troll. You are an Indian guy yourself.

[ChronicThinker]

Be with someone who is proud of you.

[ilovecurvychick]

I am certain that this is a guy posting as a pink anon.

[camlo777]

It could be that he truly dosnt want people to know his dating an Indian woman.
But there is also one more factor that plays a big role in why he could be acting this way. If you have been sexual with him and he thinks you are an attractive girl he will show you in those times that he want you why because you are fulfilling his sexual want for you and nothing else. He dosnt want people to know about you all he want is to feel good and have you there to do it because you are attractive to him. Think about it dont ask him because he will deny it.

[mysticghost]

You need to exit that relationship quickly and don't look back! Find a guy who doesn't have interracial relationship issues. Everyone jumps in a calls him a racist. I'm not saying that he is not a racist, but a true racist would not interact with someone outside their race. Most likely, he doesn't know how he will handle any racism he will possible face being in a mixed race relationship. He does know he will deal with racists and is afraid to find out. If you have to keep him, then you need make him deal with the issue and face his fears, or you will leave.

[Tdieseler]

Wow... he actually responded to the question? and even better... you stuck with him After? Maybe you have a thing for being mistreated because i'd never date someone who is ashamed of me... i can understand being shy of PDA (Public Displays of Affection)... but just being ashamed AND introducing me as a FRIEND? i guess they get their wish and we become just friends. They can go fuck themselves.
Do some soul searching... you don't love this guy and you know it.

[Warbird]

It sucks and you probably dont want to hear it but walk away. In my experience if someone in the relationship is trying to hide the other from the frends in there life it normaly means your not in a relationship. ... your being used out of convenience. If you decide to stay tell him your not ok with hiding your relationship and if he can't be happy and proud to say he is with you then he dousnt deserve you.

[CurLyF]

OMG I'm sorry honey but you should have kicked him to the curve a loooong time ago. So what if you are Indian? So you are goo enough to be in a relationship with him but not good enough for him to show you around? he is a jerk honey I'm sorry, but you desserve way better and should leave him.

[Sociopathvictim]

why are you dating white guys? it makes me laugh seeing indian girls acting like servant to white guys who clearly dont value you. I stood on a busy carriage ignoring a couple and it irritated them that i minded my own business. An indian wife to a white guy had a child, the white guy treated their child like a servant. If you want to date a white guy, do so on the basis that you see yourself as the better half or else you're a loser.

[PatriciaRodriguez]

Never put the key to your happiness in Someone else's pocket. Love is kind... it's not selfish. If this guy truly love you then let him prove it, a person will only value what he have once it's gone. stop saving a space for someone in your life let them work for it. Knoe your worth.

[9teen]

I can tell you he is insecure for sure. He is afraid of the opinions of others rather than being confident and bring down every negative opinion like a man.
Unless you both made a decision to stay private and act like friends in public, I don't see why you're still with him. He is obviously ashamed of himself dating an Indian person.

[StarDust_xo]

BREAK UP WITH HIM!

If he cannot accept you for who you are, why invest time into such a person? You deserve a man who isn't afraid to show you off to the world. Not some guy who cares about what others think. There's so many beautiful interracial couples out there. Let him go and find a real man

[MimiHashima]

Dump his butt. If he’s not okay with you for that sort of reason, likely that won't change anywhere down the road.. it’s personally messed up and can mess you up too. Find someone whom actually takes their time with you and isn’t afraid of having you meeting their good-closest friends with them and invites you out with them and maybe even family as well. You’d be a lot more happier. 😑

[MimiHashima]

Another possible thing to think about cause sometimes it may not be the actual person who is racist. Their parents/family including their friends might cause some kinds of means of endless harassment too.. would you deal with something like that for the rest of your life, especially if they choose not to change?

[nathanp97]

I doubt he is racist. If he was he would probably not be dating her in the first place. It is more likely his parents and some of his friends are racist, and he doesn't want to look bad in front of them.

I would give him an ultimatum, because there is no point in continuing a relationship that will never go anywhere.

[cseasterling]

Find a barrel of flour. Jump in it. Or get some flour and one if those big powder poofs ya know what I'm talking about like in the movies? Tape it to a door and slam it against yourself. Loaded race bait bs questions result in sarcastic comments. No real human being would tolerate this and nobody would date an opposing race they didn't prefer. Nice try tho.

[Burgerboy21]

Break up with him. If really cared for you, your race should not be a reason for him to not be proud to date you. In fact, there should be absolutely no reason at all for him to not be proud. He's treating you like sh*t and you deserve so much better.

[princess4u]

How many fake xper 1 accounts do you own?

[Asker]

Um that's not me. Anyway why are you so obsessed? Also you kind of act entitled tbh bashing all Indian guys.

[princess4u]

And why are you defending them 🙄

[Asker]

Because its not cool bashing people based on their race. Duh!

[princess4u]

Ouch trapped. Investigation done. Poor Indian guy.

[Asker]

You actually went to different accounts and checked their history? Crazy much?

[princess4u]

I won't let your ass trolling anyone here.

[Asker]

Your name suggests how entitled you are

[Tron5678]

I think problem goes beyond being an indian. I think the values instilled in him during is childhood is contradicting with the fact he fell in love with you which has shaken his little world and more he denies more he is going get confused.

Well, that's his problem and is scared to accept it so he can't think for himself and is more worried he judged by people in his little world.

These are enough reason to dump him. Don't punish yourself for a guy who can't think of himself.

[Didja_Like_That]

If he's ashamed of you then you should leave him. Why be ashamed of someone you date. People should show off who they're dating and be proud. That guy is a boy and not a man. He deserves a throat punch.

[ecfresh]

Because you are Indian and he views your race as lower class than his. It's completely wrong of him and you should have challenged his beliefs but to answer your question that is why he is ashamed of you.

[RockStarBob]

What you've described isn't a real relationship. You're apparently just his fuck buddy. Is this the relationship that you want? If not, get out and move on. Lots of white guys adore Indian ladies and would have no problem introducing you as his girl. Find one.

[Frozr]

If he is ashamed of you, why is he with you? ask yourself this... why does someone want a discreet relationship... Besides the guy seems pretty shallow... i mean i am Indian and i felt reluctant to have my Finnish girlfriend meet my friends or family. however, never ashamed... on either side.

[princess4u]

New account?

[Frozr]

yes... just born :(

[princess4u]

You are bad at trolling. Nice try.

[Asker]

@princess4u lol that's another guy.😂😂😂😂

[Frozr]

@princess4u trolling? what do you mea

[princess4u]

See you even laugh and not being serious with your question. You are a horrible troll.

[Frozr]

lol i get it why he is ashamed of you.

[princess4u]

Both of you are the same person. Don't pretend otherwise.

[Frozr]

it isn't you being indian thats the dealbreaker dear... it's how dense you are in the head

[lexythelou22]

Either he's ashamed of your race, or you're the side hoe. Leave him asap girl, you don't deserve that.

[RuthAnn1781]

Break up with him. He's an asshole who clearly doesn't deserve you and you need to just move on because that's fucked up and not okay

[btzbabe]

You need to leave that guy. You deserve someone who’s gonna make you feel respected and loved.

[princess4u]

He is an Indian guy. Many of them are catfishes here to troll. I can tell.

[Asker]

@princess4u um this is a genuine question. I don't in any way think that dating who you want is wrong.

[princess4u]

Y'all are jelly because your girls are dating White men but White girls don't find Indian guys attractive.

[randomp0tat0]

@princess4u... first of all, I find it wrong to make that generalization of a whole race of people. I would have used myself as an example but thank god I’m of Cuban descent. Second of all, even if this is a troll question, what about this is so terrible? It’s just a question, and if it is a male, he might have just asked because women don’t get as much judgement for these questions as men. You also act incredibly entitled i. e. “I can tell.”. As that may or may not be true, you have no actual way to be sure.

As for the asker... if I were in your position (depending if this is a genuine question from either gender), if you’re fed up with their behavior, announce that you’re dating around their friends. That sounds a bit sinister but the way they’re acting is unacceptable, and if they can’t deal with it, break it off. Even if this is a fake question I enjoy trying to be of help and it’s not hurting anyone soo...

I’d like it if no one responded with the -he’s actually a guy- lines.

[wolfsrain22]

Brake up with him. There are plenty of other guys who will cherish you for who you are. Guys out there that want to show you off and be proud that you're there's. You have no future with him ultimately you date people move in with them meet their parents get married and have kids but if he is ashamed of you none of that's going to happen.

[advaj98]

Wtf he knew that going into your relationship if I'm you I dump him and don't look back he's so shallow you don't need to take that from him.

[BlackMaleYou]

Next time u date out of ur race u need to be certain that u are not just a fetish, that he is u are not a secret

[Pink2000]

Why the fuck are you with his racist ass ? he doesn’t want you. He’s ashamed of you because you’re Indian and he’s afraid what people will say. Dump him.

[Iyaberry]

Leave him. Honestly, this is emotional and mental abuse. He is an asshole and toxic. You dont need that, and deserve better. You are strong to walk out from such an abusive relationship.

[Malita55]

Omg thats awful. You seriously need to leave. That is the biggest red flag

[ilovecurvychick]

Like @desidoll says, you are actually a salty Indian guy. People are dumb enough to believe your fake story.

[princess4u]

Omg I thought I was the only one who noticed it.

[desidoll]

@princess4u Even by reading the first paragraph lol I could easily tell that he purposely made this question for a reason.

[boggboss]

That's up to you you have decided to stay in this situation

[boggboss]

At best speak to him and way u are not happy with the situation

[RetroAlpha]

Um... It is time for you to leave your idiot boyfriend. Go find another guy.

[Celq532]

Break up with him. You don't need to wear shame for the rest of your life. Why would you want to live with this person whose going to treat you as a shame for the rest of your life?

[Mayday40]

He won't hold your hand in public. He refers to you as his friend, not as his girlfriend. And he won't introduce you to his family. Has he honestly told you that he loves you?

[jasion777]

Leave his racist ass behind. If he won't even hold your hand he isn't just afraid of his parents he got some issues I would seriously reconsider this relationship.

[gmoney808]

Dump him sounds like a. jerk. Why would he be ashamed of you? Move on

[anshul177]

Just leave that son of bitch vo bas timepass kar raha h agar vo love karta to ese kabhi nahi karta or tu bhi pagal h kia indian lardko ki kia kami thi jo in gore lardko ke chakkar mai fass gai ye saale hote h matalabi chalak

[v851234]

Dump him, dump anyone who wants to hide the fact you are his girlfriend.

[SongBird3]

What a racist asshole! Dump him and find a better guy!

[AoiKaito]

Just leave him. If he is ashamed because of your nationality, he doesn't truly love you and isn't worthy of you.

[gapopop]

Couldn't agree more.

[MindTime]

Maybe tell him that it makes you sad and he should be brave enough to tell people you're his girlfriend

[Shaminianx]

Just leave him! Ofcox its a waste of time being with someone who doesn't even like you, when you at least like someone they won't be asahmed of that person. I'd say thats totally unacceptable!

[victorvolf]

He sounds terrible, be proud of who you are, don't let an asshole like that tell you otherwise

[mmr99]

Maybe his family wouldn't let him date you because of your race so he just doesn't want them to know

[Anonymous]

You should leave him and find someone who won't be ashamed of you. You don't deserve that and I'm sorry you're going through it

[jaraulio]

He's just using you for the sex, if you two are even doing that. He's all about "appearances", not transparency. Dump him and move on.

[MusicianGlg]

I've been there. Break it off with him. There tons of guys out there for you to pick from even if you don't think. There are more fish in the sea.

[mayur955]

I think u did a mistake. Ur choice was wrong. Simply leave him because he will never accept you & hold your hand in front of everyone. It's reality & you must accept it.

[diggler258]

Dump this dudes ass. He should care more about what you think than what other people think. You deserved better

[coopersatts]

Maybe his family is really racist and if they found out he was with an Indian girl, they might dissociate him from his family

[coopersatts]

And maybe his friends are too, and he doesn't want to lose his friends because he's dating an Indian girl.

[coopersatts]

But if he's good to you in private, he's not racist, he wouldn't be with you if he didn't like you or he didn't like Indian people

[TheFlak38]

You must be very good at sex other wise this is a fucking mystery :D

[virginbish]

Thank the kama sutra 😏
(Sorry asker... I just had to say it for humour, I obviously don't mean it)

[TheFlak38]

@virginbish hahahahaha yes!

[ZeussLightningBolt]

If he doesn't like Indians, why would he be dating you?

[gunducci]

Leave him! No one deserves to be treated like that. He isn't worthy of your love.

[irtahkhseved]

Lady, as a human being, I'm begging you, leave him. If he's ashamed of your nationality, he doesn't deserve you.

[cracklejingle]

Dump his ass. Or you can go back to pandering your love at the cost of self-respect. Your call really.

[Anonymous]

I'd ignore the rude anonymous person and report him

[Teles]

I think you deserve someone that love and that as no Shame of you Just beca use you are indian i mean whats The problem on that u know.. Like, i dont know why He does that but is a dumbass im sorry

[blueeyesboy]

Yes he is ashamed of you i think all woman are soo sexy goddess no matter what or who they are if he does not want to hold your hand then it he loss baby you are a goddess man should respect a woman

[oldoldold]

Time to date someone who celebrates being with you. This is it the behaviour of a good man