SnapMap shows boyfriend being at a random apartment complex twice this week?

[Anonymous]

We've been dating for a few months now. We haven't had sex because I wanted to wait a bit. Anyway, a few days ago I looked at the map feature on Snapchat to locate a friend to meet up, and I noticed my boyfriend wasn't at his place like I thought he was. He said he had to do a lot of studying, and therefore wasn't really texting me that night. I looked where he was and it showed that he was a good 10-15 minutes away at some apartment complex. He was there the entire night and didn't leave until noon the next day. The same thing happened last night, same apartment.

How do I find out if he's cheating and not seem like some crazy girlfriend stalking him? Because I discovered this on happen stance, and it has me a little worried. How should I go about confronting him?

Updates

+1 y

Guys it happened again, but this time it's someone's house. He's there as I type. He told me he was doing laundry and homework and now he's somewhere else. I texted him casually and a little flirty to entice a response but it's already been 15 mins since I sent the text and he hasn't responded. WHAT DO I DO?

[PullnoPunches]

To be honest i wouldn't consider really you as his girlfriend if you aren't sleeping with him after a few months. And he probably feels the same way.

You can't really know if he was "cheating" but at the very most he wasn't completely honest with you. Which says a lot about the relationship.

[Asker]

There's a reason for that. I'm a virgin and I want to make sure he's a keeper before giving to him. We've only been dating two months. And a situation like this may be the very reason I haven't had sex with him yet... if he is screwing other women while he's with me, then I'm glad I haven't!

[PullnoPunches]

That really doesn't change my original point. There is no reason for him to commit to you if he is not getting laid, especially if he has a side piece. Which i think he does.

[thatsjustme1]

You can't confront without proper evidence. And he will say why are you spying on him. You don't trust him.

Find out who lives there first.

[Asker]

How could I go about doing that?

[thatsjustme1]

Since he was in an apartment complex it would be little difficult to tell what apartment he was in. It would require following him.
So just casually tell him someone you know saw him there. Does your friend live there who he was studying with?

Then You should be able to make something out from the way he replies.

[Asker]

I'm not sure if a friend lives there or not. I thought about that, just "Oh he's visiting a friend" but when I woke up the next morning he was STILL there. Since when do 23 year old men have sleepovers at a buddies place multiple times a week?

I like the idea of mentioning a friend saw him there. I may also try the next time I see him there, just asking "Hey ____! What's up? You at home studying?" In a casual way to be a conversation starter but to get his answer to see if he lies and says he's at home...

[thatsjustme1]

Even I am not saying he was with his friend. I was suggesting to ask him that. instead of being direct and saying what were you doing there?

[thatsjustme1]

I'm a bit too late. What happened?

[nofunkgiven]

Could have been a friend? Tho it's kinda suspicious not gonna lie.
I would just ask him directly but without sounding too suspicious. If he gives me a weird answer i would go to the location itself.

[Asker]

I thought about that, but what 23 year old is having sleepovers at a buddies house? Multiple times a week no less. If I notice him there again, maybe I'll just be casual and ask him what he's doing. If he doesn't give me a clear answer then maybe I can bring up that I noticed he was somewhere else on the snapmap. Do you think that may work?

[nofunkgiven]

I hope it works👍

[Asker]

Thanks. I'll definitely update this thread if and when I find something out.

[nofunkgiven]

And please if he sounds suspicious, go and see who lives there, this is not about trust now, cuz when a guy gives a lame excuse and u trust him that would be blind trust which is stupid. But also make sure to hear him out, it might not be anything related to what u r thinking of.

[nofunkgiven]

Update: ask him right now while he's there, why he's doing laundry in someone else's house

[RumEro]

maybe check out the place just in case