Am I wrong to be concerned about my boyfriend sharing the same hotel room with another chick for 2 weeks?

[mujerbonita_89]

My boyfriend gets mad at me and says I don't appreciate him because I just found out that he is going on a business trip for 2 weeks in another state and is going to be staying in the same hotel room with another chick that he works with. I guess I never had to deal with him going on a business trip before seeing as he just started his new job here. And when he told me this I was really concerned that he was sharing the same room with another chick. Its fine that they would work together but to come back and sleep in the same bedroom together did not settle with me too well. I didn't blow up at him nor did I freak out, I asked him why are you staying with another girl? Why can't you get a different room. He said its just a hotel room and its not like we're sleeping in the same bed! I said but you'll be alone with her in there for 2 weeks and he went on about me not appreciating him and blah blah blah... I mean am I wrong to be concerned as I never had had to go through this before?

[greeneyedgal]

I understand your stance and I admit that if I was in your position that I'd be concerned. However, working in a corporate setting I understand the precariousness of the situation. Many companies are cutting back nowadays by every possible means. I am kind of surprised that they are making him share a room with a female for 2 weeks, but it's not unusual either with the state of the economy. I think your boyfriend is stuck between a rock and a hard place. I really don't think this is his fault but that of his company.

He isn't hiding anything from you and was honest about the arrangement. You didn't mention that he has a history of cheating or womanizing. I think you need to trust him and his judgment. His hands are tied and if he wants to keep his job then he has to do what the employer expects.

That is my perspective.

[Anonymous]

uhhh, yeah, I'd flip the f*** out lol. 2 weeks in the same hotel room as another woman, that's a situation that would be conducive to stress for any girlfriend. how would your boyfriend honestly feel if you were in the same hotel room with another guy for 2 weeks. don't ask your boyfriend that because he would probably say that he would trust you...but in reality, he most certainly would not, he would freak out.

if your boyfriend is giving you crap about "not appreciating him", then maybe there ARE unfaithful motives to this and he's frustrated that you're not giving him unconditional trust and that you're catching on. or maybe he honestly doesn't get it and doesn't understand how you could even think he would cheat on you, if that's the case, then he's probably innocent.

[cloverhoney]

A legitimate company would not set up two employees of the opposite sex in a hotel room together on a business trip. This sounds more like a vacation getaway. You are so right to be concerned. It was not supposed to settle well with you, it is a big red flag!

What is he really saying to you when he wants you to believe he is going on a business trip and sleeping in the same room with a female coworker? You deserve better than that.

[LonelyBob]

If he doesn't see a problem with it then he's looking forward to it. He thinks that showing you he doesn't think it that big of an issue that you'll drop it. Then he can go get his flirt and tease on. The fact you even know about it he might like to mess with you and make you jealous like see how much crap you'll put up with before you break up. You should just say 2 weeks? Enjoy your trip and move on when he goes. Cuz that's some bullshit. He doesn't respect you and has no concept of what a relationship is.

[beee1985]

why would they even be in the same room? that's messed up from his company. that can bring problems.. I think you have all the right to be concerned!

[Anonymous]

you have no reason to feel wrong. If my boyfriend stayed in a hotel room with another woman for ONE night id flip my lid and tell him he can get another room or I can. Its not the fact I don't trust him its the fact I don't trust her. Blech, sleepy bottoms, sharing a bathroom. Absolutely not!

[Titi18]

i would be f***ing concerned dude, I would even end it when him!

[ItsNotRocketScience]

I would call bull on that...most companies don't allow their male and female counterparts share the same room. Sexual harassment lungers

[jacquesvol]

Well, if he's 25 and she's 58 and overweight?