Do you think it's alright for your boyfriend to sleep over at another girl's house?

[Anonymous]

I will try to keep this short. My boyfriend has a lot of friends that are women, and he lives around the Kingston area which is about an hour and a half drive from Ottawa where most of his friends live. He usually goes there at least 5 times a week to hang out with them, go to the bar, party, go catch a movie etc. He sometimes stays the night at their house after going out to the bar or even going out for supper. I trust him, and really love him and we are supposed to be in a committed relationship (long distance at the moment wasn't before.). But is it wrong of me to be slightly uncomfortable with him sleeping over at his female friends' houses? He says they are like his sisters, but it worries me a little. I almost feel like he's walking all over me. I mean last time he went off on a trip with a so called really good friend for a week. His argument was that they were really good friends and just because she was a girl, he shouldn't not be allowed to go on a trip with her, its the 20th century. I tried to be open minded about it, but it really hurt. We talked about it after, and he said he was sorry, and that it won't happen again, but now he's sleeping over at other girls' houses instead, not to mention dancing with them in such a " I'm here to party and get some" sort of way. I really don't have a problem with him having friends that are women I just don't like the way he is around them. And I really do trust him, but I'm afraid that I'm going to get hurt for being so trusting. It has happened before. I love him and would like for this to last, but I can't help wondering if I am doing the right thing sometimes by being with him. When it all comes down to it, I would take a bullet for him, I just love him that much. But I have a feeling that these female friends of his will always be a problem. I would like lots of criticism and thank you for you time! I appreciate

[MirandaSherry50]

Well if he is craching there from the bar with a bunch of his freinds its ok.

If he is sleeping there alone then hell no! that's so inappropriate. Think if the role was reversed. How would he feel if you slept at a guys house? That's so not cool I would be totally uncomfortable. You need to talk to him and tell him you feel uncomfortable with the situation. If he says he won't sleep there anymore good,that means he respects you and your feelings. If he gets mad and defensive, that means something is happening and he does not want to stop sleeping there. If that's the case you need to leave him because he is just another bad seed. Good luck!

[GingerRage]

No it isn't okay. I would sleep in my truck before I put myself in that situation.

[knowmeyourself]

Exactly!