Guys, would you be mad if your partner was having an innocent lunch with her boss?

[Gloree]

Hi, I've been transferred to a new office last week and today I asked him for permission to be off work tomorrow and next as I had family issues to deal with.

He agreed promptly but then asked about my hobbies. I told him I like to go on walks and he asked when I would return to the city. I said Sunday and he's like "oh I thought you would be back by Saturday so we could go on a walk."
I was stunned & said it would not be appropriate as I'm in a serious relationship. He was like "I don't mind. It's just a walk. Or would you prefer we do lunch?"
I said "no need" and he said "what are you afraid of? Your boyfriend?"Before I could respond he dismissed me with "we will have that harmless lunch next week, alright?" Then he rang his secretary and I had to leave.

Guys do you think I am being paranoid or he's just being friendly? I don't know why I attract my bosses. If my boyfriend finds out about this then the work issue will intensify (for those of you who know my former questions and what I'm talking about).

Let me know how best to handle this new problem. Thanks.

[slatyb]

"oh I thought you would be back by Saturday so we could go on a walk." As you pointed out, that is totally inappropriate. Do not see your manager outside work hours.

Your boyfriend needs to understand that you will have professional contact with both men and women. If he can't handle it, you need a new boyfriend.

[Xtendable]

Make your lunch breaks busy. Work out or run during your lunch break, or plan catch ups with friends. If he’s insisting, invite another colleague along

[woman_2004]

why you always attracted by other guys? cause in most of your posts it always a different one…

[Gloree]

Guys are always attracted to me. It's not my fault. And it causes problems for me. And I have this thing that I don't like to chase people that want to be close to me, away without particular reason.

[woman_2004]

If you were single then no it’s not your fault but you have an literal husband…. shut that down immediately if anyone ask and leave. You have legs, it’s not like their forcing you to join them without your will.

[WhitneySnow]

You are not being paranoid. Your boss is being really pushy and inappropriate.

[red324]

If this is a corporation with a corporate office somewhere you have this guy by the balls. He will be terminated so fast he won't know what happened if you report that he's making moves on you.

[exitseven]

Sounds to me like he is making some moves on you. Make sure you document everything and take it to HR.

[zagor]

If it has a direct business reason, or if you're both on a road trip, fine. Otherwise I'd have to question his motives. Unless he commonly goes to lunch with other employees.

[Pyrofox]

I'd be okay with it. Id maybe offer up to have them over. In hopes they would maybe give my girl a little more slack at work. Admittedly I'm use to a very different work environment.

[Anonymous]

Invite the boyfriend along. If anyone is uncomfortable with that it will come out.

[jamesgoldman]

Nah, the amount of time I spend drinking coffee with my clients who are, by some respect, my bosses

[Gloree]

I don't understand

[jamesgoldman]

I'm self-employed but a lot of my business happens in a coffee shop because of CCTV... if my partner (hahahaha) goes to lunch with her boss it's fine because I do the same with my clients everyday

[Gloree]

Oh. okay. lol. but it's cool

[Abdulwahh]

Why would he need lunch with her truth is he wants to make a move high chance come on lets be real

[deandre09]

Business is business but it sounds like your boss is trying to FUCK

[Phoenix98]

Not appropriate in my opinion.

[roy_ricky09]

What do you mean innocent

[Gloree]

I mean, no strings attached.

[roy_ricky09]

Obviously your boss is trying to get you... Don't you see.
A simple No will suffice unless you're interested in your boss.
Always remember you can't clap with one hand

[KrakenAttackin]

You are already crushing for some strange at work.

[Gloree]

You're accusing me wrongly. How am I crushing on someone? Gosh

[Anonymous]

That is inappropriate

[anon1903]

He's a pushover

[Alex8736]

Not at all

[In_Trance]

Not appropriate

[eagle1951]

hell yes

[Gloree]

"innocent" lunch, mind you.

[eagle1951]

that's how it starts