Is it bad I only want to date virgin men as a virgin myself?

[bookishweirdo01]

I'm almost 15 and I look at everyone around me and notice there are barely any guys I know who are virgins. Does it make me selfish that I only want to be with a virgin when the time comes? The way I've always seen it was if you want ur partner to have a low body count or be a virgin, you have to hold yourself to that same standard.

I'm not interested in sex, but I know I want to wait to lose my virginity until I find the right person.

I'm worried that when I start to date and find someone who I like, they won't be a virgin bc I feel like they practically don't exist when you reach your 20s and 30s.

I saw a reddit post the other day of this guy who was 23 asking if he was a manwhore for being with 24 girls. When I looked at the comments, I saw multiple men saying if he is in the dating process, he should lie about his body count and say its lower so the girls doesn't run away. This made me sick.

When I asked someone close to me how they feel sex impacts their future relationships they said it doesn't. They don't care because whoever there with has to accept there were others before them. It made me think, when people my age start losing their virginity and having sex with many girls, do they ever think how their decisions might impact their future relationships?

I'm holding myself to the standard that if I want to date a virgin guy, I have to be a virgin. I just wonder if that makes me selfish? I've heard of guys mad bc the girl they are dating doesn't want to be with them anymore because they've been with others and the girl hasn't. I mean if the guy is so upset about it, he should've thought about how having sex before meeting the right one would impact their future.

I fear it will get to the point that I have to be with someone who's been with others before me bc there are no virgins anymore, or guys that don't view women as objects in my generation. I worry how this standard will impact my future and if I will even find a guy who will meet that criteria.

[JDAC092299]

Well you only need to find the one partner and let me tell you. There are plenty of virgins even today, a lot of young men actually lie about their body count being higher than it is as to a lot of other men the higher the number the bigger the achievement because it’s commonly known that it’s harder for men to increase it in that manner at all compared to women however if you dig a the tiniest bit you’ll be able to spot a man lying about that quick it can be as simple as asking for a few of the women’s full names lol, Women do the opposite most of the time to avoid the discrimination as women are held in higher contempt by society so a lot of women lie about their body count too. Higher or lower doesn’t matter in your case for what you’re looking for so basically in short there’s a lot of liars out there who all have their own reasons for doing what they do or saying what they say but there’s also a lot of people with the same mindset as you too so dw too much about it you’ll find someone 👌

[ChiTown33]

Not weird or selfish. I'm not trying to talk down to you but sex is one of the last things someone your age should be thinking about. Thier's a reason why people have traditionally dated, got engaged, got married, THEN had sex. Because that is the LAST thing a partner should learn about you! Too many people put the cart before the horse never really get to know one another first and then wonder why this gs fizzle.

I'm not going to lie to you. As you get older yes less men will be virgins. And at that point you may have to ACCEPT a guy being a non-virgin. And just because some has had sex doesn't make them ruined. People do make mistakes sometimes you don't learn how to properly vet the opposite gender before it's too late. But I wouldn't accept a person who's had sex with multiple people. Because making a mistake is one thing. Not learning from it is another.

Stick to your guns girl. You're not wrong here. And for right now, just enjoy being the age you are. Don't be in a hurry to grow up. It'll happen soon enough, I promise you.

[LazerBean]

No it doesn't make you selfish, it makes you smart. Stick to that and your life will be better for it.

[Guy13]

Nope. It sounds exactly right.

[connemara_crocodile]

Uff you're in an awful age, not gonna lie to you. Half of the boys are racing to get laid as fastt as possible so they can brag with their friends, and the other half are lying saying that they did already.

Being with a guy who had sex will be a bit annoying cause boys get very cocky cause it's a new thing and they believe they're experts in life and they might talk you down cause they didn't and you didn't.

And boys who didn't have sex might be looking for it desperately.

I think the best that you can do is to have a very good friend and then slowly start dating him, cause then you know you cab trust him and he knows what you're not looking for 🙂

[SnowedIn]

It's not bad or weird.

You will be able to wait until you find a virgin who also wants to wait until you're their first.

It does narrow the dating pool and make it more difficult but it's possible.

[HighValue]

It is totally reasonable to want someone to live up to a standard as long as you meet the standard too.

[Berethor]

Nature adores a virgin trope, sounds fair, it harder for men to find sex, so you can find virgin.

[Jamie05rhs]

Trust me; you have nothing to worry about. There are PLENTY of virgin guys out there. And that is a FACT! I 100% guarantee it!
So, please, do not worry about this.

[Iron_Man]

No, but you’re too young to date but you have the right idea. Just don’t do anything bad because you’re not married yet

[Iron_Man]

It’s probably gonna have to be at church guy around your age because most men are not virgin anymore and you should be 18 until you start dating and don’t have sex until after you’re married

[Chthou95]

Nothing wrong with that kid. But you're way too young to be thinking about shit like that. Focus on being a kid and enjoying your youth. The years for that kind of stuff will come later

[msc545]

Go right ahead, and good luck ever getting a date.

[Anonymous]

No, virgins should stick with other virgins.

[thatssuppy190]

Trust me that will change in the future

[In_Trance]

it is if you think it is

[Anonymous]

Not at all, it's actually a good thing.

[Anonymous]

No, that is the ideal thing.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Not at all.