What do guys think of 19 year old virgin girls? Will I ever have a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I'm 19 and I'm a virgin. I'm the only girl in my group of friends who is still a virgin (my best friend just lost her virginty 2 years ago at age 18 untill then she was my only friend who was a virgin) Im friends with a few boys, only ones around my age and a virgin (but honestly getting to know him I'm not surprised he is) I haven't even dated anyone either nor have I kissec a guy or held hands with a guy or anything for that matter. I know it's cause I'm ugly and im 5'5 and 200 pounds and I have small and ugly boobs ( 36C, it looks small on me and one my boobs is kinda saggy cause of genetics). I'm just too ugly to date. I even joined dating sites and actively message people but they don't seem interested as they don't message back or they do and they stop talking after a short time. Now, Im not gonna wait untill marrige ( with my sex drive it's just not realistic) but I want to know I've met the right guy to enjoy my first time with. I've heard a lot of guys say they don't like virgins cause they're too emotional or too clingy afterwards or they don't want to teach the person how sex goes and that if the girls a virgin after a certain time it just mean there's a bad reason behind it. To be honest I'm ashamed to be a virgin, but if guys were interested in me I'd've had sex a lost sooner. About the weight thing. My dad bought an exercise machine for us on Christmas and I've been working out for 15 minutes a day, and I'm not eating a lot. In fact, I've been eating less. But I've tried diets and exercise before and didn't lose any weight. So, what do you guys think? Is there hope for me or am I just meant to be forever alone? I'm never complimented by guys either and on the dating site I go on the only people who seem interested in me are creepy old men around my dads age (45). I also hate when guys say women have it easier when it comes to dating and sex. They say we just ask for sex and we get it, yeah right, only if you look like Megan Fox.

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+1 y

I've had crushes on many guys. And every time I reveal my feelings to them I get rejected and then made fun of. I'm never going to ask a guy out again. I'm not even going to tell any guy I have feelings for them anymore or I'll get bullied again.

[Squidyman]

You only have one V card, better make sure to use it wisely. While your at it, hit the gym. If you are really interested in being healthier, nothing does it like working hard for an hour in the gym. Honestly I am not interesting in taking anyone's V card fit or not fit. But if I had to, it would be the fit one. I don't care what size your boobs are, I care more about how well you take care of yourself. You can't control your breast size, but you can control how much you eat, what you eat, and how many calories you burn. That is what matters, not giving away your V card to some guy who doesn't deserve it.

Tell yourself that your health matters, that you matter, and no low life guy deserves or needs to take your V card away from you. Start by going once a week. Up it till you are going three times a week. Consume health foods, no more potato chips for breakfast and candy at lunch. Eat a balanced diet. Balanced doesn't mean it has to taste bad, either. The first step is to tell yourself you can do it. Second step is to actually get off of the sofa and go the the gym and sign up for a membership, perhaps a nutritionist and trainer as well. Then start meeting with them at the gym once or twice a week, up it once you get used to it. Your ideal weight is right around 120 to 140, somewhere in there (I am speculating over the internet). It will take a year of hard work to do it, but this is the best thing you could ever do for yourself. Please don't take this advice lightly. This is something you can do, you just need to do it. Like now. No excuses. Excuses mean you don't care. Go get em', Tiger!

[Asker]

Like I've said before I've tried low carb diets and exercise for 2 months and didn't lose any weight. I've been fat since I was 4 it's probably a medical dondition.

[Squidyman]

Could be. Talk to your doctor about it. What sort of exercise? When I come home from the gym, I expect myself to be dead and sore. Rather than eliminate carbs, aim for tons of fruits and veggies. Calories count more than carbs. Eat about 1500 calories a day. Avoid processed foods and eat very little sugar. Go to the gym 5 times a week. I bet you will start seeing losses in a week or two.

[ComDom]

Being comfortable in your own skin is probably the most important lesson here. Confidence goes a long way with people. Your weight could be a medical or genetic (possibly thyroid) issue it could also be a nutrition (eating correctly rather than just less) and/or exercise issue. You would need to talk with a doctor who would likely need to do testing to determine these things.

As far as virginity goes I'm not sure how or when there came to be a negative stigma with girls. Guys I understand I guess. But girls is just a little odd... since basically the beginning of humankind virginity has been prized among males. First for for its symbolic value. Second for its practical value with respect to what would hopefully be a lower likelihood of STD's and discipline, the desire for sex is a difficult urge to resist especially when caused by guys who can be quite persuasive. It could also possibly be caused by girls who are jealous they are no longer virgins and want other girls to join the club.

[Asker]

I've tried confidence and it didn't work.

[ComDom]

@Anon confidence isn't something you give up on. It's a lifestyle change. You need to develop patience if you think that everything happens instantly because it doesn't. Most things worth having take time. If you give-up on yourself and what you want so easily why would other people want to rely on you? That's ultimately what it comes down to with relationships. If you want a guy you have to make it clear how YOU can benefit HIM. That's how it works for everyone essentially.

[Asker]

Well even if I was more confident of still be an ugly whale nobody will ever fuck

[ComDom]

Attractiveness is subjective. Not everyone sees it the same way. If you want to alter your physical attributes exercise and proper nutrition are a good place to start along with seeing a doctor to assess your specific health concerns. But the bottom line is that guys will pick up on your lack of confidence and until you choose to believe that you are worth something many other people will treat you like you aren't. It's all about choice and frame of mind. This is what sets us apart from animals.

[Asker]

Well it wouldn't matter cause I'd be forever alone anyway.

[ComDom]

That isn't necessarily true. If you convince yourself of that you'll believe it and you're only harming yourself. Our ability to choose what to believe is what separates us from animals

[Asker]

Well, we are animals. Just more intelligent ones.

[ComDom]

Agreed. Our ability to think and choose the way we do is why we are different. We are not just instinctual. You can change your life is you choose to. If you stick to it.

[cheeseysouffle]

You're only 19. I'm in the same boat and I'm 20. Huzzah! There's hope.

Naw but really, I get what your feeling. I feel that way too sometimes. That doesn't make it true but we all fall into a funk.
As far as losing weight goes, it's good that you have a buddy to do it with you. Most diets and plans fail because they're not sustainable and you're not building good habits.

Right now, just focus on the exercise for a week or two until it becomes something you just naturally do. After the first couple weeks, then make another change. It's great that you are reducing your diet. However you need to make sure that you're eating a balanced diet. You need to make sure that you're getting all the nutrients you need.

Also, most diets are just fads and not based in any truth. However if you want something safe and some guidelines the DASH (dietary approach to stop hypertension) is a safe and effective management tool. Again, slowly change over time.

Also, if you're up for it, counting calories is not a bad thing. You just need to make sure that your comfortable and realize that calories are not bad. LiveStrong and other websites have tools to make this easier. You need to consume 500 less calories than you need each day to lose 1 pound a week. The LiveStrong app already calculates what your base intake should be. By exercising you increase the number of calories a day you can consume.

Be careful that you don't get into a purge mentality, because that leads to eating disorders. Just take it slow and remember. It's about good habits.

[cheeseysouffle]

I ran some fancy math stuff real quickly. Maybe aim for eating 1700 to 1800 calories a day. Because you weigh more, it take more effort for your body to carry the weight so you can eat a bit more than someone with less weight. You can also reduce your intake to lose 2 lbs a week, but that would be incredibly difficult to create good habits with.

[dra_214]

Hey there girl. I really wouldn't beat yourself down about this. I'm going to be 18 in almost a month , and I still haven't kissed, Helds hands , or dated a guy either, despite being on the more fit side. I'm a virgin as well so I'm not that far off away from you. I don't think it's totally a weight problem that guys don't approach you , it could be more of a confidence problem and that needy vibe you may be presenting to want to be in a relationship. You hsve to simply act like you're not neccasarily looking for one. Be your own person and simply don't give a damn without being arrogant. Continue on to be friendly and cordial. With the weight thing , it could be hypothyroidism that's causing yoor weight struggle so I would check that out. Try to avoid sugar, wheat , and dairy. No packaged foods and carbs aren't bad. Stuff like brown rice and sprouted whole grain bread are all good. fruits are great too but don't eat too much of it. Boost your intake of every vegetable known to man and include good fats like avocado , olive oil, coconut oil, etc. because good fats like that help you lose weight. Have more plant based proteins. And drink half your body weight in water and have some raw juices as well. Don't give up! Gotta be persistent and consistent

[Asker]

Yes but many times I've tried dieting and exercise. I've went on a low carb diet with exercise for 2 months and didn't lose any weight ever since I was 4 I had a gut and I'm starting to think its a medical condition. It's impossible to buy nice clothes at my size. Maybe I should become an anorexic since that seems like the only girl guys prefer anyway.

[dra_214]

Have you tried your way of eating to the Way I exactly suggested you? Yes, it could be. If you really want to change , indeed see a nutritionist. And heck ll nah. Guys do not like girls who are anorexic and who purposely starves themselves to death. They actually like a girl with curves in this day and age. That's where you're wrong. Besides , why would you ever starve your valuable body that you should love and honor to your best ability , over s few irrelevant, immature guys that have looked passes you? To me, that doesn't make sense. You need to stop basing your worth , desirableness , and attractiveness on the male Population's opinions and interests. There is someone for everyone. That's a fact

[Asker]

If there's someone for everyone why am I still single?

[dra_214]

Why arr you in such a rush to get in a relationship at a young age? Most of the relationships you see around your age or younger really don't last really long. I would know because I've witnessed quite a few. So, you're really not missing out on much. You have many people who feel the same way as you do anyways. Hang tight. Choose wisely. Be cautious. Plain and simple.

[Asker]

I'm in a Rush cause I need expirence in dating.

[Anonymous]

I would like to recommend a blog to you called "The Rules Revisited". Google it. I don't think that everything he writes is LAW, but it does give you a lot to think about in terms of how the male brain thinks. I've read many of his posts and they talk about appearance, exercise, virginity, dating, meeting guys, etc. I think that's something that's worth looking into for you.

Anyways, you're only 19 and still have a lot of life to live. Don't rule out all possible options. If you're in college, there are PLENTY of guys out there just waiting for you to meet. Exercise, eat right, put a bit of effort into your appearance, have good hygiene, and you'll be fine. And it's a big turn off if you call yourself ugly and put yourself down. Confidence is attractive! Be comfortable with yourself and others are naturally attracted to you.

[Asker]

I've tried confidence before.. it didn't work. People still didn't like me. I may be only 19 but I have no expirence in dating or sex no guy will want me.

[Opinion Owner]

You have the wrong attitude towards your life and the things that you see problematic. Unless you change it, nothing else will change.

[chimi]

U shouldn't care if u 19 and a virgin you still yung. I lost it this year @31yrs old yes I'd date and let guys feel me up with out going all the way but yes jst take your time. lots of guys will make you believe if you sleep with em youl be together and its not always like that ey. sometimes you do it with them and they'll still run off pulling a hit and run on you. so yes ur hormones are raging but make sure you're doin it for yourself and not for some douchebag. and girl don't be so hard on yourself if you on the thicker side you can still be sexy cause its in your mind. I'm thin people think I'm pretty but I used2 have a low self esteem so I ddnt attract good guys to myself but I'm learning to not take shit. so yes jst exercise put yourself first and everything will fall in to place. maybe you'll even land yourself a date ; )

[muspelhem_3]

Hey. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with this.

First off, don't worry about being a virgin. It's just an experience you have yet to try. There is nothing magical about it.

Second, I would recommend this: Get out more. A lot more.

I'm not talking discos etc. But meeting guys and having relationships will be much easier if you are meeting a lot of people all the time (irl, not online). So what you need to do is to figure out activities, groups and events you are interested in, where there are guys too, and get involved in them. The more, the better. Gradually, you'll get much more relaxed in social situations. A great place to start would be to start participating in a team sport regularly. More effective and more challenging than exercising at home.

I also imagine that since you have been bullied, it would help you to take matters in your own hands and just meet a lot of new people. That way, you get to control who you hang out with, rather than the other way round.

Hugs and good luck.

[RCuber]

You are still young. Be yourself, do things you enjoy, and try to be happy. Sex and love will come with time.

As for how you look, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But if you are not happy with how you look, that is something that you can change. It will take time and hard work, but it is something that can be changed. Just be safe in the way you go about changing how you look.

On the subject of being a virgin, I do not think that it matters. If people are giving you a hard time about it then they are defiantly not people worth paying attention to.

I can somewhat understand where you are coming from. I am 22 years old and also a virgin (not entirely by choice).

[Asker]

Yeah, but nobody will find me beautiful. You see a ton of women with larger guys but never a lot of guys with larger women

[RCuber]

Why compare yourself to others? If you aren't happy with how you look than change. Continue to exercise and eat healthy. Work hard and don't give up. Talk to your doctor or another professional if you need more help achieving your goals.

[Asker]

I've tried exercising and diets nothing worked. The most I lost was 2 pounds in 1 month

[RCuber]

2 pound in one month is not bad. Do not be fooled by things you may see on the tv or Internet that talk about loosing large amounts of weight quickly. Loosing weight in a healthy way takes time and a lot of effort.

[Nomad93]

You will find someone eventually dear. Go on www.iifym.com and look up you macros and start following it it's a diet where you can eat whatever you want as long as you aren't over eating for your body. Macros are protein, fats and carbs, fiber is also important. Then go on www.myfitnesspal.com and download the free calorie counting app on your phone and your good to go. Good luck I hope you find someone :)

[Anonymous]

shit what you worrying about? A lot of girl would wish to be in your position right now. Your still a clean, young, beautiful and vibrant young girl. And guess what im 19 year old guy and im still a virgin. You shouldn't feel rushed, pushed, influenced, encouraged or persuaded to do it thats just straight wrong. You should feel comfortable and take your time finding an appropriate, righteous partner. Many people say sex ain't what its hyped out to be its not all that glamorous. But it is special and what you have right now is special because its what most people look back on and desire and wish to still have.

[Asker]

I wouldn't say I'm beautiful. There's nothing about me that's beautiful really... I don't know why anyone would want to be a virgin it sucks. People call me a loser and maybe they're right.

[Opinion Owner]

dont let people tell you what you are and what you aren't. Fuck them they're words are invalid as long as they talk shit about you pay them no mind. Your persona makes you who you are. If you have a character or have the traits of a real woman, a boss, a woman who has that confidence and knows who she is and walk in pride with your head up. That'll get you respect and admiration and you'll be loved and adored by many. I feel your self esteem is low and your are in-secure. You need to accept yourself girl, tell yourself im the shit, think positively about yourself no matter what even if it sounds arrogant. And make sure all these thoughts about doubting yourself are thrown away so that you feel self-assured. You'll love yourself soon enough after that i promise

[Asker]

I've been bullied for 9 years since 5th grade. I can't accepted myself when everyone hates me. I'm a waste of space. And honestly I'm looking for a way to kill myself. I'm just done with life. The world is f*cked up. People suck. I wish I've never been born. I'm just fat, ugly, and boring and it'll never change. I'm an embarrassment to everyone and myself.

[Opinion Owner]

you see your wrong there. Dont you ever think that. Your gorgeous, beautiful, pritty, sexy, hot, amazing thats what you need to think and believe. If you got bullied fuck them guys dont ever think back on it i know it may be hard. But replace those thoughts with beautiful words that'll make you feel like a queen. Look I've been there too alright i feel down, recently I've been depressed and i know its bullshit but you gotta forget those times. When you let negative thoughts in they control you and they make you feel doubtful of yourself. I want you to tell yourself your beautiful. Re-read what I've read or message me. i'll message you if you like. Life is what you make of it believe that life is what you make of it. Walk outside and look at the world try looking at it from a birds eye view do you see those buildings those people thos businesses theyre all looking for someone like you. They all want a boss a person whos amazing and you know what you're exactly that.

[Asker]

I can tell myself I'm beautiful. But I don't want to lie to myself.

[Opinion Owner]

But you are beautiful, your sooooo pretty do you not see that? Do you not see that your amazing? Your better than anyone and everyone. you're smarter than everyone. Everybody wishes they where you they wish but they aren't. Think these thoughts and tell yourself that. Its not a lie if you believe it to be true. Going out will help you a lot too and to build confidence start playing sports just do that do some exercise. Exercise releases hormones that make you feel good about yourself. And smile. Smile often its said that smiling tricks the mind into believing your happy even when your not. And above all think positive thoughts think your the shit dont ever let doubtful thoughts seap through. Think positively :)) your are amazing, head up :))

[Asker]

I'm not smart either I'm terrible at math. I can't even do multipulcation. And no I'm not pretty, inside or out. Fat isn't beautiful as I've been told many times before.

[Opinion Owner]

oh yea but i bet your hell good at English I've looked at your comments and guess what not one mistake. I've made plenty. Im sure your could earn multiplication in less that one day. Your beautiful i would be lucky to kiss you and so would a lot of other guy you are so pritty and very very attractive how do you not see that. Your not fat your thick and curvy. Try taking a walk or a run or a treadmill and you will feel better and more confident too. Believe in yourself and your abilities you are wonderful :))

[Asker]

I'm not thick and curvy, I'm fat. and Im not that good at English . I'm below avarage according to my test scores.

[Opinion Owner]

alright look you need to think brighter but if you truly think that of yourself you still have so much options available take a walk or engage in some sports or go for a run or eat better. All of those options will make you feel better and will encourage you to have a more positive outlook on life. Don't stay cooped up at home take a walk during the afternoon when the weather is nice and the wind is blowing. Go for a swim, you can go to a friends house and have company around. Hit the gym if you want and do some squats take it slow and ask for advice from trainers. Find something you like and keep at it. Having a gf/bf isn't the end of the world there's so much out there to do and explore :))

[Asker]

I know it isn't the end of the world but you get judged for it.

[Opinion Owner]

And those judgements you shouldn't been concerned about. They dont know nothing for you but bring you down so why pay any attention to it. Tell me why do you care so much about having sex? And loosing your virginity?

[Asker]

Because of social reasons. And I feel pathetic about it. My mom lost her virginty at 18. But she was prettier then me. Plus, there's a type of love I need that no friend or family member can give me. Like I said I get bullied for being a virgin.

[Opinion Owner]

who the fuck bullies you over being a virgin? Find yourself a righteous a man all these other guys will do is use you and pretend to like you. And dont feel pathetic theirs plenty of virgins around here is one typing right now. Sex is special and should be done with someone special and a lot of people given a second chance would do it different if they could. You're still young and those who look down on you are pathetic, theyre jealous of you. You need to have a talk with those who bully you (if theyre you're friends) and tell them you won't tolerate such abuse. If they make fun of you make fun of them back. Be strong and dont let these cowards get to you girl.

[DWornock]

A doctor might give you other options. However, the only exercise that guarantees weight loss is aerobic exercise and it takes a lot. Furthermore, it only works if you have the body structure that can handle it. Obviously, if you body keeps breaking down, it will not work. If ever you can run 20 miles a week averaging 10 minute or less mile times, you cannot be fat.

Start by walking. When you can walk two miles and that may take a month or more, find a track or jogging train, walk a quarter mile and jog a quarter mile. When you can do that 4 to 8 times and assuming you body is not breaking down, you can add distance to your jogging. If in six months you can jog 4 miles a day, 5 days a week, eat whatever you apatite or body wants; you will not fat because one is not compatible with the other.

[Jacob46]

Guys like that are trashy. Don't be dependant for a man to fuck or leaning on your friends and whoever comes around for social acceptance. Shit like that will get you hurt and involved with the WRONG PEOPLE! A girl with a gut is NO big deal!! ;) Every man goes down the road of a big adventure eventually!!! So do not fret about when he will come, VALUE yourself MORE sweetheart!!!

[Mesonfielde]

You most likely need a better diet, because your weight is a health risk. Eradicate soft drinks like Cola and fast food from your diet. Decrease sugar intake. Eat more salads. And try to get some physical activity. It helps if you have a friend who knows how these things work. You really shouldn't be over 170 lbs at max.

[Asker]

I've tried that for 2 months before and barley lost any weight.

[Mesonfielde]

Then you need an even better dietary and workout plan. It works if you reduce the sugar intake and increase fiber while you also reduce the quantity of processed crap. But I am not an expert, you have a better chance with @cheesysouffle I hope that is how she spells her name.

[Mesonfielde]

@cheeseysouffle it is

[cheeseysouffle]

Triple the e, triple the cheese, triple the flavor.

[Anonymous]

I'm 22, in the same boat and I used to model. It's not all about looks, trust me

You should lose weigh to be healthier, it's not magically gonna get you boyfriend. Other than though I don't really have any advice, as I said, I'm in the same situation. And I know how feel, I'm also embarrassed by it and I lie when people ask

[Asker]

Yes but many times I've tried dieting and exercise. I've went on a low carb diet with exercise for 2 months and didn't lose any weight ever since I was 4 I had a gut and I'm starting to think its a medical condition. It's impossible to buy nice clothes at my size. Maybe I should become an anorexic since that seems like the only girl guys prefer anyway.

[Anonymous]

your time will come. Don't rush anything. As far as diet goes maybe talk to a doctor and come up with a meal plaan. Or choosemyplate. gov is a pretty good food tracker and can help with weight loss goals. Also, confidence is a huge factor in attractiveness. So try building yours up a bit b/c i'm sure you're great:)

[Asker]

I've tried confidence before.. it didn't work.

[Opinion Owner]

You can't "try" confidence, it's something that becomes you. It's something you have to find within yourself and then build up. Because if you don't believe it then no one else will

[Anonymous]

you're 19 and a virgin and that's what you're worrying about. Hun I'm 19 too and also a virgin. And I have never kissed a guy either. It doesn't matter. When the right guy comes, then it will be fine. Don't worry. I guess if you're freaking out then I should too. I haven't so you shouldn't either

[Asker]

Yeah, but you're probably very beautiful and will find someone soon. There's no hope for me though.

[Opinion Owner]

See if you can think positive for a stranger like me then you should think positive for yourself. FYI I'm average looking

[Asker]

No, I can't cause I know I'm ugly. And avarage looking isn't bad I wish I was at least avarage looking. But even if I lost weight I'd still be ugly.

[Opinion Owner]

I have thousands of imperfections and trust me. People always think they look bad. I'm sure you're beautiful

[Asker]

I'm really not beautiful...

[Opinion Owner]

You've got to stop putting yourself down. Men like confidence and if you're confident then everything will be fine. So be happy and positive and confident. It will make a world of difference

[Asker]

Like I've said I tried confidence and it didn't work. Everyone still hated me.

[Anonymous]

Hey there's 7 BILLION people in the world! You might think you're ugly, but someone i the world will love you for who you are. You're 19, you have you whole life ahead of you. Don't let this situation bring you down. When the times comes im sure you will meet a wonderful man who will love you for who you are! Dont stress about it, there more you think about it, the more its gonna come bite you in the ass!

[Asker]

I hate when people say I'm just 19. Yeah im 19 now but 10 years from now I'll be a 30 year old virgin with no dating expirence still. There's just no hope. No one will ever love me for who I am cause there's nothing to love about me.

[Opinion Owner]

Stop being so hard on yourself! there's 7 fucking billion people in the world. Trust me. Someone will love you for you. Think positive!

[Asker]

So if there's 7 billion people why haven't I found someone yet? There's no hope.

[Opinion Owner]

Beacuse you're think negative. You're ne'er gonna find someone that way. Think positive! C'mon :)

[Opinion Owner]

You think*

[Opinion Owner]

So many typos im sorrys

[Asker]

And even when I thought positive everyone still hated me.

[Opinion Owner]

Not eveyone will hate you! I dont hate you :) you sound like a nice and cool person. Where are you from?

[Asker]

I'm from Kirkland, Washington. And I'm not a nice and cool person or I'd have more of a social life.

[Opinion Owner]

You seem nice though. Are you a shy person?

[Asker]

I guess you could say that.

[Opinion Owner]

See. You need to open up! I really want to help you

[Asker]

I can't open up or else I get laughed at and made fun of. That's why I want to kill myself.

[Opinion Owner]

Dont! Im here for you! Is there anything i can do to help? Anything

[Anonymous]

there is hope for everyone, with billions of people in the world, there is one especially for you, all you have to do is be patient, give yourself a break you deserve it. Learn to love who you are and if you I mean you not everyone else, don't love something about you then change it but don't cause harm to yourself. It took me a while , I'm 26 I'm a bigger girl and a virgin , and I use to cover up , now Im proud of who I am, I'm 260 lbs of awesomeness and I'm not afraid to show it. I'm also proud of being a virgin, there is nothing wrong with It. Just be patient and get to know who you are. One thing guys love is confidence and once you take time for yourself you will gain it. Even though I'm a big girl, I'm confident and the guys love it. So don't worry so much about losing your virginity, you are not broken.

[Castel]

I haven't really decided my reasoning yet on why I like virgins. But I think it's because

1. I may have a deflowering fetish.
or
2. I'm probably insecure and I don't like girls who have experience with other guys or girls who were more satisfying than me.

I think you'll find someone. Being healthy should be a goal for you right now though.

[Asker]

I get bullied for being a virgin though. I hate it,

[Castel]

Then don't tell people you're a virgin until you meet someone who likes you and you really like, and when they ask, bring it up to them in private. :P

[Asker]

I can't they'll probably break up with me for waiting so long to tell them. And I get bullied by the people in school cause I told a so called "trusted friend" and they told everyone in school.

[KHaskins]

19 is still very young. Don't let peer pressure dictate your actions. You'll find the right person eventually.

[Asker]

19 is not very young. Soon I'll be a 30 year old virgin with no dating expirence in 10 years.

[KHaskins]

You've been on the dating scene for two years. People in high school don't realize how unimportant the social scene there ultimately looks a decade later.

[Asker]

No, I've been on the dating scene since middle school like everyone else. It's been 7 years. There's no hope for me.

[KHaskins]

That attitude is the biggest thing holding you back. I should know. I was 27 before it happened for me.

Middle school means absolutely nothing. I repeat: NOTHING. You're letting others dictate to you how you should feel about this. It is not a competition. It is not a race. It will happen for you, but it does not need to happen right now.

[Asker]

To society it is a competition. I get bullied for being a virgin at 19.

[KHaskins]

I was bullied as a kid too. The worst thing you can do, I found, is cave to them - because then they own you. They pull you around like a puppet and you do what they want you to do. I don't know what it's like for girls, but for me it ended when I knocked the guy on his ass.

When you say bullying, what do you mean? When you say society, who are you referring to?

[Asker]

What I mean by society is that I go on forums and stuff and most guys say they wouldn't date a virgin. Especially if she was over 18 cause it means something's wrong with her. And how I get bullied for it is that the girls at my high school brag about not being virgins and put me down for being one. And the guys saying I should get used to it cause I'm gonna be one forever cause no guy wants a virgin. I'm still in high school cause I didn't earn enough credits last year to graduate. Yeah, I'm stupid too. Fml.

[KHaskins]

There are lots of other people out there who specifically look for virgins. We're quiet about it, but lots of us still hold back for marraige. That's yours to do with as you wish. Don't listen to what those forums say.

Looking to the Internet to tell you why you can't find a guy/girl is like self-diagnosing on WebMD. Everything looks like cancer when it isn't. Problems get blown out of proportion, and it makes it look harder to do than it actually is.

As for the girls at your school, ask yourself: is this what I really want to emulate? 19 is young. Very young. Don't kid yourself. Telling yourself you'll be Forever Alone can lead to nothing good: it'll either be a self-fulfilling prophecy or it'll drive you to making sexual choices you WILL regret just to tell yourself you're rid of it.

www.lolroflmao.com/.../...rrounded-by-assholes.jpg

[Asker]

19 is not very young. And people say virgin girls are not real women until they have sex.

[KHaskins]

Speaking as an adult looking back, it is young. Virginity is only as big a deal as you make of it. Screw what those people think.

Take a look at the image at that link I posted. Words to live by. Take it to heart.

[KHaskins]

A lot of what guys at that age say is geared towards pressuring women to have sex with them by making them feel insecure about themselves. Don't fall for it.

[ha_gaaabe]

getting bullied for it. wow that seems pretty childish. you should be proud to have held on. lose it when you are ready not when other tell you to.

[Asker]

Yeah but the meaning of this post is that no one will want me cause I'm a virgin

[ha_gaaabe]

thats b. s! if anything even more guys would want you. taking a girls virginity makes it that much better for the guy.

[Alexious]

I'm a Virgin too lmao. If people judge you based on that; they're not worth your time. Someone will come for you don't worry. Just be confident.

[Asker]

Confidence never worked for me.

[genericname85]

needless to say 200 pounds is a huge barrier if you want to find a guy. but it´s not only about that xD i am not fat or something but have the same problem and i´m 29 -.-

[Asker]

I know it is but I'm trying to lose it. For now I'm fat and ugly. And when I'm skinny I'll just be ugly. Life sucks.

[genericname85]

most people think they are ugly. me included. mostly there are enough people that don´t think like that though. good luck losing it :) it will sure pay off.

[Anonymous]

Well you're very young there's still plenty of time for you to find a guy who really deserves you

[Asker]

Yeah, but I feel left out. And it seems no guy wants to date a 19 year old girl with no expirence in sex or relationships.

[Opinion Owner]

Is not even like that I think they're afraid of getting attached to you... cause you're a good girl believe me being a experienced in sex at a early age it doesn't make u better people talk bad about you... that was my case I regretted having sex at a early age I wished I didn't do things in the past

[Asker]

I'd rather people talk bad about me then be a 19 year old virgin. People allready talk bad about me for being a virgin.

[Opinion Owner]

But at least no one can cal, u a B... Or a S... ut

[Asker]

Trust me, I've been called a wh*re just because I had a crush on a guy and he didn't like me back and that was the guy I know who's 18 and a virgin.

[Opinion Owner]

Awe I think you should talk to him :)

[Asker]

Talk to him about what? He picks on me all the time because according to him he's getting "revenge" on me for simply having a crush on him. I've known him since 5th grade. Also, he asks his friend if he likes me all time in front of just to get the typical reaction "ew! No!" From his friend, just to make me feel bad. It would probably be an embarrassment to anyone to be dating me. That's why I'm hopeless. Once I told this one boy I used to know that I was saving my virginty for the right man and he told me "that'll never happen unless they're desprate" and another time this other guy told me "good luck finding someone" sarcastically when we were having a talk about virginty. There seriously no hope for me. They're probably right, I'm worthless and will never find anyone unless a guy is desperate or has a fat fetish.

[Opinion Owner]

Oops sorry I didn't knew all this details

[johnbackerson]

I would date a girl like you. Don't worry, you being a virgin means you have commitment and integrity. I too am also a virgin.

[Resuscitatior]

I am 20 and a virgin and athletic. When did most of your friends lose their virginity?

[Asker]

Before age 18. Most of them were 16 or just turned 18. I'm so pathetic. I know that.

[Resuscitatior]

Is this the United States? Damn. It is surprising because the average age is like 17.4 for girls but some other studies show many lose it it college now.

[Asker]

Yeah it the United States. It sucks here.

[Resuscitatior]

I have to agree as I live here too. I guess it is where you live, the type of friends, and where you went to school too because I say there are still plenty of 18 and 19/yr old virgin girls even in college.

[Asker]

No there really isn't. Every college aged girl I've met wasn't a virgin.

[Resuscitatior]

You must have not met that many because around 1 out of 3 college freshman girls should be a virgin

[Asker]

No, I know a lot. I doubt that statistic is factual.

[Resuscitatior]

Most woman I talk to, either on here or in real life, knows at least one person if not more than one person that is still a virgin or have lost their virginity in their 20s. You look around this site, you will see MANY virgins. Some are OK with it, others are asking for advice. People can lie too to avoid pressure.
I am 20 and want my first time to be with another virgin. I have to have faith or else it will drive me off the cliff. I do not get out too much, but I am starting to. I know that woman I am seeking will probably share my Christian values.

[Asker]

Maybe I should start lying about it too. But then the people at school wouldn't believe me then causeim fat and ugly and nobody wants to have sex with a whale. Fml

[Resuscitatior]

Only you can help your weight problems. I used to be obese too and now I am athletic. I lost 70 pounds in a year because I decided enough was enough. You could benefit from that same determination.

[Asker]

Like I've said before, I've plenty of diets and exercise and nothing works. I'm baffled. Because even as a kid I had a big gut. Maybe its just genetics.. that would suck though.

[Resuscitatior]

Have yourself checked for hypothyroidism

[xxxLuvULongTimexxx]

Hey dont worry I'm in a very similar persition I'm an 18 year old male and still a virgin I'd love to find a girl whos also a virgin for my first time :)

[whissperrrr]

The sex is not a competition. so if you are a virgin is not bad. And about the body is just hard work and you will see the results. Hard work and diet

[Asker]

With they way people talk about it, it seems sex is a competition.

[Ihav2fart]

There are plenty of crazy dudes wanting strictly virgins. You'll be fine.

[Anonymous]

in my opinion, it doesn't matter what you look like on the outside- who you are matters much more. Also don't let it bother you if you are a virgin, there are plenty of guys out there who might be the same way.

[yp9209]

I'd be more than happy to date with a virgin girl as I am a virgin too

[Anonymous]

just because your friends are sheeple who go with the flow it doesn't mean you should feel inferior. damn you should take pride on your integrity.

[XNicholeMariex3]

Hahaha
I'm 20 and waiting for marriage. -shrug-

[Resuscitatior]

You are a virgin? Wow

[XNicholeMariex3]

Um yeah?

[Asker]

There's nothing wrong with waiting for marriage, that's your choice. I'm just saying waiting for marriage isn't something I want to do. I'm gonna wait for the right guy though. I'm sorry if I'm misunderstanding, but it kinda feels like my choice to not wait is being criticized. But if not, sorry for misunderstanding.

[XNicholeMariex3]

Nah I'm not judging you.

[Asker]

Ok, thank you.

[XNicholeMariex3]

Yeah, it's your choice. I have best friends who have all ready done it. I'm just old-fashioned I guess?

[Asker]

And there's nothing wrong with that.

[lumos]

You're going to be a lonely virgin forever.

[Asker]

You're most likely right. When did you lose yours?

[lumos]

A month ago, I'm turning 20 next week.

[Asker]

Lucky.

[lumos]

If you want to lose your virginity that badly, just ask someone.

[Asker]

I don't want to do it with just anyone though. And even if I did I'm not even attractive enough for a one night stand.

[lumos]

Then quit whining and start eating healthier and working out more. Do something with your hair, buy nice clothes. Appearance is SO easy to change when it boils down to it.

[Asker]

Yes but many times I've tried dieting and exercise. I've went on a low carb diet with exercise for 2 months and didn't lose any weight ever since I was 4 I had a gut and I'm starting to think its a medical condition. It's impossible to buy nice clothes at my size. Maybe I should become an anorexic since that seems like the only girl guys prefer anyway.

[Asker]

And please don't tell me to not complain it's people like you is the reason I want to commit suicide. Maybe I should anyway.

[SecretSomeone]

You need to get a better diet asap.

[Asker]

I don't think its possible. I even tried a low carb diet and it didn't work.

[SecretSomeone]

Why didn't it work?

[Asker]

I didn't lose any weight after 2 months. I even exercised. Even as a kid I had a big gut. I'm thinking its a medical condition. I should see somebody for it I think.

[SecretSomeone]

Well then, good luck :)

[biguyct]

I love virgins even larger ones so :P