Is a 19 year old virgin girl attractive or seen as weird?

Question

I have lots of self esteem issues accompanied with depression and I believe that loving someone would be difficult if I can’t love myself properly. I frequently get hit on even asked on dates, but I always say no. It’s because I think I’m not good enough- I’m fighting this half of my life xdd but it’s getting better, I think. So I was wondering that once I find someone I like, would the guy loose interest if he knew I have no dating/sexual experience?

JadedandConfused · Accepted Answer

The right guy who is meant for you won't care, he might even like that aspect of you more because all or most of your first experiences will be with him, and that is special in so many ways and he'll love you for it. I myself lost my virginity at 23 years old, and while sometimes I regret not having taken that leap earlier in life, I am content with it. I have always struggled with self-esteem, depression, anxiety, you name it, but also held this belief that I would wait until I loved myself more and found someone who I was ready to give myself to. I also made it a point to avoid being the broken-hearted girl who spread her legs to every Tom, Dick and Harry who showed me a little attention just to throw me away afterwards like I saw happen to so many of my friends. I was actually broken up with and cheated on most of my early dating career because I WOULDN'T sleep with someone. I ended up losing my v-card to my best friend of 12 years at the time, who was 4 years younger than I, and I thought it was perfect and meant to be... and he STILL did to me what I had been avoiding for all those years; bed me and then tell me we should just be friends and nothing more but a casual lay.

It's a hard path to choose to follow, but you should always do it for YOURSELF and not for someone else. And I won't sugarcoat it, if you tell the man you choose that you're inexperienced, he's gonna be one of two guys; either want you BECAUSE you're a virgin and he'll see you as a conquest, or he'll be the man who sees you as the rare find you are and will do his best to keep you, because it takes a special kind of woman to hold on to your virtue for the right person or moment. Or the third option, which is he'll not want to mess around with you because he prefers women who are heavily experienced, and really that's the guy you want to avoid anyway so no loss there. And your first time may not go as planned, the man you choose may end up being a fond (or not so fond) memory, and that's okay. Most of us girls had a bad first-time experience but it's just a part of life. The next man I chose to give myself to I did for ME and me alone, and he's now my fiancé and the father of my child. I did lie and told him "I haven't done much" and heavily implied I was still a virgin because I was so hurt by my first experience and refused to call it my first time (I just wanted to forget it) and he was really into it for the reasons I said. Most of my firsts were with him and he felt special, even honored, that I chose him. When I finally told him the truth, he said he had suspected I wasn't a virgin because I had a lot of trust issues and acted weird when he'd mention he popped my cherry, but he couldn't really tell otherwise cuz I'm apparently pretty tight down there 😂 he's still my second and last and that is still special, especially when most people (including my man) have had multiple sexual partners over their lives. I couldn't have gotten to him if I didn't take that first step with my ex-friend, and I actually am thankful for that little asshole because the experience let me take a leap with the love of my life I'm with today.

Just know that you ARE good enough, there's only one of you and you're so special and unique in your own way, and learn to love yourself for the amazing human being you are. It's not easy to do, but once you do, it makes you shine even brighter and you'll be turning even more heads 😉 In turn, the man who is right for you will see that and treasure every square inch of you and will love that you chose him over everyone else ❤️

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Look, I was 22 when I lost my virginity… there’s nothing weird about that. It was my choice and it’s yours as well. Having zero experience is not a deal breaker to some. Don’t rush it just to lose it. You lose it once, it’s gone forever. Make it count, make it special. Make it worth the wait. Now if the man you like can’t accept that, then he’s not the right one. You’re still young. Embrace your youth. Don’t regret it. 💕

Part2603 · Accepted Answer

No, the average 19 year old virgin girl is not weird.

You on the other hand might be. You might have issues with intimacy. And I mean in the literal sense not the euphemistic. Guys might typically want "virgin girl" who's not cynical and jaded (and loose), but if you personally come with a lot of baggage and you can't enjoy getting close to someone, getting to know someone, or flirting, or dating, or any of that stuff that comes with "dating" TM, then yeah, you might be oft putting and your relationships might crash and burn before they even get started.

You mentioned that you get attention, and you get asked out on dates. So, why aren't you going on dates? Why aren't you crushing on nice boys in your social sphere? Why aren't you making friends and hanging out? Why do you always say no?

It's not because we're all bad boys who only want one thing. I'll have you know that that's kind of a feminist myth, that men are shallow.

Yeah, your first ever date can be awkward. These feelings can be weird. A little bit uncomfortable. But you can't be afraid forever. If you deny yourself the chance to fall in love, you're denying yourself a really meaningful part of the human condition.

You say you're doing better lately, and that's good to hear. The truth is a date is really no big deal. It's fun, and you get to tell jokes and talk about movies and tv.

Just be open. Hopefully soon you'll wonder why you were ever worried at all.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Okay time out time out time out first of all quit thinking that way don't even take yourself there that is just not right I can't speak for any other guy this is the way I think about it I don't know any virgins that are single I'm single right now if I was friends with a virgin and I was single and I really really liked her I've been trying to date her just because she has that strength that I did not have she's a better person than me in many ways because I could not stop myself nor did I want to stop myself from feeling that feeling now here's the other thing if I was to go out with a virgin I would communicate to her that look I'm this age I've had sex since I was 15 and a half and I love it I enjoy it and I love making that other person feel something so beautiful all the time because that's how I show my passion my love in many ways so I would ask her I know you don't want to have sex I want to make out can we make out as a matter of fact I would like to make a deal we could make out we could do anything we wanted except for no penetration would you be willing to do that if a guy started dating you would you be willing to allow him to make out with you to touch you to do anything you wanted but no penetration to have that trust in him to be able to do that is a powerful thing I think it's a beautiful thing and I think we'd make this relationship even stronger

AmandaYVR · Answer

Are you kidding? You're ideal.  You worry way too much, girl. Try to relax.

ManOnFire · Answer

A lot  of guys are crazy about virgin girls so you'll do just fine.

Panzer21 · Answer

My last relationship frequently spoke something along the lines of "Im not good enough for you".

Ill tell you the same thing I told her.

If someone is genuinely interested in you, and wants to date you, you are good enough. If you werent, they wouldn't be asking you out.

And being a virgin at 19 isn't weird, dont fret about that.

A few tips to keep in mind for a relationship:

Be genuine, you dont want a person to fall for an ideal of you, you want them to fall for the real you.

Neither of you will be perfect.

Your partner isn't your property, they won't always act the way you want them to, and you aren't their property either. You will have to decide what behaviors you are willing to accept, and what you will not.

And your partner isn't you, there are going to be differences you will both have to compromise on or work through.

Now stop putting yourself down (easier said than done I know but work on it), get out there and have fun, good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely nothing wrong w that. To me it just tells me she’s not quick to jump into the sack w men quick like a lot of other girls do. Don’t get me wrong men love women like that as well if we’re just looking to get laid, but I think he’s more likely to take you home to his mom as opposed to a girl who has been around the block a time or two. I don’t know what the root of your self-esteem issues are but it would probably do you good to seek some therapy. You do look very cute. But I as well as a million men could tell you that everyday but you’re not going to believe it till you get professional help. by the way I love your Pusey cat! Lol

jabariw18 · Answer

If you're a man? Weird. If you're a woman? Attractive. I was 23 when I lost my virginity. Even today at 31 I struggle to get dates or sex. We live in a culture where "virgin" is an insult to men and any man who struggles to get dates is blamed for it and criticized. Women who are single are usually single by choice or people sympathize with her and assume that she's a victim of some asshole's games. I'm a good guy. Smart, thoughtful, kind, talented and incredibly honest, sometimes to a fault. I still can't get a date or anything even close to a date. And every time I mention it the natural assumption is that its my own fault or that I'm "cringe" or an "incel." In reality I just get rejected by everyone I try with. Or just outright ignored.

MementoMori_ · Answer

No, definitely not.

First of all many men will love the fact that you are a virgin. It is a naturally attractive trait for most men.

Next, any guy who would be put off by this isn't really interested in you or worth pursuing. You want a guy who appreciates all of you, not just your sexual status. Someone who takes the time to get to know you and makes you feel loved so that it not only creates satisfaction for him, but for YOU too. You deserve it as much as anyone else.

Real love is a two way street. You are in it to please EACH OTHER. Not to see what you can get from the other person.

Don't settle for less.

But also, don't be afraid to date. You are as worthy as anyone else. Look for a guy who wants to get to know you, not just have sex with you.

Kekomochii · Answer

May I know where you are from? I am Asian, and in my home country, losing your virginity before marriage is viewed as a crime. People who lose their virginity before being married are considered unclean and un-pure. However, most of my friends who lost their virginity earlier than me still able to find true love and have better life than me. Whether you are a virgin or not, that doesn't necessarily imply that they will never find a real love. My point is that there is always someone out there who can accept you for who you are. Therefore just relax and with times you will find the right person. Hope this help!

slatyb · Answer

At 19? If they are asking, you are plenty good enough. And no, the young man won't care. If you get a nice offer, take it. If they didn't like you, they wouldn't ask. They are mostly just as insecure as you are.

If you can, get some counseling to talk through the reasons for your poor self-esteem. Often this is a result of abusive or neglectful parents. There's nothing wrong with you. My wife and I both suffered from this at your age, believing we were unattractive and undesirable. Looking back I see two very attractive people. I had a great profile and fabulous bushy blond hair. My wife looked like a CK model.

Anonymous · Answer

Some of the men I've talked to were just wondering, "why?" I just laugh. Just think they were just amazed because you're beautiful and don't have a boyfriend yet. ☺️

You don't need to worry. You're still young and being a virgin at this age is completely normal. I'm confident that the real gentleman will love you just as you are. Do not be scared to take chances and fall in love.

Also take your time and avoid rushing into something that you will come to regret. I think taking your time to find the right guy is much better than rushing. You're doing the right thing. I'm doing that as well.. Take care, sweetheart! 😘🌹

nrm736 · Answer

There is nothing wrong with you being a virgin.

And you're right: you can't expect from others to like you if you don't like yourself. You should work on that a bit before you join the game. Make your peace with yourself. I'm sure you have values you like and you're proud of. Everyone has. If you're aware of them, that's attractive.

Sooner or later you have to step out of your comfort zone. Do it in small steps, at your own pace, whatever makes you comfy. Just take that first step and go out to a date, take the risk. It should be fun. Maybe it's gonna feel awkward at first, but still you can learn from it and grow as a person. You've already been asked out, so I guess boys think you're pretty. That's a start.

Eventually you'll find a decent guy who accepts you the way you are, and with whom you can feel comfortable to get physical.

Dinklex3 · Answer

I didn't lose my virginity until i was like.. 23/24?

It's not weird. I have friends in their 30's that are virgins.

I didn't even tell the guy i was a virgin until we were naked in bed.. Don't be like me 😅 And let your partner know ahead of time. If (s) he likes you then (s) he likes you. You being a virgin wouldn't change that.

I didn't get confident until my mid 20's.

KelleyNice · Answer

I believe up until the age of 22 or perhaps somewhat older, most men would consider virginity to be plus; especially if they are seeking a relationship rather than a one-night-stand.

As an indication of how valuable virginity is, several years ago in Nevada, a 22 year old girl auctioned off her virginity subject to her approval and the high bid was about 3 million dollars. Men don't value sexual experience because men want to be a girls first. As far as men are concerned, it doesn't matter what you do because it all be fun.

Furthermore, most men never have sex with a virgin because most girls give up their virginity to hot guys (the top 10%) during their teen years. You can be certain that the 80% of men that never had a virgin would love to have that experience because they feel they are missing something that other guys hadbut they don't.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Who cares? Your you and if you wanna find a good partner you need to find someone that accepts who you are. Of course I don't know where to draw the line between your you and self-improvement. We want to be supported and that’s basically expected but if your looking for a relationship over flings then consider why your doing it and what you’ll give to have it. You might have to have a child even if you don’t wanna to get other things you want.

Relationships are give and take. Nobody likes yo give only take and that’s why casual datings so big today.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Hold on to it. Don't let any cat bitches put you down for not having experience there yet. Most of them make such ruin of their lives and other's I wonder why anyone still cares what they think.

So maybe they tell you that you're gonna die that way. There are worse things to go to the grave with.

Women typically aren't under as much pressure for that as men anyway. If you go to a place to look for work, find some rare item, etc., you'll just be treated like another random gal.

In college, somehow, they could sense that I hadn't the experience yet. The whole town responded by perpetually treating me like there must be something wrong with me. I couldn't do any gal a single kind deed without being treated like a rapist by every busybody in my vicinity.

I doubt you will have to worry about facing such harassment for doing anything really simple. Take advantage. Make life count.

USLegionary · Answer

Very rare and desirable for both sex and marriage.

Twalli · Answer

Probably not. The most likely reason a guy would not want you is if you're intending to save youself for marriage. I will tell you that you notice a hell of a lot more imprefections that other people don't notice in you. You are your worst critic.
For example, I have a freckle on my back. That's it, the rest is pefectly clear. I hate it and find it ugly. Do you think anyone else notices it and thinks of it the same way? No. Even if they see it, they don't even process that it's there and a blemish.

Anonymous · Answer

You are an oddity in a world where so many procreate at 13... That said, you're not strange, not should you be ashamed.

I remember a conversation my then boyfriend had with my now girlfriend some years ago and that is that in reality ones virginity is really a made up thing... It's just an idea. There's nothing magical about being or not being, you don't feel any different after than before. It's much like crossing the Rubicon, a made up boundary that, because of the determinations of others, cannot be uncrossed, but unlike Caesar, it really doesn't matter.

Makeushiver · Answer

I think it's the kind of thing that you follow your heart on. I would try to keep any tradition, religion, family, social mores or other external ideas constrain you but that's me and I don't really have any of those as constraints. I don't think people should get formally bound together unless they have already done most of the things that were ever traditionally held to be sacrosanct untill marriage. I wouldn't buy a car that I didn't test drive so I don't think I'd want to commit a life to someone unless I knew all of their habits

Sixgunsound · Answer

Many guys would like that, actually. Wanting a young beautiful fertile virgin with a compatible personality strikes a very deep chord in male evolutionary biology, similar to a tall rich strong and successful man striking that same chord in women. It’s not sexist or bad or wrong to acknowledge that, it’s simply the combination of traits that the entirety of human biological history which precedes your existence has selected for reproductive success.

BTCMoon · Answer

It's attractive hun. As someone who has slept around and has dated promiscuous women, I can tell you that this is a route toward toxicity. A virgin equates to less baggage. A virgin will have purity when it comes to your perspective and outlook on intercourse. They'll be less selfish. Sleeping around will not fix your self esteem. It will actually deprecate it because it won't fulfill you. You're looking for validation. Seeking validation through casual sex will never work. My wife did this for years before she met me. Sleeping around will create a ton of other issues with your self worth. Don't go down that route.

Massageman · Answer

I'm sure a lot of guys would consider it "rare".

But, that is what makes a diamond so valuable - it is RARE too.

When you find a guy whom is a possible boyfriend, consider just telling him straight out that you have no dating experience. His handling of that little piece of info will teach you a lot about him and his countenance in very short order! If he's thrown by that, it's simply time to move on.

BlueScorpio · Answer

There's nothing wrong or weird about being a virgin. I hate this stigma on virginity that if you have had sex before the age 15 these days, your somehow stuck in the stone age. It's a gift, don't throw it away or just give to anyone out there.

Surely · Answer

You really do need to work on your insecurities and shyness issues first.
A woman who is almost in her twenties is like finding a unicorn. Don’t worry about that and just work on enjoying life!
As for beauty. The majority of that is your personality!

hahahmm · Answer

First you have to know what kind of guy you're looking for... long before you should be worrying about any sex stuff. A LOT of things that are easy to do can go bad or create baggage (more mental baggage). Look at all the girls/women you know... if they are in a bad place or having a tough time or even just not getting what you want to get out of life, then they're not a good role model for you.

SnowedIn · Answer

Not weird. Very attractive. Here's the thing: yes, some guys will lose interest when they learn you're a virgin won't have sex right away. That's their loss and it's a good thing because that's not a guy you need to be with anyway. Stay true to you and when the time and guy is right, it'll be special.

Vanidal · Answer

Attractive. Not weird.
I have special thrones in my heart for virgins.
You can't explore together the first times with non-virgins. The bond of first times can't be shared with them. The more experienced with sex they are.
But I don't mind non-virgins, we all human.

20yearsolder · Answer

I wouldn't know she was a virgin unless she told me. I don't think it's weird at all. There are tons of guys that would want to be with a virgin. To me that doesn't make her attractive, her general appearance is what I find attractive. I could care less if she's fucked someone else or not

Nightranger · Answer

I honestly know how you feel. Finding someone to truly care about and be totally open with, feels like it’s impossible. However, once you find that special person it won’t matter on how much or how little experience you have. You see that person will accept you for who you are.

Torosblanca96 · Answer

I think a single woman who's never married and isn't a virgin is already weird to me, she could have herpes or warts. If a girl is 19 and a virgin never married I hope that some 18 year old guy finds a girl like her cause here in westernized nations an adult woman who's a virgin is harder to get than winning the lottery or becoming president.

Shy_Steve · Answer

She would still be Attractive to a lot of Guys, You should try saying "Yes" to the Guys you like.

A lot of people like me don't even get asked out so thinking your not good enough is a poor excuse to reject someone.

You can easily start making yourself feel better about yourself just by saying "Yes" to the Guys you like that ask you out.

ZS007 · Answer

ahaha same girl but no guy likes me though 🤣

DubiousIntentions · Answer

Just get naked and you might feel better about yourself.

nomandik · Answer

There ain't nothing weird about being a virgin! But if you are 19 years old and you are a virgin good for you go to college wait until you graduate from college to lose that virginity cuz sometimes when a woman loses her virginity she gets pregnant it's best to wait unless you're in a hurry to lose your virginity then I will help you do that if that's what you want I can't guarantee you won't get pregnant though

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, the opposite is true, virgins are prefered by most men, and the more sexual experience you have, the lower your chances at marrying are. Very experienced women only very rarely get a good guy, they mostly end up alone or with a guy who cheats.

MrCommodore · Answer

A girl being a virgin is usually seen as an added bonus for younger guys, like if a girl chooses a guy to be her first lover it is viewed as a massive compliment.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Its fine just tell the guy you don't have sex for a couple months an you will find a guy who will be willing to wait just dont tell him on 1st date your a virgin or he will pretend he likes you then try to get you to bed an always have dates I public busy places an make shure a friend is at a table around your if a movie have a friend there further away an never let him pick you up go to where date is with a friend cuz this way you get a ride home with a safe person you trust

Avicenna · Answer

You being a virgin is positive for most guys. The self-esteem issues would be problematic, and that's what you need to come up with coping strategies for.

molonski2 · Answer

Not weird at all , exceedingly attractive , it is a personal choice not an age competition , of course its attractive , absolutely.

Berethor · Answer

Most guys prefer a virgin over a ho, so don't worry, a man is like a key, a woman is like a lock.

maximumpower · Answer

What's weird is the fixation on virginity.
It's a subject that's rehashed on this site several times a week.
THERE'S NOTHING WEIRD ABOUT BEING A VIRGIN.
MOST GUYS COULD CARE LESS IF A GIRL IS A VIRGIN.
BEING A VIRGIN IS ENTIRELY THE GIRL'S BUSINESS.
Really, folks - there is SO much more to life than worrying about this.

TacticalLizard · Answer

Firstly before you Start dating you gotta make sure you protect yourself And report abuse etc take photos install camera in your place that way if your ever Raped or abused you will have footage
Never Get in a relationship unless your willing to Put that person In jail for hurting you.

Wraith_Cemetery · Answer

In this day and age, a girl who is a virgin, feminine, and classy is classified as incredibly attractive to me. We're in a "flaunt it if you got it" society and people believe that sex means nothing.

Lionman95 · Answer

No it´s kind of the norm at least in my school and after school days it wasn´t the regular case that all women had already dating experience.
Maybe not everybody likes but it´s not weird to have no dating experience aged 19.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Pfft, 19 year old virgin. That’s hilarious. Why would there ever be anything wrong with that? I made a new AND QUITE INSPIRING quote: ”If you’re sixteen, you’re ready for teen s*x” AAAAAHO.

all_hayl · Answer

Anyone who would see that as weird/unattractive is probably not worth your time.

D-Pad_Chad · Answer

It's the opposite. Most men find women with a high body count unattractive. Although if you suffer from depression I'd recommend therapy, otherwise you'll self sabotage future relationships.

Aimer07 · Answer

We all men and women agree that it's amazing and high value to be virgin. Nothing to feel ashamed of. It's very attractive.

DaisyM23 · Answer

not really, I think attraction goes further than sexual experience for most people - plus most of the guys I know like girls who are less experienced

TroyDT · Answer

Don't let anyone deceive you. Maintaining virginity is far more of an accomplishment than getting laid is.

exitseven · Answer

Going on a date with someone does not automatically mean you have sex. Get to know someone and be comfortable with him. If he really likes you the sex will not be important

LazerBean · Answer

I sure you, nobody is going to think less of you because you're a virgin, and many people will think better of you for it.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I think at 19 virginity is quite attractive. You might have a few dumbasses who think it's gross but for most it's a positive or neutral. That said, whether you're attractive or not also makes a difference.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Not at all 19 is very young and the beginning some people loose virginity post 25 .

Take time it's fine but make sure your enjoying it and just doing it for the sake of it.

Experience the energy and the feeling

noohair · Answer

Depression is treatable. I have done a ton of work with therapy, meds and removing foods that cause depression in me. A path to wellness is possible.

Shamalien · Answer

Many guys will appreciate this. Hell one on this site is looking for a girl just like you. Proceed with caution tho 😂

AllGoodNamesRGone · Answer

Virgin" is a designation for those who meet a certain standard of what women, especially young women, are supposed to look like. As for how these young women are supposed to act? A blank slate is best.

Petedavidsonfan · Answer

I’m 22 and a virgin, it’s not fun. Hang in there, you’ll be okay, anyone who thinks bad of you isn’t worth your time.

Levin · Answer

You're 19, not 91. There's probably lots of 19 year old virgins out there. It would be fun to each you, too. ;)

Onashir · Answer

I was 19 when I lost my virginity because I wanted to be with my first love ❤️ it was perfect for both of us as far as I believed in

macjets007 · Answer

For most of the world attractive because it means your looking for love and not a hoe lol That's all men want at a base level is a loyal women who's their best friend that they would fuck all the time lol

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