Is it normal for a girl to be virgin at 19?

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I'm certainly not a princess, but I'm pretty enough. I study well at school and am preparing for university. Simply due to a very large number of external circumstances. Divorce of my parents, poverty, constant relocations, my social phobia, which I overcame not long ago, etc., all the excitement of the teenage period passed me by. I've never had a boyfriend (only long-distance relationships on social networks), never kissed, only been on a date once and never had sex. Because of this I feel very bad. As if I have been robbed, as if I am a loser, this is literally my wound 😔

I comfort myself with thoughts that when I go to university, everything will change... but what if not? What if my youth passes me by?

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Men, please stop writing answers! I made the mistake of not restricting it to girls only. How can you even understand what is the norm for a girl/woman, if you are men... it is not logical 🤷‍♀️

The_Confusion · Accepted Answer

It's not normal (to be comfortable with it) at 19, but is in theory normal at 29 and 39. Why? Because at 29 and 39 your hormones and etheric processes won't be making you eager like that, you'll be at least somewhat more comfortable.

This is your biologic baby-making machine expressing itself. If you want kiddies, then birthing them today would result in something healthier, and more boob juice to feed them, compared to when you're old and dry. But that is only in terms of biological healthshit. Your potential visual fuckability, with care, can be kept up for decades ahead. Besides, it's well known that all girls in the world are always innocent and young, unless they're ugly. I'm no @emyywolf, but there seem to exist a few really matured GILFs whose appearances haven't degraded with time too badly, although, even if they do not look bad, there is a lack of biologic baby-making-instictual-erectile-salivating activation. And that's a good thing because if your hooklationships are based solely on that salivating baby-making instinct, then they'll crumble as soon as the instinct passes. If you're not interested in multiplying (as it is common nowadays when artificial virtual children can entertain you without pooping all over the place), then you should be thankful, or else if you would have followed your "guts", you might've had to get an abortion by now.

BullShark · Accepted Answer

Girl, I'm 25 and still a virgin, and I've met plenty of girls around my lifetime who haven't been touched by another man, so yes, I would say it's very normal where I'm from, and nothing wrong with it if you're one too. Just because you may not be as experienced at sex as the other person who has a laycount in the double or triple digits, that doesn't mean you'll be terrible in bed when the time finally comes, or that you can't be as good, or better than them. That just makes that moment all the more special and intimate with that special someone

Kit1234 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely! I lost mine at 19 and regret it because he ended up being a not so nice guy and I ended up clinging on him too long because he was my first love and my first time. Advice? Find someone who you really fit with and feel like you can wait to feel right. If he pushes you he's not the right one but if he can wait until your ready maybe he is. Sex especially the first time comes with so many emotions and it's really difficult not to get attached especially as a girl. I don't know how it is for the guys but as a girl who is friends with girls, it's difficult to let go of your first time even if it's with a stranger so it's best to feel comfortable and loved in a relationship so it doesn't haunt you of "what if..."

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Accepted Answer

Sure, it's perfectly fine to be a virgin at 19. I mean, I didn't have sex until I was 23 and I ended up marrying her. Don't feel pressured to do it just because of your age. It has to be right for you to want to do it otherwise you might end up feeling used.

ManOnFire · Answer

Virginity for a 19 year-old girl is actually quite normal, and nowhere near too late in life. Even if you were still one at 29 it wouldn't be terrible either. Don't stress or compare yourself to your peers who have already lost theirs. Most people lose their virginity before they get their first job or even planned their future. That doesn't have to be you.

AviatorTom · Answer

That's very normal. Some girls have their first sex as a teenager, some wait until they are older. Virgin at 19 is perfectly normal.

lightbulb27 · Answer

that's a lot of trauma and upheaval, more than many... but there's also many like you.

not sure what normal is, but there are plenty of young people in your spot, I was. It took long time for me... decades. lets hope you make faster progress finding connection, healing, love, friend.

Work on yourself and meeting people in real life. I met my wife online and married, but is very different being 40+ and 19.

You have much life ahead.

strateguy632 · Answer

Definitely "not normal" because rare better quality.

Finding gold stuck between tree branches is not normal... but good.

Self control. As someone who sinned with gals, when i was younger i really have respect for people who can wait. So no worries!

Tell the guys you can have a relationship but no intimacy until wedding.

Every type of girl can find someone who won't reject them. Just act like a friend n you will hav frends!

Berethor · Answer

A lot of hos nowadays so I guess not, but the guy who would be your first is a lucky guy.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Virginity is an irreversible stage of a person's life and for the most part it's more important in society when it's a woman's so that's a pro not a con maybe when you get a bit older you'll see it in a different light and not in that believing you wasted your life being a loser, you have that part of your life that you can give to someone worthy of it, not just someone that will just use you, well that's of course if you don't decide to just give it up randomly.

Anonymous · Answer

"normal" these days is actually degenerate and unhealthy

men watching porn could be considered normal even though it shouldn't be

like women, men have a dual mating strategy of their own where some women are categorized as wife/relationship material and other women are categorized as sex only/recreational category whether fair or unfair that's how it is.

being a virgin at 19 gives you far better relationship options than someone who isn't

Red_Arrow · Answer

Virginity at that age is not unusual at all. Having never had a boyfriend, only being on a date once, never being kissed are unusual! No need to lose your virginity to be normal. Just interact with men more socially and enjoy being with them.

patrick994 · Answer

Of course it is perfectly normal, there is no age at which it is compulsory to lose your virginity.

You are still young, you have plenty of time to do everything, don't get too hung up on that, just live life.

SweetDripp · Answer

That's perfectly normal. Don't have sex just because you think you should according to some arbitrary timeline. Wait until you are ready and you feel the person, time and circumstances are right.

exitseven · Answer

Yes it is normal. do not let anyone tell you otherwise.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I don't see why not. I don't know of any law or rite of passage that can force someone into having sex before a certain age. I got my cherry popped 3 weeks before my 25th b-day.

tfan1 · Answer

I got one am proud of you for not giving up your virginity at such a young age 👍🙂. My wife and I waited till we were married to give each other our virginity’s. I was 39 and she was 29.

Makeushiver · Answer

Its probanly. less common than it was prior to birth control. Uni often changes any ruts you. might be stuck in.

nron987 · Answer

You are extremely valuable, and might as well save it for the right guy.

DrPepper12 · Answer

EVERYTHING will change!! From my generation it's highly unusual. NO ONE graduated a virgin in the 80s.

elaphe · Answer

It is perfectly normal to be a virgin at 19. The worst thing you could do is have sex just to lose your virginity. I would say it is better to wait, than to lose it at an early age, say 13.

verified · Answer

Whether it's normal or not is irrelevant, what matters are the choices you make. You're still only 19, your life hasn't even really started yet; you have all your youth to still look forward to

ProbablyClueless · Answer

That's very normal. Most girls I know lost their v cards some time in their twenties.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Today, likely not, but in my mother's day (she was born July 19,1917) unmarried 19-year-old chicks WERE usually virgins !!!

OddBeMe · Answer

Yes. I didn’t lose it til 20. There’s really no rush. I think it’s worse psychologically to lose the v card in a bad way. Like something you’d regret.

kareka · Answer

Sure it is I know 30's girls are... by the way keep it for the right one

Anonymous · Answer

It's normal, I'm older than you and I'm still a virgin.

Samantha36 · Answer

I'd say no it's not normal here in the UK

Wise4myage · Answer

Sure, it’s very normal.😊

bowenw · Answer

Normal. Everyone is different.

jojouzumaki · Answer

Yes.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

DON'T WORRY & GUYS WILL FUCK ANYTHING

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