What do you think about the girl that's 29 and a virgin?

Question

I was never giving a chanse to guys that I didn't feel were my soulmates, and others weren't into me

Craftsman · Accepted Answer

Bottom line in my view is that virginity is over-rated in this society.
You have every right to be particular and choosy in finding a partner. A life-long partner is a major choice to make, and it must be done with care.
On the other hand, it is possible to set the standards too high, considering the social structure in which we live. When I read about 29 year old virgin women, I get reminded that my standards were and are set too high. That's why I'm single, never married, have no children to entertain me (and vice versa,) and care for me in my dotage. Then again, who knows what could or would have happened were the situation different.
In the long run, we all must make decisions, and those decisions are almost always driven by what we perceive as furthering our well-being. Along with that comes the need to be open to change if change is needed.
I've heard and read that soulmates do not exist in the real world. To some degree, that is true. No two people are 100% compatible in the long run. We all grow, change, and our relationships either grow together or they grow apart. Nothing is static.
The best advice I could give, were I consulted, which I was not, is to examine your values, your hopes and your dreams, and be open to modifying those that do not work in your favor.
Best of success in living your life to the best of your ability.

average-j0e · Accepted Answer

if thats what you want i think its cool. if not i think that you should slowly get into it. sex really is great and is needed for your brain to grow fully, altho if you saving it is part of your sexual identity so it could work but id recommend developing that into more of a hopeful maybe this is the one in your fantasies so that you can find that soul mate. the gamble of is this person the one for me is part of what makes sex so exciting and invigorating. people who fuck a lot start to think theyre cooler than they are when they have a bunch of people drawn to different things saying that they are, but if they keep themselves in check theyre good. tbh sometimes im jealous when i hear about people who have kept it because I've always been super cringe trying to get laid and it just ruins your reputation & kinda gets to ur soul and it dont feel great. also its like losing my virginity really didn't get me much more than a heart break, and another crazy girl who knew the first one. like im in a dry spell rn and it feels the same as when i was a virgin. i promise someone is gonna wanna take your virginity at any age so if you're worried dont. but i dont regret losing it or being with any of the trainwrecks i was in 🥰 do what feels right, but dont get caught in the prince charming trap. he never comes, life is unexpected! love is unplanned

Medicalbug · Accepted Answer

A good male friend of mine is your age and a virgin. He’s never wanted to just hook up with people, even though he is quite attractive. He’s super happy. I always say, if you want to be a virgin and haven’t found the right reason to have sex, then don’t have it.
Similarly if you want to ditch the V card, get rid of it however you see fit.
In any case, your virginity status does not define you as a person to me.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Totally fine, nothing wrong with it.

If your waiting until marriage what are you doing to find him?

Don't sit around waiting for it to just happen, that won't work. Also don't try to find a perfect match, even if you do find someone that is perfect for you. You won't be perfect for him, try to find someone that is decent though.

Anonymous · Answer

I think you are a victim of religious dogma.

If it was going to happen it would have happened by now.

The fact of the matter is that religion is bullshit, you only get one life, there is nothing coming later on, no reward, no paradise just a slow decline into black.

So you should really spend some time considering whether or not these ideas you have been following are actually serving your interests.

It is highly likely that you will still be in this situation when you are 40, if it was going to happen it would have happened by now, now obviously you could still meet someone and have your fairy tale but the perfect is the enemy of the good.

Right now you are rejecting a good life in the hope that you will have a perfect one but even if you do get that one day, for how long and will it have been worth it?

Only you can make these choices, you are the one who pays the cost.

If there wasn't a God and its important to understand that there isn't a single shred of evidence to support the claim that there is would you still be making the choices that you have been making?

all_hayl · Answer

I’ll help you rephrase your question.
How do you feel about a women who doesn’t open her legs for any guy and who seems to have some patience, modesty, and self-respect?

Hopefully that rephrase answers your question.

Diodoro · Answer

If she isn't marriage minded I wonder wtf is she doing. Wasting your life and time. If you're not married or trying to be. Not having relationships. Not having a dating life. Not even hooking up and on the edge of 30 you are wasting your youth

We're only young once

Excel47 · Answer

I am a guy and I am still searching, you can search for guys on dating sites or apps, but you have to be carefu, because some guys will only take advantage of you. When you find one take time to study his character so that you will not get hurt.

CasuallySamsonite · Answer

Who cares, it's just sex... what happens in your bedroom is your business same as what happens in somebody else's is theirs alone.

I would add that despite you are perfectly comfortable with your own body and the pleasures it can offer, but that is not any of my business really either.

You do you, have fun and do or don't have sex with people until and unless you want to do so.

Fireguy17 · Answer

good for her to be able to stick to her beliefs.
it can be very hard to do given there is so much social pressure to have sex these days.
when and only when she feels the time is right, she will have sex with someone.

mark000h · Answer

It's great that you respect yourself and not fall into the easy trap of going with the crowd and having sex with random people. You'll find someone who'll love you and your values.

MTC29 · Answer

I wouldn't think anything about it. I've encountered women as old as 35 who were still virgins. Everyone sets their own pace. It's none of my business.

Sarahr123 · Answer

I think she’s an angel. If I’m unmarried at 29 I’ll also be a virgin at that age.

SunnySensei · Answer

I think very positively about that girl Miss, that she knows what she wants and that's a relationship which more than just sex.

TheBootyChest · Answer

I think it's perfect that you waited that long. If you have a belief then you should stick with it.

JBlade · Answer

I find having self control respectable because there's not a lot of that nowadays.

xdiiegox · Answer

I feel you really just missing out on life as being a human we made to be fruitful and reproduce. my opion you not gone to lose your virginity to your soulmate or might not ever meet your soulmate but I'm sure you want kids but by someone that's close treat you special and make you genuine happy

Cubus · Answer

You just haven't found your other half yet. It's nothing to be ashamed of, some have it later. But I believe you will find eventually :)

Anonymous · Answer

i don't care about what other people have or haven't done in bed... and it's creepy and weird if someone thinks so. anyways, it's best to wait. i lost mine at 26 and am still with him. being a virgin is not even that big of a deal.

Mango-man · Answer

I would respect her for how strong her will is that she didn't succumb to sways of players. It would be big positive for me.

patrick677 · Answer

Hum great because you respect yourself i would like that kind but at my age its like every women have kids and all.  If you are pretty and a great woman that for me you are a diamond 🎉

Leonharted · Answer

I think literally nothing about it. You are responsible for your own happiness. If that doesn't include having sex, then that's up to you.

crmoore · Answer

Not to be flirtatious, but I think it's a lovely quality.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Nothing wrong with that except that your biological clock is ticking louder and louder! In about 3 hours, I will have been a virgin again for 26 full years!!

Dear_Panda · Answer

I think she is a girl and a virgin at 29. It is a fact, it doesn't or can't change anything for anyone. The bigger topic is are you not comfortable with the facts yourself, you are seeking someone's approval? Think over it buddy

Dragonpurple · Answer

You waiting for someone or just never had the chance? I can't see it being a problem though. A lot of guys would love you.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Nothing , people have accustomed to not being virgins to a point were it doesn't matter now if you are one or not. It's the beauty and personality that matters

eblehe · Answer

That's perfectly normal and I respect that you are waiting for a special someone :)

ArchivalMars2 · Answer

It wouldn't bother me if she's a virgin, at most I'd just be curious and that's it really.

spartan55 · Answer

I'd think that was really weird and pass. I dated two virgins in their 20's... never again.

boobliker · Answer

I think it sad she has not been out with a boy long enough to find love as the old saying it better to have loved and lost than not to have-ed loved at all!

Anonymous · Answer

You’re very wise. Keep doing the right thing. You probably stand out to guys because of this.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Just tells me she doesn't hook up with everyone which is good

ChkltCat · Answer

That's how it should be. But it would be better if you could find your guy earlier

emperor90 · Answer

Its fine it shows them they are waiting for the right person

jshm2 · Answer

Hey, I've met 40-50 year old virgins. You do what makes you happy, not what just makes others happy.

UnknownGagsUser · Answer

That’s her body and her choices to decide and not for me to say anything or judging her.

Twalli · Answer

My girlfriend was a 33 year old virgin when we had sex (I think). It was her birthday present. So it was on her birthday, but I don't know what time she was born.

humpbackjack · Answer

I wouldn’t pass judgment just because she’s a virgin would need a lot more info

Anonymous · Answer

Good for her! She shouldn't sell herself short. If she has waited this long, she should wait until marriage, because a woman who has waited that long is someone who deserves commitment.

bgreek · Answer

I'd say your the perfect woman for me (LOL) To me it shows you have -Maturity -Patience -Discipline -Morals and Values

Mangospacho · Answer

I mean, it’s not like we can tell whether or not someone is promiscuous or has had a lot of partners just by looking at them.

Staximus · Answer

There's no such thing as a perfect person, but there is such a thing as good enough. Start looking for good enough, not perfect.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

A wise choice, in these times. I can relate in a way; I wouldn't give any girl a chance to enter my life if I thought her unsuitable.

Zlantur2 · Answer

I don't mind. It means you didn't feel like it with someone yet

CalogeroValledolmo · Answer

I'd think she ought to try a lot of fuckin' real quick.

loveslongnails · Answer

If you're waiting for your "soul mate", you'll never have sex while you're on THIS planet !

Anonymous · Answer

I used to work with this Catholic girls man she was a b****. When she eventually got some dick though she completely mellowed.  ... I'm sorry what was your question again?

Anonymous · Answer

I think it is really cute, nothing to worry about feeling is so important when bodies unite

FamilyGuy2020 · Answer

I personally don't think that their is anything wrong with that other than that you're waiting for the right guy 😉😊😚

whosnumber1 · Answer

get over the soul mate thing. if you stick to that dream you'll be single and a virgin for ever. date some guys, have fun, get laid.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't believe a word of it... I'm sure there has been all kinds of 'other' sexual activities...

srijitdutta · Answer

Just a human being. It's her choice. I wouldn't mind dating a 29 years old virgin girl.

moviedude714 · Answer

Doesn't bother me at all, you're not saving it for marriage are you?

Pharez · Answer

Like a rich oil well ready to explore It's a beautiful thing

TallAnon · Answer

At that point she seems reserved to the point where I wonder if she's alright.

BCA6010 · Answer

Honestly? Good for you.

TheAfrikan · Answer

Her body her own decisions that is it. Nothing is wrong with that.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Nothing wrong and she's doing the right thing!

noohair · Answer

Don't let the good one get away.

zagor · Answer

If that's her choice, fine.

EbonyPrincess · Answer

A UNICORN 👀😲🧐. BRAVOOOOOO 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

Cowboy6666 · Answer

I think while there is life there is hope.

SGTAdam · Answer

Nothing wrong with that I'm 34 and a virgin lol

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