What’s your opinion on a 25 year old virgin?

[Anonymous]

25 years old, Female, Virgin, Never been on a date.

It’s not that I haven’t been asked on dates or been given the opportunity to have sex, I just never felt comfortable. I feel like from a young age I was sexualised and these men only wanted me to have sex with me. I’m not one of these women who go out and sleep with a different guy every time, it just not something I’d personally be comfortable with. Is there something wrong with me?

The reason I ask this is because I was talking to a guy on Tinder, the topic of sex was brought up and I’d mentioned I’m a virgin. He basically said I was boring because I’m a virgin and ghosted me. I ain’t disappointed that he ghosted me I wouldn’t want someone with that mentality. Im just curious do all guys think this way?

[Anonymous]

1. You are using a notorious hookup site for online dating!

2. "I’m not one of these women who go out and sleep with a different guy every time," so you are still a virgin. Those are not the only two options.

3. If you are still a virgin at age 25, it is probably going to be like that for the rest of your life. . . unless YOU do something to make a change in your life. And I don't mean turn into a slut.

4. There are guys who will date you and get to know you and wait for months before you finally have sex. And there are also guys who will date, propose, and wait until you are maried to have sex. But I'm betting that you really don't want to have sex at all and just haven't been honest with yourself.

[Asker]

1. Yes, Tinder is a hookup site, I’m well aware of that.
2. Obviously considering I’ve stated I’m a virgin.
3. I have to disagree with you there, people go through stages in life at different times. Although I agree I definitely need to be more out there and open.
4. Just because I’m a virgin doesn’t mean I haven’t a sex drive. People think virgins are these prude women who are completely against sex. I want to have sex, I want to have sex with someone I feel comfortable with. I understand everyone is different and do things at different stages and I’m okay with that. I could lose my virginity right now if I wanted to, as I’ve said one night stands and sleeping around just isn’t something I can see myself doing.

[Opinion Owner]

2. You missed the point. he fact that you don't want to slep with every guy you meet doesn't mean yu must remain a virgin. There are many choices in between those two extremes.

[Asker]

I understand being a virgin is a choice, and there’s other options in between being a virgin and sleeping with every guy I meet. I just have to be willing to put myself out there and be more open which doesn’t come easy to me

[Opinion Owner]

Right! And that's why I said, "it is probably going to be like that for the rest of your life. . . unless YOU do something to make a change in your life."

[inhua]

tinder is a hookup app. you won't be finding many if any high quality people there.

there's nothing wrong with being a virgin no matter how much this degenerate hypersexualized society says it is.

unfortunately, if you are attractive, you are gonna be sexualized. sucks but that's how it is in reality. good thing is, you would be seen as really good marriage material especially if you're saving till marriage. you'll definitely attract high quality guys and even get low quality guys to start changing their ways.

basically you get to dictate the market and all the power is in your hands on who you pick. good luck.

[Asker]

Ya I’ve slowly come to realise that tinder is a hook up app 😅

[Summeroflove]

Very highly. Love and respect for you. You have high morals and are a good person. Whose looking for a good person

I really wish you the best!

[Summeroflove]

People who just ignore someone. They’re bad people. They can’t communicate. They just ignore you and give the silent treatment.

Maybe he just wanted sex and knew he ain’t getting it.

[Guy13]

High Value to the right guy !!

[Summeroflove]

Amen

[Berethor]

The guy was looking for casual sex, while virgin girls tend to be wife material. :)

https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/no_hymen,_no_diamond

[Asker]

I agree he was only looking for casual sex which is okay. He could have at least said I’m looking for something casual, I’m not interested instead of commenting on me being a virgin and ghosting. I have to disagree with “no hymen, no diamond” wifey material can be any women regardless of whether or not she’s a virgin who reaches your standards of what you want your wife and future mother of your children to be

[Berethor]

I don't want to marry a ho, so we disagree. Yes he could told you that he seek casual sex.

[Asker]

That’s okay if you disagree, that’s your opinion and your standards for your wife which you’re entitled to.

[MCheetah]

It's fine. I don't care and it's good you're saving yourself. You should just know that Tinder is a hookup app, though. EVERYONE on there is looking just for cheap empty sex and it's implied everyone already knows this, so he probably felt like you were wasting his time, even if he was rude about it.

[glennos89]

I think there is nothing wrong with being and virgin. I kinda like it. I rather date someone who is virgin then someone that had sex with a lot of men. Personally for me sex isn't the kost important thing in a relationship. Ofcourse it's very nice with the right person but I a good hug from someone who cares about you does more to me the having sex

[Noahzaid]

As a Muslim, We highly value virginity in unmarried women.

You’re basically pure, In term of a strong soul that didn’t sell it self to undignified Acts and pleasures.

you’re a virgin Mary.

If you heard about her, you would be happy and honored to be like her.

[nawtee_me]

not all guys think that way but Tinder is a hookup site for sex, why were you on it to begin with if you are not after having sex? That is why he thought you were boring because he was there for sex only...

[Asker]

I agree Tinder is mainly for hookups, although I have found not everyone on it uses it for that reason. I’m only on it because a friend set it up for me.

[jshm2]

You're probably lesbian, or asexual, reading your spiel.

[Asker]

I’m straight, if I wasn’t what’s a persons sexuality have to do with being a virgin. Is it only lesbians that can be virgins or do all virgins have to have a low sex drive ?

[tfan1]

My wife and I both waited till we got married to each other and we gave our virginity’s to each other on our wedding night. 👍🙂. I was 30. She was 29.

So don’t feel bad. It’s your body, your life, your choice. 👍🙂

[exitseven]

I don't think that way. Everyone is different and has different life experiences and expectations. I would try and get to know you better before making any assumptions.