I feel like I can never have a healthy relationship because I never dated a similarly attractive women when I was younger, what do I do?

[Intothevoid666]

I’m just gonna start with please don’t comment if ur just going to try and make me feel bad and invalidate my feelings. No one ever seems to understand how I feel and I don’t expect this to be different but let’s give it a try. The combination of having a high sex drive and not having found a suitable relationship by a certain age is extremely emotionally damaging as a man in my experience at least. I just feel jealous that like all the girls in my dating pool have had relationships and sex way before me. I’m not jealous of the girls but of the guys that were with them. I would have died for a meaningful relationship when I was in high school and despite looking kinda a lot too I never found one. A relationship now means sooo much less to me it’s kinda ridiculous and how much I want a relationship only really decreases with age. The odds of my finding a virgin girl who has a sex drive that can match mine at my age is like next to nothing and the clock is only ticking. I want the best sexual and relationship experience my partner has to offer or I’m really just not totally into it. All I can think about is having ridiculously rough sex to the point women just aren’t going to be into it and probably isn’t healthy or cheating. Other than that those two things I just can’t see myself feeling at all ok with dating women in my dating pool. What should I do?

[Aerissa_Jade]

I can understand what you are saying, you have specific goals, along with concepts and desires that you are looking for in a partner.

Your own preferences/requirements limit your potential dating pool from your side. Leaving not a whole lot of options left.

Your right though, the odds of finding what you are looking for is a needle in a haystack.

Not really sure on the rest, you kind of seem all over the place there. You want a virgin, you want really rough sex, you want to cheat.

Your jealous of the guys that got the girls before, because you wanted to be one of them.

I see, so just realize the past is gone, the future is blank. You have to decide now what you are going to do. You can keep looking for that unlikely needle in the haystack and keep doing what you've been doing, and you might get lucky. You probably won't, but only one way to find out.

Or

You can decide to change up your requirements and drop things off, like be okay with someone who isn't a virgin or other things that are limiting your choices.

You have all the power in the world to increase your potential dating pool.

You cannot change the past and what happened there, and while it is hard... best to move on.

Good luck.

[Intothevoid666]

I’m just gonna find a girl who makes as much money as me and cheat fuck it. I’m def not just moving on. This absolutely destroys me inside and I’m not simply just getting over it.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Cheating will also destroy you inside too, sorry but your kind of stuck... been there myself.

[Intothevoid666]

Yes but it will destroy me less. There’s no avoiding feeling destroyed on the inside here and there is really only damage control at this point

[LazerBean]

It sounds like you're putting way too much emphasis on the sexual aspect and not enough into the actual relationship aspect. Girls your age who are still virgins are mostly going to be so for religious reasons... Which considering what sounds like an unhealthy obsession with sex you have, you will probably not be catching those girls. Also if you aren't going to marry the virgin girl you want to be with, then I don't really see the point in wanting a virgin so badly anyway.

[Intothevoid666]

Yeah well it’s a sexual relationship not a best friendship. Sex is an important and fundamental part of this. And it’s not even about sex itself it’s about how it makes me feel.

[LazerBean]

When you have a bad outlook on what a healthy relationship is, which you do, then you will continue to never have a healthy relationship. If this is really about your feelings then you should see a therapist.

[Intothevoid666]

A therapist won’t change my feelings. I’m just gonna cheat fuck it

[LazerBean]

I guess once a loser always a loser.

[Intothevoid666]

Haters mad. At lea at I’m not the one being a judgmental prick off the bat. But ya know

[LazerBean]

Pointing out a fact isn't judgmental lol but I would take being judgmental over being a useless cheater.

[Intothevoid666]

Maybe women shouldn’t be useless whores next time and I won’t be a useless cheater. Just a thought. And I don’t think u know what a fact is tbh.

[LazerBean]

If the only women who will look at you are useless whores, just remember that birds of a feather flock together.

[bamesjond0069]

1. Date 18 year olds. Ofc you won't find virgin girls around your age. 🤣 tbh thats all i bother with. Ill fuck older girls but if i didn't date a girl at her best like 18 19 20 idc about her after that she's for the streets. No such thing as a quality woman who is available after 21.

2. Girls love rough sex. One i literally cut with a knife and another i put cigarettes out on. Some are crazy about very rough stuff. Another liked to be punched in the face but i refused to give her a black eye.

3. If you want to cheat just tell women you are a man and will fuck whoever you want but they are yours and no man will ever touch them. Most girls love it and accept it. I dont think I've ever been in a monogamous relationship ever and since im a total dog and fuck anything w a cooch under 130lbs. Lmao.

[Intothevoid666]

I agree that there are no quality women after 21 and that’s kinda pushing it already. A serious relationship is for when ur young

[bamesjond0069]

No. A serious relationship is for when they are young. Im 35 and my girlfriend is 19. We been together like a year and a half now. Whats my age matter? The relationship comes from the womans age.

[Anonymous]

Well research and study say that the younger generation is having a lot less sex than previous decades

[Intothevoid666]

That’s true. I still thinking I’m highly unlikely to find an equally attractive virgin girl who has a similar sex drive as me. But maybe it’s possible