Why can't I get a boyfriend? do men these days hate beautiful women?

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it seems petty thieves, drug addicts, bisexual crackwhores anyone can get any guy they want--except me?  all guys do is make fun of me or put me down. I'm a very pretty girl, a model, beautiful body...just gorgeous. I'm fun nice kind, smart caring...ive been single ALL my life..its been a bad nightmare and feels like a parallel universe. Instead of guys thinking...wow what a catch? even ONE guy on this planet...any male that comes into my presence just treats me like crap. All men try to do is use or abuse me or try to get sex off me and bail- I'm a virgin though.  I see ugly women fat or pretty women--ANYONE can get a boyfriend...yet I've been told I'm so beautiful...i can get any guy I want ..yet I can't get ANY guy...ever...it makes no sense...intimidation--doesn't cut it as males put me down insult me and make fun of me...males in general treat me like a geeky younger sister.. pick on me treat me like I'm ugly or stupid...talk bad about me...rather than even hit on me--if a guy hits on m I'm shocked as they only make fun of me or try to use me...what can someone like me do as I just usually end up having to fight rude males, defending myself, or deal with them laughing at me or treating me like trash---then I thinki..wait a second.. I'm a really hot girl...guys aren't hitting on me? but then I'll see a pretty girl and watch as guys treat her with erspect, hit on her... but they don't treat me the same way...they laugh at me, call me a weirdo...yell scream act psycho...try to injure me no joke--these are just random people or anyone...the only guy I sort of dated was a sociopath in his 50's who refused to have sex with me and just mentally screwed with me for fun...that was horror... and only weirdos ask me out or pursue me for SEX... that's it...they treat me as if its my job to give them sex...and I'm thinking...ok for being pretty and nice...the only thing I get are strange weirdos feeling entitled to getting sex off me...this makes no sense at all...im an amazing woman yet as someone said to me "no one wants you" and theyre right and it makes no sense why... yet males seem to be so happy to have this really mean psycho fat hideous girlfriend by their side  while shunning me...its crazy...ive felt like I'm in a parallel universe for a long time...a hot beautiful kind woman being treated like a leper...rather than hit on or asked out...and made fun of while guys are treating mean crazy rude ugly women so well and treating women like me so badly...to a point where we can't even meet a guy and have to be single forever...it also seems men absolutely HATE me because I'm pretty and nice...they literally loathe me and treat me with disgust only...they roll their eyes, make ewww faces, run away from me...make fun of me...poke fun at me, call me weird and yes I am really pretty I'm a model, or trying to be one and my experiences have been so bizarre but its been 12 years of this mess...and nothing changes...and you can't ask a guy out as they run away from you...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well from the sound of it you're pretty stuck up. Or at least you feel entitled, which no guy likes. Not to mention you said when guys approach you, you expect them to treat you badly, so you're probably giving them a look or a bad attitude before they even have the chance to say hello.

A lot of people aren't aware of the aura they have or the vibe they give off because a lot of people don't know how to control that. You're probably giving off a bad vibe. I mean I can't even pretend to see how you're nice and funny when you've just typed a massive block of text bitching and complaining about oh poor you. Poor pretty, perfect me, no guys want me. Oh woe is me all you ugly and fat and bitchy girls get boys and I can't, boo hoo. You sound like a self involved downer.

If that is how you act even half the time I'd be fine never dating you at all. If that's your attitude I'm not surprised you don't have a boyfriend, seriously. No one wants a girl who's going to complain all the time, or whine about how their life is so bad, or how much they deserve.

Also, I don't know where you meet your guys at 30-something but I'm 20 and in college and I've only met one guy who tried to just have sex with me. Generally they grow up in ten-plus years. I have quite a few older adult friends and I don't know a single guy your age that acts like that. Nor do I know a single woman, regardless of age, who complains the way you just did... Well other than you.

Like I said, from the sound of it you've got a self entitled/self involved attitude. Everything is about you, "why don't people like me I'm so pretty and nice, ugly girls get all the boys, mean girls get all the boys, But I'm pretty, I deserve all the boys, I'm so pretty and nice and they're not, why oh why!?"

You're not looking at what you're doing/saying to the men, you're not looking at the attitude you're giving them, you're not looking at the vibe you give off. You probably treat every man that tries to talk to you like he's just trying to get in your pants with out a second's thought. And you probably don't realize it, either. The simplest word, simplest tone of voice can put a person immediately on the defensive with out you realizing what you did.

You seem mighty immature to me, as well. At 30 you should have grown up and grown past that little rant there. That's something I expected out of a teenager. And if you lied about your age, and you are a teenager? Shut the hell up. We all know a lot of boys are immature at that age, just wait for college you'll find a fine guy.

Not to mention if you go to clubs all the time, or bars, trying to meet guys, do you honestly think you'll find a good, wholesome, well meaning man? Uh, no. Try again.

Online dating is great (worked for my dad and several friends) so go ahead and try that one. Also try looking for guys in different places than usual.

invodkaveritas · Accepted Answer

from your description I'd say guys either see you as a drama princess or you look fake (too much make up, surgery etc).

i don't know many guys who would laugh at a decent average looking girl, especially not when they get approached by them.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I tuned out for the middle bit, but maybe try having a little bit less of an "I'm a MODEL man.  I'm HOT.  I should have guys hanging off me" attitude and more of a chilled out, down to earth one.  Just saying.

BeowulfNode · Accepted Answer

you need to group guys in to a number of categories. yes there are different types and it is important to treat them differently.

When you look great you look like you're out of the nice guys league and so only the a*holes hit on you by putting you down and making you feel like rubbish. Yes that is their version of hitting on a girl.

When you look like crap (for a model), more guys think you might not be out of their reach and so more guys hit on you.

From the sounds of things you need to find a guy who is

- not good looking

- clean and tidy with their appearance

- bad dress sense

- technically minded

- but not good with his hands (no mechanics or builders etc)

- shy, and socially awkward

- single (guys like this probably are)

Then keep in mind that guys like that will probably be

- caring and respectful

- clueless about women

- intimidated by you

Things he will want

- some mentally stimulating conversation and not just gossip all the time

- respect

- loyalty

- sex, all guys want this

How to find a guy like this

- go out of your way to talk to guys who don't at first come up to you to talk to you.

How to land a guy like that

- you have to make all the moves

- you will need to touch him, ie hug, hand on his shoulder, kiss on the cheek, etc

WeaponZero · Accepted Answer

i'm going to do what a lot of other people are going to do here and answer your question based on nothing more than reading the heading text due to your lack of proper formatting, which makes it difficult to read.

women who tend to be extremely physically attractive can be intimidating to men, and when they look like they put a lot of effort into looking good it can make them come off as either superficial or high maintenance.

i wrote an article yesterday on this very subject. give it a read. it might offer you up some insight.

link

and for future reference, please be sure to use paragraphs and spacing if you want people to actually read through your whole questions. submitting it as a "wall of text" will only make people want to skim over it assuming they bother with it at all.

Blahbabla · Answer

alright I'm not trying to be a d***, I have no idea what you look like but some possibilities may be you are full of your self or your just not as attractive as you think. hot girl with a personality are great, if it were me and your as good looking as you say all it would take is to look me in the eye and smile, id come talk to you. maybe you should do that give some guys a hint that you have an interest and get them to talk to you, again if your as hot as you say you are if you show a little interest then any guy that's not a pu**y will talk to you. as for making fun of you.. I doubt that

Anonymous · Answer

I won't read all your question  because it's unreadable. But, it's obvious you're full of crap. There is no way EVERY guy that has ever approached you is an a**hole. It's statistically impossible especially if you're as good looking and nice as you pretend to be. My guess is that you're full of yourself and expect to be treated like royalty by a guy, bowing to you. Stop being a stuck up bitch and stop seeing men as trying to use you, becoz that's what YOU wish, having a man being your everything without you having to do sh*t. I know your kind very well.

Anonymous · Answer

You mentioned being pretty about 6 times... clearly you are overly focused on the exterior. I would stop worrying about what other people seem to have, or do as well, it won't change anything. All of us have an energy, aura, vibe or field around us. When it is positive, charged, and genuine all people gravitate towards you. But judging by the amount of times you labelled others as fat, ugly, lower than you or undeserving, that will have an impact on that energy.

Ask yourself the following. If you were looking to have a relationship with someone and all you had to go on was what you just wrote, what would you think?

Pebyron · Answer

Maybe it's cause crackwhores will do things you probably won't?

Also if you want a boyfriend so bad why don't why don't you approach guys yourself. I f***ing hate when women like you bit h and moan about not beig able to get a guy but you'll do nothing about it.

cjwright79 · Answer

Well I can only speak for myself. Beautiful women are great and all that, but it doesn't mean that I want to or need to have social or literal intercourse with them. That makes kids if you don't take pains to avoid it. And I definitely do not want that.

Conclusion: women are not a toy! You are not to be trifled with!

Shreya123 · Answer

I believe it is time that you stop looking too hard, just live your life for a while, dress nice, keep a nice lifestyle, schedule, workout, eat and drink good, you know what I mean, in a few weeks you will see that it will become easy to meet single men , as they sill start to get more attracted you. That's how it goes I believe, also you can try out site like MeetOutside where you can meet singles.

jeffr · Answer

I would say maybe they are intimidated by your beauty or, ...  you talk too much.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like you're full of yourself. Work on your attitude and the outcome will change.

BravoHawk · Answer

No way your hot and have this problem at your age. I call bs

sgraDSAS · Answer

you say guys approach you yet you don't give them a chance but ur saying all men are shit and dont hit on you. JFL

tohrment · Answer

Okay, that is one huge ass block of text.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe it's because you're too humble.

hafinjun · Answer

is there a reoccurring theme when they make fun

Anonymous · Answer

You should try an attached man.

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