Why do exes always try and reach out?

[Anonymous]

Even if they did you dirty, and you are dating someone else?

[catfishakaamc]

They want to "check in to see how you're doing because they care about you" but really they're just curious to see if you're still fucked in the head over their departure. I learned this lesson: (three times - the first two didn't take) YOU CANNOT STAY FRIENDS WITH AN EX. It IS NOT possible. When they dump you, immediately block them on all fronts and have your locks changed. (if they had a key) If they attempt to reach out through mutual friends, block the mutual friend as well, they're choosing sides and the side they chose isn't yours. Get on with your life as soon as possible. You can't let lying, cheating sleazebags mess you up in the head, or allow them to take pride in knowing they did it.

[ng210821]

Amen!! "

[Skateranon]

Exes only reach out when you have a relationship to investigate and probably trip you on your next relationship.

Most people will have a problem just with the fact that you spoke to your ex

[Asker]

I didn’t. He messaged me on a messaging app.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

Usually because they haven't moved on yet, and they still have feelings for their ex.

Some people reach out to their ex because they want closure to help them move on.

Some people hate the idea of their ex with someone new, because they still haven't found anyone else yet. So they reach out in the hope they can come between their ex and new partner. Not because they want to be with them, but because they want their ex to be on their own like are

[Lovi87]

Because they realise what they've lost, or they're just after a booty call. NEVER get back with an ex. It doesn't work out. They're an ex for a reason.

One of my ex's keeps messaging me trying get me go out for a drink with him. He still doesn't get it that I'm not interested, then tells me, "You've always been my childhood sweetheart." he's full of crap.

[ImSoSquishy]

sometimes they just want to know you're doing good, so they can feel better about what they did to you to get some closure. some people are like that, by knowing you're doing good they can now tell themselves something like "oh it's because i left his/her life, he's happier than before. he should be thanking me." so they can feel less guilty with whatever they did in the past.

[Factshurt90]

Several reasons. They honestly care and want to see that you are well.
They want to reconcile and get back together.
They want sex.
They call to gloat.
They call for closure.

[ChrisTruthseeker]

Yeah, I know what you mean.
My ex-wife still texts me occasionally asking how I'm doing or wanting me to come talk to her.
It's frustrating when you want to move on.

[Lovi87]

Give it to her straight, "FUCK OFF" lol.

[ChrisTruthseeker]

@Lovi87
I probably should. LoL!
It's hard to do that because I loved her at one point.
It would be easier if she'd just leave me alone

[Lovi87]

Yeah, but if she carries on then she's just going to be borderline harassing you. She needs to get someone else to "talk to her." just tell her, politely, to leave you alone. Just say something like... "I don't mean no disrespect, but I just want to move on." or you know, just be honest. She should leave you alone. I used to love my ex, but that doesn't mean I should let him harass me.

[cavmanier]

What's wrong with being friends? I'd find it odd if my ex thinks like you do.

[ChrisTruthseeker]

@cavmanier
She's definitely not my friend, she's done some pretty hurtful things.

[ChrisTruthseeker]

@Lovi87
Good point, thanks.

[Lovi87]

Your welcome and good luck.

[Jan_Classic]

That means you showed them new horizons. And they can't see it any more. I know what you feel.

[Stockton]

First off they dont always reach out. When and if they do it could be to get back together, or regret or maybe they honestly care about you.

[Ninakumari]

Hope of getting back together, missing you or something else.
I don't contact my exes. Once I am done, I am done. Even if the ex contacts me, I'll let him know that I don't want to speak to them.

[Paris13]

No strings, Maybe just Friends with their Own at Home Bed benefits. xxoo

[hereforthefunofit]

Those that reach out are looking for a quick fling nothing else.

[RobLovesDemi19771992]

because it shows they had regrets and trying to make amends because they care

[Anonymous]

"always" i need proof that this is always the case before i can have an opinion.

[Nikkismith]

I’ve only had exes reach out in friendship.

[ChloeStarfire]

My ex reaches out because he’s my close friend

[uravgguy]

To get attention

[Asker]

He can get attention from the girls he cheated on me with.

[outside_Toronto]

Bc they're idiots

[Anonymous]

I don't know