Are we still dating?

[Anonymous]

So about 3 weeks ago my parents told me my girlfriend and I can’t be together if I am living with them.

I told my girlfriend this and it was sad but I still managed to talk to her everyday. And she told me it was okay.

Yesterday we met at a parking lot and talked about some stuff. I kisssd her but she was at first reluctant but then kissed me back.

She even told me “I’ll see you at our wedding” jokingly.

Today I told her about this girl who is screenshooting my snap stories. And she told me “block that bitch no one hits on my man like that” I was mad with how bossy she was and told her “I’m not your man” but still blocked the girl.

[dannyboy1999]

I think she hasn't accepted that you broke up before you didn't really stop loving each other, it was just a matter of circumstance.

If you guys got your own place, would you be willing to get back together? If so, your relationship could just be on hold

[Asker]

I don't know why I wrote “today” I am sorry. I meant last week. We had another huge fight and within days she slept with someone else and is dating that guy

[dannyboy1999]

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. Sounds like she moved on quickly. I hope you too can find someone

[Asker]

Yea the fight was just about how I didn’t tell her about a girl I dated a year ago. It was just for a month I dated the girl. And I also didn’t tell her the one time I was coerced into oral when I was younger.
She said I was being a hypocrite.

[dannyboy1999]

Oh. Sorry to hear about you being coerced. As long as you live and learn, that's the main thing

[Asker]

It was a while ago but just my exes past always hit me hard
She slept with her cousin’s cousin and godbrother. And the godbrother used to come have dinner with her family every week

[dannyboy1999]

Think it's probably for the best that you're not in that relationship anymore. The sooner you can move on, let them go and find someone new, the happier you'll be.

[Asker]

That is true but think I am going to stay single and rebuild myself. Then find someone
Thank you for everything

[dannyboy1999]

Np, best of luck!

[kayleyb22]

She sounds very jealous and kind of over bearing. I would address that with her and be sure to communicate what your relationship is and your expectations

[Asker]

I mean we did and a fight happened. This all happened last week. Days after our fight she slept with her friend.

[kayleyb22]

She’s probably not worth it then

[Asker]

I mean she just used to sleep with her cousin's cousin and godbrother and I couldn't let it go. Like the godbrother came to visit her family often
In the fight I called her mean words but when I tried to apologize she rubbed her new sex life and relationship in my face

[kayleyb22]

It sounds like a very toxic relationship. If she’s sleeping with her family... that’s even worse. You don’t need that in your life. Find someone who has the same values as you

[Asker]

And she called me a hipocrite cause when I was a minor I was coerced into oral sex. I just didn't know what I was doing and was innocent.
I never told anyone but I told her after the fight.

Just the fact that we were best friends for years before dating just sucks how fast she moved on

[kayleyb22]

People change. It’s been a long time and it seems like you two are going in two different directions. There’s nothing wrong with distancing yourself from people who aren’t good for you, no matter how long they’ve been in your life

[Asker]

Just final question
Is it normal for a girl to sleep/ date her friend like a week after a breakup?

[kayleyb22]

I’ve never been the type of person to do that. I know many girls who don’t do that either. Those who have been actively on tinder or talking to other people would usually be the ones to do that

[Asker]

Well she told me she used to do that but had changed
She used to have dreams of me cheating on her
Used to want me to take calls in front of her
Just really never thought of her to do that

[kayleyb22]

It’s a toxic relationship. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to figure that one out

[Asker]

I do feel guilty about one thing
When we broke up the first time (we were still in contact) her ex sent her flowers and she kept them in her room till they died. Even told me that her friends thought she should have a baby with him

I felt like I needed to one up so I told her I am going on a date with my best friend's cousin. I said his name and everything. That was a lie and now I feel bad for bringing my friend into that and his cousin. Like I just keep feeling regrets

[kayleyb22]

If you’re broken up, you guys don’t owe anymore explanations to one another. It’s simple. You go on and on about how you guys keep throwing punches at eachother and trying to make one another jealous. It’s all just wrong and not meant to be.

[Asker]

That's true yet I am still pissed how she is with the new guy so quick

[kayleyb22]

You need to move on. The anger is going to be there but you’re never going to get over her if you keep wallowing in the issues and talking to her so much

[Asker]

I don't talk to her but I think about EVERYTHING the relationship was everyday

[kayleyb22]

You need to move on. You’re never going to get over it. It’s a bad relationship where you guys quite literally feed off of jealously and hurting one another.

[Asker]

I know but one last question
About couple days back I made a new insta. I didn't feel the need to block her
But I saw she had blocked me and started liking posts of family she never met.
Why?

[kayleyb22]

How about this: you find a woman who you’re not constantly wallowing over and worrying about. Find someone who you’re not going to feel insecure with. I’m sure this constant obsession over what she’s doing and why she’s doing stuff isn’t healthy for you and is driving you nuts. It’s time for you to find someone who you think about all day because of how great things are! No sleeping with cousins, no jealousy rampages, just good fun and love. That’s what you need. Please try to move on so you can make yourself happier. She is not what’s going to make you happy.

[Asker]

I won't find any in my small town
This girl is not legal in this country/ 5 years older and still in community college

I am going to med school next year and just wanna leave this town

[kayleyb22]

Take time off, focus on school, do something else. Don’t let one person ruin everything

[Asker]

She really is tbh
I live in a very strict household but I just can't focus on tasks
I just replay all the stuff she rubbed in my face and get pissed

In the begining of the relation I read sexts to her cousin's cousin she did days before us and I still replay those

[kayleyb22]

Hey, I’m really trying to help but the more you go on about this cousin shit and all the messed up things you guys did, the less I wanna talk about this. I try to give you suggestions to help you but you just wanna go back on every little issue. Take the advice I gave you or don’t.

[Asker]

You right my b
Just acting like a dumbass

[SarahsSummer]

Is your life nothing but a series of orders from demanding women?

[Asker]

I just didn’t seem it as demanding cause it was my first relation and I was crazy about her

[Anonymous]

I think so.