Why are Asian guys not as attractive as other ethnicities in dating culture?

[Anonymous]

I'm a Chinese born guy and I came to Canada when I was 8 years old. I'm 21 now and practically grew up in Canada. Most of my friends are white and some Middle eastern friends, no oriental friends as there are not many around or they're from mainland China and stick to their own group and rarely speak in English or French. I'm practically white. I have a preference for white girls, but I'll talk to any girls of any ethnicities.

My white friends tell me how easy it is to get girls on tinder all the time, yet when I gave it a shot I set it to 110km/roughly 70miles, even got tinder premium and swiped right on everything. The two weeks I had it I got 0 matches. My white friends tell me I'm really good looking "for an Asian guy" which firmly gives me the belief that there is much an internalized racism against average Asian men when it comes to dating without people even really noticing it. I get called cute and a 8.5 but I have never been out on a date. I'm physically fit, I go to the gym 5 days a week. I see my white friends picking up girls left and right, and when I approach in the exact same manner even more respectful and I am told no and sometimes straight up pretend i am not there.

I feel this immensely with white girls. If I tell a white girl on an anonymous app I'm Chinese I typically get ignored or the sentence responses become one word responses. It seems if I'm not Glenn from the walking dead, nor an Asian model, I'll have little chances with regular white women who are not weaboo and obsessed with Kpop culture and japanese anime, which is not even Chinese. And most Asian women say they only date white guys and that turns me away from them drastically.

Do you believe there is much racism in dating for average Asian men and it makes it a lot harder for average Asian men to find a date?

[dantetheexplorer]

Let's be honest. In countries that are predominantly white, it's going to be a lot more challenging for an Asian man to date outside his race compared to a white man who is at a similar level of physical attractiveness and has a similar level of resources. No matter how many ways you slice it, the Asian man will have a more challenging task. Very generally speaking, he would have to have something extra, either in pure physical looks, a great personality, or larger amounts of wealth to stand on equal footing with his white friends.

Nothing makes you realize this more than going to a pub with your white friends when you're the only Asian there, and seeing some women's eyes pass over you as if you didn't exist at all. I'm sure you understand that feeling by now.

I know this because I'm an Asian man who has lived and traveled across every continent except Africa.

I will say that it also depends on where you're located. The dominant culture plays a big role. I haven't been to Canada so I'm not sure what the outlook is for an Asian man based in Canada.

But I do know that I face less issues in say Australia or New Zealand, due to their proximity to Asia. Also, Eastern Europe poses less challenges compared to Western Europe, once again, probably also due to proximity to Asia. And in a country like Brazil, I face almost no issues, which I assume is due to the large number of Japanese Brazilians in the country.

[Asker]

Thank you for your input. I'm glad I'm not alone in this. And I have heard much about eastern Europe being a lot easier for dating and the women being a lot more reasonable. Perhaps I'll learn some Russian and travel there to meet a woman after I finish my studies and have a stable income.

[Badkittymeow1]

There is a sterotype that white women love big cocks, which isn't true... there are many women out there that would love to date you, it might be bit harder for you than other men but it can happen.

[Asker]

I'm assuming you're referring to the stereotype that Asian men have smaller penises than other ethnicities, which is a racist lie that has been invented during the rush of oriental immigrants to the USA and Canada from the new job opportunities back in the late 1800s and early 1900s. Asian women were symbols for yellow fever and Asian men are seen as scammers that would do anything to get money to compensate for their "small stature". It is such a shame such racism has been passed down for over a hundred years and is now affecting Asian men's attractiveness as a whole. I myself I am 6 inches erect, the average size just the rest of the ethnicities, and more than enough to please the average woman. Also I am an individual, and should be looked beyond just looking Asian, as i don't follow Asian customs or culture and my values and way of life are quite different from Asians in Asia.

[Tyffen]

Everyone is racist

[frerardsprincess]

All the guys I’ve dated have been Asian so I personally don’t understand why people would have a problem with it

[ChloeStarfire]

I don’t know my ex that cheated on me is pretty attractive and he’s half Japanese

[NEW_YUKI]

Asian guys are attractive

YOU are ugly

[Asker]

By your logic, as I am an Asian guy, therefore I am attractive. And you say I'm ugly. That's hypocritical

[NEW_YUKI]

Yeah,