My boyfriend accused me of rape but he said yes?

[Askjulia]

Female here so a week ago i told my boyfriend i don't know how to trust him because he had sex me with me after multiple times of me saying no and he still did it, right after I told him this he said that when he was at mine the one time i asked for sex i raped him and made him feel really uncomfortable, even though i asked him if he wanted sex and he said yes and i said are you sure and he said yes again he didn't seem uncomfortable at all.

I feel so messed up and i don't know what to do any advice is appreciated?

[nerms123]

That’s messed up in my opinion because what if he does the same type of behavior with other life issues? Like oh you said you didn’t want me to spend our life savings but I did it anyway. Or you don’t want a kid but we’re having one anyway. Can’t trust him.

[Askjulia]

he doesn't really have that kind of behavior he's more manipulative

[nerms123]

That’s terrible too. ☹️

[yucychan]

Your bf's an asshole. He's just trying to weasel his way out of a potential issue by putting the blame on you instead, saying "Hey, you did it to me too. So we're even."

[Thunderous]

This is true, but if he goes public with it, she could be in big trouble... If her boyfriend is bigger than her, she could point out that there's no possible way she could, and she could also show she's harmless to anyone he tells

[Askjulia]

Yes, that's exactly what he did! And it hurts so much it's pure selfishness

[yucychan]

Well, at least now you can see that's the type of person he really is.
When in trouble, he will just point his finger at the next available person, which unfortunately will be you most of the time.
It's just sad that your boyfriend can't even man up to his mistakes and just apologize for hurting you.

[Askjulia]

yes thank you for completely understanding it sucks i told him something that hurt me so much and he won't even apologize he just complains

[Klife1]

Leave him. Why stress yourself over a liar. I feel if you stay he'll just hold it over your head and that's no good for you. Unnecessary stress babe.

[Askjulia]

It's so hard we've been together for almost 2 years my whole family loves him and so do i

[Klife1]

But imagine this is 2years you're saying this, in another 2 you'll think it's been too long and have to put up with it. It's not fair on you. I'm sure you know this.
Your family will love whoever you do, that's what family do, they'd care more for your happiness anyday.

[Askjulia]

thank you its a very hard relation ship to get out of but ill try, its just gonna be hard because we go to the same school and every time i see him or think of him it will hurt like hell

[HeWhoIs]

Sex is supposed to be relaxed and exciting. Having to ask those questions is a bad sign. This sounds like a dangerous love life. If he flipped the script on you he's a dick. Find someone who wants to make love to you equally.

[Askjulia]

It's not much of a spark when we do it anymore i think its because i no longer see him as i saw him

[HeWhoIs]

The unfortunate thing is, if sex is important to you. It's probably over. And I personally think sex should be important to everyone capable.

[Anonymous]

This fool is playing head games with you. Get rid of him

[Askjulia]

It feels like it i get red flags but also good signs and it's really confusing

[Keerose88]

First of all, you asked him and he said y s. That's NOT rape! You told him NO and he kept going. You need to break up with and report him before this gets dangerous. If he raped you and he might even kill you.

[Askjulia]

He hasn't done it since i think he was just really horny and thought he could take advantage of me

[Keerose88]

That's too weird just be careful

[Askjulia]

i am and thank you by the way

[Thunderous]

Dm me, I feel like this is something you're going to be more comfortable to talk about one on one

[Askjulia]

It won't let me

[Thunderous]

Well, what age is your boyfriend? His age will better tell you what steps to take

[Askjulia]

He's the same age as me 16

[Iron_Man]

He's so full of crap get rid of the guy if he is serious that's just crazy

[Anonymous]

Now you know how guys feel

#believeallmen

[Askjulia]

what do you mean by that statement

[Anonymous]

Well, now you know how so many guys feel.