My ex didn't mind them much and even said she found the scars "sexy", but I think most people would find that unattractive.
What about you?
My fiancé has many scars that he was always insecure about from many surgeries he had as a child and teen. I find them extremely beautiful though since it is shows everything he has been through and how strong he is.
But what I am mostly insecure about is how bad my skin is. I have ezcema and even though I have medication that works wonderfully to clear it all up, sometimes, during very hot weather or if I'm sweating a lot, it will come out again. If it flares up, I always have it all around my armpits and elbows.
My brother and sister both had that. I am thankful that I did not.
A lot of things honestly but mostly my nose, my knees and my stomach. My nose is on the bigger side. It looks fine when I’m not making any facial expressions but as soon as I smile it gets all flared and weird looking which sucks because I smile and laugh a lot. My stomach isn’t big or anything and it’s relatively flat but I have enough chub to get little rolls whenever I sit forward. My knees for some reason are much darker than my legs which makes me kind of worried to wear anything that exposes them.
I can relate to you on so many levels.
I agree with everyone else scars define you how you are today. Your ex lover loved you for who you are whether having scars or not.
I am very self conscious about stretch marks and my stomach. I have noticed I have been gaining weight and I don’t like it. My boyfriend always saying I look “sexy”, “beautiful” but I don’t feel it. Never.
I think you are right, and even if our relationship didn't last (for unrelated reasons) I'm happy she accepted that part of me and I hope that whoever will come next will be capable of doing that.
I am sorry you feel that way about your stretch marks, if there's something I can say it's that I'm sure your boyfriend loves you no matter what and loves them too becayse they are part of you.
Scars and stretch marks are simply something that makes us different and even if we don't like or hate them we know it's just the nature of our bodies to have them.
A friend of mine is a dermatologist and told me he find it ridiculous how society idolizes smooth, soft and creamy skin since almost nobody has it!
Thank you so much, that was so lovely of you!
Just remember someone will always love you for who you are.
Social media most definitely plays a role in your appearance. That’s why I never go onto Instagram to look at social media influencers or models anymore.
I completely agree with you.
Instagram and other media offer an unrealistic image of people - I experienced that firsthand, the company I work for published a picture of my team and we were all so shopped that we were almost unrecognizable.
Sadly society pushes those "perfect" images, that are nothing but an illusion.
That’s shit, why do that to people especially if you’re working for a well known business. I don’t know what country you live in but there’s an advert on tv and it’s about your appearance and someone said I thought beautiful was blonde hair and blue eyes. That’s awful.
My whole body makes me self conscious! Also, scars are kinda like a symbol of what you went through! I wouldn’t find it unattractive if someone had scars. But, people are people I guess we all have our things lol.
I am honestly suprised by the number of girls who like scars, I honestly always felt conscious about them and feared people would judge me negatively.
I understand and I'm sorry you went through that.
I'm happy you are doing better now, and not feeling too much conscious about it!
Tat on the right arm. I was drunk when I got it and it has more negative connotations than usual in Japan. I have quite a few scars from skateboarding (including one above my left eyelid where a skateboard flew over a vert ramp and left a giant splinter lodged there), but I actually like them fairly well.
>> I honestly don't like my scars because every time I'm shirtless I look like a criminal or ex convict.
That's kind of my rationale for the self-consciousness about the tat. I often wear an armband with short sleeves or long-sleeved shirts to hide it.
In Japan, many places forbid people with visible tattoos from attending, including gyms and public baths. So I usually can't attend the latter and for the former, have to cover it up.
I understand how Japan has so negative connotations and restrictions on tattoos - do they apply that on scars too?
None for scars. It's only tats since there was a period in Japanese history where tats became forbidden, and then only criminals ended up wearing them. Since then the law has been reversed but not the stigmas associated. Usually, most people I meet are fine with them though, and I got mine in the US (it's not Japanese style), but I still get a bit self-conscious about it with the negative associations and the fact that I can't attend certain establishments unless I cover it up.
Many years ago, Joe Namath, the great quarterback for the New York Jets (American football,) co-authored a book about his life:
Unlike Mr. Namath, I don't have that confidence. However, I would feel more confident if I lost about 20-25 pounds.
Lots of things... but mostly my feet. I am self conscious about them.
I feel it especially during a era where feet are always talked about by guys
Are you guys tall ~ I feel like this hits tall women more 🤷♀️😐
( 5 ft 11)
Yea I'm above average in 5'7
Yeah.. well at least feet are on the bottom far away from the face 😊😊
Lol you right ig
Really lol wanna talk to a feet expert? 😅 i have foot fetish and I know a lot about feet , i can tell you if you should be worry about them or what to change or they just prefect and it’s all in your head lol
I'm 5'10. They're not ugly looking, I've actually been complimented on them. I just grew up in a family where my mom had like a foot phobia and the women in our family wear size 10 shoe. My feet are pretty slender and I keep them pedicured and neat but I'm still self conscious about them.
You sound like you have really cute feet , big feet actually beautiful
I just don’t like having big feet. It’s not the look just less option for shoes and they are just not small. I mean if they were small it’d be hard to walk so its just as well.
"Scars prove that you're stronger than what tried to kill you."
I got scars all over my face from as a teenager and young adult. Most people don't really notice them, and the ones that got stitched are barely noticeable anymore; but, I have a particularly large one under my left eye.
Wide gash that never got stitched. I was 17 and wanted to hide the fighting injury from my dad, haha. I don't care about the scar. It's kinda badass. But, it makes my eyes unsymmetrical, and it's caused me some issues in the past, because people misread my passive expression.
Someone punch me in the right eye, so my eyes are symmetrical. Wait. Wait no. Give me a minute to prepare for it.
I'm self conscious about my stomach and legs. I'm quite chubby and used to be made fun of that all throughout my days in school. I just love food. But, I have only recently been chubby. The rest of the time, I was just on the big side to biking a lot. That's why my legs are so big. It's because I love to go biking and so my leg muscles are big. And people made fun of me for that. And I feel Everytime a girl judges me is all that. That I look ugly to them🙈. That I'm not good enough for anyone. That I'm just so worthless to the world. That if I disappear, no one would really care that I'm gone
I was born early and had to have an emergency surgery when I was a baby, because of that I have this huge scar that starts at my belly button and go all the way to my right side. It makes me look fatter than I already am. I'd say my stomach in general I'm self conscious about. Weird to think that's it when at one point and time it was everything.
I scar easily and at one point I got an outbreak (spots) on my chest, so I hate that. My weight is another thing that I hate. I'm not obese, but I'm working on losing weight. I've had random guys come up to me in the past and say that my ass and tits look great, but it's a shame about the rest of me (face, weight etc.)
I find this question and the replies interesting. I have many things that makes me self conscious and they change on a daily basis. But the permanent one I would say are my need for glasses and my nose. But in the end we all have things we dislike but other don't even notice or are actually what they like most about us. So we can just try and find a way to solve the issue, for instance losing weight, or just learn to accept it and not let it get in the way of being an awesome person
Once, while camping, all the guys took their shirts off. I joined in and was flexing a little because my crush was on the trip.
A friend of mine (a wildlife major) took a look at my torso and said
You have four nipples! :D
I have two dimples a few inches below my nipples, and now that I know why they're there I'm afraid to go shirtless.
Hmm im not sure if its body wise but i have horrible resting bitch face,. Like my voice is super flirty but my face shows no emotion i just always look mad or as others say “superior”. I do get self concious occasionaly because im unaware and dont want them to feel like i hate them👀🙈
I do kind of get that impression from you, though. Lol
I was in an accident a long time ago and I still have some scars on my back.. the sad thing is that they don’t even look like scars, more like ‘rough sex scratches’
Same for me, except a few that are deep.
I detest them because I look like a felon every time I'm shirtless.
This will soumd dumb, but when I don't get enough food due to money I get pissed off ahout losing my gains in the gym. It seriously annoys me.
It's like running on a gamster wheel. Lose it, gain it back, can't get enough to eat, lose it again.
It's maddening. So I feel insecure after loses. Better after gains, but I get visibly in a bad mood when I'm sitting at home getting skinnier cause I can't eat. I thibk my bad mood from this can scare people when I can finally get to the grocery store. I'm mugging everyone in the isle like nobody's buisness cause' I'm there to get my food and rush home as quickly as possible to cook it and eat it.
sucks. Summer time sucks ass people. No financial aid money = shit.
I've got some small fat rolls, man boobs, and stretch marks from puberty. I also have a small gap between my teeth. And my hair line is really high. And I have a small bald spot. I also have more effeminate curves with wide hips and a big butt, personally I'd gotten over my effeminate looks but they probably don't help me with dating.
My penis is unusually large. I've learned to live with it by buying this book.
I actually like my scars, like others said on here they are something to be proud of. Physical damage of your body received that you fought and you won. If someone doesn't like that on you, to hell with them.
I also like my feet for some reason lmao, together with my hands and the hair on my arms XD
My tummy and some excess hair growth. I have a hormonal imbalance disorder that causes hair growth on places like my chin for example, so I’m self conscious when it comes to that, but there are removal methods for it I do.
I have a lot of dark acne scars on the upper sides of my body and on my legs and I overall don’t have smooth, hairless, clear skin. Idc tho my boyfriend still thinks I’m hot😂😂
And that's all that matters. :)
my legs/butt. I've always had quite big legs and a butt and people would make fun of me all the time for it. I have pretty bad cellulite so I've resorted to using cream to reduce the appearance (and obviously working out)
I'm 5'7" on a good day. Need I say more? Honestly now a days I've literally heard MANY women say they'd rather date a less attractive tall guy over a handsome and fit short ass. Just comes with the territory, no way of hiding that one under your shirt.
I really appreciate that, but I've found that the shortest of girls want the tallest of guys a lot of the time lol I don't know if they want to compensate or what. most of the women I date are usually between 5'4-5'8, very rarely will a girl 5'2" and under be attracted to me. Which ironically is what I'd like so that she could wear heels when we go out and not be embarrassed that she's taller than her date so she ends up using flats all the time and end up resenting me and wishing I was taller. But really, thanks.
Eczema and cystic acne flare ups. I won't leave the house and will cancel all plans and dates. My skin was horrible as a teen so it freaks me out whenever I break out. 😭😱
Definitely acne or like my body type lol. And bro don't even worry you know you'll find someone that doesn't care and will love you for you and love everything bad and good about you
My teeth aren't "model straight". They aren't bad, and I keep them cleaned, but my wisdom teeth pushed my bottom front teeth together, so one of them is slightly crooked. Drives me nuts!
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Not much really as far as my appearance goes. But I don't like to talk about my scoliosis, and all the ways that bracing effected the way that my body developed, including causing stunted lung capacity, causing me to have virtually no upper body strength, and giving me some scarring along my ribs. I don't think any of that ugly, per se, but it's not a positive thing. I don't like being weak.
I used to worry that people would notice that my spine is curved. I've stopped caring now though, as I've also stopped trying to hide that I have scoliosis in the first place. I don't like to talk about it, but it's a big part of my life, so it inevitably comes up.