I'm just curious because a lot of girls lie about what they want from a man because they no a guy wouldn't handle the truth , well I'm a guy who can so please tell me what you want in a man don't worry I won't judge u or call u shallow for wanting a 6ft guy or something like that I'm just curious as to what you what your women's thoughts are to thank u
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Damn I'm sorry for what you've been through lol I've had somewhat of a dysfunctional family myself so I totally relate to where your coming from by the way thanks for the wise advice.
Can women explain what they want in a man physically be honest?
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I think a girl’s opinion varies from girl to girl and also with age/generation.
Speaking from the generation before yours, I don’t think my standards are as physically focused as they used to be.
But anyway, here they are:
At least taller than me. I’m 5’3”. There’s something comforting about looking up at a guy. I feel awkward if he is shorter than me.
He can be broad or skinny. But if he’s skinny I will want to feed him. I dislike when skinny/lanky guys say they skip meals or only eat an egg for dinner or something. For god sakes eat.
Dad bod is not a problem unless it’s a problem with your health and you become out of breath and we have to worry you’re going to keel over with a heart attack.
Don’t care how much hair you have on your head. Male pattern baldness is not something anyone can control. Just don’t do weird things like try to comb the stuff over. And facial hair should be soft and not assault my lips when we kiss.
I’m usually pretty ok if the guy is average looking or so. Personality really does matter for a lot. But I once saw a guy with protruding moles all over his face (and presumably body). Even the best personality wouldn’t get me to wake up and gaze lovingly into his eyes. Any Obvious deformities ruins sexual/attraction for me.
And finally penis. It can be circumcised or not though I prefer circumcised and esp if he expects oral. Not doing that on un-. I don’t have a length number requirement. But it needs to be long enough to go in and stay in with at least 2 sexual positions. If it’s constantly slipping out/too short to stay in while moving, then it’s too short for me. Really not sure what the inches would be on that. I know I dated a guy with about 3-4 inches and it wasn’t enough.
First of all. You should not be worried about what a woman wants physically. A person that concerns about the physical is a shallow person. And you should not have to worry about a shallow person. You want somebody to love you for you, did not put you to be able to forgo how you physically look, as long as they have a unique attraction to you. What matters is not about what women want. What matters is about the one person that you are interested in getting to know wants. This is why I say a friend is better than a stranger.
And that is why so many of you have poor relationships because you worry so much about that. When standards, morals, principals, beliefs, faith, religion, etc about love, sex, marriage, children, etc should be discuss. A person's character is far more important than a person's personality, who somebody can easily fake, and looks, which will chance over time. You people are very shallow. You can't even keep not 1 partner or know who you really want because change as the wind. Love is consistant. Attraction is also a choice.
What matters is that you stick with a person you vow to commit to. Because if your looks change and your owrsomaliyu shift, you still going to be with them? Don't say things you don't want done to you. Your 29, you should know better. Let me know when your married to your 1st dating partner and kept them for years to come. Then I'll believe you. BECAUSE if your switching up partners and allowing yourseld to be switched out, then your being a hypocrite and hurting yourself. I don't treat men like that.
True but don't you think there should be a amount of lust towards your partner in the beginning of a relationship? and u have to care about someones appearance to some degree in order to lust other him/her?
Btbc I agree personality is far important but u should want to have a lust in the beginning of a relationship but after that lust fades that's when the real relationship Begins or for many ends.
And if you got to lust than you don't love. Look at MeToo movements, why do yiu think its gaining ground? Just because of qomen having false accusations? Its men choosing to touch women they're not legally married to , and women and girls who foolishly allowed lust to control them and for men to take advantage of women in inappropriate sexual environments (aka not marriage). Lust makes people to do all sorts of things, it's not called a sin for no reason. No. If you want to be involved with a person oh, you involved with a person because you want to be with them for who they are. Relationship ends because you end up lusting at the person out of selfishness when you should learn to love a person because you have give. Lust is What makes people rape, cheat, abuse, use and kill. If you agree with lust than don't complain when a woman uses you and then dump you for a man who's more sexually attractive to her.
And if you got to lust than you don't love. Look at MeToo movements, why do yiu think its gaining ground? Just because of qomen having false accusations? Its men choosing to touch women they're not legally married to , and women and girls who foolishly allowed lust to control them and for men to take advantage of women in inappropriate sexual environments (aka not marriage). Lust makes people to do all sorts of things, it's not called a sin for no reason. No. If you want to be involved with a person oh, you involved with a person because you want to be with them for who they are. Relationship ends because you end up lusting at the person out of selfishness when you should learn to love a person because you have give.
Lust is What makes people rape, cheat, abuse, use and kill. If you agree with lust than don't complain when a woman uses you and then dump you for a man who's more sexually attractive to her.
If you got a lust after a person that means you're not strong enough to keep them. Lust is selfish. That's why people have messed up relationships, and kids being born in toxic environments. Why the divorce rate is so high.
Btbc you know what your right I agree , honestly most men would rather have one women they can come home to , rather than having to swap from women to women. but marriage as I is in 2019 is flaud because a girl can divorce you and take your house your kids your money and put u behind bars if she wished too also I would like to add that women initiate divorce 70% of the time so men fear that so they don't get married that's what the whole mgtow movement is based on.
Men say that, but their actions speak louder than words. A lot of them say they fear marriage, but see here A the problem. The moment theybhavr sex with somebody theor already in a "marriage". Sex always consummate a union before God, be it legal or illegally in his eyes. So it's not that they fear marriage, they fear responsibility. Marriage is what you and your spouse make it. They want a classy in the streets freaky in the sheets, that's what they get. If a girl can sleep with you before marriage, what do they think she will do after marriage? Nobody thinks anymore. Nobody evaluates the friends, the exes, the family, nothing just have good sex and your on your way, is people's attitudes today.
Besides the moment you share joint legal responsible the government can still find you. So your not gettimg way from the GOV anyway. Marriages are just tougher to break. If anything, with family and divorce courts, it should push couples to do right by each other and not run from responsibility. I believe the only time divorce should be permissible is when there is abuse to the point your life is at stake and adultery.
Speak for yourself. It’s foolish and erroneous to state that those who desire a partner who is sexually compatible/pleasing with a great personality are shallow. It alludes to your ignorance of the word. That might not be how it’s worked for you, but I’ve found plenty of cute guys with great personalities.
Yeah, sure. After reading your opinion on this thread it sounds like to me you want yo whore around not really keep a man. Most men will use you and to go women like me because their tired of girls who acts like you. No offense. Just truth straight from their mouths. Your the one very ignorant. Sounds like your jealous.
Why you got to worry about cute guys when you should only be focusing on one man? The only reason why you say that is because you think sex is what's going to get you attention from Men. In other words you got nothing to really offer.
Yaaa j agree it's bad on both sides women don't Wana get married or have kids infacts it's very common for a girl to say she would never want to have kids because she's focusing on her career and you know I 100% agree you both make marriage amazing or terrible. I don't know about you but in the states the women aren't looking for marriage because they say that's to "traditional". I'm telling you feminsim ruined everything there telling women to focus on there career and then when the woman gets old in her 40's she decides that being a career women isint her thing and she now wants kids and a husband but it's already too late. the truth of the matter is thats it's really difficult to balance both work and kids that's why one part should stay at home perferably a women because she can nurture a child way better than a man can ever. But feminsim has turned the sexes against each and other into a compition of who's the better sex.
At least I know better to treat men as human beings, as individuals, and as a person. Not somebody who's just another penis just to fit and meet a biological urge. Which is exactly what you're implying. LOL, that's how you wouldn't end up with bad men. Especially men who don't want to stick around because you love giving free sex. As a virgin I know better than that. Your character sounds too poor and standards are lacking greatly for anybody to really take you seriously that isn't already behaving like dogs in the street.
1) Attraction is not a choice. No one can help you they sexually desire or are attracted to. That said, for many individuals, a relationship will only work with a healthy balance of sex and the person had an appealing character.
It doesn’t make sense to call someone shallow who desires a partner they are attracted to since they know they desire sex in a relationship. Many people cannot have sex with someone that does not physically interest them. Dating someone usually leads to an expectation of sex and to date someone while knowing that you won’t ever give them any is wrong in my opinion.
2) Being married to my partner makes no difference and does not have any bearing on the situation. The ones that I’ve dated were all great but it simply didn’t work out (lack of ambition, different desires in life etc. I didn’t dump them because they lost attraction to me but if they did, I wouldn’t have sex them since I can only be intimate with someone that I’m physically desire.
@Asker, There are a good amount of women like me, my friends and some single and virginal family members who are from the USA, you can check my username, and believe in Godly and tradional values. We're around.
In my experience, the guys tell me they don't want to get married, or marry by 18 or early 20s and even wait for marriage to have sex. So for those reasons career is much better than to sit around waiting for somebody to take you seriously. So feminism is only part of the problem. Men needs to take their place too and stop fooling around.
Attraction is not a CHOICE? OMG. Yes it is. And I'm proof of it I've done it many of times! And it has been scientifically proven.
If you think that way, then good luck. Because sex should be pure, not based on what you physically desire of a person. You should be attracted to a person's heart and soul First. THEN see of there is something unique about a person physically that makes you want to be with them in general.
No, people put sex first instead of a person. It's in nature. Because they don't know what sex even is. Dating should NSVER lead to expectaton of sex. Marriage should after you learn to love a person. Sex is learned, not taught. Sex is how you make it. So if nothing worked out then you need to look at yourself and the type of people you picked. Because you picked them. It's not their fault that you only got with them because you were physically and sexually invested in them.
So you completely disregarded what I said or failed to comprehend it? Not surprising seeing your subsequent posts.
LOL. Jealous of you? Thanks for the laugh. That’s a good one. I was trying to enlighten you because of how narrow minded your worldview is (because of how nonsensical it is). I feel sorry for you honestly.
Right also sex should be the by product of sexual. intimacy it should be the last thing after everything else in a relationship not at the first. also girls aren't like guys in a way because if a girl has hook ups and sleeps around she will loose her ability to co-bond with her partner because she will be emotionally damaged💔 because women cannot separate sex with emotions. thats why a women who cheats is far worse than when a guy cheats don't get me wrong there both bad but when a girl cheats she's cheating on him emotionally while a guy might do it just for sex
There were many guys that I was attracted to physically, but the moment I started seeing other factors about them that I didn't like, that attraction went off like a headlight. It takes time to grow attraction to a person. But you have to desire to be attracted to them. If you have no desire to be attracted to a person then you won't be attracted to them. Everything concerning about sex, and desire, is mine over matter. It is purely psychological. Not just chemicals from the brain and thyroid. It's spiritual as well. Because if you don't have the same spiritual connection, you will not want them unless your that psychologically screwed up. And many people from observation are. Thats why their sex lives are unhealthy, and can make not just you physically ill, as noted from late mother, but will kill your marriage. The sex ideologies today are toxic. It's so bad to the point that a lot of people think there's such thing as good sex or bad sex. Which there's no such thing. Sex is something that you create with person. From within, not by some 'technique'.
Sorry for me? please! How do you complete disregard nothing you said exactly what you said. I understood that you won't person that likes to mess around, and do whatever it is that you want to do. There's nothing for you to enlighten me sweetheart because his the thing. You already made your choices. So now you got to deal with them. My mind stays where it's at because I am not going to follow what you dumb people choose to do. Of course you don't understand what I got to say, because you don't care to understand what I got to say. You already made your choices. Your you open up your legs to all these people. Whoever it is that you're with now. That's who you are as a person. If you're cool with hopping around from man to man then you do that. You don't have to prove nothing to me. Because I don't want the life you got. If anything I ask for something stable. Not somebody who's unstable and prefers drama. So if you want to be an unstable person, then being unstable person. And if the person you with his unstable to which I know for a fact, then y'all people can be unstable together. That's all. But at least I'm telling him something that will save him and prevent him from becoming another you or of your exes.
Btbc92 I have a question what do you think the reason as to why your wife will stop having sex with you when you get married as time passes by , I've heard a lot of guys say that's after the first 3 years of marriage there wife stops having sex with them period and that's a big concern big mine of mine if I were to get married.
A person that cares do not lead others astray. And that's what you choose to do. You would rather see him be led astray and end up hurt and Destroy as a man. Because that's what you women do.
@Asker, exactly that. They have books, studies and testimonies to back it up. That's why men needs to stay away from places that entices sex, and don't masturbate. It will effect your brain.
@Asker to answer your question? I'll summarize what Mark Gungor says who is a marriage speaker, pastor and author. In fact, studies back it up: PREMARITAL SEX.
When women experience sex for the first time outside of marriage, women begins to learn that sex=nothing. In other words, it's not a big deal. Very contrary to the sex equals love idea. Once somebody is no longer a virgin before marriage, many people take that same ideas inside their marriages. The moment that seed is planted it grows. She feels she is not obligated to have sex with you. It becomes ingrained in our attitude.
Other factors is men watching porn and doing pornography, which effects her self esteem, abuse which tempers with libido, and lack of intimacyboutaide of the bedroom. Such as hugging, kissing, holding hands, cuddling, going on date and spending time together. In other words, couples have got lazy after getting married.
The next possibility is health problems. Which tends to become apparent as we get older. Another one is how the husband treats her. If he tells her she's dirt that's how she's going to feel, her libido will drop, her desire for her husband will become almost nonexistent and then she will lose her place in the home. That's why you must always love yiur wife and communicate with her. But at the same time domt marry somebody who is uninterested in wanting sex with you period. She doesn't always have to be attracted to your body. But who you are. Soul and soul must join.
Oh yeah yeah btbc ik all about that stuff, I've been on nofap and let me tell you it's a game changer. I used to do it often every time I would bust I would feel an immediate sense of anger and sadness 😔 for doing it so I told myself I will never touch my self again and here I am now still staying strong haha
What is there for me to chill about? I grew up in a household that is abusive and dysfunctional. My parents marriage was atrocious before my mother passed away from cervical cancer. For the entire 23 years of my life since my parents been married to each other all I've been hearing about is not just finances, bills, getting a home, having a car, Etc. But it was always about their sex lives. I heard it all before. I heard how my mother had a hard time about wanting sex with my dad because of the abuse. Because he would have preferred other women over her, because he had over 40 partners before her and my sister's mother. The whole 9 yards. I've heard it all! They would literally talk about divorce all the feeling time for 23 years until her passing. So what she's saying is not news to me. Their dysfunctional who takes the physical flesh too far to satisfy their selfish desires.
See now your getting it. Why have a wife or woman when you got yourself? How can anybody be happy with that! I have never masturbated or watched porn and I'm fine and libido is the same as it always been since I was a child. Self control and discipline helps you. I'm tired of people calling virgins sexually repressed. Virgins can't be repressed, we never had sex. They're dumb with this garbage.
I thank God every single day that I never want dated and I still to this day refuse to do it. Have I done been stupid with this chick and a lot of people said I should have done, I would have been God forbid ended up like my mother or in the grave. Because a lot of those guys did not have the best intentions for me. I pray you find somebody worth dating or should I say court and marry. Be FRIENDS for a while first and the see if they worth going further. Don't rush and don't chase skirt! You heard it from me. You'll be fine. Got to weed them out.
Well, I say you will know deep in your heart and spirit. But for the most part, you have to choose your wife. A wife of God's own heart and one who is your friend and lover from the start. A lover don't always mean sex partner, though. It has to be somebody you can't live without, though not somebody who completes you. But compliments your soul. You have to be at the same wave length, have the same mentality and have similar goals in mind. Somebody your own parents, friends and community can be proud of and lovingly invite. You don't want somebody very different to the point your not allies but enemies. If you cannot find you're self-sacrificing for her, and putting your needs wants and desires laughs before her own, and she cannot do the same thing for you 100% every single day of your life. And have no desire or willingness to be in your life and to do what you both got to do 100% every single day of your life. If you cannot find yourself having a future with her, nor grow old, and she is not the one for you. Remember that your not looking for the one. But somebody who can be the one, for you. Thats all you need. Nothing else. A help meet. Not a thorn on your side deliberately.
Tall - not too fat and not too skinny - tough but not aggressive - a confident demeanour - dresses well - pays attention to me and notices me - looks innocent and sexy at the same time - soft skin
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Here’s my unfiltered opinion:
1. Must be AT LEAST 5’10 or above.
2. Must be in good physical shape (e. g., no beer belly, decent amount of muscles, not too skinny, not overweight)
3. Must have good overall facial features and symmetry. (No obviously ugly features such as a big nose, pointy chin, crooked teeth, unbalanced face etc)
4. Must have good hair/hairline (don’t want no balding/big forehead dudes)
5. Good bone structure; Jawline
6. Can have body hair but not excessively hairy like a gorilla or hair in awkward/unwanted places
7. No beards. Facial hair must be kept groomed and trimmed. Scruffs are good.
8. Must not have awkward/ugly genitalia. E. g. mushroom looking penis, chode, unusually small, unattractively huge balls, unkempt pubic hair
That’s about all there is. Pretty obvious stuff however so you’re probably aware of most of it already.
I don't give a shit what he looks like.. as long as he is honest and loving and caring.. I don't care if he makes money or not I don't care whether he has a belly or muscles or none or too skinny or fat I don't care about his race I care about having things in common Having chemistry Together Being respectful to one another Not caring about the world opinion cuz we do us.. No need to be fake Someone who would love me at my worst mentally and physically. I would appreciate it if he takes care of himself.
The only thing i hate physically is HAIR.. i know #unpoularopinion... But i hate hair.. i even hate it on me...
Personally I'm attracted to older guys.. i feel like I can't connect well with people my age.. but if i did, age is not much of a matter to me.. but i am 20 so younger would be a bit of an issue.. maybe when I'm 30 i wouldn't care cuz they won't be a minor
Umm I am attracted to guys my height or taller. Physique wise neither too skinny nor too fat nor too muscular 🤷♀️ aaaand... That's pretty much it 😅 I do like dark eyes and dark hair but this doesn't mean that I've never felt attracted to a blue-eyed blonde.
But not to muscular so how would that look like because I'm not talking about someone who is on roids and who looks like a professional body builder I'm talking about someone with a natrual physic who works out daily so it's nothing to crazy but slightly buff?
I myself have been lucky in the way of being with someone who is the ‘type’ I’d find attractive. Being sort of what people would see as ‘lanky’, fairly tall, slim, but quite strong. Although saying that, as long as I like a person’s personality and we were compatible, I’m sure i wouldn’t care so much about their physical attributes. Even now, he thinks he’s gained weight but I don’t see any difference. Whether that’s because he hasn’t gained weight or I just don’t care, I wouldn’t mind it if he had. The only way I’d draw a line would be if they were an unhealthy weight, or really really slim.
Muscles. Nice and large c***. Average or above face (not hot though. Not interested in arrogant men though arguably not all are arrogant. He’s more likely to be IMO)
1. Healthy looking I guess, I'm good with a bit of pudge though. 2. Smells nice, I have a thing about smelling clean. (I avoid people I feel are dirty) 3. Clearish looking skin. 4. Looks like he takes care on how he looks, I am okay with a t-shirt and jean's but with a basic understanding of color combinations. 5. I prefer dark hair but I'm okay with lighter too. 6. A well structure face, proportional basically; unless the guy makes the imperfection work. 7. I usually like a mature sounding voice but higher toned is fine as well, as long as the guy speaks clearly I pretty much don't care. 8. Lastly a guy who makes me feel like we are comfortable together. I think that is it, hope it isn't too harsh.
Dark eyes, dark hair, black long eyelashes, strong male features, scruffy, average body, not too tall, not too short, calm, humorous, clean teeth, great smile. Fucking rad personality.
I want my man to be my direct opposite ! He needs to be a Christian or interested in God ! have - dark hair , dark eyes and dark skin ! 5 ^ 3 - 5 ^ 7 tall for I am 5 ^ 1 tall ! he needs to live in my state ! He needs to want children ! He needs to be single and no children all of his life until he and I get married and he does not smoke or drink ! Thanks
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