Guys: In your opinion, what makes a girl "girlfriend material"?

[beebella]

Guys: In your opinion, what makes a girl "girlfriend material"?

[Nblair96]

In relationship two people give a part of themselves for the whole. She has to put down the walls, be confident in herself, no guy wants to be a crutch to a woman. Being kind, understanding and knowing that us guys sometimes have our rough days which will make you see the testosterone lol. Just leave us be if we don’t want to talk, don’t worry we will talk to you eventually about it just not right this second. She has to be reasonable and if she genuinely likes us she’s expected to do some of the chasing too and chase back. Love and support us pretty much, that’s all it takes

[Nayrr]

Goofy, intelligent, beautiful, ambitious. Loves to help others. She pushes me to do the best I can. Gives the sweetest kisses, the best snuggles and says the most soothing things. Doesn't enable my fear of my emotions, and helps me talk things through. Communicates very well, gets needy when she's sick. The cutest facial expressions. Oh, and she has a great sense of humor.

I value her insight on everything and look forward to every memory we make with each other.

[Nayrr]

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[beebella]

You're welcome. 👍

[Intraluminal]

I see this question over and over, and it's based on a basic misunderstanding. It is NOT some superior quality in a girl that makes her "girlfriend material" instead of "ONS material."

A guy who's looking for one-night-stands, looks at ALL girls as ONS. A guy that looking for "a girlfriend" is looking at all girls as potential girlfriends. It is the qualities inside the GUY, not the girl, that makes the difference.

It *is* true that a girl can, through her actions, prove to a guy looking to date, that she is NOT girlfriend material, but that does not mean that she can prove through her actions that she *is* girlfriend material to a guy who's not looking for a girlfriend.

If you have trouble understanding the difference think of this analogy.

There are two girls, each running a food stall. One girl is selling full meals. The other sells snacks.

Two guys come along. One guy is hungry and looking for a meal. The other isn't particularly hungry, and just wants a snack.

What can the "full meal" girl do to make the "snack guy" eat a full meal? NOTHING. If she lowers her prices *enough*, he'll buy the "full meal" instead of the snack, BUT he's not going to *eat* the "full meal" he'll just snack on it and throw the rest away.

On the other hand, the guy who's looking for a "full meal" will buy lots of snacks to make a "full meal" if the snack girl offers them.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Sweet, loyal, feminine. Those are the primary traits in my opinion. I prefer a woman who can nurture (after all the whole point is to get married and have a family so if she doesn't have the traits to do that, it would defeat the purpose of the relationship (I'm not looking for just sex after all). Loyalty obviously is a must because you don't want her cheating on you or abandoning you and you want to have a woman who is in your corner (it helps motivate you). Feminine also factors into that as well. Those are the generic traits for me that I look for in a girl (obviously you have to have compatible values and a personality (a sweet girl that you can't talk to isn't going to work), but those are the basics.

[hahahmm]

Loyalty
Modesty - a guy may think it’s hot if you dress slutty but the fact is you’re doing it to attract male attention which goes against Loyalty. So there’s a line somewhere & some guys know where that line is. They tend to be the guys who don’t settle for bs.
Empathy - nobody likes a cold hearted girlfriend.
Stays in her lane - if you want to act like a man, including competing with your man, it’s not going to work.
Be pleasant to be around - a relationship isn’t all about you. Just because you’re depressed doesn’t mean you have the right to be a debbie downer in a relationship. See a therapist.

Lastly, if you want a dude who is a provider type, don’t even think about being entitled to stuff. Guys can enjoy giving to someone who is humble. We despise greed and rudeness

[TripleAce]

lol, there's actually quite a bit that goes into a girlfriend material type of girl
because its easy to fall into the sex pile and the many other piles that exist out there

if she's too hot, like too high of a sex appeal, your first instinct is to wanna have sex with her... so it's not always about being the hottest or best looking, no

1. Down to earth
2. cute, sassy
3. Has imperfections she's willing to share or show
4. clingy, id say a quality clingy level 3 at least
5. A bit needy
6. sexy enough that you wanna fondle her
7. Has a personal scent that turns you on

[bimmy5000]

Someone who is there for you, good or bad. Someone whom you trust with things personal and intimate, and that they can trust the same to you. Someone cute, someone fun, witty, sharp and fun, and especially kind. She shares a lot of the same interests but has many of her own she likes to engage in.

I'd like it if she was a bit extroverted (I'm an introvert) and is adventurous. Being a nerd is a big plus for me (I love table top games). There is a lot I'd consider as girlfriend material it can kinda go on.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

What makes a girl , girlfriend material is one who likes to smile,
laugh, joke in good way, take walks holding hands, cuddle , share
kisses. I don't like a girl who talks sexual unless we are married
and in the mood for that type of talk and i would be okay with it
but i would also be okay if she preferred not to talk sexual. I believe
all girls /woman should be treated like a Lady. I am 100% against
any guys who try to abuse Women and i do support Women's rights
i believe the Woman should come first along with her Children and
he should place himself last.

[Ayer93]

There's something called the similarity and familiarity attraction effect in psychology. People are drawn to people that have similar interests & hobbies, beliefs & values, humor, share a sense of communication, etc. We also feel closer to people that give us a familiar feeling to our life's peers and experiences we've had. Physical attraction is only important initially to attract someone and keep them interested long enough to get to know you, but once you spend time with someone and feel that sense of similarity and familiarity you develop a spiritual connection with them. Love is not instant. "Love at first sight" is a phrase for "Lust".

Anyways... you get it... similarity and familiarity.

[kingakuto]

That's a very subjective question, first it'll be weather the girls physical attributes attract, then it'll be what other factors such as world view, intellect and just generally the girls personality because at the end of the day most guys won't waste their time on a girl, who may look good but has a shitty personality.

[holograph]

Nice person, some shared interests that we enjoy doing with each other, and similar/compatible life goals. When I first start dating someone I don't know the answers to these questions, or at least not as well as I'd like, so those are the kinds of things that I'd evaluate.

Honestly by far the most important thing is that you she is nice and is pleasant to be around.

[holograph]

meant there to be a slash between "you" and "she", in case that was confusing. sorry.

[Aethereal]

For me, someone who is girlfriend material is:
- Feminine
- Has compatible values and/or interests
- Intelligent i. e. has, and can logically defend opinions; and is also prudent.
- Considerate and compromising (and expects the same from me).
- Introverted (quality over quantity in relations with people).