Guys: In your opinion, what makes a girl "girlfriend material"?

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Nblair96 · Accepted Answer

In relationship two people give a part of themselves for the whole. She has to put down the walls, be confident in herself, no guy wants to be a crutch to a woman. Being kind, understanding and knowing that us guys sometimes have our rough days which will make you see the testosterone lol. Just leave us be if we don’t want to talk, don’t worry we will talk to you eventually about it just not right this second. She has to be reasonable and if she genuinely likes us she’s expected to do some of the chasing too and chase back. Love and support us pretty much, that’s all it takes

Nayrr · Accepted Answer

Goofy, intelligent, beautiful, ambitious. Loves to help others. She pushes me to do the best I can. Gives the sweetest kisses, the best snuggles and says the most soothing things. Doesn't enable my fear of my emotions, and helps me talk things through. Communicates very well, gets needy when she's sick. The cutest facial expressions. Oh, and she has a great sense of humor.

I value her insight on everything and look forward to every memory we make with each other.

Intraluminal · Answer

I see this question over and over, and it's based on a basic misunderstanding. It is NOT some superior quality in a girl that makes her "girlfriend material" instead of "ONS material."

A guy who's looking for one-night-stands, looks at ALL girls as ONS. A guy that looking for "a girlfriend" is looking at all girls as potential girlfriends. It is the qualities inside the GUY, not the girl, that makes the difference.

It *is* true that a girl can, through her actions, prove to a guy looking to date, that she is NOT girlfriend material, but that does not mean that she can prove through her actions that she *is* girlfriend material to a guy who's not looking for a girlfriend.

If you have trouble understanding the difference think of this analogy.

There are two girls, each running a food stall. One girl is selling full meals. The other sells snacks.

Two guys come along. One guy is hungry and looking for a meal. The other isn't particularly hungry, and just wants a snack.

What can the "full meal" girl do to make the "snack guy" eat a full meal? NOTHING. If she lowers her prices *enough*, he'll buy the "full meal" instead of the snack, BUT he's not going to *eat* the "full meal" he'll just snack on it and throw the rest away.

On the other hand, the guy who's looking for a "full meal" will buy lots of snacks to make a "full meal" if the snack girl offers them.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Sweet, loyal, feminine. Those are the primary traits in my opinion. I prefer a woman who can nurture (after all the whole point is to get married and have a family so if she doesn't have the traits to do that, it would defeat the purpose of the relationship (I'm not looking for just sex after all). Loyalty obviously is a must because you don't want her cheating on you or abandoning you and you want to have a woman who is in your corner (it helps motivate you). Feminine also factors into that as well. Those are the generic traits for me that I look for in a girl (obviously you have to have compatible values and a personality (a sweet girl that you can't talk to isn't going to work), but those are the basics.

hahahmm · Answer

Loyalty
Modesty - a guy may think it’s hot if you dress slutty but the fact is you’re doing it to attract male attention which goes against Loyalty. So there’s a line somewhere & some guys know where that line is. They tend to be the guys who don’t settle for bs.
Empathy - nobody likes a cold hearted girlfriend.
Stays in her lane - if you want to act like a man, including competing with your man, it’s not going to work.
Be pleasant to be around - a relationship isn’t all about you. Just because you’re depressed doesn’t mean you have the right to be a debbie downer in a relationship. See a therapist.

Lastly, if you want a dude who is a provider type, don’t even think about being entitled to stuff. Guys can enjoy giving to someone who is humble. We despise greed and rudeness

TripleAce · Answer

lol, there's actually quite a bit that goes into a girlfriend material type of girl
because its easy to fall into the sex pile and the many other piles that exist out there

if she's too hot, like too high of a sex appeal, your first instinct is to wanna have sex with her... so it's not always about being the hottest or best looking, no

1. Down to earth
2. cute, sassy
3. Has imperfections she's willing to share or show
4. clingy, id say a quality clingy level 3 at least
5. A bit needy
6. sexy enough that you wanna fondle her
7. Has a personal scent that turns you on

bimmy5000 · Answer

Someone who is there for you, good or bad. Someone whom you trust with things personal and intimate, and that they can trust the same to you. Someone cute, someone fun, witty, sharp and fun, and especially kind. She shares a lot of the same interests but has many of her own she likes to engage in.

I'd like it if she was a bit extroverted (I'm an introvert) and is adventurous. Being a nerd is a big plus for me (I love table top games). There is a lot I'd consider as girlfriend material it can kinda go on.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

What makes a girl , girlfriend material is one who likes to smile,
laugh, joke in good way, take walks holding hands, cuddle , share
kisses. I don't like a girl who talks sexual unless we are married
and in the mood for that type of talk and i would be okay with it
but i would also be okay if she preferred not to talk sexual. I believe
all girls /woman should be treated like a Lady. I am 100% against
any guys who try to abuse Women and i do support Women's rights
i believe the Woman should come first along with her Children and
he should place himself last.

Ayer93 · Answer

There's something called the similarity and familiarity attraction effect in psychology. People are drawn to people that have similar interests & hobbies, beliefs & values, humor, share a sense of communication, etc. We also feel closer to people that give us a familiar feeling to our life's peers and experiences we've had. Physical attraction is only important initially to attract someone and keep them interested long enough to get to know you, but once you spend time with someone and feel that sense of similarity and familiarity you develop a spiritual connection with them. Love is not instant. "Love at first sight" is a phrase for "Lust".

Anyways... you get it... similarity and familiarity.

kingakuto · Answer

That's a very subjective question, first it'll be weather the girls physical attributes attract, then it'll be what other factors such as world view, intellect and just generally the girls personality because at the end of the day most guys won't waste their time on a girl, who may look good but has a shitty personality.

holograph · Answer

Nice person, some shared interests that we enjoy doing with each other, and similar/compatible life goals. When I first start dating someone I don't know the answers to these questions, or at least not as well as I'd like, so those are the kinds of things that I'd evaluate.

Honestly by far the most important thing is that you she is nice and is pleasant to be around.

Aethereal · Answer

For me, someone who is girlfriend material is:
- Feminine
- Has compatible values and/or interests
- Intelligent i. e. has, and can logically defend opinions; and is also prudent.
- Considerate and compromising (and expects the same from me).
- Introverted (quality over quantity in relations with people).

Madhatter920 · Answer

Well, I guess it's how she conducts herself. If she seems genuine, kind, funny, cute. As other guys have said, if a girl is "too sexy" your mind will go straight to sex, where relationship wasn't even considered. A relationship can still happen, but it's not really what you're thinking about early on. It's the other stuff that makes you want them to be your girlfriend. How comfortable you are with them and how much you enjoy being around them, even when sex isn't on your mind.

Spiritwander · Answer

A signed affidavit by the President of Earth, stating *explicitly* that I have the right to date his daughter without legal or economic sanction, irregardless of the outcome of said interactions or lack thereof.
😅🤣 (Sorry, I had to...)😂

(Besides, you girls make guys guess to drive our intelligence; it's good to keep you guessing...)😉

ScholaryTeen · Answer

Number one characteristic: easy to communicate with.
She speaks in straightforward terms. "Says what she means and means what she says."

Number 2: physical attraction.
While it is not the most important factor, there is a minimum threshold of attractiveness for a woman to be a candidate to be a partner. This threshold -as well as what constitutes attractive- is different for everyone.

Number 3: sense of humor
If you are a stick in the mud, don't bother applying.

DevilsAdvocator · Answer

Nowadays, nothing. Might as well ask "what makes a horse a magical unicorn?" It's all well and good saying that "it has a single horn in the middle of its forehead, and it's magical"; but when it doesn't exist, and it only exists in the realms of fiction, then what does it matter? It doesn't.

jgokgotit · Answer

She is a nice person but stern when she needs to be. Not a pushover but not an asshole. She is supportive of me and I am of her. We share the same or similar morals. We enjoy each other's presence. She is my best friend but understands I have other friends and accepts them for who they are without judgement as I am expected to do for her and her friends. Basically if I see a small glimmer of marriage potential and want to know her better to see if that pans out.

AndrewMG · Answer

It changes as each year passes, I think I reached a peak at 24 where pretty much "girlfriend material" involved them passing an exam and getting through a highly intensive interview to qualify for the job... now I feel I'm only 10 years away from an active pulse being the definition of girlfriend material lol

EnocV · Answer

Very complex.. but for me the fact that she support me.. love me.. and take care of me is enough... Her character should be good... Perfection doesn't exist.. besides that you should look into yourself too.. if you're good enough for her.. you can't expect someone to love you unconditionally and do everything for you and you do nothing for her or him...

Avicenna · Answer

Compatible in terms of personality and interests, doesn't have substance abuse or financial problems, no serious emotional issues, is fun to be around, great personality and treats others well. Has time for me.

PositiveNote · Answer

Girlfriend material... Someone you can hang out with doing things you both enjoy. Sex or no sex... you enjoy being together because you have a lot of things to share with each other.

BestUserName100 · Answer

Not slutty or ever been/hints at it or anything. I don’t want someone with that used up rep. To painful to think about and people will always be trying to get with them because they know they are easy.

Leoteal67 · Answer

Girlfriend material is more than Just being a charmer, or attractive, but a chemistry, vulnerability and curiosity, emotional presence, curiosity (about him), and Adaptablility, in my opinion...

markscott · Answer

Nice personality, cares about people. Forgiving, good moral standards, intelligent, good sense of humor, has direction in her life, trustworthy, honest.

Cj_Shway · Answer

Main: (You've peaked interest/something casual) Attractive Not a bitch Secondary:(more serious) I genuinely enjoy having you around/ in my life Bonuses: anything else

The_Dean · Answer

- Caring - Soft and sweet with a fiery side to her - A selfless heart - Not an alcoholic - Not a drug-addict - Not jealous - Not possessive This list could go on for me... I'm picky as hell.

BeastDon34 · Answer

Tbh, itll be different for all guys. But for me, the girl had to be understanding, understanding that I've been though a lot of past relationship trauma, and that its gonna take a while before im able to easily open up to her, and that she's going to have to earn my trust rather than me giving it out for free. And after i get comfortable, i tend to get real attached. Tbh over the years, I've just learned im high maintenance 🤷🏽‍♂️

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

1. Being respectful to others
2. Having morality
3. Love of family
4. Pretty and likes dresses
5. knowledgeable on a particular subject/s
6. Passionate about something that isn't "Friends" or "The Office"

Truthatanycost · Answer

The first step is that they have never taken part in any form of hookup / hookup culture. If that's not the case then nothing else matters...

Sevenpointfive · Answer

if she only has eyes for you. when you know deep in your heart that you feel the same way about each other and never let each other forget it. but that's only before i talk to her usually.

loveslongnails · Answer

Brains for one, we're aligned on certain basics, looks great with AND without make up, positive attitude, a kind and generous heart, AND a voracious sexual appetite that's not vanilla !! Know anyone like that? :)

SjE78 · Answer

honesty, loyalty, sense of humour, understanding and kindness/caring nature, someone you can have a laugh with without fearing treading on eggshells

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