Guys, what makes a girl "wife material" or "girlfriend material"?

[Anonymous]

[CaptainOverthink]

Firstly, what goes you goes for me.
We're even and equal to the degree that we can be. That's not to say we're always 50/50 but compensating 70/30 sometimes and aiming to understand eachother.

Well, obviously be your true self first.
Boil it down to your core values.

Wife material for me would be..
- You have a mindset which is to work on issues and not just move on at sight of trouble.
- The understanding that a marriage or otherwise long-term-commitment will require more effort as time goes, not less.
- Be honest and willing to tell me the good/bad/ugly.
- Be fun, loving and serious. Balance is everything.
- With children we should be united that it's about giving the right lessons for the future. Sometimes we'll have to go against our instincts. It's not a puppy.

But like.. obviously we can't have everything. And time rarely allows it anyhow. Sometimes we get what we get. We'll compensate and learn to improve.

As I understand it, we think about how we want our partnership to be and then figure out who you want to be to your partner. Get to the bottom of what type of life you want to live at the bare minimum.
And be honest about your aim when you meet people. The ones not willing to give you that will weed themselves out quicker with honesty.
And I know it's hard when feelings are strong and blinding but salt everything with a bit of rationality.

Glhf..

[Lionman95]

The ability to show appreciation to the things we do for women like you don´t need to do much but speaking out loud that we helped you if we did or you get something that you didn´t expected either in a positive or sometimes also in a negative way can help us a lot understand you better.
Besides that it´s general the ability that a guy can build up a connection to you for the most in an emotional way like but also through an activity that you both enjoy like a hobby or an interest.
That way he has an ability to put a foot in the door to your life so to say and vice versa.

[Avicenna]

Wife material = I want to have kids with her and she has no dealbreakers
girlfriend material = she has a good enough personality and enough in common with me to want to spend time together. Not or not yet someone I'd want to have kids or joint finances with.

[Finchie40]

Honestly , loyalty and knowing how to remove selfishness , sweet and caring , and knows how to make her man feel wanted and respected , when she can make her man a priority over anyone else she is a keeper

[OlderAndWiser]

Who should you date; who should you marry?

[Anonymous]

I think wife material is someone I can't picture myself without. Someone i can picture myself sitting on a porch with in our sunset years watching our grandkids play in our yard. Some who will be my partner in crime but will also tell me when I'm making a mistake. Our humor needs to jive as well. I think the other aspect is balance. Is she different enough from me that we can share different perspectives and be okay to disagree or is she me in woman form? Because if she's me in woman form then that will only leads to problems in the future. At the end of the day I want to be able to hold hands and go for a walk and share our lives with one another no matter how old we are.

[Anonymous]

To me, there is no "material". Every woman has the potential for either, depending on what I want and am looking for at the time. I think "material" is a word that's used to shift the "blame" towards her (or their insecurities?)? And same with girls towards guys.

[legalboxers]

loyalty.. love. someone who has your back.. someone who is there for you. who messages you in the morning to check up on you, someone who randomly messages you (the same shit we do for y'all.. but 10 fold)

[virtue2332]

Someone that is great at communicating thier needs and is capable of changing and and adapting to the needs of the relationship. Bonus if your sex drives are compatible it does matter

[exitseven]

She made me feel comfortable is about the best way I could describe it.

[bamesjond0069]

Girlfriend and wife got to cook clean submit be attractive... the thing that makes them different...

Virginity really.

[theabbie]

If she actually enjoys being with you and share her happiness with you, she's a wife material, if she doesn't have anything to gain from you but tries to make you feel good, she's girlfriend material.

[Anonymous]

Not being liberal, willing to earn an income and okay with my vices

[Sam_25]

Nothing can make girls wife or girlfriend material...✌️

[Anonymous]

What does that even mean?

[Asker]

I think it's meant to be, "how do you know you want to marry a girl or date her?"

[LazerBean]

You don't know what you want out of a wife?

[Opinion Owner]

@LazerBean No idea at all. I see things like even dating as too problematic.

[LazerBean]

Then the question isn't for you.

[baserunner611]

Sweet and want kids