Would you ever date a girl that cuts herself?

[Anonymous]

I guess the title pretty much says it all...

[blahblahblah7489]

If your worried about someone not wanting to date you because you cut yourself, then here's what I would do.

Don't let them know that at first. Wait until you have a relationship that's going great to where you can open up to them. Something like cutting yourself is not something you should just let out on the first date. After a few months of dating is when I would tell them. If they truly love you, they'll accept that and try to help.

Now, if the person your interested in already knows you cut yourself, and doesn't seem to want to date you, then that person isn't worth it at all.

Now, about cutting yourself. You've probably heard it many times, but it's just not healthy. One of the reasons people cut themselves is because they need to feel better, and when you cut yourself, the pain makes a hormone called endorphins, or the "happy hormone", release into your brain, making you feel better. You know what else has that healthy hormone? Chocolate. I advice that whenever you want to cut your self, eat a chocolate bar. But don't keep doing that cause that's not always healthy either(: But I would just honestly tell your parent or guardian. And if they are the cause, then tell a school counselor. And if your school doesn't usually care about cases like that, try to go to a teacher or friend you can trust. Maybe the teacher or counselor can talk to your parents about seeing a doctor.

Whatever your going through, remember everyone was made just the way they are. Everyone has beauty in them, and there is always gonna be someone who sees that in you. Keep your head held high and stay strong. You have a long life ahead of you, no need to waste it. (:

[dragonxlli]

Felt if you eat the choco bar instead of cutting, your just gonna want to cut more because of the self esteem, nd then eat more choco, nd it just becomes a vicious cycle.

[Starchild96]

Hey, I know I'm not a guy, but I wanna thank you for asking this question when I wasn't brave enough :)

Thanks so much!

[smallz660]

I hope you realize that cutting is a problem and you should stop. Life is so much better when you decide to like yourself more. I have pretty high self esteem and I don't think its that difficult of a thing to obtain. Having self esteem is not about thinking your better than everyone else, its about appreciating yourself for who you are and working towards always being better even when you have some faults. Taking positive, constructive steps to solve your problems will work out much better for you in the long run than cutting yourself to find some sort of temporary relief.

I would be open to dating someone who cuts herself because people who cut often do not realize how great they truly are. I would try to explain to a girl everything I just said in the hopes of getting her to stop cutting. However, I know that it's pretty unrealistic to expect other people to change for you so if she was still cutting herself and always down about everything I would stop wasting my time.

[Riah92]

Getting self esteem can be very difficult for someone who say, was bullied for years and was constantly told they were ugly, or fat, or stupid, or useless. After hearing those kinds of things for so long, you start to believe it, and it's extremely difficult to convince yourself otherwise. But I agree that cutting is not the solution.

[cavalon88]

Yes... but I would hope with my love, support & affection she would loose the desire/need/compulsion to continue doing that to herself.

[Anonymous]

Hell no. I do not associate myself with people so weak minded that they allow comments from randoms in the world make them have the urge to mutilate themselves. They are attention whores and have autism in its purist form. They might as well carry arpund a bonzi tree, for maybe then they can return to the world the oxygen they have stolen.

[Anonymous]

if I knew before hand most likely not because it may turn into to much baggage. I want a girl who respects herself. But if I found out after we were dating for a while then I would stay with her and try to help as long as it does not get to bad.

[Anonymous]

yes, I'd love to protect such a girl. I'd be strong for her and take her pain away.

[xperience]

nope. I would get help for her tho