Have you ever dated your boss/superior at work?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Did they promise you some kind of perks or reward, or it was genuine affection?

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If you did, it was worth it or only caused problems?

[AmandaYVR]

Sort of. Not my boss per se, but a manager (there were more than one) and the company policy was very strict on not allowing this, so he was a bit nervous about anyone finding out. But we were both very discreet. And I liked that. I like secrets. And illicit things. (I don't care if somebody deems something inappropriate - it only matters what I think about it. But yeah, it's kind of hotter if something has to be kept on the down low. I never tell.)
And p. s I had fantasies about a couple of other owners who I worked for, at different companies. Used to dream about them sometimes. Those were great dreams.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Don't worry.
I too understand that it's often deemed and may even be inappropriate, but in the end that kind of things are what thrill us the most.

[AmandaYVR]

🧐 You know.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Eh...

[WhiteShoulder]

Yes. Once. Genuine affection.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

You are way better than me...

[spartan55]

Good God no, that's frowned upon in most US workplaces.

[Juxtapose]

I would, seems hot to have that power dynamic.

[Anonymous]

No, I have never dated my boss, and I would never do that. I think it'd be lack of standard because dating a boss or superior is very likely going to be messy: People talk will talk, rumor will spread, the boss may start giving raises for the fact that the subordinate slept with him/her, the subordinate would not be recognized and/or rewarded for his/her professional skills, etc.

[Opinion Owner]

Same way that I don't and won't date a professor or coach if I was a student (although I did date a professor who was 31 after I had finished his semester, but on first date found that my mental age could be older).

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I understand.
My girlfriend used to be my high school tutor and she too waited for me to graduate before we started dating.

[happyxzmeal]

I feel bad for saying this.
I have never been in such a situation, but I have fantasized about it. I'm sorry, but it sounds hot in my head

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Don't worry.

[lovedejj_xo]

Nooo! I’ve had a boss legit ask me for nudes and was super inappropriate. He’s also hooked up with a married women at work and her husband brought it to the office and they both got in trouble but weren’t fired. But he’s “known” to do dumb crap like that and he’s gross. I don’t work there anymore and he’s hooked up with more than half the office.

[Twenty2]

Why wasn't he removed?

[lovedejj_xo]

Hard to get rid of him plus not enough true evidence I don't know honestly either way I left I wasn’t dealing with it

[Twenty2]

Don't you have the texts where he asked for nudes?

[lovedejj_xo]

I didn’t say anything. But yea I did I have the text of him asking me to come over his place as well. I wasn’t getting labeled or ruining my career... I left.

[Twenty2]

WoW! What job did you do there? Just curious.

[lovedejj_xo]

Child protection social worker

[Twenty2]

LoL 🤣 thank you tho.

[lovedejj_xo]

What’s funny... but ok

[Twenty2]

Such a noble profession and such an asshole in it!

[pleasestopthis]

No, it's not appropiate in my opinion. People may start saying I'm taking advantage or getting favors in exchange for sex. It also turns ugly if they break up and still have to see each other.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

True. It's not worth it in the end.

[Stan83]

Nope
When I had superiors I have never seen them as a male or a female. It has never been about seduction because there were for me like asexual people.
It’s just a state of mind to get work and private separated.

[On_cloud_wine]

Nothing good comes out of it but better pay and promotion until you get caught and people get fired or relocated and whoever ends up staying is supported with lots of “love and admiration” to the point that you just quit.

[Anonymous]

I am kinda fuck buddies with my boss.
He always clocks me in and out even tho I'm almost 30 min late and leave 1 hour early.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

... lol

[Opinion Owner]

Ya lol His 46 married with 5 kids. but i kinda like his.
His oldest daughter my age.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I understand

[devilman666]

Sp basically you're a prostitute on the side so that you dont have to work as much? Cause what I am getting from this is that you use sex to get an extra hour and a half to two hours off of work. So you're paid for the sex in time off.

[devilman666]

Seems like a shitty deal to me, you should quit and just threaten to tell his daughters about the affair, force him to pay for everything you want, it's what he gets for being a piece of shit.

[Opinion Owner]

Well he bought me my house my car and takes me shopping on the weekends so no i ain't ganna quit

[devilman666]

So you basically do prostitution?

[Opinion Owner]

No i don't i work in his company

[WhiteShoulder]

You’re a sugar baby. No judgment. Just saying.

[Opinion Owner]

I guess lol I like it

[WhiteShoulder]

Have fun girl

[musicbrain5]

No I haven’t. I think that’s just asking for trouble - it’s too risky and if things don’t work out, it can be a disaster. My current boss is a woman anyways.

[Moonchild714]

Yes, I thought itvwas genuine but when things came out he was reprimanded and I was Fired. I was told it's best for the company if we part ways.

[scotty01]

That’s always the excuse you get when they want to cover up shit that they know they did wrong.

[scotty01]

I also believe he should of kept you on regardless

[Moonchild714]

I found out later on in years I wasn't the first or the last. He's still getting away with it.

[WhiteShoulder]

@Moonchild714 😢😢😢

[LingyRolls]

Never dated, but I've teased my bosses in the past.

[WhiteShoulder]

How did they react?

[LingyRolls]

They loved it, lol

[bklynbadboy1]

@LingyRolls Just out of curiosity how did you tease him was it something obvious that he'd notice and know that your teasing or was it more discreet

[LingyRolls]

It was obvious. I will make sexual comments or jokes.

[bklynbadboy1]

Lol cool

[Avicenna]

I'd never do that. I have had some female bosses, but it never even crossed my mind.

[Ripper_E]

I would have loved to. She was 7 years older than me.

[TacosRAwesome]

Technically but we dated and then I made the mistake of working for him during the relationships

[Anonymity123999]

I've never been attracted to a boss but if we had a connection and mutual attraction for each other I would but would probably change jobs if it got serious.

[Mommy95]

Yes actually but we were dating before hand sooo yeah

[Mommy95]

@FloridaBeachBum1213
Well no but I prefer it to be 7" or bigger

[midnightmoon05]

No, and I told him - keep it professional.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

The best idea

[chico800]

I wanted to, once. But I didn't know how to pull it off.

[FlutteringFeelings]

I don’t mix business with pleasure. I learned the hard way and never again.

[crazy8000]

Nope.
Prefer to not mix those two together.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

That's the best idea.

[soleil2666]

Yeah, felt something, and we both ran from it/each other, waaaaaay too risky in the environment it was in!