Have you ever dated a co-worker?

[beebella]

How did that work out for you?

I have and it didn't work out for me

I have and it worked out fine for me

I've never dated a co-worker

[dangerDoge]

No, I have not. Apart from the "bad idea" I think it is in regards to dating a coworker, my coworkers have pretty much always been different age groups to where it would be weird.

When I was in high school, I was interested in a girl at my school, so I pretty much turned blinders on at that point and didn't have much interest in anyone else. In college, I took a part time job at within fast food. I didn't have any interest in the people at the job though, since most were high schoolers.

With my current job, it's in computer science as a software developer. When I was in training (which was a group of around 20 people initially), there were about 2 girls. In other words, it was a 'sausage fest' lol. While the 2 girls were somewhat around my age, I simply wasn't interested in them. I was busy mentally thinking off years of my life trying to cram as much programming knowledge as I could as to not get fired haha. Now on my current position, I'm the youngest in my work group by about 15 years at minimum, it's remote/somewhat international, and I don't have any romantic interest whatsoever in any of my coworkers.

[LeoElias]

I never dated a coworker but i don't see the harm in it other than having gossip in the work place about the dating. Its hard to meet people, at least for me. I think finding someone at work is better than finding someone on a dating app. Before the dating can actually develop, if both people talk about what they are looking for like a hook up or something serious and they find out they aren't looking for the same things then they can end it and it's not a big deal. That's how I feel.

[Coulis]

I marroed two coworkers.

The first one was a disaster.

The second has ended in divorce but I don't regret the relationship.

I don't get why people are so terrified of dating your co-workers. When you work with someone you can judge a lot about their character by seeing the way that they approach their work.

You can see their work ethic. How dedicated they are to starting something and finishing it. The way that they treat people. How they handle different delicate social situations. It's just data overload when it comes to seeing what this person's character truly is.

I didn't vote because none of the answers apply to me.

[AmandaYVR]

Yep and I think overall they're quite a lot of fun. You have to be mature enough (both of you) you to manage the situation well, discreetly, not let it ruin it being your place of income, but given that we spend so much of our time at work, is it any wonder it's such a common place to meet people.
Overall, I didn't regret it (more than once.)

[jennifer_bloom]

I liked a co worker but he would not date me because he was afraid it would cause him
to get fired.

[Shiro_Neverland]

I dated this one girl at the hospital I worked at. I was in a group with about 5 people and we worked, hung out outside of work, etc. She was very pretty, friendly like me, and a special sense of humor like I do and I ended up making a move on her after being around her for a long time.
We dated for about 8 months and within a solid 6 of those months i lost interest. Long story short and in the most respectful way possible, I found her boring. I also realized we didn't have anything in common in terms of hobbies, and the relationship felt bland which made me realize it's kind of how it always was it you take the "first months of relationship lovestruck" out of the equation. It broke my heart to see her cry right next to me after severing ties because I wasn't able to figure out why I was feeling that way. I just knew that I couldn't of strung her along knowing that I'm not in it for the long run and everything in between.
But. I am glad that it helped me figure out who I want as a lifelong partner.
But I guess moral of the story for OP is to make sure they're actually your type and not influenced solely upon the vibe around your peers.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't recommend it. There's a female coworker whom I became friends with a long time ago. We never really "dated" but I asked her out all the time. For some reason, she still sticks around. She comes to talk with me or we stop and chat in the hallways. We also do things for each other outside of work. Some of our conversations are flirty and playful. I really like her and I feel like she likes me but she would never open that door to me. Life went on. I got married. She became friends with my wife, too. But it's uncomfortable at work because people think she and I share an inappropriate relationship. At some point she realized this and cut off all contact with me. Losing her friendship without explanation was hard. And seeing the conflict in her every day at work just wasn't worth the pain.

[Nmalinova]

Definitely! It ended up being serious so we both left the same workplace and got married! Now we work in different places and are happy about it! It was nice and exciting, but the jealousy and distraction that comes with it are not cool (when it gets serious)

[Anonymous]

I've kissed a coworker/friend and had sex with one technically. I wouldn't recommend it. Tbh, only negatives came from it. I felt like I rushed the process and even tho we're cool. I know I don't want anything from it, because I don't vibe with him romantically.

So in the end, I killed a friendship just to find out he wasn't for me like I thought he was. So I'll never be a close home girl anymore cause we've crossed that path.

And even if he wants something now. I don't, so I don't advise it. Not worth it honestly.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t dated a co-worker but we were getting to know one another. It was 5 years ago and I would always stick to the good ol saying “Never mix business with pleasure.” He ended up quitting and I worked late and he would stop by my job during break and we would talk next to his car. It was actually quite funny because he would make silly jokes about my Mitch matching socks so I tried chasing him down in the parking lot.


It didn’t last because my desires and beliefs didn’t align with his. I had to end it all and it wasn’t a pretty sight. It’s 2021 now and of course I’ve new faces along the way but that doesn’t stop him from messaging me. Oh brother.

[yoyoyoyoyoyoyoyoyo]

I've always made it a moral self restriction to refuse dating coworkers.

I don't want professional and personal relationships to get in the mix.

I feel like in doing so my personal life can get in the way of my professional life, and I would hate if my professional life got in the way of my personal life.

I don't want to bring work home, and I would hate to bring any possible relationship issues to work.

[Starrisunset]

Yes. We worked in a factory together. Wasn't weird at work or anything but i think most of the factory managed to find out we were dating within a few days (it's kind of a small factory so word spreads fast). We didn't stay together long tho. About 6 months. We rushed the relationship and moved in together pretty quickly but things actually went downhill when we he got fired and we weren't working together anymore

[Dinklex3]

I don't recommend dating coworkers since it's "messy".
I did "hang out" with one and he became one of my best friends that I still talk to today.
There was another couple at my workplace and it was messy af though. They were like 21 though, pretty young.

[ArrowheadSW]

I have. This was over 20 years ago and if I had to do it over again, I would not have. It was one of the worst experiences in my life. She turned out to have issues and she made my job very uncomfortable and I eventually found another job and left.

[Browneye57]

Yes. Married her thirty years ago. I don't recommend it, for a LOT of reasons, but it does happen.
Usually one or the other will have to look for another job when it all blows up, which is surely will.
There's even a quip for this - Don't shit where you eat.

[Anonymous]

Not that i dated her but we ended up fucking outside of our work hours. When i began ignoring, she started telling everyone in the work place that we had been dating and was talking smack about me. Thats where i learned that you dont look for honey, where you make your money

[SphynxUK]

When I was young and stupid yes.
It wasn’t all bad, but I made a rule a long time ago never to do it again. I could think of nothing worse.
It’s unprofessional anyway…

[Jaximus-Lion]

I have and it worked so good, now married and have been together for 13 years. Co-workers, then we became friends, then best friends and after that it just got more delighted

[Static_In_The_Attic]

On the job I keep things professional & if I were to date a coworker & it didn’t workout working there would be a little awkward. On the other hand if she quits I would go on a date with her.

[xolaurenxx]

Yeah and i’d see him at work flirt with other girls but honestly i did not care. I just brushed it off. I was dating other people anyway so it didn’t phase me much. I can imagine if being a crazy day at work if i let it affect me though

[Rok4bakAR]

Don’t ever date people you work with!


I refuse to have sex with a hot Asian girl I work with.
I had many chances to do it.
I didn’t..


There are girls everywhere. That’s how men end up destroying themselves.

[ImSparkly]

…and women. Dad always said, don’t find your honey the same place you get your money.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Absolutely and years later I married her and have been together a total of 19 years. I think it is going ok lol

[Alwayreckles93]

Bad idea for one , It is against company policy's. Two , If things not end well it could end up in drama.

[Anonymous]

At the restaurants and bars I worked at pretty much everyone dated everyone else. At the gym I worked at it was a tiny bit less common, but still happened a lot. The guys were always dating the new girls and some of the girls dated the guys. I probably dated everyone there.

[AndrewMG]

Yay, to be fair I've never dated outside of friends/colleagues etc so it's either been girls I've studied with or girls I've worked with when it comes to dating. Blind dates/random hook ups/internet dating have never been my forte! lol

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Never dated a co-worker but had some pretty girls back then was around my age and one girl got pissed off at me cause I wouldn't give her a drink of tea and piece of chewing gum course back then I was age 16

[MCheetah]

No, even though one wanted to date me. She was a tall, rich white girl who had a coke addiction.

[Dreday906]

I've had coworkers that I was attracted to. But, I never pursued them because I'd rather date someone who I don't go to work with.

[cth96190]

Hell no!
Dating a female coworker will end in a trip to HR and unemployment, after she spergs out over something and decides to destroy the man’s life.
Never, never date a female coworker.

[Adam1978]

No I think it's a bad idea because it will become an professional issue. Both during but especially after.

[LeeannaDD]

7 years later We're married with 2 kinds and another due in September

[LeeannaDD]

Kids*

[Slartybartfast]

Dating a coworker, when I was 16 I knew better..

Never date a women you work, or go to school with.

[JHNS98]

@Slartybartfast Eh, wait. Where do you meet women then?

[Slartybartfast]

About ten minutes ago I was standing in line to pay for lunch and the women in line ahead of me bought my lunch.

School and work are off limits.

[JHNS98]

Your confidence is inspiring for sure

[Miristheiss]

Sure.
A couple of them. We went out about a month.
We didn't become an item. I haven't spoken to either in years.

[Ninani]

Not a co-worker, but I dated a guy from my gym class in gymnasium.

[TadCurious]

Bella I've never dated a co-worker. But I have dated people whom I met through my work. They just had different employers.
😊🙋‍♂️

[boggboss]

Currently am coming upto 5 years together although we work in the same workplace but not together

[bolverk]

Never have date a co-worker and never will, if you both get on well at work the it is not worth the possibility ruining it, going out together as friends for dinner is something else again.

[exitseven]

I worked at the same hospital that my wife did although in different capacities. It was sort of fun for a while.

[Interstate]

It lasted eight weeks then dumped on my like a Democratic Government.

[MotorcycleMan]

I dated my boss. I broke up with her and she fired me. lol

[Dchrls78104]

No, and it's not a good idea where I work; there's always some ex (and some child) in the picture, sex is trivialised, and in general people talk too much.

[NightOwl8801]

I wouldn't, came close to it but I didn't because I'm in a supervisor position and it's inappropriate

[Anonymous]

Sort of yes and a disaster. But I don't think the co-worker part was the issue in any way. We shouldn't have started dating (co-worker or not) to begin with.

[have_a_good_day]

I did it TWICE 🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️
I'll never do it again though 😅😅

[RingOfFire]

I have. It worked out fine but didn't last long. No sparks. But it wasn't a problem. We remained friends.

[NYCQuestions1976]

No, but I did take a coworker to my senior prom many years ago. She was 21, and got all of us beer afterwards. 😂

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope that's a rule of mine I don't shit where I eat. What if it doesn't work out then you still have to see that person everyday

[TwoowT]

Hell no! Things will get ugly and awkward at some point in the relationship

[Anonymous]

I have twice, but would never do it again. Sometimes the managers liked to pin us against each other, so I left.

[Shihab91]

I have never dated a co worker not because they were a coworker but i never have been attracted to any.

[Luckycharms12]

Nope seen it happen and got messy so said never would after that

[loveslongnails]

It didn't work out, but it had nothing to do with work.

[Massageman]

Sure. It was a nice year, and we broke up, but still remain "Christmas letter" friends.

[zagor]

I got obsessed with one, and it messed me up for a long time.

[jamesgoldman]

Yeah I did in my restaurant days
It was always a grand time with her

[Stevefiveo]

It worked out and if it ends you can still be friends.

[Still-alive]

I had a crush on one. Didn’t go well. She got arrested lol

[blondfrog]

No and I am glad I didn't. I've made a quicky shimmey shhimmey time with one though lol.

[SpaceGalaxy]

I have and it didn't work out well since we had to see each other daily after we broke up and it sucked!

[dolemite89]

yes but only at jobs i didn’t care that much about when i was younger, i wouldn’t date a coworker at a job i cared about

[Slim57]

I've mainly worked with all men except family and I'm straight so no

[Éhmîë]

I've not dated anyone yet not to mention a male co-worker

[Anonymous]

I had a massage therapist try it with me once. I said no because she did it in such a sleazy way. So sleazy it frightened me. To this day I regret that.

I guess her plan was to give me mild sexual activity before a session to make sure I saw her a lot. To keep it business. She would view this as 2 people enjoying each others company not sleazy behaviour.

Sadly they way she invited me was just unacceptable. I would gladly give her a second chance.

[JesseTheMan]

Yea. (She was decent bit older and it kinda worked out but kinda didn't and it's kinda funny lol)