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I have never done that. It sounds like a quick way to get awkward. If you break up then you still have to face each other... Everyday.
I have done this, but it became difficult on a personal level, and we mutually broke it off but we are still friends and colleagues.
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I once dated a co worker... he worked in produce and I worked as a barista in our grocery store. He asked me out while he was with his long term girlfriend... he then broke up with her and we started going out. We were kinda toxic and I think just wanted to experience each other while knowing it probably wouldn’t last. We were both so young and immature lol. After a few months he broke up with me and went back to his old girlfriend. We’d see each other at work and I’d sometimes tell him off but we always had this banter back and forth so it was more like a game to us. We continued to flirt at work despite not being together.. it has been 3 years since and we both work in different jobs. He lives with his girlfriend now but he still messages me randomly 💀 he says he thinks we could have had potential and he messed it up and regrets it all to this day 🙄 LOL. I wouldn’t want to date a coworker again though.. especially at a serious job. I wouldn’t want to be so distracted by all that drama. It just gets messy... but who knows
It's amazing how people can date someone from work & everything turns out great. There are people who work together have that type of life where everything is great. I don't know how they do it; it confuses the hell out of me.
I did once desired to date this one co-worker, but her life was far too complicated enough as it is. Even 1 of her friends was trying to get her & I together, but considering she got out of a 12 year relationship & all she could think about while she's not with her ex is... her ex & her ex alone. Even when I was with her & becoming close to her & hanging with her for about 5 to 6 months,... the topic of her ex was not going to & never going to leave her mind.
Once I had heard from her friend that her & her ex were already talking again. It was made very, very, VERY clear that I had no chance in hell with her whatsoever. Clearly those 2 were meant to be together by fate, & she's not part of the plan within my life. Why? ... all because she never looked at me that way (Go figure) and I'm probably not her type (no surprise there)
Even since she began talking to her ex again,... I just dropped all forms of communication from her & that was it.
So working with her within the same retail store just made things very awkward. She stayed clear away from me, & I stayed clear away from her. I left that job in 2013 to seek out better employment considering that job wasn't paying me enough as to what I needed. I see her once in a blue moon from a distance, but we keep our distance away. she doesn't talk to me, & I don't talk to her. Plain & simple. Her & I hung around together in 2012, I just quit talking to her in late 2012,... and her & I haven't spoken in 9 years.
I dated a coworker once. What I did not know was that both of us were in the running for the same promotion and this was a plan for her to get one over on me. Basically, we dated for about a month before she decided to give me an ultimatum: withdraw my name from contention or she would claim I raped her and it would be her word against mine. Not sure why she felt the need to try such a dirty tactic. She was damn good at her current job and I did not want the promotion in the first place and was already considering telling my boss I did not want the position, but after her stunt I decided to go for it just to deny her the position. She showed me she is unfit to be a leader. She also forgot that I was an NCO in the military and was used to games like the one she just tried to pull and took measures to protect myself. Before she had a chance to deliver on her threat, I went to HR and disclosed our relationship and what she told me. Also, I made sure to ALWAYS hang out with friends outside of work. About a week after my visit with HR, she pulled her stunt and I had my defense ready. I got the promotion, fired her, kept the position for 6 months, promoted one of my former colleagues and stepped back down into my previous role. This is why I NEVER date coworkers now.
Never had a problem with it.
I've dated more than my fair share of co-workers and it never caused problems after we separated. Mainly because I don't just jump right into the first woman that catches my eye. I talk to them first on a casual level to see if they have the traits I look for. If they do, then I ask them out.
I'm also a people person. I talk to everyone. People know my personality and what my standards are. If I'm asked a question I answer it honestly. If I'm seen talking to one woman on a regular basis I sometimes get a comment from other co-workers "You should ask her out, you two would make a cute couple."
Those that I have broken up with never caused any problems. We remain friends and still talk. A few even try to play matchmaker.
For me, it comes down to how you treat women. You respect them and their boundaries, treat them like a person, and there are no problems.
I don't generally date coworkers, but I was asked out by one. I agreed and then she flaked for reasons unknown to this day. Generally why I don't date coworkers, I don't like drama so when the drama is at your place of business their is little you can do to escape it. We are on friendly terms now, but I decided she didn't exist for a good month (because I have no patience for these things and will not hesitate to cut some one out who has shown themselves to be of low value and/or low character). It made things awkward.
I met him at work. The first day I met him, by the time I got back to my office he was calling to ask me out. He was bad boy!! We "saw" each other on and off for six years. (He left the company after one year of meeting me.) I was so happy when he got another job at another company. He used to flirt with the other ladies I worked with and ask them out. He was a real jerk!
Yeah, I dated a waitress in the restaurant I used to work in
I was punching well above my weight and it was great, the only tense moments were when I refused to let her spend £5,000 on a watch for me and my problems doing nail varnish (haven't touched it since, that was a little over 7 years ago now but have come close but she's the only real world person who knows and keeps me on track to avoid it)
She went to university towards the end of the year and we mutually parted ways because long distance wasn't going to work and are still friends
Dating a co-worker was one of the worst experiences in my life I must say. When it started, I thought she had the maturity to handle it even if it went south. Anyway, for her personal reasons from what was going on in her life at the time, she decided to end it. However, she gave me an incredibly hard time at work. I didn't "get it" as she broke it off with ME, but yet she took it out on me. None of this made sense and I guess she was taking her life's frustrations out on me. Anyway, I changed jobs as soon as a new job became available. Man it was an awful experience.
My wife is a co-worker, we dated, got married, been married for over a decade now and we still work at the same company together. At one point we were in the same department at the same level, but since then both have moved to different departments.
Before her I did date three other co-workers and there was never an issue, none of us wanted any rumors going around work. It also helped that there was a few hundred people there... and we were all too busy to talk on the clock.
Yes I have. Overall it wasn't an issue. We got to spend a lot of extra time together. More than we would have otherwise. Everyone knew we were together tho, so that made some people kinda nosey. They'd ask me a lot of questions about us and the relationship.
I don't recommend it, but I've seen several that have been successful and are still going.
Make sure both of you are mature about this and have that talk that if things go south, to handle it well and not get it in the way of work. Also be discrete about it at work and not tell anyone
Secondly, don't date someone in your department.
Not sure if this counts..
Way back around 16 or 17, I was working in a neighborhood supermarket as a cashier while going to HS.
one of the stock boys took me out a few times. I had no idea what dating means.
movies, ice skating, dinner… was fun but I was clueless, and didn’t show any reciprocations. he moved on and brought the new girlfriend to the supermarket, I said hi to her and still no idea…so it was not a problem.
maybe till my late 20s, my then husband and I were talking about relationship stuff… then looked back.. that was about dating a coworker, but I my mind, those were not dates. I was a late bloomer to the dating scene.
Twice around age 21-22.
I worked retail, I was in college, I dated a couple of co-workers.
Eh, I went out with each for month, it didn't go anywhere. The first one quit working there about half a year after we had gone out. The second girl... I started dating someone else and then I stopped working there.
I was a serial co-worker dater. I dated 3 at once during one summer. I'm the cautious type, so I never gave them any dirty little secrets that they could hold over me later.
I eventually stopped because they ended badly way more often than ending amicably.
Years ago I had a sexual relationship with an underling. We were both married and I was her direct superior. Afterwards I immediately told both of my business partners as it was a breach of ethics. It never really went anywhere, and we ended up firing her over another issue (employee theft nothing remotely related) shortly after.
I haven't and hopefully I won't. It's too complicated when the relationship goes wrong, my best friend is having a lot of troubled trying to let go because they still see each other every day.
I dated one and it lasted only eight weeks. It turns out she only wanted me to put out, and after about SIX weeks, when I wasn't opening my zipper she started making excuses to stay away because she didn't want to be bothered with me anymore.
That just seems like a recipe for disaster. I'm getting married in four months but if I was single, I would never date someone I work with. I feel like that just opens the door for things to get messy and I would hate for other co-workers to get involved in gossip in the event of a break-up. I try to keep my professional and personal life as separate as possible.
We married... thirty years ago.
They made me fire her. We argued too much in the office and made our co-workers uneasy.
I don't recommend it. There's even a quip for this..."Don't shit where you eat."
I have dated 2 co workers in the past. Both when I was back in my teens, they just fizzled out after a couple of weeks. Still had a good working relationship with both of them though.
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