So if I'm following your logic, correctly, when a man finds and marries his virgin, he should very rarely have sex with her. Maybe just save that for special occasions.
I think 4 times per year would be best. Anymore than that, and your're just going to end up creating your own "hallway," that you've spent years and years trying to avoid.
Or, maybe you can have sex with her everyday and multiple times per day, and just divorce her after you've wrecked her, and start over!
Yikes. I'm pretty conservative for myself when it comes to sexual relationships but this comes off really judgmental.
Wow! "Used"! My countryman use the term "old shoe" or "eaten".
But those are just words. I called them "experienced". And I think in the bedroom, experienced girls are more fun and gives more pleasure.
I don't think i would mind dating an experienced girl. Her sexual confidence should complement mine we should have a lot of fun. (Just need to make sure that she is disease free.)
They’re personalities will be off putting and they are dirty. The guy who doesn’t enjoy sleeping around and has no intentions of ever doing it will be completely turned off by the ones who do. They don’t like that lifestyle. They both probably be much happier with other people.
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i think most guys would prefer a " lightly used women or a moderately used women " most would only date an extremely used women if she was still crazy hot and so hot they didn't care , which might partly explain why she had so many sexual partners , marilyn monroe being a prime example , most guys at the time wouldn't of cared how many guys she had been with cause she was too hot
but often highly used women tend to be in there late 20's or 30's , have multiple tattoo's , might have kids by now , might even have been married and now divorced , tend to be less interesting as they get older
Hopefully they wouldn't date anyone judgmental. And if they did, they would use her and dump her even if she is a virgin. I would if I was a man to teach her a lesson about being disgusting about other people's choices.
There's nothing wrong with a woman having plenty of partners or none.
A virgin has no other man's semen or dna spirit in her. She can pairbond. After multiple partners she suffers from schizophrenia and psychosis due to inability to produce oxytocin anymore. She becomes unfeminine and combative. Stinky down there and full of a rotten attitude. Virgins are better all around you can train her how you want and even marry her. This is also why God said only a Virgin can be a wife, God looking out FR!
I chose to wait till marriage and would only commit to someone who did the same. I try to be nice if and when someone is interested but how do you tell people your not interested because they aren't virgins? No one takes kindly to that, and im not saying they are dirty people or need to be shamed I just have a very high standard I hold myself too as well.
This question seems to be less about the answer, and more about your own insecurity over being a virgin. You posed the question in such a way that begs people to validate you at the expense of others.
I am Virgin..
And honestly don't care..
As long as she doesn't has STD and isn't getting involved with other men besides me.. Without my acknowledgement
As a religious person dating someone who is a virgin is important to me. It's not a dealbreaker, but it's the ideal.
I wonder how many guys that VOTED A that aren't virgins themselves? I voted A and am a virgin.
@Anoniemus What was more irritating than anything is when a decade ago the girls at work a decade younger than me that liked me werent even virgins themselves. Then got upset when I said I dont date girls unles they are virgins.
They gets duped into having sex with the bad boys, then the good guys like me no longer care.
Women will lie and lie badly about being virgins.
Question makes age assumptions. At 16 you might prefer an inexperienced partner. At 64 I'd be very wary of a virgin in my age group; it would imply a serious problem.
THE MEN HAVE SPOKEN
Deep down you girls all know the truth... but most of ya decided to worship false gods and now you take their word for truth even though you've always known it to be false...
You’re an asshole towards your women gender. Lighten up.
This is about what men want in a woman. It is OK if a man wants a woman with few or no sexual partners. The number of sexual partners is a big deal to men when deciding whether or not to marry a woman (whether the man knows it or not), there are many evolutionary factors at play.
A high-quality man does not have to put up with a woman who has whored around, he has options that the whore does not.
Yes. We need to stop pretending that men and women are exactly the same but with different plumbing. Women bare and raise the children and men provide and protect. Women who figure this out early in their lives are MUCH happier than "modern" women who live the YOLO and GO GIRL lifestyle.
How am I wrong?
Look you are very attractive, but you are using your looks to attract alpha men for short-term pleasure which will sacrifice your long term happiness and options to be with a genuinely good and high-quality man.
What you are doing is a choice, it's like not saving for the future, eventually there is a price to be paid. The problem is that women are being lied to by being told "you can have it all". This is a total lie, no one can have it all (having it all means there is nothing left for anyone else --think about it).
If you spend your years of highest sexual market value whoring around, rather than finding a solid, good man with which to build a future, there is a real cost to this. Does this not make sense?
Dude, you don’t know anything about me. You are assuming all this crap about me. I have a serious boyfriend who is an amazing guy. Lighten up, dude. I’m actually a park ranger, I don’t wear makeup or go to clubs.
It’s kinda funny to see what you think of me simply based on a photo I took of myself 3 years ago.
My apologies, from your answers I thought you were a "defend double-digit" sexual partners kind of girl.
Dude, not cool. I still defend those women because even though I haven’t reached double digits, it’s no ones goddamn business. It’s also not ok the tell a woman what she is good for. Even though you apologized, I still want to punch you in the face for telling me that all I’m good for is having babies. Shame on you.
Well, too bad. Also, you need to get a grip on your anger issues, if I said I "want to punch you in the face" it would be considered abusive and a crime (if we were in a relationship) Biological fact: women bare children.
Men and women are not "equal", we are different. Men and women were put on this planet to COMPLIMENT one another, not complete with each other Another reason why women (like you) are so miserable.
Wow... were you abused by a women or something? Yes, men and women are different biologically, but that shouldn’t determine what people get to do with their lives. My beauty does NOT determine my worth, nor the amount of children I have. You are making many assumptions about me simply based on the fact that I believe I am free to make my own choices. Why do you think I am miserable? Because I don’t have children or married? And excuse me, but sexist men make me angry. Why do you think it is your business what to tell me what to do with my life? Do you often do this to women currently in your life? Are you from a country where 8 year old girls are married off to 60 year old men? And are you happy with your life? Please! I want to know what makes you better than me. No one is better than anyone else.
Don't be mad at me, be mad at mother nature and your own biology. If you want to rebel against your own biological imperatives, have at it.
Fair enough. If you weren't so angry and bitter I might actually be inclined to believe you.
Doesn't Really matter If you two have a Serious Bond.
Here is the point, women who have had many sexual partners clinically are less able to bond than women who have not. There is quite a bit of evidence to support that each sexual partner a woman has reduces her chances for a happy marriage and overall life satisfaction.
The evidence strongly supports "you can't turn a whore into a housewife".
I never want to date anyone. I just wish to remain single for life.
Virgin or lightly-used is what most guys want. The ones who say they want a slut, or the ones who say they don't care, are often lying.
You know what? Damn straight I'm gonna date a "USED" woman. Ya know who i wouldn't date? Someone that calls women or men that.
"Date" her yes, marry her, NO.
What i and would hope all men rather have a good woman the youth of today will only see a virgin in a book or storie form cause like tge dinosaurs they gone
Wow, OP is either an obvious troll, or an ass to people. Last time I checked, only non-living things could be "used".
Whores are used
It's all new to me. And if my penis ain't doing the job I sure the hell no my tongue will
Do you want to stick your tongue where 50 cocks have been? No thanks.
Here in the 21st century, outside of religious BS, most of us don't care
That maybe true, but women need to ask themselves why they have the lowest happiness in recorded history? Absolutely miserable women make for miserable men and miserable kids.
What we are doing as a society is not working.
So you equate women being happy with virginity?
Actually, yes. Women who have the fewest sexual partners prior to getting married have the highest chance of a successful marriage and long-term happiness. Sound crazy? Do some research, that data is all there.
Biased data, marriage isn't as popular as it once was and honestly that happiness factor is also impacted by family, society and the partners opinions making any kind of "data" small term and unreliable.
OK, use your own senses. Do modern women seem happy to you? Most modern women I know are absolutely miserable.
@KrakenAttackin Wait, you can't say "Do some research, that data is all there." and then back out of that by telling me use my own common sense, that's entirely different on a person-by-person basis. You know several unhappy women, I know just a few and even then it's their own fault. Unless they are wrapped up in some religious mindset then a woman being a virgin does not and never will equate to them being generally unhappy people UNLESS they have actual regrets... which is often pushed along by religion.
OK, let's flip this around. Do you think have more sex with more partners is conducive to a happy marriage later in life?
The old saying "you can't turn a whore into a house wife" is absolutely true.
I don't think it should matter. So what if a woman has banged tonnes of guys? She has chosen to settle with one person and only that one person, if that person becomes one of those people that is worried if they "measure up" to her past hookups then they either have a terribly judgmental personality, zero game or a tiny penis.
Not true at all. Also are you really claiming that a woman that has a lot of sexual experience is a whore? That's incredibly judgmental and a fantastic way to end up alone and bitter.
OK buddy, enjoy being the husband to a woman all your friends have fucked.
Enjoy being the guy that nobody wants to fuck
Wow, now a male is using the "incel" slight. Have you checked between your legs lately? I think you have sprouted a vagina.
Wrong gardening analogy there dude
Whores are for sex, virgins are for love and marriage.
I am old now, but I wish more men would insist upon "NO HYMEN, NO DIAMOND".
@Anoniemus It's a figure of speech. The idea is high-quality men do not want a woman who has had many sexual partners. High quality men have choices in women, ESPECIALLY as we get a little older. At age 29 you are at the absolute ragged edge of your sexual market value. Most men consider unmarried women who are 30+ to be damaged good.
I wouldn't consider those men high-quality anyway---more like low-value hypocrites if they believe like you do. And no, it wasn't a figure of speech: it pertains to the erroneous assumption of virgins.
I would not think you're the best to judge anyone on their market value especially when intelligence is part of it. No woman (young or old) would want a foolish man unless if they were to manipulate him. :)
@Anoniemus The facts refute everything you have said. Granted, you probably have been brainwashed by decades of liberal education that pushes you to whore around.
Do some research about number of sexual partners and women's happiness. The results are striking.
@Anoniemus How many sexual partners have you had?
I don't care as long as she's is attractive and well behaved.
Those two often don't go together.
I agree.
"Used"? Damn, thats biased af.
So you are comparing women to new or used cars?
I think that's the idea.
The real question is, would you date a condom?
I'd rather date a used woman personally
What? Why?
Experience, she knows what she likes
I'd much prefer the virgin!
Used woman is a really bad term
No it's not. It's simply being realistic.
I dont really care, i just care for my
Used woman? 😂😂😂 how sexist towards women.
Im not into virgin women
it doesn't matter to me
Very harsh
It doesn't, the vagina is a muscle and like every single other muscle it doesn't get loose from being used. If fact when a woman is aroused it will widen to make sex easier on her and just because she has only had one partner it doesn't mean he was small or that they didn't have sex a lot
Judgmental much?
Used?
by a penis
correct
Is that so hard to understand? Every random sexual partner you have pushes you away from the high quality man and long-term relationship you want. High quality men do not have to settle for a woman who did not have enough sense to keep her holiest vessel pure.
Yes, used, as in no longer new or having full value.
Virgin only
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