Would you reject someone only because they're trans?

Question

You otherwise liked them, and they could pass as your preferred gender with your preferred genitals with ease.
The reason for rejecting them or not rejecting them can be anything, you don't need to apologize for rejecting or dating anyone regardless of what the reason is.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They would still have the opposite sex's body. Underneath all the makeup they would have the face of the opposite sex. Its impossible to actually switch your genitals and its easy to tell fake ones from the real.
I'll treat them kindly and they do deserve equal rights and the right to a happy life but I only am attracted to females. Im not attracted to males. Im not attracted to "inner brain sex".

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Yes I would. I want cisgender male, and not a trans man or a trans woman.

I don't have anything against them personally and I don't support discriminating them or harassing them, I don't mind being friends with one. Doesn't necessarily mean that I'm open to dating one.

LightEnd · Accepted Answer

For me, I have seen some trans that will put some women to shame, but just KNOWING turns me off sexually. I have nothing against them, would be friends with them, but it just turns off the sexual attraction for me. I guess if I never knew it wouldn't hurt me.

TheCerealKilla · Accepted Answer

Open minded here. But I like women and their parts. Honestly don't know if I could get past what's between the legs.. but open minded

Hal2002 · Answer

Yes I would straight out reject someone just because they are trans, most of us are born male or female. There are real physical differences between a male and female, as well as hormonal differences and even our brains are wired differently. How a male and a female problem solve, is different.

No operation, can make a female think like and male and no male can think like a woman. You can do what you want to change your outside physical appearance, but you can not change your bone structure from male to female or female into male.

I personally have no problem with someone beating the shit out of some trans, when that trans leads you on to think they are the gender you prefer than the truth comes out.

Gender is not a construct, you are born male or female.

I have nothing against someone being gay, but don't try to cover up your homosexuality by trying to become the other gender. I have gay friends, that have nothing but contempt for trans. So I know it is not just me, that feels as I do about trans.

JackSmy · Answer

I have never met, and started dating a trans lady, but I have some friends that are.
They have asked me this same question!
I think that if I meet 'her' and I like her, and we talk, and want to have follow-up dates, and I think she is really a woman, not trans, because she is so much like a woman, then I would be fine, I think.
I would expect that 'she' would tell me, before the first time were having sex!! :)
I think it might surprise me, if I thought she was really a natural woman, but if I was dating, and liking her, thinking she was, I don't think it would change my feelings for her, if she had a penis, and even if she wanted to keep it. Strange, maybe, but for me, who I love and care about is the person, and not the physical!!
Her having a penis would definitely lead to a few discussions, and talking about how things would work!! :)
Interesting personal question, about a person's feelings, integrity, and maybe judgments and bias!!
What do you think and what would YOU do?

SueShe · Answer

For those that are into it the traditional way. How do you procreate and have a child?

I am not sure if it works otherwise but I am not a specialist in this procreation business. Perhaps that I am missing something but if it does not work on a natural basis, many that want a family will wonder what the purpose is to date a transsexual person.

Metatarsals · Answer

Yes I would. Because Looking like a woman and and actually being a woman are two different things. There are very few Trans people who can pass anyway. That natural femininity, the soft curves and a sort of gentleness to the features and the way they carry themselves are so uniquely feminine.

Looking the part is one thing, when it comes to sexual intimacy, no matter how much your genitals look like a womans, you cannot mimic the absolute bliss of a womans vagina.

Lastly, I would know that she was a dude and I think it would effect me in the long run.

brennanhuff · Answer

Only because they are trans? Like it's a small thing ha. Only because they are the sex you are not attracted to? Well that's what sexual orientation is, you're attracted to the sex that is the sex you're attracted to Not one that has the dna and biology and parts of the one they are born with but mutilated to try to look like the other sex. Straight people will want to only be with the sex that is born as the opposite sex. I don't know who a truly straight person can look past that. I mean that's not something to look past, just as sexual orientation isn't something just decided.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m not going to date someone who is trans. I am a straight woman who is only attracted to guys. And no, not trans guys. But every time I say this to someone, they say I’m a terrible person. I have nothing against the LGBT community. In fact, I’ve meet some really great people who are LGBT and I support them in getting married, fighting for our country and being a real factor in society because they deserve to live like everyone else in this country. I just don’t find myself sexually attracted to anyone who is trans.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not evolved enough I don't think to accept a woman who transitioned to a man and the fact is the anatomy just wouldn't be the same even with reconstructive surgery. I'm very impressed with people who can look past the anatomy to the person inside.

mattdzz · Answer

I wouldn't date a guy, and it isn't as simple as this revisionist nonsense you've put out, i. e. "just cuz they're trans" (as if trans people are some oppressed group, and not just a bunch of mentally ill lunatics mutilating their genitals because they think it's easier as the opposite sex).
Glad you're so understanding (eye roll), but yea, no self-respecting heterosexual man would date a shemale.

Dusty_06 · Answer

This is actually something that I've thought about here lately. If a person is trans- it means they are uncomfortable with their body and are doing something to be able to view themselves on the outside- the same as they do on the inside. What trans people decide to do; it's their business. If I hit things off with a transwoman I wouldn't cast them away- because they weren't born female. I'd not want to date the person if it there was nothing there is all. I mean- we're looking at this from the wrong perspective. Let's say a woman has small boobs- a cups- they don't like them; so they decide to get implants- would you reject the woman for doing something that made her feel better on the outside as tgey see themselves on the inside. It was her money, her body, her decision- are you not gonna be with her because her tits are fake? It's the same guidelines in my book about it.

Bandit74 · Answer

I would still reject them.

Even if they've had the surgery and their genitals look passing I doubt it would taste, feel, function the same as a real vagina.

Just the knowledge they used to be a guy would affect how I perceive them.

I suspect they would have more emotional baggage/mental issues relative to the average girl.

They are also so rare that even if I refuse to date them I still wouldn't be restricting my dating pool by a noticeable amount.

Anonymous · Answer

There’s only one answer to this, sorry. Personally I don’t deject anybody unless they pose as a threat to me. If I came across a trans person and I rejected them and discriminated against them, I would receive a lot of rejection from the public. Likewise, if I were to say that I reject trans people on here, it would lead to many assumptions and negative comments for my opinion. In other words, if I were to say that I am against trans people, one could say that I have a right to my religious freedom but am using my freedom derogatorily. I don’t think trans people should ever be disrespected or discriminated and the only reason why I think there is only one answer to this question is because people judge whatever you said to whomever you speak to.

PastelGoth · Answer

I would never fall in love with a trans because that’s not what I go for, but definitely can be friends with one. I don’t have anything against them

ThespiritualGuy · Answer

Well as a male human, neurologically i would never feel attractive towards a trans that's just simple biology so the question of rejecting or accepting them as my companion is void in itself. But i would happily as a rational human would, makes friend with them anyday.

MrKinktastic · Answer

I used to say yes, but after repeated dates with various trans men and women I can confidently say I have 0 interest in MtF trans romantically or sexually. FtM I still find appealing sometimes, though most I dated had little man syndrome going on because the were 5’2” lol

So yes I’d reject them for being trans because I’ve been there, done that and didn’t enjoy it one bit. Each to their own, just not my cup of tea.

EleanorRigby · Answer

Being trans is not "only". I want a guy with XY chromosomes.

pinky_kitty · Answer

no.. we're humans so when it's comes to our comfort and happiness we always choose to be different and kind so no I'm not gonna judge that person just bc he/she decides to be happy and feel confident even for a little... I'll be so happy to be close to that person _ a friend or a lover _

DJZest · Answer

Being transgender is being incapable of reproduction - establishing a legacy. I'm speaking of the end of an evolutionary path, where biologically, the changes to sexual organs and other sex features literally becomes so blurred, that the ability of procreation has evaporated.

Besides that, transgender people to love being partakers of sexual activity, and it is common knowledge that they are counted amongst the most sexually-devious. Most often displaying behavior that hasn't the leaves no doubt of a totally absent conscience, one arrives at the conclusion that they, in their self-destructive mindset are detrimental role models" for the infantile and thus a great harm to society itself. But they do a good job at masking the awesome, utter misery that pervades their inner life by masking it with exterior extravaganza.

dantheman1118 · Answer

I am 100% on the "do what you think you gotta do to be comfortable with yourself" side but when you say "only because" like it's something fairly minor. It really isn't minor at all. And just like I feel trans have rights and their beliefs should not be frowned upon, I feel the same for straight folks. I shouldn't be frowned upon for their beliefs

SarahsSummer · Answer

I’m a heterosexual woman only interested in heterosexual me.

Valireval · Answer

I wouldn't reject someone cause their trans it honestly depends on one their personality and if I'm attracted to them and two what type of trans they are. I'm a lesbian so if a ftm asked me on a date I would say no because they identify as a man where as I like women. Now if a mtf asked me out and I liked this person and was attracted to them then I would say yes if that makes sense.

MissKittyz · Answer

Yes, unfortunately I would. Just don't want to date someone with fake body parts. A trans woman with a vagina won't work the same way as a woman with a real vagina. Same with a transman with a fake penis. It won't work the same way as a real one. And that's just extremely awkward and unattractive. I just prefer a real born male or female with functioning sexual organs.

Lliam · Answer

Absolutely. No question. I am a hetero-male. I am only sexually attracted to woman.
I flat out don't consider men who transitioned to women to be female. They are men who have been medically altered to look like women. They are not women. They don't have female reproductive organs. Their groins have been sculpted into the appearance of a vulva. But nothing works.

HedwigInABox · Answer

I couldn't see them as equal to a biological male. I could be friends with them but not more. Besides I kind of like watching cum shoots and that would be completly out of the picture lol

NineBreaker · Answer

As a neighbor, or fellow human being? Of course not.
As a date, or significant other, definitely, 100%. I have preferences, and being trans is an exclusion criteria.

Anyone I date has to be: Adult, female, straight, and cisgender. No exceptions.

Hannahm67 · Answer

There are only two genders and people that believe you can switch are mentally ill and I hope they get the help they need.

cheapshotbob · Answer

i wpuld reject them because 90% of them are not honest abut there real gender and they end up hooking up with someone who does not prefer the same gender. if it was not for the dishonesty trans have built due to that it would not be an issue but they prefer lying about there true gender.
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me being straight im not into guys no matter how you dress transgenders dont respect that and lie to guys from the storys i hear.

MuffinBoi · Answer

Hmmmm. Well that if they look like a girl (curves, proportions, face, the lot) then I'd be willing to give it a try. I'd want them to at least tell me beforehand.

If there's even a hint of masculinity, then I would reject them. Call me a monster, close-minded or anything you like, but that's just my opinion on the matter.

jmzero · Answer

Only if they lied about it. This applies sadly more to m2f trans. I am someone who eventually want kids When I'm with a woman I naturally plan that as a possibility and would be pissed if that was hidden from me. Whereas if I was told from the outset I would plan as if I was with a man and plan adoption.

8balls · Answer

If the person did not put the issue on the table, yes. I should accept being with a person just to make them feel good about themselves? I dont mind your sexual orientation, but I dont have to accept it simply because you want me to. In the end, what purpose does it serve if all you get out of it is sex? I personally believe (not all) most trans people are sexual addicts and pervs that found a way to look normal... not my business, but keep it to yourself if not asked and tell it if needed.

noxius · Answer

I wouldn't. It wouldn't feel real to me, and i couldnt help but see a dude infront of me, since its litterly.. a tucked in *en*s between the legs. Its all just fake.

Its hard for me because all this talk of there being more than 2 genders really bothers me.

420Rachel · Answer

I'm sorry but I like my men with the right plumping 😭 I'll be your friend though. Some of the nicest people I know are LGBT folks

TonyBologna25 · Answer

Only? That's a big reason. I'm straight, and I'm not going to become gay to spare someone's feelings. Just because you take weekly estrogen injections, doesn't make you a woman. That just makes you a hormonally imbalanced man taking estrogen.

JigyW · Answer

Now it depends on what I'm rejecting them from, if they wanna be my friend then I'm all for it! But if it's for relationship reasons then I'll kindly reject them.

N192K001 · Answer

Yes, I am heterosexual. Therefore, I want a natural-born, vaginated person (in other words, 'a biological-female') as a mate. Anything else is not up to standard.

Duckysback · Answer

I mean, I don’t have a preferred gender or preferred genitals and I sure as fuck don’t want kids so an inability to produce sperm would be a bonus… they would just have to be hot and emotionally/sexually compatible.

KeziL · Answer

Yeah I would. I just want a guy who was born a guy.

Anonymous · Answer

My preference is biological woman, born with woman parts.

Everyone else, who had gender reassignment surgery or who will have evantualy not my preference and no way around it. Good luck to them, I have nothing against them, but it is totally not my cup of tea.

DonCachondo · Answer

Hmm it's a tempting offer... They can't get pregnant and I've even heard they give better head than cis girls on account of past (or current) experience having male genitalia of their own.

My biggest reservation is the castration anxiety I get from thinking about or being around trans people. It sucks to feel that because I otherwise don't have anything against them ideologically. Oh, also their voices can be kind of raspy but that's more of a pet peeve, if anything.

BrexitAteMyLobster · Answer

Yes, I would reject them. I don't believe that you can change your gender. It doesn't matter what can be changed on or in your body via surgery.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Yes, I would. No matter if a trans is 'natural', 'imagined' or a mishap - I am not interested to live the difficulties and dramas involved with that.

Drowningkingfish · Answer

Hell no, its still a dude underneath it all. The origin would turn me off and brain chemisty cannot be as easily flipped from male to female, since the neurones are wiring and very different from each gender.

R_ūshī · Answer

Yeah cause I don't want to date trans people. I don't think I should apologise for wanting a guy who was born a guy.

razelove · Answer

Yeah, I'd reject them. I like making babies and raising them. Trannies lack the required equipment there. Call me a breeder or mouth breather, but I am what I am.

MrMilti · Answer

I can be her friend, but not her partner or husband, sorry.

No offense, but I think it is a mental disorder and I dont need that constantly in my life. Not being able to reproduce would also be an issue for me.

Finchie40 · Answer

Whether they are trans or not people reject people for all reasons , everyone has their own thing to what they are attracted to

Daniela1982 · Answer

Nothing personal against knock offs, but I would prefer the original manufacturer model.

PinkMichae · Answer

I wouldn't reject friendship. But romantically I want a man that was born a man.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m gonna be heartless here I would yes it has a lot to do with the fact that I get creeped out by trans people I’m sorry

musicbrain5 · Answer

Yeah I would. I want a man who was born male. I don’t hate trans people, but I don’t want to date one either.

normalice · Answer

only? Sorry, but there is no "passing" for someone with functioning Fallopian tubes.

PoomPeem · Answer

I'd be down for a sexual relationship and friendship, but I romantically prefer cis women. The sole reason is because I want to have my own biological kids with my partner.

HawkPerception · Answer

Honestly the thought of being with a trans is as; if not more disgusting than being with a guy.

MackToday · Answer

Would you reject someone just because they were a neo Nazi with a prison record planning to shoot up a Mosque?

SexyAshh · Answer

I like straight men, who were born men, ONLY.

beldath · Answer

It is possible for anyone to love anyone, and the only thing holding us back are our preconceived views.
However, most people that want kids, want their own, and not adopt. Therefore transgender is doomed to fail in that type of relationship.

DakotaNorth · Answer

I'm trans. It's never a reason to reject someone.

DanaeAdam5 · Answer

Νo. If i liked the person then why the hell would i care about them being trans? I think i would actually congratulate them.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

friendship wise - no I would not reject them. relationship wise - unsure at this time. really depends on how well I know them. might help if there post op though.

bangyourhead · Answer

Absolutely. I don't want another penis in my relationships.

OpenWine · Answer

>Would you reject someone only because they're trans? yes >you don't need to apologize for rejecting or dating anyone regardless of what the >reason is. and yes

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