Should I just give up on dating?

[nella965]

I'm 24 years old, never been in love or had a boyfriend. In the past, I've done mostly online dating, met a lot of weirdos, creeps, perverts, guys with hidden mental issues. The last time I've dated casually was when I was 20 back in 2016. I had a lotta guys fall for me but I never returned their feelings. I have just been on so many failed dates. It happened so frequently that I honestly feel like I'm being sidestepped for other women. After the entire " getting to know you stage", they find out that I don't return their feelings then they would just disappear like nothing had ever happened. I have wasted so much time and effort on going on first dates with nothing ever coming out of it. Right now I am finally trying to meet people at social events but the bar scene is hopeless for me. Nobody ever approaches me. In public, men almost never make an eye contact with me. Maybe its because I'm unattractive? Nobody has ever called me ugly but I certainly feel that way. There were a few rare occasions where guys did like me either for my looks or personality but they didn't have any of the qualities that I was seeking in a partner. On the very rare occasion that I encounter a guy who DOES have some of the qualities I need to fall in love, he's either unattractive, married, has a girlfriend, or is just a pervert desperate for sex.

At this point, I'm absolutely exhausted. I've been chronically single for years. It just seems like there are just obstacles over obstacles for me to finding love. I'm not physically attractive and nobody has what im looking for. I'm losing motivation to meet men. And I'm honestly not even interested in getting to know them anymore. I really have lost hope.

Just a little info about me. I'm a lovely, wonderful lady, one of the best people you will ever meet in your life. Many folks consider it a blessing and honor to be my friend.

[talloak]

Your exhaustion is understandable, and it's worth taking stock of what is happening rather than to keep repeating what is not working. I don't think that men would be falling for you so regularly if you were unattractive. I can't say I know what the problem is, but I suspect there is some sort of block on your side. They can all be unattractive, unavailable or perverted.

You mentioned twice that you don't return the feelings of the guys who have feelings for you. Is this because they fall for you before getting to know you and before you have a chance to get to know them? Is it because you just don't like any of them? You clearly have high standards - are they too high? Are you looking in the wrong places? Are you having trouble identifying the men who meet those standards? Are the men who do meet those standards looking for different kind of women than you?

As you see, there are all sorts of possibilities as to why this is happening.

[Armourdillo]

Fuck you, if this was a guy posting everyone would be calling him an incel and say "man up" "just wait" "stop being insecure" and all that bullshit

[talloak]

@Armourdillo I don't give stupid advice. Perhaps you should read what I wrote before you react.

[Armourdillo]

Perhaps you should overdose and die

[Armourdillo]

Yes, you should.

Or let me spew the advice women give.

Just be happy alone
Lower your standards
Stop being shallow
Stop being Insecure
Just wait

Helpful? I bet it fucking isn't but that's what I get told. So listen to take advice or give up. No one gives a shit

[Anonymous]

I am the same way. Men almost never approach me in public and I don't see men make eye contact with me. I don't know what is happening in this generation?

[Armourdillo]

We're told that it's rude to stop women in the streets and make eye contact with strangers.

If a hot guy does it you can get all giddy and giggle to your Freinds. If a guy you don't find attractive does it, you think he's a creep and claim you were harassed.

Men rather play it safe because the risks are too high. It's not just being rejected, it's being called a creep, accused of being trash or sexual assualt, etc.

[nella965]

@Armourdillo Its always the same type of women getting approached.

[Armourdillo]

What demographic is that

[nella965]

@Armourdillo What do u think

[zed-789]

So ur problem isn’t getting guys. U get guys. U just don’t have feeling for them back? And they leave once they realize that?

[QueenTanya]

don't give up on dating and also don't make the mistake of thinking GAG is a dating site.

[Armourdillo]

If she was a guy everyone would be calling her an incel loser

[slatyb]

@Armourdillo There's a difference. She's trying to figure what she should do to find a partner. The Incels blame others.

[COMMODOREII]

Id like to know you myself. You do seem like a great person. Im sorry you having issues. I hope you do find someone worth your time.

[nella965]

Thank You

[ZeussLightningBolt]

Yeah
Give up and just let a guy come to you naturally on his own

[nella965]

I think women should have right to pick their own guys too.

[NerdInDenial]

What are the qualities you are looking for in a guy?

[Plitty-Tank]

No. There will be men who you can spend time with. Never give up.

[Anonymous]

since your a girl, nobody gives a rats ass about a girls confidence.

[Navarro26]

Never give up