So there is a girl at work that I just met and am looking to date. She works in a different department/building so I don't see her often (also why I'm willing to date someone from work) or know her super well, but over the last few months we've crossed paths a few times and I've stopped and had a few friendly small conversations with her.
Recently I asked her out for drinks to which she agreed and we exchanged numbers. I told her I would text her later that night and we could discuss our plans further. When I texted her with a day and place we could go, I got no response. The next morning right as she would have arrived at work, I got a text from her apologizing that she hadn't responded, stating that she was busy that night because she was going to have people in town (this is true because she had told me this prior to me asking for her number). I essentially just told her it was no problem and that she can just let me know if another day or week works better for her and she'd like to still go for a drink. After a few hours I got a final text saying "sounds good, will do!".
Now I'm not sure if this is her nice way of letting me down because I put her on the spot when I asked her out, she didn't feel like she could say no, and now is trying to get out of it (which I respect), or if she is genuinely interested but also genuinely busy.
My Coworkers seem to think that I just need to casually text and talk to her until we've gotten to know each other better and then she'll decide to go out with me. On the other hand, her texting wasn't exactly very quick or enthusiastic and I want to respect her space if she just isn't interesting in dating me which is fine too in which case the ball is in her court and she can now contact me if she changes her mind.
So do you think I should just leave it be and let her make the next move at this point, or should I casually text her every once and a while to try and build a connection that way?
Recently I asked her out for drinks to which she agreed and we exchanged numbers. I told her I would text her later that night and we could discuss our plans further. When I texted her with a day and place we could go, I got no response. The next morning right as she would have arrived at work, I got a text from her apologizing that she hadn't responded, stating that she was busy that night because she was going to have people in town (this is true because she had told me this prior to me asking for her number). I essentially just told her it was no problem and that she can just let me know if another day or week works better for her and she'd like to still go for a drink. After a few hours I got a final text saying "sounds good, will do!".
Now I'm not sure if this is her nice way of letting me down because I put her on the spot when I asked her out, she didn't feel like she could say no, and now is trying to get out of it (which I respect), or if she is genuinely interested but also genuinely busy.
My Coworkers seem to think that I just need to casually text and talk to her until we've gotten to know each other better and then she'll decide to go out with me. On the other hand, her texting wasn't exactly very quick or enthusiastic and I want to respect her space if she just isn't interesting in dating me which is fine too in which case the ball is in her court and she can now contact me if she changes her mind.
So do you think I should just leave it be and let her make the next move at this point, or should I casually text her every once and a while to try and build a connection that way?
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