Is it bad that I find older men disgusting for hitting on girls my age? (Page 2)

[ohshee]

When I was 17 to 29 all I dated was older women because they fulfilled me now that I'm older I have dated younger women your age and older for me it has nothing to do with age. Or what either one of us has it has to do with growing learning finding ones self,, we are all different in the way we feel and think and I believe everything you said. Is true. Today for you as time goes on and you grow who know you might see and feel different having a bond between to people is beautiful and if it's real it's even more beautiful nothing last for ever,, it only last until we grow and move on and it's different for 2 people who really enjoy each other than it is with sugar daddy's and girls who just want I hear wgat your saying tho

[Bluemax]

A younger woman recently hit on me. I didn't reciprocate. She's 31. Similarly, my friend (same age as me) is dating a 30 year old. She hit on him initially. Neither of us are rich, by the way, and both women in question know this, so it's not gold digging. As for the 31 year old who hit on me, she's financially very stable, she's quite mature and is way to smart to be exploited.

Now I'm curious, asker, does she disgust you for hitting on me? Does my friend's girlfriend disgust you for asking my friend out?

Similarly, does it disgust you when older women hit on younger men? When I was in my mid twenties, I got hit on by women 20 to 30 years older than me. Do these women disgust you? Personally, they didn't disgust me then or now.

[chadpattan]

I've never had such an age gap. But let's flip the script.

Suppose - just suppose - said person just has a "caretaker" mentality about them. If you're in your 30's +, in general, you don't really "need" anything from anyone, or at least that might be how you feel. But when you're younger, it's hard to get to that next level alone. Certainly possible, but not easy.

Suppose that said guy just figures that he can offer you safety and security in exchange for mutual companionship?

Now, I would think it would be hard to have common interests, but it depends. If you're a young woman who really is all about working hard and succeeding financially, you may not care about the Biebers and the Grandes and the whatever rappers. So you might connect mentally with someone who has significant life experience, has worked for years, and can help you navigate those waters.

In other words, I think it depends on the people. If you connect, you connect. In my opinion.

[JimmyQ]

It's just your imagination. Men and women are all in search of love. Sex for the sake of sex is the most shallow expression of love one can aspire too. More mature men know far better how to treat a woman and are greatly rewarded for their efforts when a woman allows them to show the true meaning of their gestures.

So, while the boys are still sniffing their tails and trying to figure out which way is up, the men are looking for deep enrichment to add to your existence and real substance. It is up to you what you will do with that.

[AynonOMouse]

So same age is best? That is why same age people never break up since it is so good of a match? lol What a bunch of BS.
Having similar morals, compatible long term life goals, and some things in common matter more than age.

And people that prioritize sex over anything else will use people for sex regardless of their age. It is part of their morals (or lack of morals).

If you end up 30 + and single as a woman single fathers are the only likely category to be seriously interested for anything other than sex. The men that still want to create a family want someone young enough to have healthy kids, plus the person needs to not have used drugs, otherwise they could be in their early 20s and still have unhealthy kids due to bad choices.

1st learn about people's motivations. 2nd, learn biology. That may help.

[AynonOMouse]

Also, if they were a good guy that didn't go whoring himself around and the ones he encounters around his own age have all been sluts for years, have kids by exes, etc. he has a legitimate reason to not be interested in them.

[honestGUY45]

It's not bad, just the way you feel. An opinion poll can't make you change that, and shouldn't. You're preference, good or bad, comes natural and there shouldn't be any shame in feeling that way, so who cares what someone else thinks if it's how you feel. It doesn't make me feel any better to know someone younger feels that I'm potentially disgusting because I'm old, but I'm not the type to pursue anyone so the chances of me hearing it in person are slim to none. Just know this, we're all getting older whether we like it or not and our preferences change. One day you'll be up here with the rest of us wishing you had another chance at your youth and feeling like shit because you're 'insignificant'.

[crazy8000]

There always gonna be that. as long you doesn't have a neon sign saying your age and what you prefer you can only take it as a compliment.
Tend to get interested girl's in your age all the way down to 16 that all from giving non verbal cues and making them selves extra available all the way to approaching in very funny ways.
Even those that create tinder profiles with age between 18 - 30 that are 14 - 17 that want's sex when I clearly state in profile not in to that, most of them comes with that they are miners after a few back and forth messages. many times do I suspect it because how the text. most of them wants to get rid of their virginity.

Also get those in their 50's.
The most extreme upwards was in their late 60's wen I had a test profile with age of 27 28 without profile picture.

[HeyMikie]

Your opinion is not uncommon. As you get older your opinion might very well change. Or it might not. Age difference appears to be a big deal when one is younger. I've known many men and a few women who have had good, long lasting relationships with much younger mates. And I've known a few men who only hit on younger women. But in my experience they are a minority. You see the few who hit on younger women but you don't see the larger majority who don't. Why don't you see them? Because they leave you alone.

[Anonymous]

The age difference for married couple is 2 years or max 4-5 years. I dont understand why many men think that women, who say they like older men, want 15-20 older men. When we say we like older men, we mean max 3-5 years age difference. So i agree with you. Men like that are trash, shallow and does not deserve any love.

[Asker]

Exactly!! I would rather date a guy who’s 2 years younger than a me, over a man who’s 10 years older. The maximum I can fall in love with a guy who’s 25-27, but still I’d rather go with a man who’s 2 years older to 1 year younger if given the choice. That’s more healthy especially that many studies proved that mariages between couples with the smallest age gap are less likely to a divorce

[ElvenMr]

That man on the picture is at least 50.. not "30+" lol!
30-37 is not that different from 20-29 in my opinion.
Above that, i would agree that it would be weird to hit on girls your age.
I noticed that as you get older, my preferred dating range widens. So like when i was 20, i was thinking, i would only date +-3 of my age.., now it's more like whereever i find love hah. So maybe 5+ year difference is completely okay, if that's what it takes... not that big of a deal.
So i think you are more angry at men who just want to bang hot young girls, not at those who want to find someone for a serious relationship.

[Mollynotgemma]

Men mature later than women... throughout history men have always been older than a woman...
nature dictates that men seek a younger woman as we are more fertile when younger.
You are 20 and speaking with such confidence and intelligence that I reckon a 20 year old man would not be capable of!
Do you fancy men your own age? What is it you want from a man?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

But when we do, we're much more matured

[chrissykerdock]

I'm 33 and I get men up to their early 60s wanting to take me out... I consider them because men my age are usually into weed or some other drugs... older men will take you anywhere you want to go... so you have to blow them it's not really the worst thing on earth.

[batsoupsoup]

I mean it's natural but yea I feel you. I agree that hitting on barely legals is disgusting. That's really creepy. But like a 22 year old nah, I'm fine with that.
Pers I do feel disgusted kinda when I get dms or when I get hit on by these 35, 40 or 50 yos. it's like dude, I'm barely an adult and I'm so much younger than you.

[Anonymous]

Why you care what others do, it is their business...

In cases you described, men in 99% of times will get gold digger and all of them know it and fine with it.

I could afford something like that, but I hate dumb women, with cake face and no future without sugar daddy. In my opinion it is cheaper and less hassle to rent a prostitute, at least you getting professional treatment and no unrealistic explanations. Not using those too.

On the other side people in their early 20s only will be able to get few kids and live on welfare in most cases, without parents support or huge inheritance, that they would waist anyway...

[bluehen46]

Love comes in all ways now if you are 20 and a guy is in their 30s i really do not see a big deal but there are many of younger women who seek out older women in order to not deal with the drama of younger men.

I would say keep an open mind but there is nothing wrong with having an idea age. I am married but if a younger girl maybe 10-12 years my junior was interested i would be find now 18 years old hitting on me I would be flattered but feel like a dirty old man

[silvermoon84]

I’m 35 and got hit on yesterday by a 65 year old. Trust me, that’s not going to stop no matter how old you get. You’re not wrong for feeling that way. Men like younger women, and that’s fine but they also need to understand there’s chance the woman won’t like them back. That last sentence applies to women too. A ten year age difference really isn’t too bad though in my opinion.

[slatyb]

I think it's kind of gross too, because the guys who do this are generally Mr. Wrong. They tend to be immature and have little success with women over about 23 so they hit on women too young to know better.

This is a very different situation from a young woman who comes on to an older guy that she knows and admires.

[notatrap]

Kind of, yea, but it's the women's choice anyway. He could be attracted to the bubbly personality, if he has a busy life, it makes some sense. Doesn't rule out men settling down with women their age either, but usually busy men and women want to be with someone higher, positive energy, busier schedule, etc

[Anonymous]

Look around you , you women want financially independent guys with cars , house , huge money they hardly give out chances to guys their age. A young guy who gets this kind of treatment ofcourse will go for younger girls when they will be older. In dating pool young girls and older men are most valuable and it's not my opinion , somehow that's our socity and as much as you are disgusted by it there will be always women who goes for older men. I have seen plenty of women of age 20 completely reject guys of there age and went for guy 30-40 ...

[kim45456]

The max age difference for married couple is 5 years. You can look up. Your anecdotal experiences does not mean anything y

[Anonymous]

Welp that's the life I'm glad you understand. You better find someone now when you're young.
The only downside about young love is your stuck with them and you regret it later. A lot of modern young relationship end after 3-5 years

Look at Leonardo DiCaprio
Ben Affleck Jonny Depp They only screw women 18-28.
These are the facts unless you're in the extremely hot category 9/10 woman isn't.

In this age of technology, woman value became even more competitive and women seem to not understand that.

But there are rare rare case where men date older woman for a little while mainly for sexual reason and parting. But i hardly ever seen men dating their own age. In the past 10 years.
But your wrong about older men not liking younger woman. Usalky these men aren't either predtors or SIMPS. They might reslly like you and you can get over on them.

So love is like 2/10 thing in 2020.

Nothing i said is a lie

[kim45456]

Age difference for married couple is ONLY 2-5 years.