What’s your expectation on a coffee date?

[Anonymous]

[cetm_]

I'll say at least an interesting talk and some smiles , and see what happens... otherwise it's just another date without compatibility and if the other person seems to not talk and build a conversation and just seep coffee with annoying face gestures , then it's even a waste of time and money for me, such a bad experience also, that's my personal point of view because I will make my effort to reach the place, and try to build a nice conversation... so if the other person is not in the mood or hates company then that will be the last time I'll go for a coffee with you , no doubt about it lol.

[pajamasam]

30min-2 hours, maybe more if it's a great connection/great conversation.
I pay
Talk about life, work, Interests, generic get to know you stuff.
A couple compliments maybe some sexual flirting but nothing too heavy
If it went well show your intention to set up more plans.
Hug, wait to make sure her car starts normally and then leave.

[Kaylz96]

Wow you exist 👏🏼😂

[pajamasam]

? Am I rare?

[Can_I_Get_a_Do-Over]

Straight couple:
Man pays. It’s just coffee.
45 min - 2 hours.
Listen. Ask about other’s interests.
Tasteful flirting good.
No kissing. Hug ok.
Text her afterward and say something nice, even if it’s “I enjoyed meeting you but we’re not a good match. Best wishes.”
—> If there’s a connection, tell her to text you when she gets home so you know she made it safely.
Once a guy on a first meeting printed out on nice paper the lyrics to a song I referred to in my online profile and gave it to me. Warmed my heart. Showed he knew who he was meeting. I mattered.

[Asker]

Thanks!!

[ImSparkly]

Coffee, conversation, see if there's anything complimentary in personalities/hobbies, testing demeanor (great if they screw up his order: does he handle it gracefully or berate the server). I like them early on because its compartmentalized, there's no expectations, there's no awkward kiss, no how does this end, and usually its an hour or two.

[Account]

... I have no expectations and that has saved me.

[MrEaze]

My expectations are minimal for almost everything. Less I expect the less I hurt if it doesn't work out well for me. I might need to chill out because though I go into everything with little expectations the experience creates one after another. By the time the date is over you will develop expectations and how well they are met is a huge deal. This is when two people have good chemistry.

[MrCommodore]

Just a few cups of tea/coffee, no kissing or anything, it's just a straight up interview. These are probably better at determining whether you are both interested, as both are sober and thinking clearly

[Shark_61695]

Massive hot chocolate, extra hot, extra chocolatey... maybe some marshmallows.

If I'm lucky, some company. Beyond that, a chat would be nice, perhaps an agreement to see each other again.

[Secret6620]

Good conversation. Basically getting to know one another 🔸

[Phoenix98]

Simply to pay attention to one another, talk and converse, learn about one another.

You know things you do on a coffee date. It's just about learning to get to know someone in a laid back and casual environment.

[themsticks1]

Find out basics, job, values, what you're looking for in life at a broad level and some flirting. Light touches, a hug, if there's chemistry maybe walk outside and kiss goodbye or at least discuss the next date if everything is going well.

[vivmatt]

If you can enjoy such a mundane activity with another person, that's special

[Moon23]

But accept it with a nice woman like you

[ArrowheadSW]

Just to talk and hang out and get to know the person. Back when AOL was a thing and the internet was still new, I met probably 25 women that way.

[theronaldmcdonald]

A drink, maybe a baked good, and some good casual conversation. It's just about getting to know someone in a laid back place.

[likelyOK]

Just to get to know them and be sure we connect, if it is an o line, also make sure they look like their pictures.

[Tia_Maria]

To get to know each other a little ; in the hope it leads to a second date.. I enjoy coffee dates, because it's an informal relaxed atmosphere

[taleets]

Just a casual date to chat and get to know each other. Definitely not a sex on the first date type of mood

[dragoblack]

To get to know each other, share common interests and see how much attraction there is by the end of the date

[KellyKatz510]

I expect a strong, black, bold, delicious coffee. Maybe a nice guy for company.

[Lliam]

Conversation and getting to know each other, finding out if there is a connection.

[RasmusAiken]

I don't think of coffee as a date. It's more of an interview to qualify for a date.

[Drumlin2001]

Informal affair, lots of chatter, just feeling each other out. Easy way of seeing if you're compatible

[LanzeWolf]

Coffee, Talking, Light hand holding and or petting, Maybe a kiss, but that's it.

[Dongtai]

The top 5 reasons to take her out again and finding out if we have chemistry

[LuluDaisy]

On a coffee date I expect good coffee with milk, sugar, and french vanilla creamer, I also like Oreo frappes

[Chris1690]

Chit chat on a coffee date, hopefully sorting out another date, not coffee, depending

[Chris1690]

Go for drinks then that will determine the relationship

[foxygirl4ever]

None. I don't even go. Coffee. Really? That's not a date

[BodyShop]

To see if it's even worth paying for a dinner date. I'd much rather spend $6 to see if we vibin' rather than $100

[front2back]

Me realizing we are completely incompatible and her profile made her sound much more intelligent than in reality.

[Silverio_Stieger]

Discover the girl... If chemistry/electricity it's really between us, maybe a kiss... Small pre-taste of something else, but in general, just discover the other one

[Kejaco]

Ok something I learnt a long time ago, treat a coffee date or similar dates as if you were having a coffee with a family member. Have a coffee and laugh and catch up, no expectations for anything else

[TacosRAwesome]

To get a milkshake (hate coffee or tea) and a cake and talk.

[Chris006]

Depends if it is at home or not. Out at a coffee place, not too personal talking and one-two cups of coffee. At home you could talk about anything also.

[Thatsamazing]

Coffee.

Coffee's a good start for an expectation.

[moonpie89]

Interesting conversations. It's a very casual setting

[jamesgoldman]

Coffee, cake and conversation
Definitely, possibly and hopefully

[OddBeMe]

Coffee, life stories, maybe making plans for dinner some night. Occasional armed robbery in bad neighborhoods.

[jlincoln50]

It's fine but don't fall for another person just by the site of another person coz sex isn't everything personality mean a lot. Some people lie just to get into a woman's panties.

[quietman4875]

Drink some coffee, talk and get to know each other.

[Snakeyes7]

I don’t make expectations, that way I won’t be as disappointed if at all if it fails.

[KrakenAttackin]

To me a coffee date is just a safe, "get to know you" date. Nothing more.

[legalboxers]

coffee. pointless banter. and lucky maybe a kiss on the cheek...

[wikdpeach86]

He would be drinking coffee alone. I dont drink it too often. So I probably would not be on any "coffee" daye

[cth96190]

Not being stood up would be a good start.

[SurrenderedSailor]

We're up for business!

2nd coffee date - we're definitely in business!

[Pamina]

That there will be coffee?

[Asker]

Could be tea?

[Pamina]

Could be.

[_gigi18]

Get coffee sit and talk?

[R_ūshī]

Have a noice cup of americano😍😍😍😍

[RawIronhide]

Do have coffee, AND THEN FUCK!!!

[MrSlim]

That we can leave and go get some real drinks.

[Nikki1989]

Coffee and conversation

[scott_90]

😂 coffee and a gobby

[arabgoddess]

Casual chats and no high expectations.

[BasicBad]

Coffee and good fingering

[CaptainSmartass]

Wow, you're hot...

[AngelLily]

Just talking and drinking coffee.

[MrMilti]

Coffee and a nice conversation.

[NatePsychologyMajor]

To drink coffee and conversate.

[MinaNameIzNobody]

Coffee, scone, and a lot of talking

[Anonymous]

To talk and get to know each other better...

[zagor]

Tea. I don't drink coffee. And info, about her.

[QueenOfBaku]

Drinking coffee and having a nice conversation

[msc545]

Decent coffee and rejection.

[insecurepunk]

To get hot chocolate instead

[Silence00]

at least chips as a side dish.