Lazy boyfriend is making me crazy?

[Anonymous]

I’m so frustrated because the last two boyfriends I’ve had have been profoundly lazy. My current boyfriend has a very demanding, back breaking job (construction), but since the lockdown, he does NOTHING. What I mean by nothing is smoking weed and playing video games ALL DAY LONG.

This doesn’t normally bother except I’m the one working full time (teleworking). I’ve been getting up early to clean, then I start work (9 hour shifts), then when I get off I do more chores. I also have to cook too because my boyfriend won’t...

I’m exhausted. And I’m breaking down. Why won’t he help me? I won’t break up with him over this but I don’t know how to approach him on it. I feel like I’ve brought it up multiple times but he just goes back to being a lazy piece of shit while I don’t get any time for myself.

Guys, throw me a bone here. What is the best way to figure this out?

[Aaron_Stone]

If you're having vacation and boyfriend works overtime due to work stuff is it ok if he blame you for not working?
He is fulfilling his responsibility doesn't matter if it's less or more at certain times. There is always ups and downs in work.
When he starts doing work 👷 I bet he will have spine breaking exhausting work than you.

[Aaron_Stone]

He is fulfilling his responsibility, you should too. Don't complain just because he has no workload as of now consider it as vacation for him.

[Aaron_Stone]

ask him to come talk with you when you're cooking. Tell him you get bored alone. Ask him to do little tasks
Make him involve in cooking passively with small tasks.
That way you won't feel overworked by yourself.

[Aaron_Stone]

That's how women around me make their man work. It's just fun to talk to wife.
chores are just excuses for that.
Make sure you are fun to talk with.

[Asker]

That’s my point, all the responsibilities of the household should not be put onto one person, especially when both parties work. I don’t have time to do everything. Being fun to talk to shouldn’t have to be incentive to do chores. He’s not a dog. If you’re an adult, you should be sharing in responsibilities.

[Aaron_Stone]

You want sudden change/fix to problem with make or break method. That's how you start arguments and quarrels and start to ruin existing relationship.
I believe you have already asked him to help. Did it work?
You have to be smart to handle people. if you straight out blame person things can go wild.
Have some patience it will only take 1-2 days to convince him to help you by making him do small things.

[Aaron_Stone]

Have some talk with him.
Or you can always start argument by calling him lazy.
I think you should try saying him lazy see what happens 🤨

[bigmisssunshine]

It’s just the way he is... I can’t tell you what will make him change his behaviour. But I think the only thing you can do is talk to him about his behaviour and how that makes you feel. Talk to him.

[SongBird3]

Break up with him