Do You Believe Women Have More Opportunities When Dating?

[David92506]

I know of women who constantly get "hit on" at work, at the gym, and in social circles.
If I break up with a woman it usually takes me several years to find someone else whereas my ex will find someone within the week.

[Masoomaa]

Because there are so many thirsty guys lol but let me explain why that is not the case for some women. Most guys who "hit on" you have sex as their number 1 priority. For someone like me who is waiting for marriage, finding a guy who wants to wait for me until I am done with med school is almost impossible. I dated this guy who was very sweet and I fell in love with him, but he wanted to keep doing more and more in the bedroom. So when I refused to go any further he decided to break it off because he was finding it hard to stay in a relationship with me and not be tempted to have sex. It rests on what priorities you have that make it easy or hard to find someone you want to date

[David92506]

@Masoomaa
Would you say that finding a man who is interested in building a relationship by getting to know each other, without sex, is rare? For example, making a friendship contract where each writes out what they are looking for. Each expresses their insecurities and how to handle it?

[Masoomaa]

Yes. My ex and I did have deep conversations about ourselves and everything, and we agreed not to have sex until marriage because both of us are religious. We did a few indecent things but nothing serious, but he kept wanting more. We then decided it was best to end the relationship because he did not want to sin :( He is very sweet but our beliefs are important for us

[David92506]

@Masoomaa
If you believe it's rare to find a man, who is willing to wait for sex, are you willing to remain single and celibate?

[Masoomaa]

I think yes until maybe a year before I finish med school

[KatherineJ]

Opportunity for a casual hookup? Probably! Opportunity for a relationship? It’s probably about the same as it is for guys.

[David92506]

If a woman puts up a profile on Match. com she will receive lots of emails from men who want to meet her. She needs to go through them and pick one for a date. If that doesn't work out she has to repeat the process.

If a man puts up a profile on Match. com he will have to write lots of emails and probably none will respond.

If you were a gambling person, who would you bet would first get into a relationship?

[KatherineJ]

I have no idea. I never used a dating site. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[standingUP]

No ! the women has to date somebody , right?

I can date as many or have options all I want if I put myself out there.
The problem with most guys they get all depressed and play video games all day in week old underwear complaining that there is no women out there.
Women KNOW they will find someone and go out to all those places you mentioned and more. walking around with a smile and shaking that booty.

Nothings stopping you from doing the same. The issue may be you don't KNOW if you'll find someone.

[David92506]

I understand what you are saying. There are so many personality types amongst people. Not everyone is extroverted. Some people are introverted, some are shy, some are bashful, etc.

Not everyone can walk around with a big smile on their face. Doing what you say could cause serious damage. Even women who have a big smile and shaking their booty can cause problems in today's society.

[standingUP]

Being precautionary is most definitely smart. The fine line you are balancing is "healthy apprehension" and FEAR...
Fearing people has to be the most useless thing we could possibly do to ourselves. EVERY HUMAN eats, poops, and dies. NOBODY has an edge on anybody. There are also 8 billion people on this spinning rock do you think a couple rejections are going to control your fate to be with someone else ever again? NOPE your right so stop FEARING and start living bro. go getchya sum... You already know you hooked at least one before so whats the issue.

[standingUP]

thanks for one of the MHO's

[Anonymous]

most women have the upperhand when it comes to dating because they can just sit back and sift through the endless options.
They can just get on tinder or bumble and sift through even more endless options.

[David92506]

@Anonymous
How would you reply to women who say it's just as difficult to date for a woman as it is for a man. I've heard women say men are pigs and just want sex and that's what a woman finds on dating sites.

[Opinion Owner]

generally guys on dating sites are only looking for pussy because guys who can get pussy don’t need to be on dating sites.
But it still isn’t difficult for women to date. Women call the shots on when sex happens and with who. That itself holds endless power over us. They pick and choose who and then can hold out if they want the guy around longer or just fuck him if she wants sex.

[MannMitAntworten]

This might be very individual for both men and women. I always seem to have orbiters even when I am involved. I recall while involved with my recent ex one such orbiter stopping into my work to see how I was doing and me telling her I had a girlfriend - if looks could kill - and her response being, “oh. Good luck with that.” Then she walked out. Anyway, for me, the meeting is the easy part. It’s the wanting to get involved with them part that is elusive. I just don’t feel that proverbial ‘spark’ is all. That’s the rare thing for me.

[slatyb]

No. You only notice attractive women. There are plenty of women who get little or no attention from men. You aren't attached and so they are invisible to you. You see them but they don't make an impression.

[StickStickity13]

It's the easiest thing for women to find another guy. Men are thirsty as fuck.

[David92506]

If you believe women have it easy to find a man why are there so many women in bad relationships? I would think she would pick the best prospect.

[StickStickity13]

Because women are attracted to those types, they're usually handsome and confident. Those are the two most important things for getting women.

[Liam_Hayden]

The average woman has far more pursuers than the average man does.

[aftermydemise]

Of course women have more opportunities when dating

[Handysandy69]

The girls hold all the cards my friend when it come to dating you gotta make the first move but she decides if it's no or yes

[serious]

I think that is true in general.

[adademic_child]

Yes, there are a lot of desperate guys out there, if a girl needed a guy most would stop what they are doing for her just out of desperation

[1CentWorth]

The ugly ones don't.

[ThiccNigro]

Obviously