Why should black men feel bad about dating white and latina women? Should we stop dating them?

[Anonymous]

Black women and white men especially seem bothered by this. My understanding is that black women don't like seeing quality black men date outside the race and white men... I'm not exactly sure why white men get so pissed off sometimes but I guess its also about competition and racism.

Interracial dating has exploded in the past decade probably, and a lot of those couples are black guys and white/latina girls. A lot of us black guys either prefer or exclusively date white and latina women, so people are seeing this happen more often. And others are just more open to any woman of any race.

Do you think this is a good or bad thing? Do you have a problem with it?

[Cherokeehp]

I’m black. I think it’s kinda uncomfortable to see black people dating white people. White people in the US kidnapped, enslaved, tortured, disrespected, and murdered black people for centuries. Even though things are much better today, and there are plenty of white people who don’t hate black people, there are also many who are still racist as hell and we still live in a system that puts us at a major disadvantage than them. Like for example, that guy in Georgia who was hunted down and killed just for jogging in his own neighborhood. I believe it was the district attorney who tried to cover it up and let the murder of an innocent man slide. Fucked up shit like that happens all the time to black people across the US, simply for being black. Once again, I know all white people do not hate black people, many of them believe false stereotypes, have unconscious biases, and simply just don’t understand black people. And because of that I could never date or even have sex with a white person, and I can’t really fathom how some other black people do that. To be 100% truthful y’all just look like coons to me. You do whatever you want. My answer has no impact on your life. That’s simply my answer.

[Dchrls78104]

I'm a black man. Race will not determine who I date. Real love, compatibility, and how well she treats me, will.

[Cherokeehp]

@Dchrls78104 That’s cool in everything. I just answered the question by giving my opinion. If you’re black and date white people you just look like a coon in my eyes. But like I said. Do whatever you want. My opinion has no impact on your life.

[LaPrincesita]

As a Latina I’ll tell you why A lot of us personally don’t like black guys who say they don’t date black girls.
A lot of woman are woman’s woman now you considered a weird bitch if you’re not that’s just how it is now.
Also it’s gross to know You engaging in that relationship engages into this idea that you’re better than what they got at home which is incredibly wrong nobody should feel good doing that.
On top of that though it translates you don’t even like being black and one day you’re gonna have kids a regardless if you want it or not that doesn’t just mean you’re going to run from black girls because a black girl is still going to come out of your white wife or Latina husband, now as a mother that’s a whole different type of issue that’s completely preventable.

[LaPrincesita]

Latina wife*

[Asker]

Why does this translate to "he doesn't like being black" to you?

[LaPrincesita]

Because if you don’t like black women that tells me you don’t like black peoples looks does that make sense?

[LaPrincesita]

Or you think there’s something wrong with your own people

[Asker]

Yeah, I get your opinion but I think you have to take this shit on a case by case basis. Not all black men are the same and not all black men that prefer to date outside the race are the same.

I love being black, I'm really involved in my community and close to my family. I think I look pretty good, never find myself wishing I looked like a white or latino guy ever. I think being black makes the interracial experience hotter - I love seeing her light skin against my dark skin, its sexy af to me. I dont want to look like the girls I date lol, thats just what I like. I do find latina and white women more attractive, yes, but I still love being black. I notice cultural things that are way more attractive to me with latinas and white girls, yes, thats true. I love being black but I know certain things are just the way they are because of our history (black Americans). I dont care what color my kids are. My love for my woman is about her, not what race of kids she can give me.

But there's some truth to what you are saying. I have a weak spot for latinas and white girls, theyre the most beautiful to me and way more feminine usually. thats just my opinion. some black men think black women are the best and i dont have a problem with that at all

Do you have any preferences on race? or you like all guys equally?

[ImagineSketchy]

Do what you want. You aren't hurting anyone, and I'd they take offense to it, it's because they're an overly sensitive chump.
Personally I don't care about race. I'm also a black man, and I see beauty in all... Except the Chinese communist government.

Now for some reasoning as to why black women hate it; Black women are statistically the least preferred out of all "races" and ethnicities on the planet. If their own race doesn't want them, it's probably something that affects their self worth. This is more on a specific and personal basis than it is on a general one. White men see it as competition for their partners. Most white males tend to date within their race and if not them, then they tend to be with Oriental (Chinese, Korean, Japanese, etc). Now this is all nothing more than conjecture, but it is all things that I see in person or have heard from people in my different social circles.

I don't think dating interracial is a good or a bad thing. There are a lot of people on the planet and I personally think it's dumb to limit your Gene pool, and to limit your possible mates/partners based solely on the color of their skin.

[Asker]

bruh, not the chinese communist government. lmaoo

Curious, you like all but do you have any strong preferences?

[ImagineSketchy]

I don't have any strong preferences.

And the Chinese government thing was mostly a joke, but nothing that they stand by can be seen as beautiful or good...

[Anonymous]

Black men will prefer any women outside their race.
Black women are least preferred, so much that their own men abandon them.
Do not limit it to white and latina pls, black men would run behind any fair coloured women.

And you know the fact, it won't stop, so you or you all considering to stop dating women of other race is not even an option.

Face it man!

[Asker]

No, we won't. But it sounds like you think we should or am I mistaken?

[Opinion Owner]

Of course you won't, more accurately
'You Cant'.

You are not mistaken.
Although we dont have blacks or mixed in our region, i do not want to see mixed culture or colours like where america is progressing.
I prefer purity personally...

[Asker]

Where are you from?

We cant? Please elaborate.

[Opinion Owner]

I can't let you know that.

You cant! Pls prove me wrong by progressing towards what you said can be done. I will take back my words,
That will also explain half of my elaboration.

[Anonymous]

I can happily report to you that literally no one gives a fuck. But then again, all the black women i know are not with black men and i also don't find black men attractive enough for me to commit to one.
We also tend not to have the same goals or beliefs. For example, i don't want to be a baby mama.
I also like the idea of staying married and black men + white women have the highest divorce rate, so i can honestly say i am not jealous. Literally. They will not stay married and cannot stay faithful.
And whatever, ill get downvoted, but black men perpetuate Absent Father and broken households and continue to do so. I'm giving facts most people are afraid to say bc they'll look "racist" even though there are literal stats and facts to back up my claims.
So please continue to date them; we do not miss you over here.

[Asker]

Okay. Now, would you have liked it if I had listed the maaaaany things that black men often dont like about black women?

[Opinion Owner]

This isn't a list. You asked about the coupling and jealousy. I gave you the stats that BM and other races have the highest divorce rate. That's not something i don't like, it's something i'm not jealous of.

BM also have the highest rate for producing babymamas-->this happens through divorce or having a kid with no intention of marriage.

Also, they cause broken households and have a term coined "absent father".

This isn't what i "dont like" this is factual evidence of why i'm not jealous. I'm not saying "they're dark, they have nappy hair, they're ghetto, etc." I'm giving you statistics. And lmao black men give out lists on why they don't like bw all the time, so.

[Asker]

Statistics dont prove that anyone is or isn't bitter or jealous. You can easily still be bitter or jealous even if stats give you reason not to be.

Again, many many things could be said about black women. I'm not bitter, so I didn't need to make a list of them to make myself feel better about my choices. You clearly do. But don't worry about it at all. Not my problem to deal with, which is generally how bm feel these days. Let some other dude deal with that.

[Opinion Owner]

None of that made any sense. I gave you the stats on why people shouldn't be jealous. I don't care who you date, i'm saying why no one should care. I don't know if you're offended or what, but everything i wrote is true.

[Asker]

lmao, If none of that made sense, then like I said, don't worry about it. Thank you for your answer.

[Opinion Owner]

None of it made sense as in you're clearly illiterate and can't put your emotions aside. But lmao ok

[Asker]

Gotcha, thanks!

[Opinion Owner]

Welcome.

[Agem123]

I'm in a relationship with a black guy and people are allowed to date who the fuck they want.
Love has no race!

[Asker]

Agree :)
To be fair, many people dont care but some bitter heads do. Have you experienced any negative comments or interactions towards your relationship?

[Agem123]

Oh, where I live a lot of people stare (especially guys), say stupid stuff like I'm betraying my country etc😂 Tbh I laugh at these comments and I don't care at all.

[Asker]

Yeah people really are on some other shit sometimes lol
Curious about your background, which country?

Great attitude to not pay the haters any mind. I usually dont give it much thought, but I'd be lying if I said it never irks me a little. Especially when black women specifically try to call into question my love for my people or community. Yeah, I prefer other women but I still love black women as family, part of my community. A lot of people aren't trying to hear that. My dick runs the show when it comes to physical at the end of the day, so oh well. Usually I laugh it off too and just shove it in peoples faces. If I'm in public and see black girls or white guys giving dirty looks, comments, or staring, I'm allll over my girl. And thats saying a lot since I can't keep my hands off her usually anyway. If they want a show, lets give em a show, thats my motto ;D

she's the same way though, sweet but gets a little attitude if she sees it happening. shell just reach up and pull me in for a kiss and put my hands on her butt lolol

gotta administer the tough love on the haters. its the only way they learn.

[Agem123]

Albania.

I literally laughed so hard at the "all over my girl" part cause me and my boyfriend act the same😂

[Asker]

lol When the love and passion is real, can't hide it :)

I'm curious, do you have a preference for black guys or just ended up with this one? If you do then why? I always love hearing womens perspectives on this.

[Agem123]

Yes I do. Honestly, I don't know why, but in my eyes they look more masculine and those that I've been with had great skills in bed. Lol

[Asker]

Damn, I want to say so much to that, but dont want to make anyone feel bad here.

I'll just say that this is exactly why this mix is so common. A lot of white girls are very feminine and I think the white girls who are drawn to black men the most tend to be some of the most feminine. Our energies just attract each other. Softer, no competition, less fighting, easier in the best way, and straight up addictive - thats what white girls are for black men a lot of times. There's a huge beauty and sexual component to this too, but I won't get too much into it. Just saying the reasons we love white girls are exactly the mirror opposite of yours - femininity and feminine beauty/sex appeal.

[Agem123]

All you said makes perfect sense👍👍

[Aislin9]

Love is love. No one should feel bad about dating someone with a different looking body/costume than them. Anyone who has a problem with it needs to rethink their existence.

[Anonymous]

I'm black married to a white guy.. .. Im attracted to all races every race as good looking people. It does sting a little that you don't like black women but I think a lot of black women have moved on and have opened up their dating pool.

[Asker]

Some have for sure and I think thats definitely good for all of us. Less focus on what black men are doing and being upset. There are too many men out here for all that.

[Dchrls78104]

Indeed, why should black men feel bad about dating women of any particular race? Who judges this as bad? Whence came the authority of such persons to do so, or to decide what kind of woman a grown man should date? Shouldn't we do better to do honest introspection and to mind our own business, rather than meddle in the lives of others?

[Elsa_Schneider]

Just my personal thoughts.

Many white and latina women only seem to date stereotypical black men. Most women never go for the nerdy black guy or a god chill black guy. Black men are expected to be tall, playas, badboy-ish, charming, hip and cool and so on because this is what most women demand from black men.

[Asker]

is this your experience as a black guy or no?

I'm a hybrid. You dont have to be one or the other - I killed it in school, have a masters, successful career and pretty good money in an expensive city, nerdy interests. But I'm also good looking, tall, can have fun, and I guess I'm naturally hip/cool but not to an extreme extend and I'm getting old lol I haven't had any issues. I think most of it is confidence and charisma - how you talk to and engage with women as well as looks and height too, yes.

I graduated top of my class and always focused on internships and later career. I've never struggled to get white girls or latinas. definitely not after high school anyway. been a very sweet ride :)

[nelly83]

Do you realize women are almost never attracted to black men? Especially white or Asian women. We all hate black

[Asker]

Where do you live? That's literally the opposite where I live, thank goodness lol

[Tiger288]

Speak for yourself.

[Rick-Lewis]

And why do you hate black people so much? What have we done to you?

[nelly83]

@Rick-Lewis I don’t hate Black people. I just don’t find them physically attractive

[Rick-Lewis]

Why? Because we have dark skin?

[Rick-Lewis]

And what's your ethnicity may I ask?

[nelly83]

@Rick-Lewis it’s mainly cuz I’m not attracted to African American features. But that’s only me, I can’t say that for everyone. I got nothing against blacks tho.

[foxrider77]

The beauty about love is, it doesn’t have a race or gender. You love who you love. Don’t feel bad for loving someone unless they’re married and you are into them.

[RolandCuthbert]

Of course you shouldn't feel bad about dating non-"Black" women. You should feel bad about mocking "Black" women or making claims about "Black" women that are not true.

[RolandCuthbert]

I should have added this. I find the question kind of weird. Especially in a forum where most "Black" people have absolute hatred for "Black" people.

Evidenced by my thread on the topic.

The Psychology of Men Who Are Racially Black Having to Proclaim Their Refusal to Date "Black" Women ↗

[Anonymous]

Why tf should y'all feel bad? That doesn't makes sense. Date whatever race you want to!

[perfectchaos]

Hold on I'm white and don't care who you date. You can date a rainbow alien if they exist and I wouldn't care.

[CozyNadia]

I dont really care. I date only Asian and White guys

[Asker]

nothing wrong with that, have fun!

[Barry88]

Race shouldn't matter. There is nothing wrong with any interracial relationship.

[Liam_Hayden]

Why anyone cares which single adults date each other is beyond my understanding.

[Asker]

same here, but it is probably a minority, at least in major cities. It gets worse outside that context though

[JCT666]

Why should I care about who other people date? People can date whoever they want as long as they are legally over the age, it's nobody else's business

[esotericstory]

With the birth rates of blacks around the world and the marriage between American liberalism and black ultra-nationalism nobody should date black men.

[Asker]

Thanks, bro. lol

[blkzmb777]

The only people who make you feel bad are jealous. Life is short be happy do who and what you want

[Tmoney0305]

Honestly people sometimes think we are still in the early 1900's I personally don't have a problem to me if they both love each other then all is good

[jtodd2103]

It should not be black dating white issue. Don't feel bad for what and you like... be confident that you're two individuals who care for each other.

[sahil77]

That's a myth... Just express you love doesn't matter how she/he apperars

[Asker]

Nah, its based on my experiences.

[sahil77]

Cool

[neurolove]

What is this 1960 all over again?

[Asker]

lol for some people but not most thankfully

[Anonymous]

Im black and I only love Asian men so idc

[Asker]

Ty so much for not caring. world needs more of you