What should I do?

[Anonymous]

A long time ago I told this girl i like her on video call. It was in the moment because we was vibing. I don’t want to date her and I told her this multiple times. She wants to be friends and I’m cool with that since I don’t want to be in a relationship. The problem is I’m trying to be a friend but she thinks everything I say or do is a ulterior move to fuck her. This is not the case and it is so stressful trying to show her otherwise. In the past she mostly leaned on me for emotional support. I felt she only came to me to pass time and treated me as a guy of convenience. Basically she just wanted attention. I don’t know if this is how girls and guys be friends but it never felt right to me. It felt like she didn’t invest in my life. So I’m thinking are we really friends. I get frustrated and sometimes I get too emotional and we have arguments because I feel she doesn’t reciprocate my efforts. She wants her cake and to eat it to. She wants me to be there and soak up all my attention but she doesn’t want to reciprocate. We no longer talk and She wants nothing to do with me. I was always a pushover and I finally spoke up and called her out on everything she was doing and that was the end of it. We probably won’t ever speak again and the way I handled it was not the right way but I had to get stuff off my chest or I would’ve exploded. It was a lot of bad communciation and most of this could’ve been avoided. She said it was annoying that I would bring these issues up but if I’m your friend we should be able to have a honest conversation

[Avicenna]

Just ignore her and forget about her

[Asker]

I shouldn’t try to fix this?

[Avicenna]

Honestly, no. She's too much drama.

[Asker]

She is arguing that something is wrong with me and I’m too much drama

[EriFrancis1994]

Time to move on

[Asker]

Why?

[Iron_Man]

Move on my friend

[Asker]

I shouldn’t try and contact her to fix this?

[Iron_Man]

You can if you think she's worth it but she's a hard case to crack

[Asker]

She is worth it but like you said she is a hard case to crack, she most definitely won’t answer. I don’t think she wants to talk to me

[Iron_Man]

Well try again then but if it fails you must learn its time to start ever fresh with someone else after you take some time off for yourself

[Asker]

I sent her a apology and she didn’t respond so I should just move on

[Iron_Man]

Give her 24 hours then that's it

[Asker]

This was a while ago. Maybe two months ago and she didn’t respond

[Iron_Man]

Try again right now?

[Asker]

I’m kinda nervous to do it. I don’t know what to say and I don’t want to get shot down

[Iron_Man]

Well its been two monthes later and your shut down. If you wait to long she will just find someone else. If you dont try one more time you'll never know

[Iron_Man]

So what's the plan?

[Asker]

I’m not gonna do it because I don’t see the point. My ego can’t take another rejection. 3 times we had issues and she stop talking to me. This time I told her I’m done. I apologized and she didn’t respond. It’s in her hands if she wants to talk to me.

[Iron_Man]

Then move on and prepare for life with a new woman. I take it you never met face to face?

[Asker]

Nah we met. we use to work together in person.

[Iron_Man]

Well its your life

[Asker]

I know but it’s either send a text and look stupid or just move on

[Iron_Man]

Its your call what ever helps you sleep at night where you have peace of mind

[In_Trance]

just move on

[Asker]

Why would I move on? Why wouldn’t I save this?

[In_Trance]

There's 7 billion people on this planet to be friends with. This is too complicated.

[Asker]

Okay but if you known someone for 3 years it is better to fix it then start fresh with someone else

[In_Trance]

Refer to my first response