My husband told me I'm a wife, I have to listen to him alone so we can live together. It means I have to obey, listen, and obey him only to make him satisfied. Do I really have to do that? I'm Thai, my husband is Russian.
Obey? You're not his slave or his student. Marriage is about understanding each other. Respecting each other. Being there for each other. Trusting each other. Making efforts to keep each other happy. Talking things out whenever there's an issue and making decisions together but it also means that sometimes you'll have to make sacrifices for your partner's happiness but that should also be applied to him. You both are married. You both are partners. He's not above you. Nor are you above him. You guys should be equals. Tell him that he should have discussed this before getting married as you are your own person and don't want to obey and that we can work things out together but we both need to be understanding and also think about each others needs and wishes. Not just his.
This is tough because each culture has their own beliefs around marriage and gender roles.
Me personally, what you described isn't for me. I will value and cherish my partner's existence, opinions and feelings. Under no circumstance is he to expect my blind obedience. That I listen to his word more than others isnone thing. That I do more of what he asks because it's him asking is one thing. But obedience is NOT for me.
You should evaluate your own beliefs and see if this is right for you.
Well that's a fine how do you do how come you didn't tell you this or let you in on this little secret before you got married so you could tell him to fuck off satisfy himself and to be honest with you you know I'm sorry I cussed but I would still tell him to fuck off and satisfy himself you're in this world as a team you're in this marriage as a team you're not here and you're not in the marriage to be his little slave and satisfy him I would still tell him to fuck off sorry I cussed but to be honest with you I would tell him to fuck off and get the fuck out sorry I cussed I don't mean to put him down but somebody has to
You both have to compromise if you want the relationship to survive , compromising meaning you can’t always be right and he is wrong , compromising by wearing each others shoes before making decisions , setting boundaries that you both need to follow , sacrificing and removing selfishness for each other , you can’t expect someone to do for you if you can’t do for them , so always prioritize each other if you want your relationship to last and for love to grow , if you can’t do those things for your partner they will not be able to do it for you ,
This should have been discussed and resolved before you got married. This is an example of the difficulties with marriages between partners from different cultures.
You do have to obey your husband, there is a reason this is required in most every significant cultural document that has ever survived long term.
Women did not evolve good judgement because historically they didn't have a choice. Unless you want to go thou that evolution now (require huge losses in failed families and cultures) within decades of having a genetic engineering solution that could bypass it all together.
Obey your husband, its only a generation or so now before we can give women the rational judgement needed to survive without wiping out most all the other good trades they have.
I mean most of that is supposed to go both ways. I wouldn’t say either of you need to “obey” each other but you should have rules and boundaries you both would respect and abide by.
Obviously the both of you should listen to each other or how are either of you going to get anything done.
Their was a few other things you listed but I forgot what they were.
All that aside you married a Russian man and that kind of thinking is uncommon there.
Looks like theirs a lot of jealousy in the comments, what I belive your husband is trying to convey is he's the head of the household so he wants to lead, he's asking you to respect his position in the relation, you trust him thats why you married him but turn around and question his leadership?
If anything you should be proactive in support the vision and that I believe will make a difference
In the bible it states that the man belongs to the woman and the woman belongs to the man. You belong to each other. He's your boss, you're his boss. Simple.
Not really. If you want to be his wife, sure you have to because it seems that what he’s about. But you could have another type of marriage with someone else where u are treated like an equal.
Sounds like he's treating you more like a slave, next time he says that say you are his wife not his slave and see how he reacts, if he reacts toxic my advice would be to run without looking back
I think you very well know exactly what to do. Now do what you know you need to do. Good luck on your journey forward. No need to report back to us. Just follow your dreams
