What shall I do?

[Anonymous]

So I recently started a new job about three months ago… about two months in and this guy that works with me starts flirting with me by teasing me and bumping into me etc. I play along because it’s banter. He’s turning 30 this year whereas I’m only turning 23. Anyways, then he requests me on insta and we start talking. We go on our first date a week in and from then on for a month we go for dates once a week. We keep contact minimal while at work because we don’t want our other coworkers to know that we are seeing eachother. Then about a month in, when work becomes a bit stressful for him he decides to distance slightly and when I bring it up he tells me he’s been single for 6 years and find it’s ‘intense’ talking to someone now and that he wants to take things slow. Then, two days later he decides he’s not ready for a relationship. I don’t understand? I’ve obviously distanced myself, removed him from my socials and avoid him at work but I just do not understand how a man who’s nearly in his 30s still is not ready to settle.

[SnowedIn]

Do exactly what you have been doing and then nothing. You handled this well.

Work stuff almost always doesn't work out to say nothing of the many issues that guy had.

To your question of "I don't understand" -- I get that. And you're not going to. Nor am I. Or most people, really. That's him. And I urge you not to try to understand because none of the answers are going to make sense and they won't be fulfilling.

You got lucky and now you're free to move on. OUTSIDE of work. :)

[spartan55]

He might very well be ready to settle down. Just not with you.

[Guy13]

You want to get fired, right?

[Asker]

Ha ha ha, you are so funny 👍🏽

[Anonymous]

Avoid work relationships. They rarely work.

[Iron_Man]

He’s wishy-washy