Did she not seem interested at all?
Girls, did she reject me? Should I not talk about this anymore and should I continue to try to support her? Was she clear on what she said?
Did she not seem interested at all?
You are making the same mistake that most guys make, you are too thirsty and have a mindset of scarcity. You are subconsciously communicating that you see her as higher value than yourself, that she is your only option, that you will literally bend over backwards to be with her, to help her, you would do anything for her.
Most women will tell you that this behaviour is attractive, that it's nice and that ''hey just be yourself''. But most women are bsing you.
Your messages are too long, too emotional, too nice, too boring. There is no mystery, zero masculine energy, zero attraction, zero tension. And they are likely to increase her anxiety.
If you want to get girls, you need to play stupid games...(why I don't bother).
Your best bet is to simply stop contacting her. The other things you are doing probably came from following bs advice from women, sisters, Moms or simps.
Men need to start asking themselves what women have done to deserve all of that adoration and bending over backwards. Other than being a woman (I assume attractive), what exactly makes her deserving of being with you?
You forget that you are the prize and are acting like you have no value. STOP IT.
She's worth my time and effort π
honestly you kinda shot yourself in the foot here, sending such long texts, and more than 1 at a time; along with those texts being about wanting to see her and going out of your way (If you can't see me I can go see you) are just bleeding needy and clingy vibes (2 things women HATE). You texted her 4 (paragraphs) in a row before she replied once. Then showed how much you love her with the heart emojis even though she never reciprocated, you got to give the woman a chance to chase you, she doesn't even have a chance to want after you with you throwing yourself at her.
send 1 text at a time unless 2 are NEEDED (but NEVER 4 texts in a row like that), I wouldn't send heart emojis until you're in a relationship (and stray away from emojis at all, it's how women text, here and there is forgivable), and if she can't see you *it's okay*, she is missing out on meeting you, and you are doing important things in your life. Remember love isn't about throwing yourself at someone until they realize how much you like them, they have to want you, as much as you want them, and that doesn't happen if you suffocate them with your affection.
Ok then, but i can if i want to go a few days without talking to her.
She's incredible, she is special ππ
this used to be common advice (waiting a few days) but now it's not as practical, people do it for the wrong reason (like this) and it loses what's left of the attraction (which I'm going to be blunt, she knows she can have you at this point, so if she doesn't show she wants you, I'd move on, which is what it looks like here) just keep it to the golden texting rule - 1-2 texts per text you recieve, if she doesn't reply give her about 24 hours before you send an extra text.
and if she doesn't seem that interested in a few days still and you don't want to be dragged along as "just friends" I'd move on
K xx
I think she is just being honest with you. She has a lot to sort out for herself. I think she is saying that she really needs to get the help she needs so she is mentally healthier in the future. I think you should stop pushing to see her and just let her know if she needs a friend she has you.
I agree thank you
Have you had a glance at the other answers?
She's worth my time and effort π
She doesn't reject you. She just has too many things on her mind. Anxiety and stress can break you down easily. I have anxiety attacks when sitting in the car. And it has an influence on your entire life. Be there for her, but don't push her into doing things, as she already has a tough time.
So her advice her is also good yes?
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Okay, i know her health is more important than anything π
I'm honestly not frustrated with her by not being clear, I gotten confused by she didn't say a "yes" or "no I don't want to"
She's a lovely person, an incredible Lady who I get along good with π
I enjoy my time talking with her so much! ππ
She has a job, I try to talk to her about that sometimes and I like to not give her that boring dry messages because I'm scared of losing her!
Do you agree that Word "anxiety" gets flung around way too much these days, anxiety is a lot more than feeling stressed over small problems in everyday life?
Oh it is absolutely way more than that. When having an anxiety attack your mind starts racing wild (panicky thoughts), your heart starts pounding out of your chest, you may feel nauseous, feel faint, your surroundings may feel like as if you're watching a real life movie, and all you want is for it to stop and get control, but you can't get grip of it. It's terrifying, especially when it happens in public places and you can't walk away from it.
You said that well by the way π
Thank you for the time π
Can I still talk about this for a while? I'll try to keep it short and simple
Is it okay if i go a few days without talking to her?π
I don't want to seem desperate to be talking to her often / all the time in messaging her π
If I knew her in person, I would talk to her in a positive way and when I message her I talk to her in that positive happy mood when you talk to someone π
I think I should ease a little in messaging her often and perhaps go a few days without messaging π
What i said, made sense?βΊ
Yea, another question have you seen what other people said to the question as an answer?
Yeah, hopefully this is only a small break and a Little delay in me and her not talking for a few days π
I still honestly do think me and her are in good terms. I know i made it a Little awkward and difficult by asking her if she want to meet me in person in April. I have known her for a Good Long time now and maybe now she thinks I like her which will make things more awkward π€¦ββοΈ
I care about her, she is an incredible Lady and i am not angry or frustrated by being the one who makes the conversation happen all the time π
I seriously do not want to be difficult for her, i don't want to annoy her and i understand why other boys here saying i am doing too much.
I'm happy with myself that I am showing her a good effort π
Like all guys say, if a girl is worth the time and worth the effort you will know and show her π
I am trying my best with her βΊ
Thank you for the time and your answers
Is it okay, that i am currently waiting for her to message me? It has been three days now and I don't want her to be worried for any reason on why I haven't messaged her π
think i messed up with her. I seriously do. I think i made myself seem like a terrible person. Like all the others boys out there π€¦ββοΈ
I do care about her. I've known her for a while so I thought maybe she would like to meet me in person. Not as a date. But as a guy and girl at a cinema for a movie and yes I sounded crazy saying I would travel to her. She lives hours away but I'm trying to show that I can be open to her about things π
I want to be someone special to her βΊ
I am use to talking to her and maybe me not talking to her for a few days is bad πββοΈπ
I try to comfort her, i think me and her are good π
But I make things awkward and difficult for her π€¦ββοΈ
I do take my responsibility if things are difficult. I always say sorry if I am being difficult.
The truth is, I do worry about her. I'm very protective over her. And she has told me things before that upset her in the Last year.
I want to show her i am trying for our friendship and I try to talk to her often π
Tell me something else. i am trying to go a few days without talking to her and if she message me first saying Hi, i will continue the conversation π
And no i am not telling her this. i am her friend through the internet. We live four hours away from each other.
How can i be the best supportive friend a special incredible girl can have?
Okay thank you. I am sorryπ
I like to push myself with her and show her that everything is good and me and her having a good understanding helps me and her talk about things βΊ
Thank you for the time π
Take care of yourself βΊ
If she doesn't say hi to me today, Wednesday. i will definitely go say hi and after a nice conversation with her tomorrow, Thursday and hopefully everything goes well βΊπππ
Thursday will mean six days without a word to each other and i will hopefully not mess up βΊπ
Thank you π
I asked her, "This question came across my mind, do you have a Netflix account or a shared account on Netflix? (:"
Because of the series 13 reasons why has been popular with young people since it arrived on Netflix π
If she thinks I want to share a account with her I'll be so surprised βΊπ
I will ask her about 13 reasons why π
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She said "Nope π my dad does though so I watch it at my dads, when I go"
Afterwards i said "okayβΊπ"
I Said your words which was "Anxiety is absolutely way more than that. When having an anxiety attack your mind starts racing wild (panicky thoughts), your heart starts pounding out of your chest, you may feel nauseous, feel faint, your surroundings may feel like as if you're watching a real life movie, and all you want is for it to stop and get control, but you can't get grip of it. It's terrifying, especially when it happens in public places and you can't walk away from it.
Stress is almost always the trigger, but the real reason behind it is different for everyone."
Was that risky? Or good to show that i am trying to be understanding with what she is going through?
Because we were talking about how the Word "anxiety" gets flung around way too much these days, anxiety is a lot more than feeling stressed over small problems in every day life.
I think she appreciates it that you try to understand her. If she knew about your opinions about anxiety before you asked someone else, she would have rejected you. I wouldn't spend time with someone who doesn't take me seriously. I think that this will make your relationship with her better.
Yea, i am not pressuring her to do anything. I will try to sound interesting to her and hope my responses to her when texting sound happy and good. No short answers and no one word answers.
She has work this morning, a Long Day at her nursery with the Little children hahaβΊ
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I think today was good π
i think her lack of response clearly shows that she isn't very interested and is trying to avoid rejecting you directly. I've done this before and i think you should move on. if she ends up making a move, thats different but i wouldn't hold my breath.
Okay
Was her answer there good too?
yeah i dont think she's lying about her health but i think if she really wanted it to work, she would find a way around it. it mainly sounds like she's not interested.
Ok then
She's worth my time and effort π
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huh move on brah she is showing a severe lack of interest and effort.. even if on some level she does like your she's not reflecting that in her text.. she's giving you short to the point text without any emotion at all. Anyhow move on dude you can find someone that is truly into you because you seem like a caring guy but some people are beyond reach.
I'm not frustrated with her, I didn't understand why she didn't say a yes or a no there. Needed some help on the words said there xx
I'll say let her go man, find someone else and try again when she's well,
You can't let go of someone who makes ya happy.
If you say so, me and her are good x
She's worth my time and effort π
She turned u down
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