She's worth my time and effort 😊
Ok then, but i can if i want to go a few days without talking to her. She's incredible, she is special 😊💜
this used to be common advice (waiting a few days) but now it's not as practical, people do it for the wrong reason (like this) and it loses what's left of the attraction (which I'm going to be blunt, she knows she can have you at this point, so if she doesn't show she wants you, I'd move on, which is what it looks like here) just keep it to the golden texting rule - 1-2 texts per text you recieve, if she doesn't reply give her about 24 hours before you send an extra text.and if she doesn't seem that interested in a few days still and you don't want to be dragged along as "just friends" I'd move on
I agree thank youHave you had a glance at the other answers?
So her advice her is also good yes?
Here is also *
Yes. That's the same as what I'm trying to say to you.
Okay, i know her health is more important than anything 😊
I'm honestly not frustrated with her by not being clear, I gotten confused by she didn't say a "yes" or "no I don't want to"She's a lovely person, an incredible Lady who I get along good with 😊I enjoy my time talking with her so much! 😊💜She has a job, I try to talk to her about that sometimes and I like to not give her that boring dry messages because I'm scared of losing her!
I know how she feels, and it can be very frustrating. She possibly wants to do the same things that she normally would do, like going out, but because of the anxiety it holds her back. It's good that you support her though :)
Do you agree that Word "anxiety" gets flung around way too much these days, anxiety is a lot more than feeling stressed over small problems in everyday life?
Oh it is absolutely way more than that. When having an anxiety attack your mind starts racing wild (panicky thoughts), your heart starts pounding out of your chest, you may feel nauseous, feel faint, your surroundings may feel like as if you're watching a real life movie, and all you want is for it to stop and get control, but you can't get grip of it. It's terrifying, especially when it happens in public places and you can't walk away from it.
Stress is almost always the trigger, but the real reason behind it is different for everyone.
You said that well by the way 😊
Well, I have experience with panic attacks. I still have them, so I know how it feels like.
Thank you for the time 😊
You're welcome :)
Can I still talk about this for a while? I'll try to keep it short and simple
Sure, but I'll possibly react later after a while as it's 9.30 PM here. You can also send a private message to me if you like.
Is it okay if i go a few days without talking to her?😊I don't want to seem desperate to be talking to her often / all the time in messaging her 😊If I knew her in person, I would talk to her in a positive way and when I message her I talk to her in that positive happy mood when you talk to someone 😊I think I should ease a little in messaging her often and perhaps go a few days without messaging 😊
What i said, made sense?☺
Yes that would be good. :) Yhat way, she can also focus a bit more on herself and sort her mind out. If you keep messaging her like non stop, she might feel pressure, which also can cause more stress.
Yea, another question have you seen what other people said to the question as an answer?
It's true that with your messages might have pushed her back. But don't underestimate panic attacks though. That's why it's hard to tell.
Yeah, hopefully this is only a small break and a Little delay in me and her not talking for a few days 😊
Yeah, you know mental health can't be restored in just a few days, but it gives her some time. :)
I still honestly do think me and her are in good terms. I know i made it a Little awkward and difficult by asking her if she want to meet me in person in April. I have known her for a Good Long time now and maybe now she thinks I like her which will make things more awkward 🤦♂️I care about her, she is an incredible Lady and i am not angry or frustrated by being the one who makes the conversation happen all the time 😊I seriously do not want to be difficult for her, i don't want to annoy her and i understand why other boys here saying i am doing too much.I'm happy with myself that I am showing her a good effort 😊Like all guys say, if a girl is worth the time and worth the effort you will know and show her 😊
It's true. That's why you have to be supportive until she is ready. But I'm sure you will :)
I am trying my best with her ☺
Thank you for the time and your answers
No problem. You're welcome :)
Is it okay, that i am currently waiting for her to message me? It has been three days now and I don't want her to be worried for any reason on why I haven't messaged her 😔
think i messed up with her. I seriously do. I think i made myself seem like a terrible person. Like all the others boys out there 🤦♂️I do care about her. I've known her for a while so I thought maybe she would like to meet me in person. Not as a date. But as a guy and girl at a cinema for a movie and yes I sounded crazy saying I would travel to her. She lives hours away but I'm trying to show that I can be open to her about things 😊I want to be someone special to her ☺I am use to talking to her and maybe me not talking to her for a few days is bad 🙍♂️😔I try to comfort her, i think me and her are good 😊But I make things awkward and difficult for her 🤦♂️I do take my responsibility if things are difficult. I always say sorry if I am being difficult.The truth is, I do worry about her. I'm very protective over her. And she has told me things before that upset her in the Last year.I want to show her i am trying for our friendship and I try to talk to her often 😊
Tell her exactly what you just wrote here. She needs to hear this.
Tell me something else. i am trying to go a few days without talking to her and if she message me first saying Hi, i will continue the conversation 😊
And no i am not telling her this. i am her friend through the internet. We live four hours away from each other. How can i be the best supportive friend a special incredible girl can have?
Then just wait it out 😂 there is no other advice I can give you.
Through talking you build up a friendship, but since you want to wait for her to initiate contact,...
Okay thank you. I am sorry😅I like to push myself with her and show her that everything is good and me and her having a good understanding helps me and her talk about things ☺Thank you for the time 😊
You're welcome :) I'm sure she appreciates what you do.
Take care of yourself ☺
You too! :)
If she doesn't say hi to me today, Wednesday. i will definitely go say hi and after a nice conversation with her tomorrow, Thursday and hopefully everything goes well ☺💕😊💜
Thursday will mean six days without a word to each other and i will hopefully not mess up ☺😅
Six days is enough waiting, indeed. Good luck.
Thank you 😊
I asked her, "This question came across my mind, do you have a Netflix account or a shared account on Netflix? (:" Because of the series 13 reasons why has been popular with young people since it arrived on Netflix 😊
Okay. I'm curious how she will react.
If she thinks I want to share a account with her I'll be so surprised ☺😅
I will ask her about 13 reasons why 😊
She said "Nope 😕 my dad does though so I watch it at my dads, when I go" Afterwards i said "okay☺💕"
I Said your words which was "Anxiety is absolutely way more than that. When having an anxiety attack your mind starts racing wild (panicky thoughts), your heart starts pounding out of your chest, you may feel nauseous, feel faint, your surroundings may feel like as if you're watching a real life movie, and all you want is for it to stop and get control, but you can't get grip of it. It's terrifying, especially when it happens in public places and you can't walk away from it.Stress is almost always the trigger, but the real reason behind it is different for everyone."Was that risky? Or good to show that i am trying to be understanding with what she is going through?
Because we were talking about how the Word "anxiety" gets flung around way too much these days, anxiety is a lot more than feeling stressed over small problems in every day life.
I think she appreciates it that you try to understand her. If she knew about your opinions about anxiety before you asked someone else, she would have rejected you. I wouldn't spend time with someone who doesn't take me seriously. I think that this will make your relationship with her better.
Yea, i am not pressuring her to do anything. I will try to sound interesting to her and hope my responses to her when texting sound happy and good. No short answers and no one word answers.She has work this morning, a Long Day at her nursery with the Little children haha☺
Okay, that's good :)
I think today was good 😅
Was her answer there good too?
yeah i dont think she's lying about her health but i think if she really wanted it to work, she would find a way around it. it mainly sounds like she's not interested.
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I'm not frustrated with her, I didn't understand why she didn't say a yes or a no there. Needed some help on the words said there xx
You can't let go of someone who makes ya happy.
it's all in the mind
If you say so, me and her are good x