She asked me out after she rejected me?

[Anonymous]

I asked out a girl and she said she couldn't and reschedules another time. She also kept saying "I'll call you" but she never did call me, and to top it off she withdraws from the day she rescheduled with me. Now from these signs I know she's not interested and I started to forget about her and move on.. I even deleted her number.

And then a month later she just asked me out randomly, and then asked when I was free so she could take me out. I did not really want to since I got pretty hurt on the fact that she didn't value my time, but I said yes since it wouldn't bother me since she'll meet me after work (no loss in my part).

So the day came and she went to my workplace, waited for me and she looked really beautiful. She paid for my meal even I insisted she shouldn't. We touched each other, talked, touched and teased each other and walked around shopping center It felt like a date.. Which I was not I was expecting.

Now I am confused, I don't get if she asked me out because she felt bad about before or if she's just interested..

[Anonymous]

She may have asked you out because she had nothing better to do and wants to make sure you stick around. It depends on her reasons for not showing up and not calling when she said she would. She could be really busy and tied up. I think you should let her know you want your time to be valued and if she doesn't from that point on, you know she isn't worth your time.

In the meantime, I think you'd be better off meeting someone else.

[lexusbabe1]

I know girls like that she either feels bad that she hurt your feelings and it was on her conscious or she was seeing some other guy and she's just using you as a rebound I hate to admit this because I feel like a douch bag ha but I've done it before not proud of it. If that's what she's doing to you then get rid of her and just forget about her she's not worth it find a nice girl that will value your time and love dating you :) good luck

[Asker]

She's a really nice girl so I don't think she would be in the 2nd category. I wouldn't want to date her if she just feels bad about hurting my feelings, but the fact that she went all the way to my workplace which is reasonably far, paid for everything, made time for it and just the whole act itself confuses me. She even hinted that we will still see each other in the future.

I am thinking of ignoring her again, but I don't really know what to do. I want to know her motives!!

[kaybee]

Don't ignore her! She's putting herself out there. Sh might have realized she made a mistake rejecting you at first an is working really hard to get back up in your good books. IMO she's interested in you.

[ali298]

Based on what she did you're totally in the right if you assume she just wants you to stick around keeping you on the back burner for later (even good people do bad things) let her know how you feel about what she did and that you don't appreciate it. She doesn't view you as a enough of a man that's why she was okay with doing what she did. You don't want to be the guy that a girl can whenever she wants, reject you, and then whenever she feels like it to ask you out again.
You're being too passive and girls don't like that confront her if you don't it shows you have no spine, no frame and no character. Ik it's been a long time but curious to know what happened between you two

[Littletad]

Maybe she was really at a bad time. You caught her at a bad time. I think you should be grateful she asked you out, and that it was her treat. Sure, you're still mad at her for last time. But she tried her best to make up for it. Don't over look that for pride. Trust me, it's not worth it. Tell her you're happy about the date, cause that's what I'm getting from your post.

[Asker]

Do you suggest asking her for a second date? or just wait keep it cool and wait for her 1st response?

[Littletad]

You should be honest and tell her you want to see her again. Just go with your true feelings. If she rejects you again, then you know enough to stop trying. Just go for it.

[GIntrovert]

I like how you phrased the last part... "just" interested. lol.

She likes you, ask her out on the next date...