To all races, have you ever been in an interracial relationship? Or at least had an interracial sexual encounter? What obstacles did you overcome?

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In light of recent events i think it would be interesting to see how much we actually get along, especially in the bedroom since the ultimate sign of equality is how willing we're able to form relationships with those outside our race as we tend to be attracted to those who have things in common with us.

To those that have been in an interracial relationship, what obstacles have you had to overcome? Where there cultural clashes / similarities?

To those who haven't, why not? No judgement, it could just be personal taste, religious clashes or bad luck! But regardless, would you consider at least having a short term "encounter" with someone outside your race?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My relationships were all interracial. The first one was an exotic mix between Japanese, Italian, African-American, German, etc. The second one was Peruvian. The third one was African-American. The fourth and fifth were Indian. Race literally means nothing to me. I've never thought, "I want to date someone because they're ______" or "I don't want to date someone because they're _______." I feel that there is nothing wrong with thinking, "I find ______ more attractive," but saying, "I wouldn't date this person because they're _________" is so shallow. I understand personal preference with appearance, but discriminating against someone is completely shallow. I found that most of the people were raised in the same area where I am, so there weren't strong cultural conflicts at all. I wouldn't mind dating any race. I believe that the more important question would be whether I date someone of a different religion. If the culture was very strong to the extent that if I was with them for a long time, it would change my lifestyle in a way I wouldn't like it to do so, I would say no. I don't care what religion it is. I am atheist and would prefer someone of the same religion, the religion of having no religion lmfao, for the sake of culture clashing. However, the actual race of the person doesn't matter. I see race, in this question, more as the physical appearance and presentation of the person instead of the culture and religion. I prefer people who have similar beliefs as me, so as long as they fit those belief standards, I don't mind what race they are.

aicarg · Accepted Answer

Yes, have dated interracialy and have been in interracial relationships - first boyfriend was Guyanese, second was Serbian, last was Filipino. It was mainly cultural/religious and language barriers - nothing that truly bothered me. Interacial couples are rather common.

mrArcher · Accepted Answer

I've been with an Asian girl once and another time with a Gypsy. The Asian girl was super sweet but way too shy. All the time, she'd never return my texts, she'd refuse my invitations to come to my place and she would be reluctant to come drink or party. The Gypsy girl was the opposite, she would always invite to family gatherings, have me take her and her friends upstate to hang out at their cottage (super fun, by the way) or visit her parents. I'd actually have married her, would it not have been for her parents. They're very keen on self-segregation, the gypsies. They don't really like outsiders to mix in with them.

bamesjond0069 · Accepted Answer

Hmm i think in theory its not a big deal. But almost all black people are liberal ghetto people. Ie if you vote democrat and listen to rap and exhibit other sorts of ghetto behaviors even if you are well off, i would not be interested in you. Nor would i be interested in a girl who liked guys of such low moral caliber and behaved that way. Even if its a white guy.

Now i do know a specific black woman who is very into fitness, she's conservative, she plays piano and does not like rap or anything like that. She is someone i wouldn't think it was a problem to date.

kibbenkat · Answer

I hit on a girl of the opposite race, and I fell hard. But she never recognized my feelings. Another girl of the opposite race I had a slight crush on had her sights on a guy in our class, so had to turn down my confession to her. I've had sexual encounters with mixed women (half-and-half), but I still put no cause it wasn't full on and it was only one girl.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Hm... I have. Majority of people in my home town were white. I didn't have to overcome any obstacles, nobody cared and it was common 🤷‍♀️ No cultural clashes either.

Miss_Laura · Answer

I said yes but im not in a interracial relationship per ce. I am in a cuckold relationship and i cuckold my white boyfriend with a black man. It's closer to a friends with benefits situation. I grew up in a very white area and gained a fetish for raceplay / black men, and that made me idealise them and sexualise them. i have since came around but recognising my own racism and such but that was something i had to work through.

boggboss · Answer

So I'm mix race here dad's Jamaican mum's half Turkish half native American and my girl is white British or as far as she knows we get lucky that we live in London where it's seen as normal to date outside of race we sometimes get looks at worst by some of the older generation although online there have been a few to throw insults out once they find out but that's the norm with the internet lol

_SOARER · Answer

All my interracial relationships have failed because those women did not have the same values as me.
Also they didn't understand my ideas or my way of life.
I am interracial myself Italian and mexican and my parents relationship didn't work out either.
I think it's best if people form intimate relationships with those who share the same religion, language, and race.

Tunasub · Answer

Just the girls parents not being able to accept thier daughter with an black man. Interacial sex has been going for for hundreds of years. Racism is ignorance and ignorance is bliss to those who are. There are many things that are different in all races but there is one main thing that is the same, and that is... we are all human beings, people! Live and let live. Learn about one another instead of choosing to hate what we don't know. That's how we get over all of this bullshit.

Anonymous · Answer

I've never been in a sexual or dating relationship, so I can't answer on that front. I have however had some friends who weren't the same "race" as me (I find that term silly tbh. We're all human.), and all of them were good people. One in particular I will never forget, who was my best friend for 7 years. We lost contact because he moved and this was the time before 3 year old kids had smart phones, but I still fondly remember what we used to do.

winterfox10 · Answer

The thing you have to understand about interracial dating is that people who want to make something work, are going to make it work. I don't really know how much race even needs to be brought up, because that tension just becomes yet one more reason to say "no." Sometimes the best thing to do is to just put thoughts about race out of your mind.

Anonymous · Answer

"as we tend to be attracted to those who have things in common with us." No you sleep with a guy because he has a dick, which is not common to you. And the bigger the better so you prefer black, not because they have something in common with you. Black girls are not into white guys though, for the reasons mentioned, so this question is probably something girls only can relate to.

Agape93 · Answer

Yeah. Mostly either language barriers or social customs they’re used to.

tonycar · Answer

Its a long story, but i am an caucasian man, and i was engaged to an indian girl a few years back, everything was great, but she could never tell her parents, not until i got myself a degree amd a job, it was not a obstacle we could overcome due to her moving away and breaking off the engagement. I have it all now tho 😂

I am equally attracted to all skin color and culture. It does not matter, only how they are and looks has something to do with it i'm afraid, but thats a guys nature...

MotorcycleMan · Answer

I have dated many ethnic backgrounds and never felt there were any "obstacles". If there are differences, great! We'll both learn and grow more that way by increasing our exposure to anything other than our "norm".

zagor · Answer

I've had sex with black, Asian, and Latina girls. And even some white girls. My preferences extend to individuals, not ethnicities.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Me and this Klingon woman hit it off once!

1CentWorth · Answer

Black girl I dated was interesting from a cultural standpoint. She was herself, I was my self, and it ended up not mattering a bit. we broke up because of normal stuff.

Avicenna · Answer

Yeah, I have had several of them. Disapproval mostly came from her family members.  Recent flings I had didn't come with contact with her family, so it wasn't an issue. My family doesn't care.

katiesmuff · Answer

Yes I have had interracial sex from the very first time to present and that has now been about 23 years. I am now married to a black man and we have 3 children. All is good.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a mix and in a interracial relationship. As far as we go I'm a mexican/puerto rican and my wife is white. There's really no issue between culture or anything. The only time race is really mentioned is when we're having sex cause the color difference is hot. Other than that we're just a normal couple like everyone else. People are people so I don't really care about interracial couples cause we're all the same

andreasderjuengere · Answer

There had been cultural misunderstandings - but no clashes. The only obstacles I have/had are coming from the outside: prejudices, categorizing, generalizing.

0112358 · Answer

Friendships, and fooling around, no long term dating, though it just didn't happen. TBH I didn't have any issues. A few of my cousins are in interracial marriages. It hasn't been a big deal.

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