Have you been in an interracial relationship? What are the biggest cultural differences you had to overcome?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The difference in color because I was raised "you stick with your own kind" and so was he. People staring at you, you can feel the judgment in their eyes. Religion was a concern for me but it turned out that neither one of us cared for the religions we were raised in. We got along sooo well. When he showed interest in me I warned him that I've never been with someone outside my own color. That I have no idea what's going to happen when we kiss. I might accept and like it, or I might throw up and run away. Our chemistry was something I've never had before.

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

I have 2 sisters. All 3 of us are married in an interracial marriage.
culturally is not an issue.
dating period… ensure both share similar value system.
- health

- education

- finance

- how both resolve differences

some wise people said… no one is right… both respectfully agree to disagree and move on with life. Both compromise.
both - goal to support and love for the better health and happiness.

BonzoInBitburg · Accepted Answer

For my wife and I the biggest differences are language and food. She gets tired of speaking English and a couple times a week she gets together with some friends from her country so she can speak her native language. We have some meals together because we each like some dishes from each others culture but we also have our comfort food that is more suitable to our own palettes. I had already traveled to her home country twice before I met her and was considering spending my winters there so I was already very comfortable with her culture.

MikeTheBartender · Accepted Answer

I've dated pretty much every race, I don't even remotely think about that stuff, is she hot or not? That is the only cultural thing I need to worry about. I would rather date a girl of a different race than a girl of my race that is lazy, annoying, bitchy, etc. The cultural differences are easy compared to that drama!

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, my aim on Girls Ask Guys is to give you insights into love and connection. Love knows no color boundaries, but cultural differences can make things spicy! 🧡 Communication is key to understanding these differences, like varied communication styles or family traditions. Being open and curious about your partner's background adds depth to your bond. Remember, love isn't about erasing differences; it's about celebrating them together! 💫

Noredcarpet · Answer

The family, his. Groups are what they are and if he comes from a not too healthy family with prejudice and system of their own, if he has not freed himself from it, he is doomed to let it effect, destroy the relationship. It is only then a matter of time and situation.

I think what is important is that his family shows mutual respect and not try to dominate and force you to become one of them although you never will be anyhow or you are out.

In my past I left a guy over it. I hoped along with his family, who saw me as the enemy, that he would shake it off, go on, find someone who was accepted by his family, someone like them. I did it out of care for him, and myself. I did not want to tear him apart. I figured I would leave him as together as he could get in their care.

What happened next was a worse scenario than I believe his family or me for that matter had imagined. He took it very hard. He had a tougher time than I had. I believe my feelings for him died out when I realized he had not freed himself in that regard he needed if chosing a girl like me. He made me think there was no problem, but it was. I would never have gotten myself involved with him had I known how weak he was, blindsighted, but I too felt sorry for him because he had no control over his family. He had a crazy family.

I think his family was selfish and crossed boundaries, wanting entitlement to continue to control his adult life. Believing they knew whar was best for him. He would be making them happy if he left me but he himself would not be.

There was a point when he nearly convinced me to return to him when his family lashed out to me for the last time when I told him I couldn't. I told him why, what had happened.

I believe it very much depend on how the people within their culture are wired if it is going to be a success or not. Both have to try, be curious and open minded. Mutual respect.

Lucy68 · Answer

I have. All my past boyfriends were all a different race than me. I never really dated a black fella. But anywho, well there were some cultural differences when I dated anyone who was of Asian descent, but we embraced them. But really we just date.

katiesmuff · Answer

Was dating interracially since I was in high school and now married with 4 children and haven't noticed all that much negative reactions at all. Most everyone treats us just like any other same race couple would be treated. It's been a good life and I have no regrets for my choices.

Anonymous · Answer

I am caucasian American and I am attracted to Latina women. I dated one for a couple of months once. It didn't work out because of certain cultural expectations. That being said, the differences might have been more attributed to being in a different socioeconomic class. One thing I couldn't get around was that if I had a rough day at work, and just needed to go home and decompress, she took it seriously and thought it was some excuse because I had another lady who I was dating. She even showed up in a friend's car at my work once because she wanted to follow me to see where I went after work.

I am NOT suggesting that all Latinos are of a lower socioeconomic class at all!

Zack-Bann · Answer

All my relationships except one have been interracial

I stopped even thinking about it

It doesn’t feel different or unique

It’s just a relationship

Race is meaningless if you stop giving it so much meaning

rebelsunshine · Answer

Yes I have. I'm white and one big cultural difference I've noticed is in the importance placed on protecting and honoring the family.

Whites seem to place more of an emphasis on individual rights and autonomy. With other races more emphasis is placed on things like marriage, having children, and family honor.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Only Latinas. Nothing really. Most of them were fair skinned. Their Catholic, my family is Catholic from Central Europe and our culture, interests and values are very similar. The only real issue was Latinas are very feisty and tempermental and I'm not used to someone else wearing the pants in the relationship and being so controlling. I'm not sure if I will date another Latina again for this exact reason.

guesswhereivebeen · Answer

I’m whitr and I think I’ve got with most races at some point besides black…. I find the biggest differences are with age… get a girl in her 20s at my age and you’ll not have much In common… she grew up on different tv shows … but it’s not a bad thing always

Abbycado · Answer

Nope, I have only been in a couple relationships in my life. Both were same race. I see plenty of interracial couples on campus. Good for them.

queenofcardio · Answer

I have. Probably wouldn't again but who knows

QuineJessica · Answer

I have had relationships with people of a different nationality, but not of a different race. Overall, I don't have much experience for my age and country.

beenherebefore · Answer

I was born from an interracial relationship and currently in an interracial relationship.

chrissykerdock · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

Yes and I can’t think of any cultural difference we have had to overcome. His family does put more emphasis on family. Like mine does too to an extent but with them it is more words where his is more action.

msc545 · Answer

I have, with an Hispanic woman. I think the biggest difference was the sheer size of her family which was a bit intimidating, along with the fact that I spoke/understood very little Spanish. I learned.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I have and there wasn't really a cultural difference if there was any difference it was more class related.

Iron_Man · Answer

I’m a white American man I had a long relationship with a Cuban girl with white skin. Is that a cultural difference? She even sounded American 100% no accent perfect English

jshm2 · Answer

Yeah, a few.  Chinese and African girls have very different family dynamics.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

My last girlfriend is Hindi. Another is white but has some black in her lineage.

Anonymous · Answer

Face clothes. He takes it into the shower and washes himself with them which is gross. I use sponges, brushes, luffas, soap.

Jennz6 · Answer

Yes I have but there wasn’t anything to overcome

LiamJHayden · Answer

Several. The only cultural differences were when the lady's family was opposed.

Likes2drive · Answer

Yes, mostly the people staring and curious, also need to understand their culture

Pterodon · Answer

Yes I have. Major obstacle was cultural differences

RedWine9 · Answer

Not only that but being the same gender. Her parents are not Madeline.

Godihateyou · Answer

I can't talk about this because if I do I will be banned from this app. Ists racist and anti free speech

Mayorofbobaville · Answer

biggest difference is just how we view certain things but it’s all about understanding and respect. How about you

MasterKS · Answer

yes often, recents with muslim, wile i am not muslim.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, I've never been in any kind of relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys should know that women are passive aggressive no matter what race. We all are aggressive

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, we had nothing in common.

FreyaRed · Answer

No. It's against my personal codex.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

No. I haven't.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Her 😺 was slanted. Odd.

Kelly6 · Answer

@ba0licious yes

blackeagle007 · Answer

I didn’t vote for him or Kamala

In_Trance · Answer

Yes i have

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