How do I stop worrying about my partners body count?

[Anonymous]

I know it sounds silly but I keep worrying about my boyfriends body count. We are both going into our junior year in highschool and recently started dating. We hung out the other day and he got on the subject of sexual things and past people we’ve dated and he mentioned his friends doing it in the theater and he was grossed out and that he always brings girls out to do it in his car instead because he finds it gross to do that stuff in public. We’ve never done anything sexual but I’m kind of concerned that if we ever do it won’t mean anything to him because he’s been with so many other girls. I don’t know how many he’s been with, he didn’t say but it still won’t stop bugging me. I haven’t dated many people and I’ve only slept with two guys but I’m very romantic and believe that when I do it with someone it’s kind of meaningful most of the time and I don’t want to be just another tally on his body count.

[btbc92]

You DON'T! When something like that is so important to you it's not silly it means that you have a serious concern or something that's very serious. You don't be with somebody who has a high body count especially if you're concerned with it. But since you have premarital sex as well, no offense, you have no right to judge either. You will always be another tally just like he will be in that alley. That's what happens when you have premarital sex in the first place. At the end of the day you have to really decide what you really want. Is simply your choice to Let It Go I still hold on to it. I know for myself that would never be the case for me.

[Asker]

I don’t mind if he’s slept with other people because I have too that’s not an issue with anyone I’ve ever been with nor will it ever be. I’m just always afraid of being with someone who turns out to be and F-boy

[btbc92]

What's the difference? That's where you become a hypocrite. A fornicator is a fornicator, a cheater is a cheater, an adulterer is an adulterer. You can't say that you don't mind if he slept with other people but then you're afraid of him turning out to be an F boy. If you're having sex outside of marriage, he has a right to do what he wants to. He's not married to you, and you're not married to him. This is why so many of you end up with these problems. You give spousal privileges to people you're not married to and then you expect them to treat you like a spouse unmarried all while doing unhealthy things. There's no point of having the same fear when you are who you attract.

[btbc92]

You have to seriously reevaluate where your sexual values are.

[btbc92]

Once you had premarital sex for the very first time. You understood what those risks were when you lost your virginity. This is one of them. If not, sadly to say you should have thought about it. Because now who's the one that's going to be stuck? You. You already know what will happen if you have sex. So seriously think about what your choices are going to be. That's all I can tell you. In fact, I think that's all anybody who is not God can tell you. Once Men start experiencing sex outside of marriage their main goal is how they can get sex. They have scientific studies to support what sex actually does to a person's brain. Especially unmarried.

[Kobe8201]

It will mean something to him if he has feelings for you. It's pretty easy for a guy to get attached.