Is body count important for you when you are dating?

Question

I really don't care about it, but there are a lot of people who judge a person because of their body count?  Do you care about it in a possible partner? Why?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The topic of body count is very subjective.

For a man who is mature enough, a high body count generally isn’t a big deal for as long as he checks out as clean. There are many men who were once involved in porn, male escorts or massage therapists whose body count would be near or more than triple digits yet they’d be squeaky clean and clear from STIs and have 0 emotional attachments to those he been with, I’m a MT and used to be a male escort at a Caribbean resort, generally don’t find anything about it to have affected me other than most things on a girl don’t necessarily excite me as mostly tried them all.

A girl on the other hand, her body count will matter. Like a man, there’s the risk of STIs. There’s also more to it than just that. During sex a girl will form an emotional attachment and pair bond to the man, if she’s had 1-3 previous partners usually she can form that bond fairly easily with a new man. 4-7 mostly still can be done but depends on some factors. 8 or more then usually it’s quite difficult for her to bond as you can think of it as a duct tape, it’s strong once you apply it and probably could remove and reuse it 2-3 times but beyond that it’s lost its adhesive properties. This bond is important as that’s what keeps the couple together through difficult times. When a new man begins inserting himself into her he may or may not break the pair bond she has with the previous guy, if it didn’t break the first time then it could break as they have more sex but sometimes the new guy won’t be able to break it instead he forms a weaker second bond with her. The following bonds will be more difficult to break :-

The boyfriend/husband that took her virginity especially if the relationship ended very recently.

The baby daddy especially if she has more than 1 kid with him, a baby will generally make that pair bond much stronger and even if the bond he first had with her wasn’t a strong bond and it could break the dominant bond in her.

Her previous man was with her for a long time or the longest time and she isn’t over him.

Her previous man has a significantly thicker and longer penis than the new man. This will be especially difficult if she’s still actively seeing the previous guy or it was a very recent ending of a relationship.

2 or more factors, the bond will be difficult for a new guy to break.

If she’s been long term with a man who is well endowed, her vagina may have a memory effect and it’s generally the case all a girl has to do is to have had 7 partners and there will be a 20% chance 1 of those men will be that 1 in 100 that’s well endowed. If she had been with him long term she may not enjoy the sex.

BlessedBlend94 · Accepted Answer

I care about body count in one sense because I do NOT want a super pure girl at this point. Even with my own body count of 1, I do not want to be with a virgin or someone with a super low body count.

I have dated plenty of "Good girls" and I have dated several "slutty" women. At this point I will gladly and proudly marry a woman with a promiscuous background who treats me like a king, let's me be myself, is her realistic self around me, and likes to have fun, and whose way of carrying herself naturally challenges me to be a better man VS a woman who is "only mine" but wants to change everything about me, and talks at me rather than with me. As long as a woman is not actively sleeping with everyone right now, I don't mind if she has a slutty background or a high body count at all, and would say I usually prefer it at this point. Again as long as she is faithful and respectful to me, that's the key.

My very best relationship was with a woman who had been with many men amd a couple women before me. If I had been a little more emotionally mature at the time, we would be married right now.

She knew exactly how to respect a man. She knew how to please a man. And she had been with so many assholes that she now understood the value of a strong yet gentle man, a hard working, successful, knows how to fight but hates doing it, protective, romantic man who listens to her and is there for her, and is good with children. She recognized the man she had and she knew how to make him happy. And in my case I loved that she kept her sluttiness all to me. When we went out on dates she would wear a full length beautiful dress and we would parade the town as king and queen. Then when it was just us, we would explore all our wild desires, with just her and I.

They say you can't turn a ho into a housewife, but I damn near did. The problem in that relationship was not her. It was only when I took my hands off the wheel emotionally that the relationship turned sour. I've learned a lot since then and I am confident that I have the emotional maturity now. If I ever am blessed enough to meet another woman like her and land a relationship with her I will know what I have this time and I'm not giving up. I've always liked a challenge.

Account · Accepted Answer

To me it is. Has nothing to do with religious views etc, nor would I ever think of someone negatively because of they had multiple partners, hell no. That is not the issue.
The issue is that I just happen to like people who are similar to me who happen to be extremely selective when it comes to intimacy.

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Accepted Answer

It doesn't matter to me and all these guys saying yes are insecure man-children who have a need to dominate unexperienced women to claim them as their own. Often they are also hypocritical, having sex before meeting said woman but expecting her to stay chaste. It's honestly pathetic on their end.

ManOnFire · Answer

Body count should be an important issue for everyone, even women should be concerned about it with men. I understand a few partners, and almost everyone has had sex at one point or another in their lives or made mistakes with people, including us Christians, but if it's somebody who's had dozens and dozens of partners or they sleep with someone new every week or month, that's not a person I think I would ever want to date.

You have to understand that body count goes deeper than just a number. It's an indicator of a person's level of promiscuity and where their morals/values lie in being intimate with others. And you also have to keep sexual diseases in mind. You can be at risk for heartbreakers like herpes, genital warts, HPV, Epstein-Barr, or syphilis. Some people have these things and don't even know it, which makes it worse or scarier for you to contract from them.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It is important only to the extent that it indicates a woman's current attitude about sex. If she is looking for casual sex without commitment, I may be interested in spending a few hours with her, but not a relationship. If she thinks sex is something that should be reserved for a committed relationship, then she has my interest.

If she is my age, and her body count is 20, but 18 of those were before she reached 30, I'm okay with her. If she is my age, and her body count is 20, and 18 of those were in the last two years, I'm not okay with her.

Avicenna · Answer

I’ve never asked a woman about hers. One told me, but that was on her own initiative.

Lliam · Answer

Nope. I never gave it any thought. I never asked a girlfriend's "body count" and none ever asked mine.

None of my girlfriends were virgins, but in my teens I knew that they had only had one or two boyfriends before we met. They weren't promiscuous.

When I was 36, I met a 30 year old. She had been molested by her step father from a very early age for over 10 years until she reached puberty. It drove her to alcoholism. She got married and had a kid at 17, they got divorced a few years later and the father got custody even though she remained very close to her son.
She was hypersexual and orgasmic and probably had quite a few sexual partners in her 20s. But by the time we met, she had been in therapy for several years, kicked alcohol, gotten a career, and was self sufficient. She was highly ethical, monogamous, and determined to be a normal, healthy woman.
We wound up living together for almost two years. She was the first girlfriend I every fell completely in love with. Her sexual history was none of my concern. She was an amazing and wonderful person.

I met my future wife when I was 40. She was 37. We had both lived full and fulfilling lives but had never been married or had kids. Naturally, she had had boyfriends, but she was not promiscuous.
We've been happily married now for 28 years. We love, respect and adore each other and are completely loyal.

RavVid · Answer

It has to be important to men as to the paternity of your woman's children once you consider a woman as being more than a vagina to enjoy. It is not symmetrical in the way men and women hate infidelity.

It is one thing for a woman to have had a few relationships but another if she has had a large number of sexual encounters because the past predicts the future. If you have been easy going with whom you have had sex than it is reasonable for me to anticipate you might be easy going after we have coupled up. In which case your child might not be my child but end up paying for child.

So yeah body count matters and should matter to men.

Miristheiss · Answer

Of course it was.

My wife was a virgin.

No woman who was not would have ever been my wife.

You do not care because you are a woman. Women do not usually care and then expect men not to.

Women care about heigth and income and confidence and masculinity.

Society sold you the lie that the bc pill meant you are free to just f around and there are no consequences.

Decisions always have consequences. Look at the divorce rate, single parent homes, herpes and endless unmarried women.

Being a slut usually has consequences.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I do to a point. It just gives me an idea of the type of guy he is, how he deals with women, how much he respects his body, and how much of a slut he is. A guy with a high count and doesn't have an actual relationship longer than 2 years is most likely not gonna make a very good serious partner. Also if he eats a lot of pussy I would rather pass on that type of guy since, no thanks :(

Cripplingkingship · Answer

I suppose it does, but I don't ask, why, because she could lie to me about it. I will never know the her real body count. So its pointless asking this question to the person who are dating.

Sometimes this stuff, being a virgin or not a virgin, high or low body count can only hold you back from finding a partner.

The only things that concerns me, is cirminal record, serious STDs, being a sex worker. If she has none these, i am fine with rest.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Yes.

The best indicator of your future behaviors and patterns is the past. If they won't admit, confront or own their past, including their mistakes and faults then clearly I can see what I would be dating with.

I am Catholic and believe in our values, I'm not an idiot though, I was in the military and college, I'm not a virgin nor am I expecting one but if a girl can't even admit her number of sexual partners, then we won't align and I won't invest time or money into such a short sighted person.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I refuse to date anyone whose body count is more than 3 as I’m a virgin and can’t accept a promiscuous man. They can’t be satisfied by one woman. They find it extremely difficult to marry someone because they always think there’s someone better out there.

Daniela1982 · Answer

This question (one of the top 10 asked on G@G) again?

WhitneySnow · Answer

No. I might be curious, but it’s really not that important to me how many people my partner has done sexual stuff with as long as they don’t cheat on me. If we date long enough (or maybe even before) it’ll probably come up in convo, but it won’t really matter to me. On the other hand, if some of that sexual stuff was done while they were in a relationship with someone else (in other words, they cheated on them), that actually would matter to me.

spartan55 · Answer

I don't really care. I was very promiscuous in my twenties, no regrets. My attitude towards casual sex has completely different now because DUH I'm a different guy at 54 then when I was 24. That's why I kind of scoff at the notion that a high number of partners means they will still bang new guys every weekend, cheat, etc. Simply not true.

Squishyfeet · Answer

Body count shouldn’t matter. It’s no one’s place to judge how many people you have or haven’t been with. Maybe someone slept around because they were going through something, and it made them feel good. Maybe they didn’t sleep with anyone at all because they were waiting for someone special.

The people who judge others for it are those who are insecure. If you’re comfortable with yourself, thinking about the others your partner has been with doesn’t bother you.

HighValue · Answer

Even one time of casual sex makes her low quality and immoral. Only pathetic low quality women would not like a man to have moral standards like that. It is often women past 30 that have made numerous bad life decisions that have a problem with those kinds of moral standards.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, it indicates a healthy mindset towards relationships, and sex.. The less you've had, the more healthy you most likely are.. People with higher body counts usually have a harder time sticking to one SO, unless they have a complete change in mindset where they got tired of not having somebody to love..

Nikki1989 · Answer

For the one millionth time, no. That is for insecure people.

Staximus · Answer

Sex is meaningless to people who just fuck like shaking hands, they will have sex with anybody they find attractive. Because it's meaningless to them, they will cheat again and again. The girl and guy I know with the highest known body counts are also the same who have cheated on their husband and wife the most. No surprise there.

LazerBean · Answer

It is to me, but that is because I kept the same standard for myself. People who expect higher standards out of others than they do for themselves have low intelligence.

Anonymous · Answer

people saying body count don't matter or the past is just the past are full of shit

it's easy to virtue signal about your blissful ignorance until you're confronted with the issue directly

how many of you would allow a rehabilitated sex offender to babysit your kids? I'm willing to bet all of you will say NO because deep down you know the past isn't just the past

Anonymous · Answer

it would depend if there was a reason for it to become an issue or not , not something i'd like ask about early on or really wonder about. you sort of assume everyone has been with someone else anyways.
it would only be a red flag if it was insanely high or like double digits , if they dated a couple people before you and had sex with them not really a shocker right

Christian_Cartier · Answer

It's very, very important. A girl's penis count tells me whether or not she respects herself and has a healthy mindset toward relationships. Girls with more than a few I would never consider her for marriage/children or any long term partnership.

Women don't seem to mind, though. So I guess guys can get away with sleeping around. But it is VERY important to me and every man i know. There's no worse feeling as a guy than being seen around town with "that girl".

DtMe89 · Answer

No, as long as:

1. NO STD's

2. NO KIDS

3. NO legal trouble

4. there was a 4th one but it escapes me right now

Basically, you can be a slut all you want, just, remember, those things have consequences. And, I don't want to date girls with at least those 3 things

Sonora · Answer

Absolutely it is important. It indicates if she shares similar values as me, it makes me feel special that I am not one out of hundreds of men because she is promiscuous, and there is a lower chance of her being infected with a STI that she could pass on to me.

CB-Raido-Time · Answer

Though the question is irrelevant to me only assuming that I would date again then you bet it would be extremely important, But even more important than that is the fact that is nearly the entire world's population have stuck a poison swab up their nose and got themselves injected with a poison shot and there is no way I would ever date again that isn't even a possibility now.

FreyaRed · Answer

Yes. It can be an indicator for estimation if a person is capable to have a stable relationships. Of course someone 200+ won't tell you the truth unless you're smart enough to bring the person to brag with their "achievements". XD

RageBabe · Answer

Yes, and I hate to come across judgmental body count, and an STD check is very important to me.

Purpleronnie · Answer

The extremes would likely factor for me , ie pornstar level or virgin but otherwise no and have never asked a woman nor would I expect to be given an honest answer.

Nonamez · Answer

Not at all , my future partners life before me is not my business 🧘 at some point I will give some different questions, she can answer or not , I'm ok with that , I can choose or not to answer her questions 🧘 I can't change her past 👀🤓

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

Errr no? This isn't the kind of thing that really crosses my mind. I don't care if she's had sex with 0 guys or 100 guys. What matters is she's with me now.

genericname85 · Answer

absolutely. because there's quite solid evidence in social science that choosing a mate with more than 10 partners has a significantly lower chance of being in a quality long term stable relationship with them.

DrPepper12 · Answer

It's meaningless and insecure people stress over it. That SO is with YOU in the PRESENT and building a FUTURE!  EVERYONE HAS A PAST! You should be grateful - how else do people become better lovers?

Matt_M · Answer

No. It isn't any of my business and I don't particularly want to know.

Wiredone · Answer

I don't care what her count is. I care more about the present and future. The past is behind us. That's why the windshield is bigger than the rear view mirror

Anonymous · Answer

Yep. All aspects of a girl's past are important. It's how we establish a person's character and their expected behavior patterns. Anyone who ignores a person's past is deliberately being naive and rolling some extra dice. To each their own though.

Slim57 · Answer

It's very important. I don't want someone who would just hook up and never talk to a stranger ever again, or keep hooking up with randoms. Sex isn't just for fun for me, it's intimacy between 2 people that I'd never reserve for a complete stranger. Only ones who have problems being judged are the ones who do it and can't control themselves, but it shouldn't matter, it definitely doesn't matter to me that women with high body counts don't want me, I definitely don't want them either.

mandyfire98 · Answer

I don't care about it at all.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Like what kind of body count? Not quite clear to me.. 🤔🤭

Fireguy17 · Answer

No, not at all. We all at some point have a history.

exitseven · Answer

No, if I am just dating somebody maybe a high body count would be good.

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

I hope not, but it does I find the girls in denial of that fact funny actually sad.

ItsMariusz · Answer

It tells me a lot about your character, so yes, very important.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. If a man is looking for a quality woman for a committed relationship / marriage, body count will, and should be, important to him. If a guy doesn't care about your body count, he's likely just looking for casual sex.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I do not ask and have never been asked in real life.

BruceJender · Answer

I do.  If it's over 5, I start to ask questions, and usually I lose interest. Maybe keep her as a hook up, but never anything serious.  Most people care about body counts.

Berethor · Answer

It might be the thing I care the most about a woman, I don't want to date a dirty woman.

Anonymous · Answer

Only to the extent that if she has more than me I'm not interested.

When I met my wife I was her second.

Most women these days in their 20's usually have 100 , which would definitely put them off of my radar.

Notherndude84 · Answer

It’s very stupid, if a man is concerned about it he’s an insecure loser.

Nerdvana · Answer

I could care less about a woman's body count.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Yep personally to me it is, it's just a preference.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Mines pretty high... I usually hope she doesn't ask!

Crankor · Answer

Yes. It does change how I would view the relationship.. assuming that's what it even was. It absolutely does effect how that person views sex

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

Yes, a few is understandable but I mean like 50? How are you supposed to take her seriously?

Jersey2 · Answer

A high body count is a no for a longterm relationship or marriage. High body counts increase the likelihood of divorce. So its a no.

kaucky1 · Answer

Is how many been with because same vessal I had and killed by cartoon so I'm like an indestructible cartoon Weiner stays on whole time each time

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Well, if half of Windsor (234,000 population) had clubbed her, of course, but if she's had a reasonable number of boyfriends, not really.

BradleyScheff · Answer

Yes. If it is just dating, then no. But for her to have any hopes of marriage, it needs to be really low or zero.

msc545 · Answer

Don't care. With or without a woman with a high body count, you are going to have trouble. Goes with this activity.

Anonymous · Answer

High Five for getting stupid fucks to reply. LMAO

HaveNoName · Answer

To REJECT a person, yes definitely. Any count above 1 from before is a very clear sign.

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