Does ‘body count’ really matter in a relationship?

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Inbox · Accepted Answer

Another sexist, double standard, etc type of question again by GAG lol. I’ll just copy and paste the same answer I got an MHO for a while backed :

…. Yeah, it’s always the young 20s girls who complain about this, including the whiny Feminists. Let’s keep it simple though:

1. Men and women are NOT the same.

Men want women who have low body counts. Whereas women want men who are financially successful, tall, handsome, etc - men don’t care if you have money, career, etc. Men have NOT changed, but women do because they’re always the ones whining and making big deals out of nothing.

2. Double standard fallacy argument

I understand that it sucks not being able to sleep with everyone as men can, but you’re making A LOT of assumptions: 1) getting laid is difficult for most men (the old saying is for every 18 #s a guy gets, only 1 will sleep with him and that’s assuming he plays his cards right). 2) even the average looking girl has options where most men do not, 3) why don’t you come up to me and ask me out and do all the work to the bedroom - whereas all a woman has to do is say “yea” to talking to him, giving out her #, a date, letting him kiss her, back to his place and make a move —- oh, if the she’s not feeling it at his place she can walk away and any experienced man will tell you that if you let a woman leave your place without sex, she will never contact or respond to him again DESPITE all the effort he put into this.

The point is, the double standard is a circular argument and like I said before, it’s not men complaining about the double standards, it’s only women.

Lastly, the average body count for a man here in the USA is only between 5 - 7, whereas for a woman it is 6 - 8, so it’s actually women who are being hypocritical lol.

3. My advice after getting hundreds of #s, dates, etc in this life of mine.

Be the woman (or man) that makes your boyfriend or girlfriend WANT to stick around and keep you because relationships are not easy - you must adjust yourself to the “market” shall we say, without selling your values or soul.

My current girlfriend I wish to marry is because of a number of reasons and one of them is because she is a good girl. Therefore I do everything I can to support her dreams and treat her well because I know she’s worth it.

if you want to sleep around that’s your choice, but all that I ask is you accept the consequences because no matter how hard the Feminists start wars, bitch, etc, they won’t be able to change men (they’ve been trying for the past 2000 years and still have not succeeded).

LiamS95 · Accepted Answer

Maybe for some but not for others.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

“Body count” sounds so… CSI. You mean your number? Sort of, but for practical reasons like sexual health mainly. Secondary interest might be connected to your level of experience. Using a simple example:

A Call of Duty “Rookie” won’t know what to do with a CoD “Veteran” in terms of the differential experience. Physically the veteran has more battle scars, has seen and done more, etc. (whereas the rookie hasn’t seen the battlefield yet). Psychologically being part of the game for that long makes upcoming experiences a little more routine (as opposed to being all new for the Rookie).

Hope this helps.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

It's different for everyone. Personally it matters to me. I could never imagine being in a serious with a man slut. Those type of men don't make good partners or fathers

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If you are 19 and you had sex with 10 guys in the past year, you are not relationship material. If you are 38 and you had sex with 10 guys in your lifetime, you are much more likely to be relationship material.

DaveJord · Answer

Body count does not really matter. Values and ethics do.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

My body count is 1, I have rejected so many hot men though that I am starting to regret.

V_Injector · Answer

For a man, it proves he has what women want. He is above and beyond when compared to other men.  For a woman, it proves she's easy.  Yeah it sort of matters...

AviatorTom · Answer

Before or after a relationship, body count has little meaning. Could be significant if body count changes DURING a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

In a way, I am proof that it does not necessarily have to matter. Somewhat to my own surprise, when I stopped to count it out, I have had 14 sexual partners.

To start, I lost my virginity to my high school girlfriend when I was 16 and she was 15. I have also had 5 one night stands and one, what would be called today - though I don't think the phrase had been coined at that point (I was in college) one "friends with benefits." That lasted about 8 months.

Frankly, this also resulted in 6 pregnancies. One of which ended in a miscarriage. Three of which were with my current live-in girlfriend of 11 years, with whom I have two little boys and my little princess. The first two were unplanned pregnancies. The third was planned.

Also, I was contacted about two years ago by a woman with whom I had a one night stand. We did not know each other well, frankly, but we had an amazing night and, it turns out, I got her pregnant,

The thing is that she decided not to tell me and raise the baby on her own. However, as he became a teenager she decided that her child needed to know his father. So she tracked me down two years ago and now I have a 14 year old son. (My other children are 10, 9 and 7.) I am very proud of him and although it was awkward to start, we have grown quite close.

The only one I regret is a girl I dated just out of college. I got her pregnant and at first she seemed really excited - and I was, for sure. Then she changed her mind and - long story short - had an abortion without telling me. It is the most painful thing I have ever known and I miss so much the baby I never got to hold in my arms. Honestly, sappy as it sounds, when I think about that baby, it still brings tears to my eyes.

So I got off topic a bit, but there it is. Frankly, it is perfectly natural for a man to have sex. Nature made us with the instinct to implant our sperm in a female and make offspring that carry on our DNA. So we need it - not like our lives depended on it - but for emotional health and our sense of our own manhood. So other than the one case, I have no regrets and right now, with my girlfriend and our three children and my son, I have never been happier and cannot imagine my life without them.

Still, I won't lie. I have to admit that when I look back and think that I have had 14 sexual partners and 6 pregnancies - 5 of which were unplanned - gotta admit that I am a little surprised at the number... and also a little, even though I know it is silly and maybe a bit egomaniacal, a little proud of myself.

Bottom line, though, my girlfriend and I love each other, she is the center of my universe, and have talked about marriage but in some weird way we feel like a big ceremony and an expensive ring would just cheapen what we have. I would never cheat on her and now I have one sexual partner - and THAT is what matters, not all the ones I had before.

Lliam · Answer

What matters is what a person is like when you meet them. Do they have self-respect and self-esteem? Do you like their personality and have similar values, hopes and dreams?

Sometimes people have to experiment and get some things out of their system before growing up and realizing what they want in life.

I don't even know why the question of body count would come up. I never asked a woman about her body count or for a run down on her previous relationships. I'm not interested. I never needed a resume or background check.
None of my girlfriends were virgins, but they were really good people and were 100% loyal. None ever asked about my sexual history, either.

People who do that are insecure and/or immature. They have issues.
For dumb asses who worry about STDs. Um, you can test for those. Duh.

I think I would be able to tell by her personality if she was the kind of woman who had engaged in 200 one night stands. But I don't care if a woman experimented with sexual fantasies before. I don't care about how many failed relationships she was in.

I actually prefer experienced women who love sex.

Counter to claims from the Manosphere, body count doesn't necessarily mean that a person won't make a wonderful partner or spouse. The only reason it will matter is if one person has a problem with it. That would make the people incompatible.

Anonymous · Answer

For me I think only the extremes really matter , so zero sexual partners or a John Holmes wanna be that’s been inside more women than was thought physically possible in a lifetime. I personally don’t think a high body count ( forgiving the porn-star example of John Holmes ) signifies promiscuity. I do believe that women and men should enjoy as much sex as they desire without fear of stigma or branding.
But well I am one man , like a lot of guys I stopped paying attention to sexual partners after going from 0 to 1 when I was 17 but society it seems treats women really quite unfairly here not helped by the attitude of certain guys around the value of women that have had many sexual partners , like somehow it hurts their ego that it’s more than theirs?
All I think about women who have had anywhere near the sexual partners I have is they are free spirited , no harm , no foul. There is literally nothing else that should be thought or said here.

This attitude encourages people to be less than honest which is yet another reason why it should be left alone

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it should matter. Women tend to praise men for having experience. Men don’t. The only time it matters to a man as far as her having experience is when it comes to one night stands. Men have that ability to separate sex from feelings, most women don’t. Women usually need to be invested in a man emotionally to sleep w him. Over time the more men she sleeps w she loses that ability to connect sex w feelings. So there’s a higher chance of her having an unsuccessful relationship. At that point it just becomes a thing to her, nothing more than a physical act. Women always talk about an “ick” factor when it comes to men. They may not know what their “ick” factor is w men till it happens. By than it’s too late. A majority of men’s ick factor is a girl w a high body count. It’s not always insecurity either. These women who try to gaslight men by putting the shame on men for not dating those women should put the blame on these women for their choices. Women shame men all the time for their height but men don’t say it’s her insecurity that she won’t date a short man. Most women would say no if you ask them this question. Would you still date your boyfriend or husband if in the beginning of meeting each other, that you found out he used to be into men? That he had sex w men not just as a top but as a bottom as well. But when you say something about a girl w a high body count, the answer is usually it’s her past it shouldn’t matter.

Miristheiss · Answer

Men and women are different.

Women? They don't seem to care. If a guy has been with 10 women she probably likes his experience because it makes him more adept and skilled and smooth and charming.

Men? Most men care to some degree. It is a turn off that women have put out so willingly before and think less of her. At least for a long term girlfriend or wife.

Men and women are different.

Most men don't care if a woman makes a lot of money or care about her career.

Women? Most women care a lot about how a man's job is and how much money he makes.

Men and women care about different things. Women don't care about sexual past and being chaste and saving something for your long term partner/spouse but most men do to some degree. I think since women don't care they expect men to not care.

mandyfire98 · Answer

For some it does, for others it doesn't. Depends on the person.

I will say this in the grand scheme of things it doesn't because people never truly know. You can tell your significant other you've only been with 1 other person and they'll go the rest of the relationship never knowing and never caring and be happy. So did it really matter? If both people are in a happy relationship then the relationship is happy. 2 people, 5 people, 12 people in the past it doesn't change anything.

MisterWack · Answer

Nope, unless u have a fear of STD spreading.

I do believe it doesn’t matter, women & men can get it on whenever and however as long as it is consensual, established trust, and protection, legal ages, etc.

To remind people, humans are horny and will fuck. Some are more proud of it than others.

Anonymous · Answer

No.

If he’s attractive I’m sure he lost count. Why ask him about something he’s not gonna know. Then he’ll just lie to me. Everyone on earth can lie. Why even ask.

If it was marked on everyone’s public profile by force then it would matter. But that’s not the case. So it don’t matter.

Would I prefer that my husband/man has the same count as me? OF COURSE I WOULD. That’s preferable.

I wouldn’t want him to be VIRGIN-DORK or a TOWN-DOG either. I’d wish he’d be somewhere like me.

________ by the way. Most men want to say a woman should be a count of 1-4. But that’s narcissism. You don’t deserve that. Look at your playercreation in the mirror, that’s not for you. You’re not entitled to SHIT. You hideous brat. You lanky SpongeBob loser. Not even with money. You need to have CHAD GENETICS 🧬 period. Born with that dna and health. Otherwise stfu and die with the load of sheep 🐑

SYTHOX · Answer

Would it matter to you if a guy slept with 78 woman by the time he met you? It's a red flag to me because it means they have poor self control when it comes to sexual desire, so the probability of them wanting more partners is high in my opinion. Some people will probably disagree and say "they have had their fun and experience I think they'd want to settle down after so many" but if that were the case why did it take 20 people for you to want to 'settle' down finally? Ha please, they only crave sex.

Jersey2 · Answer

Women say no as that is to their benefit. Men say yes as that is to their benefit which is having a woman that is clean, not promiscuous as that effects divorce rates, a more suitable mother, low risk of bumping into her old partners and associated baggage… so yes, it does matter as half of the couple thinks it does; ie, men.

Horror_lover92 · Answer

Really depends on the person. Personality was the reason I fell for him. ( Literally ) Because I met him on a dating app and he had 1 pic that showed how big he was but couldn't really see his face. When I finally met him he was indeed heavy ( and I honestly didn't care ) he's even 2 or 3 inches taller than me ( I'm like 4"11, 5ft ) and I just love everything about him.

Anonymous · Answer

Body count is just an appearance. The reason it's dangers to get with someone with high body count is because they condition themselves for that kind of lifestyle. There is probably a correlation between cheating and high body count. I wouldn't be surprised.

Not to mention it just tells you so much about that person. Body count doesn't matter but what it tells you about someone and what it means for their conditioning matters.

DextroShade · Answer

It absolutely matters, men who are worth a damn don't want relationships with women who are ran-through. Higher partner counts are correlated with poor relationship outcomes. That not even getting into how embarrassing it is for a man to be with a known slut.

Jack122112 · Answer

1000% it matters. Women who've been with too many man usually come with trauma, issues, baggage and expectations that ruin relationships in the long run.

"You can't turn a hoe into a housewife" for a reaon. Women with high body counts are shameful and no man wants a woman who has alresdy given herself to loads and loads of other men. Its gross and disrespectful. Women should be cherished and loved and cared for and a womans value is lowered by having been with multiple men.

P-nez · Answer

Hey, I get where you're coming from, and it's definitely a topic that can stir up a lot of emotions.

Ultimately, it all boils down to personal values and what you're comfortable with in a relationship. For some people, the number of past partners their significant other has had might not matter at all. They might prioritize the present and future of the relationship over the past. But for others, it could be a big deal, maybe because they see it as a reflection of compatibility or have certain beliefs about intimacy and commitment.

What matters most is open communication with your partner about your feelings and concerns. If it's something that's on your mind, it's worth discussing together to understand each other better and figure out what works best for your relationship.

Samantha36 · Answer

Well my husband to be doesn't care in slightest about the number of guts I slept and it's a fair few 🤷‍♂️. And I don't care that he's slept with 11 woman before me.

Berethor · Answer

Yea, hos are more likely to cheat, and I don't want relationship with a ho in the first place.

milknhoneyy · Answer

No. That said, if one person thinks so and the other doesn't, they're probably not compatible, since these ideas are usually indicative of a person's pattern of thinking.

NathanDavis · Answer

it should, it could and it would...

it isn't about a number nor about being judgy... it's about being informed and aware, and the circumstances about and around it

ideally... people should be compatible about these views too

worldscolide · Answer

To me it does, But that's only because i dont do casual sex, and i dont want the person i am interested in to have ever been interested in casual sex.

For example, from when i became sexually active to now, i have been with 7 women sexually, This is including my wife. All of them from long term relationships. To me, someone who has casual sex is not only reckless and irresponsible, They cheapen what is supposed to be an act of love between two adults.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I think so from my personal experience. I seem to be incapable of pair bonding. This is confirmed by the National Institutes for Health.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Yes it does. Your past behavior is quite literally the best indicator of your future behavior. If you've established a lack of morals in your youth there's good indication to believe you will lack them in the future.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I think it does.

Once you go past a number of individuals a person slept its impossible that to carry the emotional baggage and hurt that comes with that, not to mention the STD's a person might be carrying.

Belgie · Answer

For many guys, it matters. For a few guys, it won't matter. BUT those guys are far more likely to see monogamy in general as an outdated concept. So they won't be monogamous with you.

Billlewis · Answer

Unlike many guys, I view a woman who has had numerous sexual partners as very desirable, whereas if she says she hasn't had sex for a long time, that's a negative for me.

soe11 · Answer

To be honest normally does not count. I do count as part and parcel. Without it life is incomplete. It's a matter for both side. Healthy body and shpe.

Account · Answer

To me it matters. It needs to be similar to mine and it needs to be out of choice and not out of not having options.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I think it does to a point. I would prefer a guy who isn't a slut but guys with not many bodies tend to have low libido which makes life hard😂

dustybiker2 · Answer

The person that stands before you is shaped by their past. If you change their past they are no longer the same person.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Indeed. The conversation, this very question, wouldn’t exist if it were meaningless.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Well I wouldn’t want to be sleeping with a guy who’s been with a million girls

RedInnocent69 · Answer

You have to decide for yourself. Does it matter to you if your guy’s fucked dozens of other girls? A lot of guys are squeamish about sharing a pussy with other guys’ cocks. It’s insecurity… am I the biggest and the best?

Princesspd · Answer

It shouldn’t matter. Some people have more love than others.

HappyWoman34 · Answer

To some men and women, it does, to others, it doesn’t.

boggboss · Answer

It matters to the people that are in that relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Only low value chicks think it doesn't matter because they don't want any reprecussions for their behavior nor accept consequences.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I care about it. If a man has a body count of more than 3, he is not for me.

JayBones2469 · Answer

Absolutely. Zero is the golden standard, but society is trash. If you must settle the body count has to be less than 1.5 every 4 years after 17. Anything more than that and you're dealing with trash.

JosyJosy · Answer

I don't think the number matters as much as why and when you did it.

JacobJordan · Answer

Medically and scientifically proven fact that it does.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Yes, but only if the boy or girl has bopped so many people that they're known as promiscuous by the circle in which they'll be travelling.

mistershy94 · Answer

to some degree it is a reflection of what kind of person you are

NYlatefun · Answer

I read once that people with a higher body count tend to enjoy less long term relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely.. I won't be in a SERIOUS relationship with a girl with a high body count.

DonVitoCorleone · Answer

I don't think so, I don't think it matters. Greetings from Sicily. 🇮🇹🇮🇹🇮🇹🇷🇺

Anonymous · Answer

It does if you end up getting something downstairs that dettol won't fix 😆

mayurr · Answer

Someone of my level or we both should suit on each other. Not more, not less.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on individuals, their own body count, and expectations. There's nothing wrong or right

MasterKS · Answer

Actually not but some people take it seriously for them it may be.

Anonymous · Answer

@DaveJord probably your wife's a hooker, that's why the body count doesn't matter

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Not unless someone allows it to

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Only hoes say no.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

I dont care about body count. Mine is one

Fireguy17 · Answer

Not to me, it could to others.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

From my germaphobia, yes it does 💓💗🙂

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