Guys, does a woman body count matters to you when having a serious relationship (family) with her?

[Anonymous]

[HighValue]

Her past does matter. Did she have casual sex, or only do it within an exclusive relationship?

The answer to that matters a lot.

Also, does she have any contact with any ex?

Also, the more partners someone has had, the less ability they have to pair bond emotionally.

[HighValue]

People should try to be with others that have a similar/compatible past. For example, people that have had casual sex should not expect someone that doesn't participate in casual sex to accept them as a partner.
People that don't do casual sex should not be with someone that has because they will be disappointed and will likely never truly love their partner due to that disappointment.

[Asker]

Thanks for your detailed response. Part of my question, comes precisely from my inexperience. I'm almost 30, and due my life rythm, experiences, and responsabilities I just haven't met anyone yet. I'm a christian in belief and practice and also try to really just be patient and trust the process. However, sometimes I do get "weird" stares since most of my closest female friends have already have has multiple past experiences, partners and intimacy. They dont judge me explicitly but I feel they look me "shocked" when they got to know I've never have related to a man before.

[HighValue]

The only people that would lose interest due to your lack of experience would be the kind of people that are looking for a hook up/easy sex. The kind of people that want something long term and serious wouldn't leave due to lack of experience.

[YollyM]

I'll say yes because body count to me is a reflection of a person's level of sexual decipline. Which is important for a partner to have woman/man.

I need to know that if I were to fall pregnant my partner won't go looking for sexual pleasure else where. If I'm away travelling I need to know that my partner will be able to contain himself or herself.

Having an extremely high body count (for your age) shows that you're basically a slave to your most intimate part🤷.

[Dubbogirl86]

I think this is different for guys and girls as I have only ever been with my husband but I know he has a high count from before we meet as he is 8 years older and it don’t worry me as it’s in the past

[Aqueeld]

So u never got fucked by someone outher then us husband?

[DirkCoenen]

To me, yes. If she isn't a virgin, yhen I will not consider her wife material. I myself have saved myself, I expect her to do the same. A girlfriend once broke up because she wanted sex, I told her no and we needed to be martied first. It was painful, but it's also a good way to test her standards against mine.

[tzdc21]

Yes it does matter. Let me explain the four big reasons why it matters to a man when dealing with a woman. Buckle up, this is gonna take a while.

1) Men and Women are both biologically hardwired to be attracted and disgusted by certain things. It just so happens that one of the things we guys are instinctively disgusted by are promiscuous women as our girlfriend and/or wife. That's just our nature, just like how it's in a woman's nature to look for a man who can provide and protect. Now when it comes to just sex, they won't care, but a committed relationship is a whole different ballpark.

2) Stats show that the higher a woman's body count, the more likely she will initiate breakups ans divorces. AND it's more likely she will have mental problems down the long run. You lose your ability to pair bond with every new sexual partner you have, and that's what helps relationships work through tough times... or in general.

3) When you (a woman) are in a relationship with a man, you are becoming a representation of that man, whether you know it or not. That means that what you say or do is gonna affect him to. So therefore, if you're a hoe, or you say or do some crazy and stupid stuff, not only are you putting yourself in a bad light, but you're putting your boyfriend/husband in a bad light. Because everyone is gonna be like, "This crazy girl is his?" or "This hoe is who he is taking seriously?" That is embarrassing for any man, even if he won't admit it to others or himself.

4) THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT REASON. There is a reason why since the dawn of time, men have demanded that the woman they take seriously are virgins. Not all guys nowadays want virgins now, but still want lower body counts from the woman they take seriously. And the reason why is because they want to ensure paternity. I assume I would be correct if I were to say that a deep dark fear for a lot of women is being r@ped in a dark alley by some creep. That deep feeling of fear that you get, the male equivalent to that is when he busts his ass, investing his blood, sweat, and tears into raising a child, and then finding out one day that the kid was never his. That's why guys have an issue with taking promiscuous women seriously. Because if you take a promiscuous woman seriously, and she gets pregnant, there's a good chance that child may not be yours.

[Sandeeppingping]

Yes the lower the better, I don't hate a woman that has the number 36 for a body count, I probably care a lot about her, but I'd never see her as long-term girlfriend material

[vald9inches]

It does not matter zero at all! We are all human beings and we all get horny and we all have a history so why would i be hypocritical and judge her for her body count when i have a body count as well? We all have a body count and honestly i think the whole counting thing is stupid and sexist. Our value doesn't come from our body count or other stupid things

[DarkWinterNights]

Yes, because sexual history has shown to have an influence to overall happiness in marriage.

[Anonymous]

Yes it does to a lot of men. Especially if your family knows about it. No man really wants a girl who’s been passed around. Sad yes most of us men are ok sleeping w a lot of women but when it comes to women doing that, no.

[MrCommodore]

Yeah it would, a woman with lower body count gives the impression that she is more selective and knows what she wants. And getting into a serious relationship with her would be more stable.

[crmoore]

Yes but it isn't necessary a deal breaker or anything. But it is something that is taken into consideration.

[normalice]

As long as there is mutual physical attraction, sexual compatibility, and no glaring personality conflicts, no.

[FilmGuy93]

It doesn't really matter to me. But I will say that women with high body counts tend to have personalities that I don't take seriously.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the number of men too. If a guy has a similar or more number than you they will not mind. If guys' numbers are very less than you, sometimes they can mind.

[Wade12345]

Yeah. Nobody wants a whore. Sorry if you are one. I wouldn't take you.

[Berethor]

Yea, I don't trust hos.

[KrakenAttackin]

Hell yes! Never get a 304 knocked up!

[pizzalovershouse]

No just that she is faithful

[bamesjond0069]

Absolutely. Highly highly important.

[MTC29]

I never ask.

[Zolly99999]

Yes. ...

[Bricealan]

No, it never matters

[Anonymous]

Yes. It should be the same as mine.

[LoyalAffectionate]

To some degree