When in the dating game, does body count matter?

[Simplismilez]

If you're dating do you care about a potential partners body count (people they've slept with)? Or do you care more about their personality, interests, heart, and what really makes them them?

[caring__1]

Body count is only an issue for insecure people who fear being compared and not measuring up... unless one has been promiscuous and indiscriminate. I understand people not wanting to raise their odds of getting a STD, and the odds increase when you consider all the previous partners and their previous partners. Show an openness to get tested before becoming intimate, but if he wants numbers, he's probably not a healthy choice for you. Details about one's past isn't as important as what was learned by one's past.

[Ripper_E]

To a point. It's unrealistic to expect anyone to be a virgin and not have a body count, but if she tells me she slept with the entire football team in high school and basketball team. Yea not happening. I can't imagine going to a high school reunion and half the guys in there have been inside her.

[Simplismilez]

That's what I thought but it seems most guys on here are expecting women to be virgins when saying. And wait until marriage.

[MuffinBoi]

I personally don't mind whether the girl's gone through one, none or a thousand and one.

As long as she's healthy and hasn't got any STIs at the moment, then I don't mind. They just need to be loyal and as long as we're compatible psychologically and physically, then I don't see anything wrong.

[Jjpayne]

I think to you it does because it gives you understanding and experience to a SO... Really the only important thing is what those experiences have taught you in terms of using them on a date/SO (signifance other), given it might impress them to hear the number but I think it's what you do with that former experience

[tzdc21]

Body count is part of your past. And past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. If you have a high body count, then odds are you're a bad bet for a long term relationship. Are there exceptions to the rule? Yes. But that's a small minority. The exception does not make the rule.

[Snowman666]

i used to care about body count. But i don't care at all now. I don't know if it was immaturity or because my body count got high. But happier not caring. I am in the 50's ball park, my wife is much higher. Not a care in the world. Best women i ever met.

[Avicenna]

Body count has never been a discussion of any date or relationship I’ve ever had. The one virgin I’ve had as a girlfriend is the only woman whose body count I’ve ever known.

[nodnol32]

Nope. As long as she's free from stds and all that.

[MzAsh]

Body count shouldn’t be discussed. If there’s a health concern, discuss that but leave numbers out of the equation.

[Bandit74]

It matters to me and I really don't think it is any more shallow than the other traits people reject each other for like height, physique, face, baldness, dick size etc.

[Dchrls78104]

I simply wouldn't date a girl with a high body count. What could a rookie on his first day on the job possibly have in common with a battle-hardened soldier on the verge of retirement?

[Simplismilez]

You can learn things

[ManMale]

Who they have slept with before we met, no. I would not care to know. Who they associate with after we have met, yes, i do care about

[chriscdi]

a bit of both, their body type might bother me at some point but i wouldn't shun them or reject them for it

[chriscdi]

count*

[Simplismilez]

Like if it was too high?

[chriscdi]

depends how high, cause if its too much she is most likely a hoe

[Simplismilez]

What in your opinion is high?

[chriscdi]

depends on the age, if a girl is around my age and has more than 4 bodies then I don't know what to think of her cause in 19 years i could believe she's had 4 boyfriends or relationships she took serious but higher than that, its already getying into the whore status

[Simplismilez]

Makes sense. I didn't even lose my virginity until I was 21 lol

[chriscdi]

that itself can make you look good, you were patient and it shows a lot of self control which is important in a serious relationship

[Simplismilez]

I'm glad I did wait. I was not ready for it as a teenager.

[chriscdi]

yea thats good, you just gotta have respect for yourself 💯

[SantaB]

It shouldn't matter. It's how many they are with now. If you're ever uncomfortable in that way then you have to discuss why it matters so much. It sounds like an insecurity thing to me.

[Simplismilez]

Only reason I'm asking is because I will have to rejoin the dating game at one point and I want to know how much that matter since apparently men want a virgin and virgins are the only ones worthy of a serious relationship

[SantaB]

I wouldn't personally want a virgin. That could be a cultural or religious thing perhaps which would mean they hold those values higher than they do you for who you are.

[gandolph3]

Personality, i would never consider asking about her past. If she offers to tell me that is different

[9Livezzz]

I could care less about their body count. I don't need to know that, it's none of my business

[bklynbadboy1]

I can't speak for everyone else but it doesn't to me

[Liam_Hayden]

Personality. How would you know someone's body count unless the person told you and was honest?

[Agem123]

I want a guy with experience, so it matters somehow.

[cjgsu]

Only if 1 of them gave them a std would it matter.

[Mamala]

The characteristics that make him who he is are more important, but someone who sleeps with everyone is not someone who suits me as a character

[Anonymous]

Body count is a huge factor, I need a girl with a heart left to give in exchange for my own

[Simplismilez]

So how does body count relate to heart exactly?

[Opinion Owner]

If you don’t understand it’s hard to explain, just use your feelings, you know it’s true that girls who have had many partners do not make the best companions in a relationship. They can’t truly bond with a man anymore they always have these walls up around them and they will hurt me

[Simplismilez]

I mean if you can't explain it's probably because there's really no correlation.

[Opinion Owner]

Whatever helps you sleep at night, I can clearly explain that there is a correlation, just because I’m not willing to write you an essay about how the causation aspect works doesn’t mean it ain't true, I know damn well that it is true because I’ve seen the difference between girls who are fresh and form strong bonds and those who are used and can never truly bond again

[Opinion Owner]

Also a girl with a high body count is way, wayyyy more likely to cheat

[Simplismilez]

Uh huh. Sounds like you just have it all figured out

[Opinion Owner]

Look girl just because you want to believe that you can fuck a bunch of guys and still have a happy fulfilling relationship in your future doesn’t make it true. Actions have consequences. If you are curious on why what I’ve said is true, do some research into the stats on body count / success in ltr. The numbers do not lie. Virgins have the highest rate of success in ltr

[Simplismilez]

Lol woah. You got triggered didn't you? It's easy to be judgmental and assume shit when your anonymous lol. Fact of the matter is you dont know me and just because I asked a question and chose not to argue with you you resort to a pathetic personal attack on my character. Yeah okay.

[Opinion Owner]

Its just annoying how quickly you dismiss my correct information

[Simplismilez]

No. I'm dismissing your opinion. Because without facts then that's all your comment is. And even any research you can find really only covers a portion of the population. It's not all inclusive. But because you got this idea in your head that "this equals this". You assume it's like that for everyone. See the beauty of people is that they're fluid. We dont all meet specific requirements and everyone is different. Statistically I should be in jail or pregnant with my 3rd kid because of my past and guess what? I'm neither because I'm not gonna conform to societies all or nothing thinking just because I fit the description. That's how I feel about that.

[Opinion Owner]

There are always exceptions to the rule, like you can rob a bank, go to jail for 10 years, then come out and become a perfect citizen, but that is not the norm, just like girls with high body counts having success in happy long term relationships is not the norm.

[MrTuxedo]

Couldn't care less about body count.

[ohshee]

When someone ask I guess

[AwanAlphaMale]

Yes she better be a virgin or she can gtfo

[Simplismilez]

You have mental issues. So how about you gtfo and go get some help.

[AwanAlphaMale]

A key that opens many locks is a good key, but a lock that can be opened by many keys is a shitty lock.

[Simplismilez]

Lol you're still mentally ill. So please go away

[robocop666]

I care about how good she is at blowjobs

[Simplismilez]

Dude..

[Anonymous]

It does to me.