When in the dating game, does body count matter?

[Simplismilez]

If you're dating do you care about a potential partners body count (people they've slept with)? Or do you care more about their personality, interests, heart, and what really makes them them?

[caring__1]

Body count is only an issue for insecure people who fear being compared and not measuring up... unless one has been promiscuous and indiscriminate. I understand people not wanting to raise their odds of getting a STD, and the odds increase when you consider all the previous partners and their previous partners. Show an openness to get tested before becoming intimate, but if he wants numbers, he's probably not a healthy choice for you. Details about one's past isn't as important as what was learned by one's past.

[Ripper_E]

To a point. It's unrealistic to expect anyone to be a virgin and not have a body count, but if she tells me she slept with the entire football team in high school and basketball team. Yea not happening. I can't imagine going to a high school reunion and half the guys in there have been inside her.

[Simplismilez]

That's what I thought but it seems most guys on here are expecting women to be virgins when saying. And wait until marriage.

[MuffinBoi]

I personally don't mind whether the girl's gone through one, none or a thousand and one.

As long as she's healthy and hasn't got any STIs at the moment, then I don't mind. They just need to be loyal and as long as we're compatible psychologically and physically, then I don't see anything wrong.

[tzdc21]

Body count is part of your past. And past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. If you have a high body count, then odds are you're a bad bet for a long term relationship. Are there exceptions to the rule? Yes. But that's a small minority. The exception does not make the rule.

[Jjpayne]

I think to you it does because it gives you understanding and experience to a SO... Really the only important thing is what those experiences have taught you in terms of using them on a date/SO (signifance other), given it might impress them to hear the number but I think it's what you do with that former experience

[Snowman666]

i used to care about body count. But i don't care at all now. I don't know if it was immaturity or because my body count got high. But happier not caring. I am in the 50's ball park, my wife is much higher. Not a care in the world. Best women i ever met.

[Avicenna]

Body count has never been a discussion of any date or relationship I’ve ever had. The one virgin I’ve had as a girlfriend is the only woman whose body count I’ve ever known.

[nodnol32]

Nope. As long as she's free from stds and all that.

[MzAsh]

Body count shouldn’t be discussed. If there’s a health concern, discuss that but leave numbers out of the equation.

[Bandit74]

It matters to me and I really don't think it is any more shallow than the other traits people reject each other for like height, physique, face, baldness, dick size etc.

[Dchrls78104]

I simply wouldn't date a girl with a high body count. What could a rookie on his first day on the job possibly have in common with a battle-hardened soldier on the verge of retirement?

[Simplismilez]

You can learn things

[ManMale]

Who they have slept with before we met, no. I would not care to know. Who they associate with after we have met, yes, i do care about

[chriscdi]

a bit of both, their body type might bother me at some point but i wouldn't shun them or reject them for it

[chriscdi]

count*

[Simplismilez]

Like if it was too high?

[chriscdi]

depends how high, cause if its too much she is most likely a hoe

[Simplismilez]

What in your opinion is high?

[chriscdi]

depends on the age, if a girl is around my age and has more than 4 bodies then I don't know what to think of her cause in 19 years i could believe she's had 4 boyfriends or relationships she took serious but higher than that, its already getying into the whore status

[Simplismilez]

Makes sense. I didn't even lose my virginity until I was 21 lol

[chriscdi]

that itself can make you look good, you were patient and it shows a lot of self control which is important in a serious relationship

[Simplismilez]

I'm glad I did wait. I was not ready for it as a teenager.

[chriscdi]

yea thats good, you just gotta have respect for yourself 💯

[SantaB]

It shouldn't matter. It's how many they are with now. If you're ever uncomfortable in that way then you have to discuss why it matters so much. It sounds like an insecurity thing to me.

[Simplismilez]

Only reason I'm asking is because I will have to rejoin the dating game at one point and I want to know how much that matter since apparently men want a virgin and virgins are the only ones worthy of a serious relationship

[SantaB]

I wouldn't personally want a virgin. That could be a cultural or religious thing perhaps which would mean they hold those values higher than they do you for who you are.

[gandolph3]

Personality, i would never consider asking about her past. If she offers to tell me that is different

[9Livezzz]

I could care less about their body count. I don't need to know that, it's none of my business

[bklynbadboy1]

I can't speak for everyone else but it doesn't to me

[Liam_Hayden]

Personality. How would you know someone's body count unless the person told you and was honest?

[Agem123]

I want a guy with experience, so it matters somehow.

[cjgsu]

Only if 1 of them gave them a std would it matter.

[Mamala]

The characteristics that make him who he is are more important, but someone who sleeps with everyone is not someone who suits me as a character

[MrTuxedo]

Couldn't care less about body count.